Wakatisha tamaa (Downers)

[TIMING]

She is amazing.

ooppps... there goes my tears!!!

daym i am touched

 

[Dr Lizzy]

Lizzy,
Hebu labda unifafanulie, hawa watu huwa wanakukatisha tamaa kwenye jambo moja tu au mambo mengi?
Nikiangalia mfano wa huyo dada ulioutoa, huyo mpenzi wake yaelekea labda alikuwa hataki aingie kwenye hiyo career ya uimbaji. Hizi zipo sana! Assume kijana una gf wako ambaye ni mzuri sana na ana kila quality ya kuwa mlimbende wa sehemu flani, unajua madhara ya Gf wako akienda kwenye hayo mashindano. Utategemea usimdiscourage?
Wakatisha tamaa ambao naona niwakuavoid ni wale ambao kila jambo unalolifanya wanaona hujafanya vizuri.

Vyovyote vile...
Huo unaoongelea ni ubinafsi wa ajabu sana.Kumfanya mwenzako aamini hawezi hiki na kile eti ili asishiriki hiki au kile sio sahihi....mtu mstarabu atashauri na kuelewesha kwanini haoni itakua vizuri ushiriki na sio kukwambia huwezi.

 

[TIMING]

That's the way to go MTM.
Kweli kuna watu hawajitambui/hawafanyi kwa makusudi maana ndivyo walivyo tu....wanaona makosa kwenye kila kitu hata pale ambapo hayapo!!

Very true Lizzy, sometimes tunawakdiria wenzetu na kushindwa kutambua the forces, drive, chances and balance inayowapeleka mbele....

I am sure, most of us have questioned some of people along our journey of life... personally i have had many of the downers, but i alwasy use them as new benchmarks

But sometimes it depends on the person who is on the receiving end, wengine wanakata tamaa, wengine wanatumia changamoto kama ngazi

 

[Dr Lizzy]

ooppps... there goes my tears!!!

daym i am touched

She does that...
Imagine all that talent could have been lost kwaajili ya maneno tu ya mtu ambae hakumtakia maendeleo.

 

[klorokwini]

Lizzy,
Hebu labda unifafanulie, hawa watu huwa wanakukatisha tamaa kwenye jambo moja tu au mambo mengi?
Nikiangalia mfano wa huyo dada ulioutoa, huyo mpenzi wake yaelekea labda alikuwa hataki aingie kwenye hiyo career ya uimbaji. Hizi zipo sana! Assume kijana una gf wako ambaye ni mzuri sana na ana kila quality ya kuwa mlimbende wa sehemu flani, unajua madhara ya Gf wako akienda kwenye hayo mashindano. Utategemea usimdiscourage?
Wakatisha tamaa ambao naona niwakuavoid ni wale ambao kila jambo unalolifanya wanaona hujafanya vizuri.

Fact............

 

[The Priest]

Heck..those so called 'downers' I call them haters. The best way to deal with them is to make them your motivators.

I've done it throughout and it has worked. They've always brought the best out of me.

I love it when people doubt me. I like it when people talk junk about my abilities.

I love haters because they inspire me to maximize my potential. I am a self-motivated guy but I love to have haters around.

Thus I say, make your haters your motivators.

Thanks,it cannot be said any better!

 

[Dr Lizzy]

Very true Lizzy, sometimes tunawakdiria wenzetu na kushindwa kutambua the forces, drive, chances and balance inayowapeleka mbele....

I am sure, most of us have questioned some of people along our journey of life... personally i have had many of the downers, but i alwasy use them as new benchmarks

But sometimes it depends on the person who is on the receiving end, wengine wanakata tamaa, wengine wanatumia changamoto kama ngazi

Hapo sasa ndipo kazi ilipo...kuna watu hata criticism hawapokei vizuri achilia mbali kuwa discouraged.Imagine mtu ambae hajiamini alafu wewe uje umpe uhakika kabisa kwamba he/she is good for nothing...utammaliza kabisa.Kama wote tungekua na uwezo wa kudeal na hawa watu kwa namna ambayo ingetufaidisha labda nao wangetoweka taratibu.

 

[Dr Lizzy]

Fact............

