BLIND DATES: Kukutana face to face kwazua jambo

BLIND DATES: Kukutana face to face kwazua jambo

Dah hiyo bidada naona anatamani ardhi ipasuke aingie humo!!! Ila kama jamaa kachapa lapa naona ni bora kuliko angemlaghai na mwishowe ampige chini. Do not worry gal!! Men are like buses, you miss one you catch another one!!
 
Personality ndio risasi yangu pekee

Vinginevyo, sitaonekana hata mwaka mzima, ngoja nikapige twisheni ya kuwa more intateining

lara 1 said:
HAHAHAAAAAAAAA! Ile commnt ya SURA KAMA ZAMADAMU!!!!!!!! Imenichekesha sana na kuniacha FRESH MCHANA KUTWA!!!!!!!!! Hivi hili neno ZAMADAMU lipo kwenye Kamusi kweli? LOL!

Kumvutia mtu kwa sura tu KAZI kweli kweli je hiyo Personality si balaaaaa!!!!!!!!! Kila unachofanya unbaer in mind lengo kumfurahisha tu muhusika!!!!!!! Si zama za Utumwa zitarudi kivingine!!!!!!!!
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EMT said:
Huwa naamini kuwa attraction rather than uzuri au urembo ndiyo kitu kinacho-matter mnapokutana kwa mara kwanza. Attraction inaweza kutokana na mwonekano wa mtu, character or both. Hapa ni muhimu sana kutofautisha kati ya attraction na affection.

Kuna sehemu dada yangu FP kasema kuwa hajawahi kumpenda mtu kwa jinsi alivyo, ila mpaka mtu amwingie moyoni mwake na kutamani baada ya kuongea sana na kushawishiwa naye kuwa anaweza kuwa naye. Kwa hapa sasa inakuwa ni affection kwa sababu true affection is totally satisfying.

Hapa FP atakuwa ameridhishwa kabisa na huyo mtu. Lakini kabla ya kufikia stage ya affection, lazima FP atakuwa alikuwa attracted na huyo mtu mpaka akaamua kumpa nafasi ya kuongea nae na kushawishiwa

Attraction may or may not be satisfying. Ukiangalia hapa ndiyo mahusiano mengi yanavunjika. Unakuta watu wamekuwa attracted to each other lakini badala ya kujipa muda mambo ili ya-cool off wanajicommit kwenye life long relationship (affection). Japokuwa kuna tofauti kubwa sana kati ya attraction na affection, hutajua hii tofauti mpaka muda uwe umepita baada ya mahusiano kuvunjika.

Kama ni mzuri sidhani kama ni fair ku-brag out. Tena inaweza ku-back fire unless wewe ni mzuri universally. Uzuri ni subjective. Naweza kukuona mzuri, lakini Dark City akakuona huna lolote. Afterall baadhi yetu huwa tunaamini kuwa wanawake wengi wazuri hawana personality. Nani anataka kuboreka? Jaribu ku-flash back kama yule msichana ambaye alikuwa mzuri kupita wote darasani kwako ndiye huyo huyo alikuwa anaongoza darasani kwa kuwa na a great sense of personality.

Kuhusu kwani mtu huwa anafanya nini kuupata uzuri, nafikiri ni bora kutengeneza personality yako than kutafuta uzuri. At the end of the day personality ndiyo itakayokufanya kuwa na watu karibu and when you are not there people will badly miss you. I am sure kuna watu humu JF ikipita wiki bila kuwasoma unaona kama una-miss kitu fulani vile. Lakini huwajui kwa sura na wala huna mpango wa kuwaona physically.
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Umefafanua vizuri sana rafiki..........
 
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lara 1 said:
Wakubwa zangu shikamooni!

Niajeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!

Mnisamehe bure, huwa sipendi kuandika thread mpya wakt ya zamani bado ipo kwenye chati!!!!!!! LOL! Msione nimejibinafsishia hili jamvi wajameni. Ila hii ni breaking news si ya kukosa!!!!!!!!! Nimeshindwa kujibana imebidi kuandika humu.

