IS your LOVE safe??? SHTUKA!!! Lol

[King’asti]

Lol! Wifi yangu una wivu sana,kha!
Sijasoma posts zingine, ila kwa upande wangu I suspect the least. I have a lot of male friends, I befriend their ladies wakiniruhusu (kuna mdada unajaribu reaching out unashindwa), lakini kupiga stori na kucheka tu is not good enough a reason to trigger an alarm for me. So kama ni kuibiwa, well, watakuwa wanajisevia,lol! And I don't dig out, I trust but he is guilty until proven innocent. Yes, I mean exactly that hahaha

 

[Asprin]

Tunawaombea...miss you so much,Happy New Year !!

Oh my darling sister... Pray for my quick recovery and I'll be all yours. Happy new year.... Salimia wapendwa wote. Nimemtoroka nesi mara moja kuja kuwasalimuni. Cheers!

 

[Kongosho]

hello kidonge!!
Umekikunywa kidonge wenzio?

Oh my darling sister... Pray for my quick recovery and I'll be all yours. Happy new year.... Salimia wapendwa wote. Nimemtoroka nesi mara moja kuja kuwasalimuni. Cheers!

 

[King’asti]

Babu jamani, get well soon! Nimegundua bila kukorofishana na wewe humu siku zangu zinaganda. Kama bibi hana wivu kama wifi yangu AshaDii naomba nipangiwe zamu ya kulala na wewe hospitali basi.

Oh my darling sister... Pray for my quick recovery and I'll be all yours. Happy new year.... Salimia wapendwa wote. Nimemtoroka nesi mara moja kuja kuwasalimuni. Cheers!

 

[AshaDii]

Sure. Sitaki kufa miaka 10 kabla ya muda nilioandikiwa kufa. LOL

hahahahahaha!!!:lol:

Kwa nini usiwe moja ya hao wapenzi wachache ambao wamefaulu inavyotakiwa? Loyalty vs trust. You may be right actually. Trust is a bigger box than loyalty. Loyalty is simply a by-product of trust. Or I could say that trust contains loyalty. But if you think loyalty is more simple or important than trust, wouldn't that sort be like having a dog who runs off to hump everything that will stand still long enough (including the sheep) but always come home at night? LOL.

Hey didn't say Loyalty is more important than trust.... it is that it is more simple to apply to; you can be Loyal to someone thou somehow you do not trust the person completely. Loyalty comes out of dovotion to someone - believing the person is right or wrong in his/her doing does not really matter...

Not applied ipasavyo b'se many underrate trust. Kama una underrate kitu would you really bother apply it ipasvyo? Trust me on this. If you don't trust a person, howsoever you may love him/her, your relationship will not survive, because you have no trust in him/her. Lakini in the modern days mtu anapenda fasta fasta without even building a trust. Matokeo yake relationship haifiki popote au ina-struggle b'se it was not initially built on trust.

No EMT.... Umeichukulia kuto trust too absolute! are you saying kwamba all these relationships ambazo zime survive ni sababu ya Trust tu?

Trust ni uaminifu. Kwa hiyo if I trust you it means that I have no doubt in my mind about your honesty, integrity and credibility. Ukisoma wachangiaji wengi kwenye huu uzi, utanote kuwa they would not let their partners to be close to their friends or relatives. Why? Possibly because they don't trust their partners. Moreover, it may seem they don't even trust their friends or relatives. If this is the case, do they even trust themselves?

As much as trust ni uaminifu.... Still saa ingine unaweza usim trust mtu wako ile completely... na ukawa right in hilo na ukaendelea kua nae in the long run.

 

[AshaDii]

Nadhani hapo ndio point! hata nikikaa sana na shemeji, kama mimi na yeye tunaheshimu relation yake na rafiki yangu basi hakuna kitakacho haribika... hata kama mi sina mpenzi. lol
Ila pia tukubaliane kuna dimention ingine: huyo rafiki ataheshimu relation yako kufatana na heshima wewe na mume wako mnaipa. si unajua kale kamsemo : we won't do anything you are not comfortable doing.

Sasa hapo that is where the problem lies.... with time if it is comfortable for both of you (yaani na boyfriend wa rafikiyo) then there is a possibility eeeh? lol

 

[AshaDii]

Pouwa dearest, nimetoka kuulizwa maswali magumu kwenye thread moja hivi...ngoja nikapumzike,nitarudi baadaye kidogo!

Pole Dearest.... Wapi huko? lol (what to know kama nimekisia sawa!)

 

[AshaDii]

sasa na sisi tunaopenda upolygamy hii si ndo rite chance poleni sana mliona wivu na hii inaonesha wazi ni kuwa na wivu wamapenzi tu..

hahahaha..... Ndetichia... Umenifurahisha kaka..... Dah!

This is a lesson to remember AshaDii. Thank you

Kinyoba Thanks for your acknowledgement.....

 

[Mwali]

Sasa hapo that is where the problem lies.... with time if it is comfortable for both of you (yaani na boyfriend wa rafikiyo) then there is a possibility eeeh? lol

Well... I won't do it just because he is my friend... and my friend is my friend, I can't do that to her...

