IS your LOVE safe??? SHTUKA!!! Lol

[EMT]

Yeah' Do that and make sure kakako woote nimeona really really early.... Just in case if it happens I don't feel guilty!lol

Sure. Sitaki kufa miaka 10 kabla ya muda nilioandikiwa kufa. LOL.

Sometimes, I think loyalty is simple when compared to TRUST.... Trust is in another level; and Frankly speaking ni wapenzi wachache ambao wanafaulu inavotakiwa katika hili... Kweli vile.

Kwa nini usiwe moja ya hao wapenzi wachache ambao wamefaulu inavyotakiwa? Loyalty vs trust. You may be right actually. Trust is a bigger box than loyalty. Loyalty is simply a by-product of trust. Or I could say that trust contains loyalty. But if you think loyalty is more simple or important than trust, wouldn't that sort be like having a dog who runs off to hump everything that will stand still long enough (including the sheep) but always come home at night? LOL.

In blue... Working on it....Lmao! I know trust is important... But is it really applied ipasavo?

Not applied ipasavyo b'se many underrate trust. Kama una underrate kitu would you really bother apply it ipasvyo? Trust me on this. If you don't trust a person, howsoever you may love him/her, your relationship will not survive, because you have no trust in him/her. Lakini in the modern days mtu anapenda fasta fasta without even building a trust. Matokeo yake relationship haifiki popote au ina-struggle b'se it was not initially built on trust.

Trust ni uaminifu. Kwa hiyo if I trust you it means that I have no doubt in my mind about your honesty, integrity and credibility. Ukisoma wachangiaji wengi kwenye huu uzi, utanote kuwa they would not let their partners to be close to their friends or relatives. Why? Possibly because they don't trust their partners. Moreover, it may seem they don't even trust their friends or relatives. If this is the case, do they even trust themselves?

 

[Nyani Ngabu]

Honestly.... Hata mimi hapo nimecheka! huyo ndo Ngabu bana!

Unajua niko curious kujua kilichowachekesha. EMT naona kauchuna.

Ni kwamba nimeongea pumba au?

 

[EMT]

What's so funny?

You being gender sensitive. Au ulitaka nikasirike?

 

[Nyani Ngabu]

You being gender sensitive. Au ulitaka nikasirike?

Niliuliza tu kilichokuchekesha. Kutaka au kutotaka ukasirike ni irrelevant.

 

[AshaDii]

AshaDii, baada ya kufikiria upya nimeona sipo tayari kuutupilia urafiki wangu na mpenzi wa rafiki yangu just because ni mpenzi wa rafiki yangu. hakuna chochote kibaya tunacho kifanya, tuna furahia mutual company tu. na hatuna yale ya kushikana mikono au kukumbatiana hovyo. hatuchezi kwa karibu nkk. tunaongea tu kama ninavoongea na wewe hapa kuhusu kila kitu, hatuongei vya kuhamshiana hisia za kimahaba. alafu mi na yeye ni allies katika kumtakia rafiki yangu furaha!
Nikianza kuhisi kua nampenda (au yeye ananipenda) kimahaba ndio nitaacha. ila kwa sasa mi naendelea na urafiki bwana!

It is good to know your limits na kama waweza control. Cha ajabu nikudokeze kua most of my married friends wananiamini saana na waume zao.... Fortunately wengi ni wale ambao the wapenzi nakua nawafahamu saa ingine kabla hata hawajawa wapenzi, they confide in me mpaka I tell them "Gal hapo unavuka mpaka - please hold to it";

Kikubwa ambacho chawezesha control in kwamba mazoea ya karibu saana no! Ama maybe we meet for lunch rafiki yangu asijue... That is a no... na like you said mazoea ya hugging, touching, talking dirt and the like pia is a big no... Pia hata mda ambao twa engage katika maongezi... Sometimes twaongea we enjoy the conservation and each others company... mimi mwenyewe najisuta na kusema sasa inabidi niage ama nikatishe maongezi. Msimamo wako sio mbaya saana....