Ile hali ya watu hamfahamiani, ila imetokea mmechat chat na nini, au mmewasiliana wee sasa mkaona, enough is enough lets meet tuonane sasa! Au mtu kachukua namba yako pahala, kakutongoza yo fell for his charm ndo namna gani vipi mmeona mkutane Face to Face!!!!

Hapo kwenye simu wakarimu kwa kila mmoja wenu, mipromise kibao, full kupigiana 24/7, mto unaisha kwa kukumbatiwa! Kichwani mwenyewe umeweka taswira yako unayoitaka!!!!!! You expect even better!!!! Mhhhhhhh!! Mda ukikaribia ndo painfull truth hits you, huenda ikawa ndio ya sio? Now you start having doubts n second thoughts! Unajilipua tu ngoja niende, WTF!? Kila mtu anadress to kill siku hiyo, full kugongea unyunyu!!!! Ukifika sasa hapo bar au resturant au beach huoni na kuangazaa waliokaa peke yao wote Idi Amini Dada, hapo ndo janja ya nyani inapoanzaa! Simu silent, hata vibration huweki! Rangi ya nguo umedanganya! Unasikilizia upepo kwanza! Simu ikiita unacheki nani anapiga kati ya hao watu!!!! Hapo unaichungulia ndani ya hand bag ukiona NO WAY! unaikata. You dont give up easly, unamtext umevaaje? Akikutajia ukicomfirm!!!!!! Unatokaje baruuuuuu!!!!!

Kuna mtu huku ofisini maji yalizidi ungaa, Bidada akajitosa kwa kijana mwenzie mmoja hivi, manake wanaume wenye pesa, wazuri na hawajaoa washida kweli siku hizi! Bibi katupa karata zake, wakachat wee hadi mambo yakakolea ile ile! She got her hopes high!!!!!! Jumapili ndo ilikuwa Blind Date yenyewe. Ijumaa master nilienda kutoa mawaiza yangu ya mwisho before the big day! NO MATTER WHAT DONT SLEEP WITH HIM!!!! Be your self, Leave the attitude at home blah! blah! Basi bana yeye alipofika She focused on WHAT DOES HE HAVE? Akasahau kufocus kwenye WHAT DO I/SHE HAVE? Kajibanza kamuona kaka watu MZURI basi weee kalipukaje kwa furaha!!! Kamfuata pale, the dude was vry kind, na nini. Wakaongea hili na lile mwisho kamrudisha mpaka kwake. Hajashuka kwenye gari(what a gentle man!)

Bi dada jtatu kangojea simu/sms wapii!!! Kimyaaaaaa! J nnee Holaaaa!!!!! Leo kapiga yeye, wala haipokelewei! Katext bila bila! Mmmmmh! Ndo kaja hapa tufanye kikao cha dharura! Mi nimebaki SINA MBAVU! Does this mean The Package didnt interest him!!!!? Mi nimemwambia jtano bado haijaisha, siku 3 tu jamani asubirie tu jamani, Maybe atapiga!!!!!!! Hizi network haziaminiki! LOL!

Its so SAD! she feels so STUPID! Maskini dada wa watu! Mi nikamwambia coz alikwambia anakofanya kazi ikibidimfate ili ujue kama mbwai mbwai tu, kuliko kujiuliza na kujijibu! (IT AINT A LAUGHING MATTER DONT LAUGH GUYS) Ama coz umeusaminisha mzigo si mbaya sana, basi kama Fupa wewe Mbwa limekishinda, niachie mimi Fisi nikukuruke nalo!!!! Huwezi jua it might be my lucky day! LOL (Jst kidding people)

ITS SUCH A CRUEL WORLD FOR WOMEN OUT THERE!!!!!!!!!
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Ahamie Airtel...
 
FP said:
Ni kweli kabisa, mwonekano ni kwa ajili ya kutamaniana na si mahusiano................
na ndo maana ukibadilika kidogo tu mtu anaanza, sababu unakuwa siyo yule aliyekutamani...........
mlikuwa wapi nyie sasa mimi nilijikuta nipo peke yangu tu hapa mpaka nikadhani labda mimi ni wa ajabu sana kufikiria hivi?
hivi rafiki BAK hakuna kibao cha kuwashukuru hawa watu wenye mitazamo kama yangu?
copy Kongosho, Elizabeth Dominic, EMT, labda babu Dark City sijui anasemaje kuhusu hili!
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Mzee mwenzangu @FP, sina zaidi ya yale yale tuliyoongea mchana?