We Kloro unasupport kuambiwa ''wewe sio lawyer mzuri...huwezi shinda kesi hata ujitahidi vipi'' ili usijihusishe na kesi ambayo haionekani ni nzuri kwako kiusalama badala ya mtu kukueleza na kukuelewesha bila kukupunguzia kujiamini kwako???

 

[Nyani Ngabu]

Thanks,it cannot be said any better!

I appreciate that!

 

[klorokwini]

Downers.....
...That's what I call the people that are constantly trying to put others down.

Watu kama hawa wako kila mahali,majumbani, mashuleni, makazini na hata mitaani.
Wanawashushia wenzao ari ya kusoma,kutafuta maendeleo, kufanya kazi, kukuza na kuendeleza vipaji vyao kwa sababu ya madhaifu yao wenyewe au woga wa kuwaona wengine wakifika mbali.

Muda sio mrefu nilitokea kuangalia kipindi cha mashindano ya kuimba, kabla ya kuimba dada mmoja (umrimiaka 37 kama sikosei) akawa anaelezea kwanini imemchukua muda mrefu kujaribu bahati yake. Alikua na mpenzi ambae kila akiimba alikua anamwambia hana sauti nzuri na maswala ya kuimba hayawezi kumfikisha popote kwasababu hana kipaji. Dada wa watu alisikia hayo maoni so many times mpaka na mwenyewe akaanza kuamini kwamba ni kweli hana kipaji japo wakati anakua aliamini anacho. Akapoteza kujiamini mpaka alipokuja kuachana na yule bwana na ndio akaona aende kwenye hayo mashindano.
Honestly yule dada alipoimba tuchozi tulinitoka....pamoja na watu wengine wengi tu waliokuwepo kwenye hicho kipindi.Her voice was simply AMAIZING.....


Wapo watu wengi sana wanaonyang'anywa kujiamini kwa namna hii..wakubwa kwa wadogo.Wakati mwingine hata mzazi anaweza akachukua nafasi hiyo ya kumshusha mwanae...yaweza isiwe kwa makusudi bali kwa yeye kuamini kwamba mwanae hawezi hicho anachojaribu ila inatokea na inaathiri.

So next time ukisikia mtu anakwambia''huwezi hichi...huwezi kile'' usichukulie hayo maneno kama sheria. Usikubali kuaminishwa huwezi wakati unaweza...hutofika mbali wakati matumaini yapo...WASHANGAZE watu waliodhani hutofika,hutoweza kwa kupigania na kufikia malengo yako.
Jifunze kutofautisha criticism nadiscouragement.
…..Criticism imejikita kwenye kujenga na kuboresha zaidi. Kukupa moyo nakukuimarisha...UKIPEWA CHUKUA NA TUMIA VIZURI KWA FAIDA YAKO.
…..Discouragement imejikita kwenye kubomoa msingi wa kujiamini kwenye mambo au jambo fulani.Kukuonyesha kwamba huwezi na hata ufanye nini hutoweza HII USIRUHUSU IKUTAWALE.

Kama wewe ni mzazi...jitahidi kumkosoa mwanao pale inapobidi ili kumjenga(critisism is good ) ila usimkatishe tamaa.
Kwa wengine wote....usiruhusu madhaifu yako...kutokujiamini kwako...chuki...wivu au hata mtazamo wako kuhusiana na maisha uathiri watu wengine. Kosoa kwa nia ya kujenga ...kama huwezi acha!!

Nakubaliana na wewe kwenye hao the so called "downers", lakini kwa kesi ya huyu jamaa nakubaliana na rejao nadhani hakuwa downers hehehe huyu nadhani alipekecha pekecha akaona hii galofriend yangu ikiingia kwenye muziki itakuwa kiburudisho cha maproducer akaona isiwe tabu acha nimwambie ana sauti la jeshi tu.

 

[klorokwini]

We Kloro unasupport kuambiwa ''wewe sio lawyer mzuri...huwezi shinda kesi hata ujitahidi vipi'' ili usijihusishe na kesi ambayo haionekani ni nzuri kwako kiusalama badala ya mtu kukueleza na kukuelewesha bila kukupunguzia kujiamini kwako???

Kuna idara hata soulmate wangu akuwe na kipaji basi nitamsawishi asishiriki na aking'ang;ania nitatumia pia triki ya kumdiscourage, na hii nitaiichukulia kama ni part of love rescue.