Na pia ujue sometimes such cases ni disaster if sasa rafiki yako hana mpenzi then awe karibu na wako.... Naaah! Naaah! Naaah!:A S 13:

 

[AshaDii]

Nimeona cases nyingi sana kwa watu wangu wa karibu....mara nyingi wahanga ni wasichana...hii inatokana na uzoefu wangu...ikitokea kwangu sitakuwa na choice zaidi ya kuquit...

hahaha.... no uvumilivu eeeh? Hata hivo in most cases the guys would do that radher than the women....lol

 

[AshaDii]

mmmh.....!! Ngoja nistuke aisee!!

Kipipi kila siku nakukataza tu short statements twako....lol

 

[Mwali]

It is good to know your limits na kama waweza control. Cha ajabu nikudokeze kua most of my married friends wananiamini saana na waume zao.... Fortunately wengi ni wale ambao the wapenzi nakua nawafahamu saa ingine kabla hata hawajawa wapenzi, they confide in me mpaka I tell them "Gal hapo unavuka mpaka - please hold to it";

Kikubwa ambacho chawezesha control in kwamba mazoea ya karibu saana no! Ama maybe we meet for lunch rafiki yangu asijue... That is a no... na like you said mazoea ya hugging, touching, talking dirt and the like pia is a big no... Pia hata mda ambao twa engage katika maongezi... Sometimes twaongea we enjoy the conservation and each others company... mimi mwenyewe najisuta na kusema sasa inabidi niage ama nikatishe maongezi. Msimamo wako sio mbaya saana....

Na pia ujue sometimes such cases ni disaster if sasa rafiki yako hana mpenzi then awe karibu na wako.... Naaah! Naaah! Naaah!:A S 13:

Nadhani hapo ndio point! hata nikikaa sana na shemeji, kama mimi na yeye tunaheshimu relation yake na rafiki yangu basi hakuna kitakacho haribika... hata kama mi sina mpenzi. lol
Ila pia tukubaliane kuna dimention ingine: huyo rafiki ataheshimu relation yako kufatana na heshima wewe na mume wako mnaipa. si unajua kale kamsemo : we won't do anything you are not comfortable doing.

 

[Azimio Jipya]

It is good to know your limits na kama waweza control. Cha ajabu nikudokeze kua most of my married friends wananiamini saana na waume zao.... Fortunately wengi ni wale ambao the wapenzi nakua nawafahamu saa ingine kabla hata hawajawa wapenzi, they confide in me mpaka I tell them "Gal hapo unavuka mpaka - please hold to it";Kikubwa ambacho chawezesha control in kwamba mazoea ya karibu saana no! Ama maybe we meet for lunch rafiki yangu asijue... That is a no... na like you said mazoea ya hugging, touching, talking dirt and the like pia is a big no... Pia hata mda ambao twa engage katika maongezi... Sometimes twaongea we enjoy the conservation and each others company... mimi mwenyewe najisuta na kusema sasa inabidi niage ama nikatishe maongezi. Msimamo wako sio mbaya saana....Na pia ujue sometimes such cases ni disaster if sasa rafiki yako hana mpenzi then awe karibu na wako.... Naaah! Naaah! Naaah!:A S 13:

Mimi nafikiri always ingetakiwa kuwa hivi ... I love this ... kama kweli unaweza kukaa na most of your friends like that ... its a bless ...maanake am sure kuna ambao ... hii inaweza kidogo kuwa ngumu kwao ... its just too clean and pure to handle ... they will secretly/openely hate it!!

 

[Mwali]

Mimi nafikiri always ingetakiwa kuwa hivi ... I love this ... kama kweli unaweza kukaa na most of your friends like that ... its a bless ...maanake am sure kuna ambao ... hii inaweza kidogo kuwa ngumu kwao ... its just too clean and pure to handle ... they will secretly/openely hate it!!

