Raha ya Ubazazi/Cheating!... (?)

[Konakali]

Kwangu mimi 'cheating' haina mjadala. Nikijua demu wangu kamegwa nje..uhusiano wetu kwishnehi. Haijalishi muda, fedha, watoto, wala kingine chochote.

Siwezi kabisa kudhalilishwa uanamume wangu na mwanamke kwa kuniibia na mwanamume mwingine.

How old are you?

 

[Nyani Ngabu]

How old are you?

Old enough to know better but too young to care....

 

[Konakali]

Hapa ukipata tatizo hili inabidi kujiuliza ni kwa nini mwenzako anacheat huenda haumridhishi ndio maana katafuta mtu wa kumridhisha.

Kama angekuwa makini alipaswa kukufahamisha tatizo hilo kabla ya kukucheat? Cheating haina sababu hata mara moja, isipokuwa ni tabia au njaa au vyote kwa pamoja tu...!

 

[Konakali]

Old enough to know better but too young to care....

Ever this situation happened to you? Ever you cheated or being cheated? How many...?

 

[Fidel80]

Old enough to know better but too young to care....

Vp komredi pale unapo fukuzia demu wa jamaa na demu mkali balaaa

 

[Ras]

jamani najua kuwa cheating inaumiza sana haswa kwa wanaume unaposikia mkeo ameku-cheat uwa inaumiza sana na wengi wanasema kuwa watamwacha mke anaye-cheat ila ingawa kosa la uzinzi linaruhusu kuacha mke hata kidini ya kikristo ila tuangalie na sisi wanaume je uwa tuna-cheat na tukikamatwa mke aombe talaka? maana wengi wetu tuna-cheat ila ikitokea kwa m/mke kucheat naona kama inaonekana kuumiza zaidi kuliko mwanaume kucheat

Kuna ule uesemi kuwa..MKUKI KWA NGURUWE KWA BINADAMU................!!:confused2:Mi nadhani uchungu anaousikia m/mume kwa mkewe kutumika ni sawa na ule anaoupata m/ke kwa mume kutumikishwa! cha msingi kabla hujacheat kama ni mwanamume fikiria kuwa huyo unayecheat naye kama mkeo anafanyiwa hivo na jamaa jingine au kama mwanamke otherwise. Mimi nipatapo vishawishi vya kucheat humfikiria sana Wife vile atakavyoumia akijua nimecheat na kwa njia hii huyashinda majaribu. Ikigundulika mwanamume pia kacheat wanawake wawe tu na ujasiri wa kutuacha bana!! watapata tu watu wa kuwafaa na waaminifu...Everything in this World is happening for a reason!

 

[goodboy1976]

Nina swali;
Hivi response utakayoonyesha pale unaposalitiwa na GF/BF ni sawa na pale unaposalitiwa na wife/husband?

Nauliza hivi sababu kabla sijaoa nilishaachana na maGF kadhaa pale nilipothibitisha wamenisaliti. Tena haikuwa kaz kumwambia mtu 'basi, kuanzia leo tusijuane tena'. Lakini sasa huwa nafikiria kwa mfano ikitokea siku wife akacheat na nikagundua, hivi itakuwa rahis kumwambia tusijuane? Kwa haraka nahisi itakuwa ngumu, unless awe sugu. Tena nahis akicheat wife, moto mkubwa zaidi nitauwasha kwa huyo aliyecheat naye...

Ku cheat kwa BF/GF ata kama kunaumiza si kama kwa mke / mume.. Kwa sababu, kwa wana ndoa, kuna makubaliano (hata kama si ya kidini) ya kuwa wataishi pamoja na hawatatoka nje..tena wanandoa hutegemea eti kuwa wanaridhishana na mwenzake hatatoka nje ya ndoa.. kwa BF/ GF ni jambo mbaya kucheat, japo kuwa wale hawajafunga ndoa.. ila haina tofauti kwa sababu wote huumia.

Usiogope kufanya ndoa eti kwa sababu unaogopa ndoa itavujika kwa maswala ya ku cheat.. kwanza mara nyingi ni vigumu saana kujua mwanamke akicheat... sisi wanaume ndoo rahisi saana kujulikana...pia, unaweza kujua tabia za mtu mapema hata kabla ya ndoa..

 

[Konakali]

Is cheating forgivable? If a cheater is forgiven, will he/she stop it completely? Suppose the cheated on did not contribute in any way to be cheated, and thus she/he is the one who may forgive, what are the responsibilities of these parties in bringing back the former situation:

• The cheated party - the one who may forgive
• The cheater
• The third party

Can the trust get back as in the beginning?

 

[Kaizer]

Konakali, you forgot one option in ur answers: "its complicated"

 

[Malunde]

Every thing has a source.What is the source of cheating?or why did the cheater cheat? If the reason for cheating is addressed, then the cheater can probably stop cheating.

 

[Mkeshahoi]

Is cheating forgivable? If a cheater is forgiven, will he/she stop it completely? Suppose the cheated on did not contribute in any way to be cheated, and thus she/he is the one who may forgive, what are the responsibilities of these parties in bringing back the former situation:

• The cheated party - the one who may forgive
• The cheater
• The third party

Can the trust get back as in the beginning?

forgivable but uforgetable(and that's where the party is at....)!!!:smile-big:

 

[Safari]

It can be forgivable but not forgettable..

 

[Konakali]

Konakali, you forgot one option in ur answers: "its complicated"

which option did I forget? Please, remind me whenever you see fruitful...!

 

[Konakali]

It can be forgivable but not forgettable..

YES...! Provided it is forgivable, but not forgettable, can the cheater stop cheating? Does these forgiveness normally become successful in the future?

 

[Katavi]

YES...! Provided it is forgivable, but not forgettable, can the cheater stop cheating? Does these forgiveness normally become successful in the future?

For me cheating can be forgettable if the cheater stop cheating and the forgiveness become successiful. Sometimes we are forgiving our lovers who cheat against us without looking ourselves, we may the reasons for cheating!

 

[Rodcones]

YES...! Provided it is forgivable, but not forgettable, can the cheater stop cheating? Does these forgiveness normally become successful in the future?

That is right
Majority of people they Don't think why did he/she cheat after you know that then correct that and forgive, thereafter you will forget.

 

[Kaizer]

which option did I forget? Please, remind me whenever you see fruitful...!

-It is complicated..

 

[Kaizer]

It can be forgivable but not forgettable..

Then thats not forgiveness,,,

 

[Tuko]

It should be forgivable as long as one thinks he/she needs love affairs because, even if you dont forgive and go elsewhere, it can be not a solution as no one who is guaranteed not a cheater..

 

[Konakali]

-It is complicated..

For sure I wish every one of us would contribute to this thread; including you...! But, to enable me to help you to understand me, I think it is very important to explain such complication hindering you...! Every one of us is either already found her/himself in this situation, or would find to be as long as he/she is married or just having a relationship with a BF/GF...! I am not basing on either sex, but all....! What I really want is that; can we find ourselves cheating accidentally? Or it is always a planned event? Regardless of the either, and no matter how do we contributed to the cheating, are we supposed to forgive our cheaters? Due to your experience, either from yourself, friends, relatives, neighbors, or any knowledge you might have acquired anywhere, does forgiveness given to cheaters normally bring positive advancements to particular relationships?