Raha ya Ubazazi/Cheating!... (?)

[Kaizer]

For sure I wish every one of us would contribute to this thread; including you...! But, to enable me to help you to understand me, I think it is very important to explain such complication hindering you...! Every one of us is either already found her/himself in this situation, or would find to be as long as he/she is married or just having a relationship with a BF/GF...! I am not basing on either sex, but all....! What I really want is that; can we find ourselves cheating accidentally? Or it is always a planned event? Regardless of the either, and no matter how do we contributed to the cheating, are we supposed to forgive our cheaters? Due to your experience, either from yourself, friends, relatives, neighbors, or any knowledge you might have acquired anywhere, does forgiveness given to cheaters normally bring positive advancements to particular relationships?

Thats why am saying the whole thing is complicated, we cannot analyse it here and come up with an answer in the form of 'one fits all'....everyone cheat, forget and forgive in quite a diverse manner such that we cannot say for sure how and why some of us cheat, forget or forgive in any given situation....got me?

 

[Zion Daughter]

why not?

 

[Nyani Ngabu]

Absolutely no way. With me, it's one and done.

 

[bacha]

For sure I wish every one of us would contribute to this thread; including you...! But, to enable me to help you to understand me, I think it is very important to explain such complication hindering you...! Every one of us is either already found her/himself in this situation, or would find to be as long as he/she is married or just having a relationship with a BF/GF...! I am not basing on either sex, but all....! What I really want is that; can we find ourselves cheating accidentally? Or it is always a planned event? Regardless of the either, and no matter how do we contributed to the cheating, are we supposed to forgive our cheaters? Due to your experience, either from yourself, friends, relatives, neighbors, or any knowledge you might have acquired anywhere, does forgiveness given to cheaters normally bring positive advancements to particular relationships?

Cheating can either be accidental or purposive!Likewise,it can be forgiveable or un forgiveable depends on one's outlook!But generall,cheating is there to stay within people's relationship!

 

[Konakali]

Thats why am saying the whole thing is complicated, we cannot analyse it here and come up with an answer in the form of 'one fits all'....everyone cheat, forget and forgive in quite a diverse manner such that we cannot say for sure how and why some of us cheat, forget or forgive in any given situation....got me?

YES Kaizer.....! Now, suppose you have been cheated by your partner....! Then, while you are completely ignorant about the issue, but just exchanging ideas with him/her, he/she started from nowhere to cry, and apologizing, telling you that he/she has cheated on you several months ago. You observe that he/she realized his/her mistake, and currently filling so painful and shame for what he/she did...! When you ask how the issue happen, she/he explains, but he/she all the time finish like this "I never found the reason why I did it..." When you check on your side, you found yourself to be totally innocent....!But she/he ask you for forgiveness, and then promising that the situation will never happen again. Taking into account that this is the first time you got this information, Is this cheater forgivable? If you forgive him/her, would it be successful forever?

 

[Gaijin]

hili suala kila siku linakuja na sura mpya.

aki cheat kwa upande wangu hamna msamaha.................namtimua sifikiri mara mbili.

 

[Pierre III]

To me, forgiving a cheater is a mission impossible, especially when it happens that i know the dude who fucked my cheater (wyf/gf). Its an insult of its own kind.

 

[MasterMind]

Cheating is completely unforgivable!!!
Its a waste of time, coz a habit never dies,
You will forgive and forgive and forgive.....sama case always,
sasa shida zote za nini? Close that chapter - Start another

 

[pamiho]

To me its not forgivable at all. Nikipata ushaidi tu juu ya cheating hiyo tu hata aombe msamaha vipi siwezi kumsamehe.
Akiamua ku cheat siyo mtu mzuri huyo na wala hawezi acha kamwe. Alafu siku hizi kuna magonjwa tele hivo kusamehe ktk hilo ni kuendekeza pasipo na sababu ya msingi.

Haileti maana kusema nasamehe ila sitasahau.... I will show her/him an exit door immediately!

 

[Kimwe]

Cheating is completely unforgivable!!!
Its a waste of time, coz a habit never dies,
You will forgive and forgive and forgive.....sama case always,
sasa shida zote za nini? Close that chapter - Start another

If you close the chapter, will you not engage in other sexual relationship?How far are you sure that the next partner won't cheat?
By the way even you sin and do wrongs and ask for God's forgiveness. Samehe hata saba mara sabini mazee.

 

[Kaizer]

If you close the chapter, will you not engage in other sexual relationship?How far are you sure that the next partner won't cheat?
By the way even you sin and do wrongs and ask for God's forgiveness. Samehe hata saba mara sabini mazee.

This is what am talking about...its all complicated if you attempt to analyse even a few scenarios...

 

[pmwasyoke]

Sameheni 70x7

 

[kisukari]

sometimes hata ufanye nini katika ndoa,au uwe mwema vipi,wengine ku cheat wamezoea,wata cheat tu.

 

[WiseLady]

Sameheni 70x7[/QUOTE IS REAL COMPLICATED,yes u can forgive what if anarudia?ukiacha kumsamehe wewe binafsi una uhakika umekuwa faithful muda wote?????????labda in one way or another u have cheated lakini hukushikwa,just look on the source of cheating and see, but as for me i prefer forgiveness.Not only to forgive but also forget:A S 8:

 

[Kaizer]

IS REAL COMPLICATED,yes u can forgive what if anarudia?ukiacha kumsamehe wewe binafsi una uhakika umekuwa faithful muda wote?????????labda in one way or another u have cheated lakini hukushikwa,just look on the source of cheating and see, but as for me i prefer forgiveness.Not only to forgive but also forget:A S 8:

sasa hapo ndo umekuwa wise lady kabisaaa....karibu jamvini

 

[Nyani Ngabu]

Sameheni 70x7[/QUOTE IS REAL COMPLICATED,yes u can forgive what if anarudia?ukiacha kumsamehe wewe binafsi una uhakika umekuwa faithful muda wote?????????labda in one way or another u have cheated lakini hukushikwa,just look on the source of cheating and see, but as for me i prefer forgiveness.Not only to forgive but also forget:A S 8:

Hmmm Wiselady :A S 8:

 

[Lady N]

hakuna binadamu aliyekamilika ila Mungu pekeyake.

 

[The Finest]

If you decide to forgive someone it means you have to forget as well, If you forgive someone and you don't forget its means you still hold grudge against him/her.

 

[MasterMind]

If you close the chapter, will you not engage in other sexual relationship?How far are you sure that the next partner won't cheat?
By the way even you sin and do wrongs and ask for God's forgiveness. Samehe hata saba mara sabini mazee.

Thats just it! ni pagumu mno, how do u know if u forgive that particular partner he/she wont cheat again??
Cha muhumu ni ku-abstain kwa muda huku ukimuomba Mungu akusaidie kumpata the right one.

Coz nimesha-witness several cases za hivyo na once mtu akishaanza ku-cheat kuacha huwa ni ngumu mno, sasa kwanini uteseke? as long as hampo kwenye ndoa u can still give urself time and hope for the best, si wote wana tabia zinazofanana, ila kama itatokea matatizo kama hayo yanakuja wakati mpo kwenye ndoa, hapo ndio uvumilivu wa hali ya juu sana unahitajika na kumuomba Mungu sana akupe hekima.

 

[Kaizer]

If you decide to forgive someone it means you have to forget as well, If you forgive someone and you don't forget its means you still hold grudge against him/her.

Hapa tupo ukurasa mmoja, nadhani pia kuna a very thin line katia ya kusamehe na kusahau, ama?