 

[Dr Lizzy]

Nakubaliana na wewe kwenye hao the so called "downers", lakini kwa kesi ya huyu jamaa nakubaliana na rejao nadhani hakuwa downers hehehe huyu nadhani alipekecha pekecha akaona hii galofriend yangu ikiingia kwenye muziki itakuwa kiburudisho cha maproducer akaona isiwe tabu acha nimwambie ana sauti la jeshi tu.

WIVU tu!!

Kuna idara hata soulmate wangu akuwe na kipaji basi nitamsawishi asishiriki na aking'ang;ania nitatumia pia triki ya kumdiscourage, na hii nitaiichukulia kama ni part of love rescue.

What if that person doesn't know how to deal with discouragement well???
Unaweza uamwachia mtu makovu ndani kwa ndani ujue.

 

[klorokwini]

WIVU tu!!

What if that person doesn't know how to deal with discouragement well???
Unaweza uamwachia mtu makovu ndani kwa ndani ujue.

Of coz nitamuencourage kwenye something else, na nitahakikisha anafurahia. Nilimdiscourage ili kulinda penzi bana sio kumuharibia maisha.
Confession: hapo ulipoandika "wivu tu" hehehe hakyanani umeniturn on, wee mtoto utaniuwa walahi (bek to topik)

 

[Geen]

Huyu dada Stacy jamani,tena am glad ameingia hadi top 12,inasikitisha how her bfriend emotional crippled her to blv she is bad singer.

Watu wa style hii wapo sana tu na mara nyingi kama wazazi hawakukujengea confidence tokea mdogo hapo tena inakuwa shughuli ukikutana na hawa watu wanaopenda ku ''put others down''
Kwa mtazamo wangu wapo wa style kadhaa
1.Anaweza fanya bila yeye kujua akidhani she/he ia protecting you or giving you right direction mfano wazazi
2.Kuna wale wanafanya kwa wivu,anajua ukifanikiwa na kutoka basi kama yeye alikuwa anajiona superior basi utamfunika na kuwa inferior e.g mashosti wa uongo ,bad patners na hata co workers
3.Kuna wale ambao ni emotional abusers ,tena hawa ndio wabaya kabisa,yeye atakwambia kila kitu huwezi,mbaya,hupendezi e.g husbands even parents

Binafsi nadhani msingi unaanzia kwa wazazi tujifunze kuwaambia wanatu they can be whatever they want and give they right direction.mzazi akishakwambia hivyo no one will ever take it away from you.

 

[The Boss]

mie hadi muda huu sijakutana na hao downers, nimekutana na lifters tu.

Au kwa kuwa siruhusu downer yoyote kunikaribia?!

unbelievable.........

 

[The Boss]

Heck..those so called 'downers' I call them haters. The best way to deal with them is to make them your motivators.

I've done it throughout and it has worked. They've always brought the best out of me.

I love it when people doubt me. I like it when people talk junk about my abilities.

I love haters because they inspire me to maximize my potential. I am a self-motivated guy but I love to have haters around.

Thus I say, make your haters your motivators.

To be successfull you need friends,to be VERY successfull you need enemies.....

 

[Gaijin]

unbelievable.........

Kwan' vipi Boss?

 

[The Boss]

Kwan' vipi Boss?

siamini hujawahi kukutana na mtu
aka 'doubt ' unachotaka kukifanya unlesss 'ulikuwa genius' shuleni
kila siku wa kwanza.....so wakajikuta automatically wanashindwa kukushauri 'kuwa carefull' na kadhalika..

 

[Gaijin]

siamini hujawahi kukutana na mtu
aka 'doubt ' unachotaka kukifanya unlesss 'ulikuwa genius' shuleni
kila siku wa kwanza.....so wakajikuta automatically wanashindwa kukushauri 'kuwa carefull' na kadhalika..

It can be that or as Lizzy said the downers might know I won't pay any heed to whatever they say so they don't bother

All in all there is no single incident I can remember where a person wanted/put me down

 

[Sizinga]

Kuna always kazi yao ni kukosoa tu, wanaku-underestimate ila wao waonekane dominant...be careful with those people. Ninao hapa mapacha majirani, mmoja anamkandamiza sana mdogo wake mpaka sasa dogo anatishia kujinyonga na anamlaumu sana maza-ake