Hakuna alie kamilika, ila kama utaweka hivyo hapo juu kua msimamo wako basi kila utakapo anza kuteleza utajitambua na kuchukua hatua. Na ni nguvu yangu ya kuzingatia hayo ndio inasababisha nikatae kuvunja urafiki na mpenzi wa rafiki yangu. Najua kabisa kua mambo yakianza kubadilika nitabadili mtazamo ila so far so good...

 

[AshaDii]

Ni kweli mamii, kujibweteka sana siyo nzuri mana penzi/pendo linahitaji kupaliliwa kila mara. Halafu sipendi kitu cha rafiki yangu/ndugu kujifanya kamzoea sana mpenzi wangu, huwa sibakishii mtu..kwamba eeeh, hayo mazoea mabaya na siyapendi tena mbele yao wote..kwa kuwa muwazi hilo halinishindi maana kama kuna chembe chembe ya kuviziana ife na isifanyike mbele yangu..

Mazoea mabaya+mazingira = vishawishi vya uzinzi

On a note side: Ntakutumia hilo swali mumie, yaani unipe insight zako..nahisi niko katika ulimwengu ambao siufahamu kabisa, huh!..sasa hivi nakutumia.

I am glad tuko page moja hapa.... Kuna movie fulani nimewahi ona (tena imagine ni ya kihindi! lol) Jamaa alimpa lifti rafiki wa mkewe... only when returning kukatokea avalanches (down pour caused by snow) hivo kukawa na road blocks, wakaenda Motel wakakuta zaimejaa only one room remaining.... wamelowa, hawana nguo, ni marafiki and comfy with one another...

Hapo first reaction inakua this is OK we can handle it... Ok mmoja allala kitandani mwingine on the couch with 10 hours to dawn! Hapo what do you expect? Hata kama hamjafanya.... kuwaamini kazi ipo.... Kuhusu wao (of coz they did the needful...lol)

Your side note: Nimeipata.... With pleasure Dear.... In blue I am Lmao! enways... Humbled.

 

[AshaDii]

Thanks dearest, naomba isitokee tuu!

Will be looking forward to your thots baadae Dearest..... Na Yeah' God Forbid!

 

[Michelle]

Will be looking forward to your thots baadae Dearest..... Na Yeah' God Forbid!

Pouwa dearest, nimetoka kuulizwa maswali magumu kwenye thread moja hivi...ngoja nikapumzike,nitarudi baadaye kidogo!

 

[AshaDii]

...dahhh, mbona yeshakuwa kawaida tu haya tena mengine mpaka magazetini?
lakini nikikwambia kwa mtazamo wangu, wanawake wengi wapo mstari wa mbele
kuyaanika ya wenzao...

mfano, mke anamhadithia mumewe kuhusu shoga yake anavaa thongs, kafanyiwa bikini wax,
anashanga nyingi, na mengi mengineyo kuhusu huyo shoga yake kiasi cha kumuweka mumewe
kwenye fantasy world kwa huyo shoga mtu.. (hapa NN aligusia kuhusu own morals)

...unaweza sema mume anatakiwa kumzuia mkewe asimwambie upuuzi huo, lakini katika jamii
ya kisasa haya yanatokea sana.

Yaani hapa it is like when a man falls in love wiith a woman regardless madhaifu kama:

Huyo mkewe ni mvivu, mchafu, spender, na kasoro zingine kibao.... Making matters worse she no longer cares nurturing mapenzi yanu ya tendo la ndoa. Then huyo huyo (kwa kukosa kwake akili ya ufikiri) anasimulia kila siku kuhusu rafikiye.... Oooh' Mwali kwa usafi mwenyewe! Mara mwali halali bila kuvaa lingerie, Mara Mwali ni mtafutaji ile mbaya na bahiri yule dada hata sijui kama hua anajinunulia kitu mpaka sikukuu....

Hapo what do you expect fantasies huyo mwanaume ataanza kujenga? lol Sitaki hata kufikiri yaaani! lol

 

[AshaDii]

...lol, usi highlight bana..mezea!