 

[AshaDii]

Uzi mzuri sana hongera kwa kutupa angalizo.

Wanaume walio makini, mara wanapoanza uhusiano na mwanamke huanza kukata/kupunguza mawasilano yake na wanaume wengine(wawe marafiki au wale ndugu wa kuunga unga) kwa kutumia ushawishi, ili kuwe na kichwa kimoja kinachotoa maamuzi au ushawishi.

Kazi huwa kupunguza marafiki wa kike wa bibie(mashoga), km mwanamke ni m2 wa kampani lazima kutakuwa na rafiki mkubwa(msiri) ambaye huyo kumtenganisha na bibie ni kazi kweli kweli. Na huyo ndo hasa anaweza akawa anashirikishwa katika uhusiano km m2 wa 3.

Sasa inawezekana mwanaume akawa huru na huyo "shemejie" na ndo hapo inaweza kutokea kuvutiana kwa maana mwanaume anaweza akaanza kujisikia comfortable akiwa nae, labda ni muongeaji kuzidi mpenzie, mcheshi nk. Sasa kitakacho fuata...!!

==Hali hiyo pia huweza kutokea kwa upande wa mwanaume, wengine wanaita rafiki wa "kushibana" hata jamaa akisafiri anamwambia nakuachia shemejio.!!==

Kuna rafiki mmoja wa kushibana alipoachiwa mji alinde C akaanza kutoa huduma zisizomhusu!!

Bro Lee thanks for the acknowledgement.....

Hilo la upande wa wanaume mara nyingi halina shida saana, kwa kiasi fulani naona kama wanaume wako makini zaidi.... Mara nyingi wanaume hasa akioa hataki hata rafikize waje nyumbani kwake! Urafiki unaishia huko huko mitaani na wala hataki huyo mtu kujenga mazoea ya karibu na mkewe hasa kama huyo rafiki ni single. Shughuli mara nyingi ipo upande wa sie wanawake... Unaanika kila kitu wazi ambacho chamhusu mumeo kiasi kwamba shoga amfahamu mume kama wewe; all the ins and outs.... hio kwa kweli ni hatari ila bahati mbaya saana wengi hua hawaoni kua ni tatizo mpaka yawakute....

 

[AshaDii]

Well... I won't do it just because he is my friend... and my friend is my friend, I can't do that to her...

Mwali dear..... Do you agree with me kua kuna watu walikua na mawazo kama haya haya yako lakini wakaenda astray in the long run? Sisemi kukukatisha tamaa.... Just being logical here....

 

[AshaDii]

Nashukuru kwa ujumbee maana unaweza mwajiri chui kulinda zizini la mbuzi bila kujua mbuzi ni chakula cha chui

Thanks for the acknowledgement Mchumia....

Japo hayajanikuta mtu anaefikia hatua hiyo huwezi kumuita rafiki, wala huyo mwanamke/mwanaume wako anaeruhusu au hata kuinitiate hayo mazingira sio mpenzi wa maana.

Kuna mabinti wawili nawafahamu walikua wanapendana kweli, so they said. Mpaka mmoja alipoanza kumtumia mpenzi wa mwenzake msg za "fulani hata hakupendi, ana watu wengine sehemu fulani, aliyokua anakufanyia si kitu. Nipe mimi hiyo nafasi nikuonyeshe mapenzi" ndo wakagundua urafiki wao haukua urafiki after all. Watu kama hawa ukishawagundua ni kiasi cha kuwapotezea tu.

Ni blue; na hasa ndio inakua hivo.... But you should take note kuna watu yamewatokea.... na bado wanaendelea in the name of kusamehe or kutereza.

The second paragraph... Lizzy that is where the problem lies.. wamtrust rafikiyo but hujui nini hasa anafanya kwako ambocho sio kizuri. Sometimes mpaka uje notice ni wakati mambo yoote yameharibika kabisa na there is no turning back.

 

[AshaDii]

Not yet happened to me, but good caution!

Like that you think so Le Gagnant.....

AshaDii asante kwa uzi mzuri mambo ya mapenzi ni magumu sana wengine tulishaamua kunyoosha mikono juu maana yamezidi kichwa..................

hahahaha.... Chauro siku nyingi dear.... Mzima wewe? Nafurahi umefurahia uzi na I hope utakua hujakosa kabisa moja ama mbili... Ningependa kweli kama utaweza ongeza lolote concerning the matter...

thanks AD kwa kuleta hii sread ,sijui nimeshachelewa au bado nitakuwa ndani ya muda?naona karibi kila kitu kimezungumziwa ila mimi ningependa kuongezea hapo kuwa hii kitu ni km kuchekea nyani shambani mwishowe unavuna mabua ati....ila mm najua most of the time yule role model wa hao marafiki ndo huwa wenzake wanataka kuonja anapata nn....

Asakuta mbona mapema kabisa? Hujachelewa for kama mtu bado una mchango or you feel like posting within the topic haijalishi ni mda gani umepita... waweza post tu! Nimependa nilipo bold hapo.... hapo ni kweli swa na kumchekea nyani....lol

 

[Mwali]

Mwali dear..... Do you agree with me kua kuna watu walikua na mawazo kama haya haya yako lakini wakaenda astray in the long run? Sisemi kukukatisha tamaa.... Just being logical here....

