Huwa naamini kuwa attraction rather than uzuri au urembo ndiyo kitu kinacho-matter mnapokutana kwa mara kwanza. Attraction inaweza kutokana na mwonekano wa mtu, character or both. Hapa ni muhimu sana kutofautisha kati ya attraction na affection.
Kuna sehemu dada yangu
FP kasema kuwa hajawahi
kumpenda mtu kwa jinsi alivyo, ila mpaka mtu amwingie moyoni mwake na kutamani baada ya kuongea sana na kushawishiwa naye kuwa anaweza kuwa naye. Kwa hapa sasa inakuwa ni affection kwa sababu true affection is totally satisfying.
Hapa FP atakuwa ameridhishwa kabisa na huyo mtu. Lakini kabla ya kufikia stage ya affection, lazima FP atakuwa alikuwa attracted na huyo mtu mpaka akaamua kumpa nafasi ya kuongea nae na kushawishiwa
Attraction may or may not be satisfying. Ukiangalia hapa ndiyo mahusiano mengi yanavunjika. Unakuta watu wamekuwa attracted to each other lakini badala ya kujipa muda mambo ili ya-cool off wanajicommit kwenye life long relationship (affection). Japokuwa kuna tofauti kubwa sana kati ya attraction na affection, hutajua hii tofauti mpaka muda uwe umepita baada ya mahusiano kuvunjika.
Kama ni mzuri sidhani kama ni fair ku-brag out. Tena inaweza ku-back fire unless wewe ni mzuri universally. Uzuri ni subjective. Naweza kukuona mzuri, lakini
Dark City akakuona huna lolote. Afterall baadhi yetu huwa tunaamini kuwa wanawake wengi wazuri hawana personality. Nani anataka kuboreka? Jaribu ku-flash back kama yule msichana ambaye alikuwa mzuri kupita wote darasani kwako ndiye huyo huyo alikuwa anaongoza darasani kwa kuwa na a great sense of personality.
Kuhusu kwani mtu huwa anafanya nini kuupata uzuri, nafikiri ni bora kutengeneza personality yako than kutafuta uzuri. At the end of the day personality ndiyo itakayokufanya kuwa na watu karibu and when you are not there people will badly miss you. I am sure kuna watu humu JF ikipita wiki bila kuwasoma unaona kama una-miss kitu fulani vile. Lakini huwajui kwa sura na wala huna mpango wa kuwaona physically.