Sura ni kitu muhimu kama unafanya window shopping...ila ukishaamua kununua, thamani yake inaweza kuwa NIL


Hata hivyo, haya ni matokeo ya kuuziana mbuzi kwenye gunia....

Bado nawashauri vijana waache kupandishana mori kwa kuhashuana, tena wakiwa hawafahamiani...

Nawaonea huruma sana kwani haya matukio yatawatesa!!

Babu DC!!
 
Dark City said:
Mzee mwenzangu @FP, sina zaidi ya yale yale tuliyoongea mchana?

Sura ni kitu muhimu kama unafanya window shopping...ila ukishaamua kununua, thamani yake inaweza kuwa NIL


Hata hivyo, haya ni matokeo ya kuuziana mbuzi kwenye gunia....

Bado nawashauri vijana waache kupandishana mori kwa kuhashuana, tena wakiwa hawafahamiani...

Nawaonea huruma sana kwani haya matukio yatawatesa!!

Babu DC!!
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babu taratibu, mimi ni mtu mzima mwenzako....huko kwenye uzee bado saaaaannaaaa, lol!
hapa mimi naona tumeshamaliza kula kitu, kazi kwao, wafanya window shopping na wanunuzi..........
sisi zamu ilishapita na hayo ndo tuliyokuwa tunayazingatia.......... na ndo maana mpaka sasa bado tupo "HAPPILY MARRIED"
zingatia hapo kwenye kapito leta....
 
FP said:
babu taratibu, mimi ni mtu mzima mwenzako....huko kwenye uzee bado saaaaannaaaa, lol!
hapa mimi naona tumeshamaliza kula kitu, kazi kwao, wafanya window shopping na wanunuzi..........
sisi zamu ilishapita na hayo ndo tuliyokuwa tunayazingatia.......... na ndo maana mpaka sasa bado tupo "HAPPILY MARRIED"
zingatia hapo kwenye kapito leta....
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Na kuhashuana haimo kwenye kamusi zetu za MMU.....Labda tukiwa na wale waliopewa ruksa na BWANA....


Mengine tuwaachie wenyewe!!

Babu DC!!
 
Elizabeth Dominic said:
Kumbe bidada mzuri weye? maana according to EMT wazuri ndio wenye personality mbaya
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You took me slightly out of context. Siyo wazuri wote wenye personality mbaya. Na ukiangalia kwa undani wala sio wao per se wanaosababisha kuwa na personality mbaya.

Wanawake wazuri wanakuwa "objectified" na wanaume kadri wanavyokua. Badala ya kutambuliwa as a "person" wanatambuliwa as an "object" na jamii. Kila mara these "beauty queens" wanaambiwa na familia zao, marafiki, school mates na jamii kwa ujumla kuwa they are "beautiful".

Matokeo yake wanadhani kuwa wana sense of entitlement and get used to everyone vying for their attention. Hii inaweza kuwaletea madhara makubwa sana kwenye personality zao. Wengi huwa hawajui wafanye nini pale wanapokuwa kwenye room na watu ambao hawathamini uzuri wao au hawana mpango uzuri wao.

Uzuri siyo identity ya mtu. Identity ya mtu ni personality yake. Ndiyo maana mtu akifa watu wanamkumbuka not on how beautiful/handsome s/he was, but how a person s/he was.

Kwa hiyo, vitu subjective kama "I am a beauty" havina substance sana kwa mhusika na vinaweza kumwadhiri kwa kushindwa kutambua her "concrete identity" na "sense of self." Na kama alikuzwa kwenye rough life anaweza kuwa identity disturbance au Personality Disorders.

Having said that sina maana kuwa wanawake wote wazuri wana personality mbaya. Kwa hiyo Kongosho asitishike. Lakini kuna funny tafiti zimefanywa kuwa mwanaume aliyeoa mwanamke mzuri sana huwa anakufa 10 years kabla ya the actual date he was supposed to die. lol. Sijui kwa wanawake vipi?
 