AshaDii, muhimu ni kuweka boundary and manage not to fall. I'll try to stay out of temptation.
Kwanza hii discussion inarudisha a classic one: kuna urafiki kati ya mwanaume na mwanamke?
Kama upo basi ndio tutakao apply hapa. Kama hakuna basi hata sisi hatutakiwi kua karibu... Au?

 

[AshaDii]

Well well... Mkihitimisha huu mjadala msisahau kuwaombea wagonjwa. Wanahitaji maombi yenu zaidi na zaidi.

Darling shem ODM.... Naomba upone haraka kwa sababu zifuatazo.

• I have missed you Sooooo Much! Acha tu jopo la wana MMU family walivokumiss.
• Sweetie analalamika kachoka kupitia asubuhi kuleta mtori anapoenda kazini (na anajua hawezi acha else mama matesha ataelemewa shughuli)
• Sweetlady my sweet Wifi anadai unasumbua ka mtoto mdogo na una demand tone za valuer kwenye uji.
• Ni/tume miss michango yako and all your witty comments....
• Kuna wajukuu wapya wamekuja... kweli kabisa wanahitaji kukaguliwa i.e Mpoleeee, Radhia Sweety, obsesd n.k...lol
• Kuna new recruitment kwenye chama chenu yaaani Hafai! (umemsoma Fazaa??) lol
• Mjukuu wako mtiifu (MJ1) anaacha kua mtiifu.... I think sababu anajua hamna wa kumpa adhabu...
• Hivi nisha mention I have missed you???

P.S
Nimefurahi saaaaana kukuona hapa.... Na maombi yanaendeshwa yakiongozwa na Happuch na Ms Judith.

 

[Mwali]

Darling shem ODM.... Naomba upone haraka kwa sababu zifuatazo.

• I have missed you Sooooo Much! Acha tu jopo la wana MMU family walivokumiss.
• Sweetie analalamika kachoka kupitia asubuhi kuleta mtori anapoenda kazini (na anajua hawezi acha else mama matesha ataelemewa shughuli)
• Sweetlady my sweet Wifi anadai unasumbua ka mtoto mdogo na una demand tone za valuer kwenye uji.
• Ni/tume miss michango yako and all your witty comments....
• Kuna wajukuu wapya wamekuja... kweli kabisa wanahitaji kukaguliwa i.e Mpoleeee, Radhia Sweety, obsesd n.k...lol
• Kuna new recruitment kwenye chama chenu yaaani Hafai! (umemsoma Fazaa??) lol
• Mjukuu wako mtiifu (MJ1) anaacha kua mtiifu.... I think sababu anajua hamna wa kumpa adhabu...
• Hivi nisha mention I have missed you???

Hapo bold hapoooooo :lol:

 

[Rutashubanyuma]

Kama nilivosema hapo juu... Hizo ni baadhi ya viashiria... kama wewe unaepita hapa iko hivo... SHTUKA!! Kama kawa naomba ushirikiano wenu katika mada hii tuweze ongezea, punguza na rekebisha pia.

some relationships are meant not to be.......................gather your stuff and move on and let them be together as is meant to be...........are we not victims of insecurity when we endear ourselves to protect our perceived home turfs.................Kushtuka kwangu ni kuachia ngazi na kuwaachia wapya wajirushe waonavyo inafaa..........

 

[Rutashubanyuma]

AshaDii, muhimu ni kuweka boundary and manage not to fall. I'll try to stay out of temptation.
Kwanza hii discussion inarudisha a classic one: kuna urafiki kati ya mwanaume na mwanamke?
Kama upo basi ndio tutakao apply hapa. Kama hakuna basi hata sisi hatutakiwi kua karibu... Au?

running away from your onus?................................never excels at all............face your demoniac fears and overcoming rejection is the best way out........................utashangaa baada ya miaka kwenda na kurudi............that experience was the best thing to have happened to you....................your tormentor will shock you when you see him/her in her new veil..................always going down the drain with poor choices........................poor judgment........................playing a part in leading them into abyss of hopelessness..........

 

[AshaDii]

AshaDii, muhimu ni kuweka boundary and manage not to fall. I'll try to stay out of temptation.
Kwanza hii discussion inarudisha a classic one: kuna urafiki kati ya mwanaume na mwanamke?
Kama upo basi ndio tutakao apply hapa. Kama hakuna basi hata sisi hatutakiwi kua karibu... Au?

Hapo hasa is where the problem lies....lol.... Na kila mtu anajibu lake hapo, it is one of the most contradicting issue in relationship related issues. If you really believe in that then no wonder you believe it safe...lol

 

[AshaDii]

some relationships are meant not to be.......................gather your stuff and move on and let them be together as is meant to be...........are we not victims of insecurity when we endear ourselves to protect our perceived home turfs.................Kushtuka kwangu ni kuachia ngazi na kuwaachia wapya wajirushe waonavyo inafaa..........

I like this point of view Rutah.....