...siku hizi yanayofanyika kwenye kitchen party mnayaweka wazi, sijui tulaumu maadili,
facebook au hizo smartphone zenye video na camera?..

..tufanyeje sasa ilhali "pupwe lina msisimo kwa kondoo wenye manyoya haba?"
AshaDii nahisi kama nachakachua thread yako, acha nisepe...

aisee Mbu yaelekea hujawahi chachachua eeeh? Mbona upo within topic? Kwa mktadha huo please come back! lol

 

[AshaDii]

Hapa napita kimya kimya tu.

Kabakabana say something dear.... Acha mambo ya auntie Mamndenyi....lol

 

[Azimio Jipya]

Hakuna alie kamilika, ila kama utaweka hivyo hapo juu kua msimamo wako basi kila utakapo anza kuteleza utajitambua na kuchukua hatua. Na ni nguvu yangu ya kuzingatia hayo ndio inasababisha nikatae kuvunja urafiki na mpenzi wa rafiki yangu. Najua kabisa kua mambo yakianza kubadilika nitabadili mtazamo ila so far so good...

Mwali..Mwali nimefuatia mtizamo wako!! hahh hh!

Kama nimekulewa vile..!? Lakini subiri...

... hebunieleze unaanzaje kuvunja mahusiano na shemeji yako ... ambye mlikuwa mmezoena ..lakini kama unavyosema ..sasa yameanza kubadilika ... Chukulia huyo shemji yako ndio Mimi ... Unaazaje kuvunja mahusiano na mimi, unaninunuia? ... Utaniita na kunieleza kwa sasa ...kunazia leo ...etc Utanikasirikia..kuonyesha kuwa unaweza kunipush away kwa hasira zako..etc.. Kumbuka wewe unaamini kuwa Hakuna alie kamilika ..Lol

Mwali hebu niweke mbali ...!!!

 

[AshaDii]

Honestly you technically empress me! Lol

.. I never knew you have that RIGHT STRENGTH ... si unajua sio kutumia manguvu na makelele saaana? .. which I call Wrong Strength! Maana kama ulivyo onyesha hapo if you go with wrong strength reactively, hovyohovyo ... you end up ..empowering them ...that is to say you empower the wrong in them, you empower the wrong relation .. tena kwa mikono yako mwenyewe!!lol

Hah hah .. ndio maana in my post I said ... the initial first step was crucial ... ukikosea ... umepoteza the partner!

And I think you have gone to the next final step ... TAKING THE RIGHT ACTION!!

Loh ... have seen how you calmly, patiently, with stillness, firmness and kindly (Tough Love lol)... how you separated them ... hahh hah .. I agree this was not Reaction it was ACTION ... which I believe it always works to your advantages and to their disadvantages!!

... anyway have never seen this in you ... its so clear lovely black and what!!

... One thing as you said even if it was me ... sirahisi kujikuta tunakimbizana na kuwindana ... maana nitakuwa nimejua tatizo mapema saaana ...have observed it ...in my privet time ...and done the needfull..nikichelewa sana ..then ndio ..kama hivyo ..the first two steps ...

Yes will treat it with sweet romantic toughness and firmness not the destructive toughness etc ...and its because she is mine!!

Can you call all of this ... Win the wrong in others with LOVE! ... Confront the opponent with power of LOVE ... You know where I got this eh Lol

From your post yaonesha tupo pamoja kabisa in the initial decisions to make..... Analysis of my answer.... I am impressed! lol


Naangalia what I can neccessarily add hapo... BUT sioni.... Genuinely.... AND Aj... I am humbled from your whole acknowledgement.

 

[ndetichia]

sasa na sisi tunaopenda upolygamy hii si ndo rite chance poleni sana mliona wivu na hii inaonesha wazi ni kuwa na wivu wamapenzi tu..

 

[kinyoba]

This is a lesson to remember AshaDii. Thank you