Rafiki FP muonekano/mwonekano ndiyo nini? lol! Kibao ndiyo nini? Cha kukunia nazi au kibao cha chapati? lol!
Jokes aside IMO there are three pillars of love namely: True love, Trust and Respect. If one of those 3 pillars is missing then love will stand on a very shaky ground. Mafiga mawili kamwe hayawezi kuinjika sufuri/chungu shurti yawe matatu.

Muonekano leo upo kesho haupo, kama ulipenda kwa muonekano wa muhusika ukipotea na penzi ndio linanyauka?

Hapo kwenye rangi uwe unazuka tu rafiki hata kama uko pekee yako si unatetea kila unachoamini banaa!!!




FP said:
Ni kweli kabisa, mwonekano ni kwa ajili ya kutamaniana na si mahusiano................
na ndo maana ukibadilika kidogo tu mtu anaanza, sababu unakuwa siyo yule aliyekutamani...........
mlikuwa wapi nyie sasa mimi nilijikuta nipo peke yangu tu hapa mpaka nikadhani labda mimi ni wa ajabu sana kufikiria hivi?
hivi rafiki BAK hakuna kibao cha kuwashukuru hawa watu wenye mitazamo kama yangu?
copy Kongosho, Elizabeth Dominic, EMT, labda babu Dark City sijui anasemaje kuhusu hili!
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Najifunza a lot kwa kufuatilia mtiririko wa hoja/mijadala inavyoenda!
Mwanzo ilianza...sarcasim, huruma
Katikati.....kuopt kwa non blind dates
Sasa hivi......uzuri na mvuto
Baadaye......?????

Pia kuna vinara wachangiaji wenye kuinfluence mitazamo
Mwanzoni................
Katikati................
Sasa hivi..............
Baadaye..............

Mwisho kuna tricks za kupata support ya mtazamo
"Mention people it will be hard for them kwenda kinyume sana na maoni yako"

JF very educative in every aspect.
 
BAK said:
Rafiki FP muonekano/mwonekano ndiyo nini? lol! Kibao ndiyo nini? Cha kukunia nazi au kibao cha chapati? lol!
Jokes aside IMO there are three pillars of love namely: True love, Trust and Respect. If one of those 3 pillars is missing then love will stand on a very shaky ground. Mafiga mawili kamwe hayawezi kuinjika sufuri/chungu shurti yawe matatu.

Muonekano leo upo kesho haupo, kama ulipenda kwa muonekano wa muhusika ukipotea na penzi ndio linanyauka?

Hapo kwenye rangi uwe unazuka tu rafiki hata kama uko pekee yako si unatetea kila unachoamini banaa!!!

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ha haaaaaa, rafiki na maswali yako na wewe? lol!
asante kwa kibao kitamu, hope teja angekisikiliza, lol! hiki ndo nilichokuwa namaanisha, hivyo vingine havihusiki....
sisi wengine bwana kiswahili ni lugha ya 4, sasa maneno mengi tunayachanganya sana, tuvumiliane rafiki.
rafiki kumbe na wewe upo group la watu wazima/ au akili tu imekufikisha utu uzimani ghafla? lol! maana mapoint yako ni balaa. kwa wakaka, mapoint hayo wanayawaza akina babu Dark City na rafiki yangu The Boss ..... hongera sana na karibu kwenye kundi la watu wazima........
 
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Hakuna matarajio yeyote kwenye hizi dating zinazoanzia mtandaoni zaidi ya MALAYA and/or MBAYA...
 
ukimensheniwa njoo na mtazamo wako kama ulivyo

Kaunga said:
Najifunza a lot kwa kufuatilia mtiririko wa hoja/mijadala inavyoenda!
Mwanzo ilianza...sarcasim, huruma
Katikati.....kuopt kwa non blind dates
Sasa hivi......uzuri na mvuto
Baadaye......?????

Pia kuna vinara wachangiaji wenye kuinfluence mitazamo
Mwanzoni................
Katikati................
Sasa hivi..............
Baadaye..............

Mwisho kuna tricks za kupata support ya mtazamo
"Mention people it will be hard for them kwenda kinyume sana na maoni yako"

JF very educative in every aspect.
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