Men are cruel to single women

[dontrice]

Ukweli ni kwamba Dunia imejaa usanii na baadhi ya maainisho uliyoyaweka hapo (Kama ni wewe mwenye taabu hiyo) usiegemee ktk cv yako na uchaji wako ktk ibada. Somebody can pretend he/she is good christian or Islamic but he/she devil inside. Mwanaume hapimwi kwa kunyimwa sex kujua he's real hata msanii MTU na malengo yake anaweza kukubalia but when u get married unagundua so Mume (hali kadhalika MKE) Jambo lingine wanaume (kwa maana ya real man a right man) ni wachache mno . my take to you Tazama MTU ambaye ni mwenye hofu ya Mungu kweli . responsible indoor and outdoor then uende naye haya mengine ni mbwe mbwe tu

 

[Atoto]

Hii unitag kimakosa au?

Kama kimakosa sawa, kama sio kimakosa.. mwanaume wa wapi uliwah ona anaolewa?

Kumbe mwanaume!!! Basi sory!!
Sasa maumivu ya kutokuolewa uliyajulia wapi?

 

[RRONDO]

Nahisi kuna wanaojibu seriously halafu kuna wanaojibu kimzaha...nimejikuta msomaji tu!

Ngoja na mimi niwe msomaji maanake im actively playing this game.

 

[dontrice]

Kabla sija reply, nilianza kwanza kuangalia your profile niangalie unapenda kutumia lugha gani. Anyway I thought haujui kiswahili. Kwasababu umetumia kiingereza, nitakujibu hivyo hivyo.

To start with, I am extremely sorry you feel that way. I can imagine what you are going through. Now to make this short as possible. Its not like, men are cruel to single women, maybe you are sending the wrong signals.

The way you described yourself, you sound like a beautiful woman. I don't know of any men who wouldn't be attracted to you. Seriously, I am literally attracted to you now, just by the style of your writing.

To give a short description about my relationship. When I asked her to date me, guess what she asked. "I want you to promise me, you will marry me." That was a huge thing to promise. But I did, because I saw what successful woman she would become. This is why I can imagine what you are feeling like right now.

With all those features you have, I can tell you this, with confidence "You are a total package". I am pretty sure someone who will see deep inside your 'left boob'(heart) will come sooner than you know it.

Thirty it is, your age? Well I tell you, age is just a number. And you are pretty much young. Don't rush it, great days are ahead of you. My advice; try and have a more open body language. Perhaps you look too serious and guys are scared away. Talk more, if you go to church, that's a great way to meet people. Join clubs(GYM, Yoga..etc). SMILE, I would approach a girl who looks happy any day.

Tl;DR you are a huge magnet. The objects around you are plastics, keep on the force, the perfect metal will be attracted soon. Have a nice day, will you.

-callmeGhost

Umesema vema . well said

 

[Danpol]

Kumbe mwanaume!!! Basi sory!!
Sasa maumivu ya kutokuolewa uliyajulia wapi?

Did i say nime experience? soma vizuri nilicho andika


Tunaish na wanawake, single moms na ambao hawana ndoa, tunawaona walivyo stressful...unadhan nashindwa tambua kwa kuwaona???

 

[Heaven Sent]

Blame game haiwezi kuisha ilianza tangu Edeni, na hii iko pande zote, ukimkuta mwanaume anaejua kulalamika utafurahi na nafsi yako.

Pata kiburudisho bana.

All the single ladies (All the single ladies)
All the single ladies (All the single ladies)
All the single ladies (All the single ladies)
All the single ladies
Now put your hands up.....

 

[Atoto]

Did i say nime experience? soma vizuri nilicho andika


Tunaish na wanawake, single moms na ambao hawana ndoa, tunawaona walivyo stressful...unadhan nashindwa tambua kwa kuwaona???

Kwahiyo you can feel their pain right? Maana umesema hakuna maumivu kama ya kutokuolewa.

Hebu tueleze na ambao wako kwenye ndoa and they are very stressed out.
Stress na maumivu yako kote, cha msingi ni kuchagua upande ambao unaona una unafuu kwako.

 

[Danpol]

Kwahiyo you can feel their pain right? Maana umesema hakuna maumivu kama ya kutokuolewa.

Hebu tueleze na ambao wako kwenye ndoa and they are very stressed out.
Stress na maumivu yako kote, cha msingi ni kuchagua upande ambao unaona una unafuu kwako.

I can not feel their pain... ila naona jinsi wananyo hangaika.. so stressful

Kuhusu walio kwenye ndoa, toka nazaliwa mpk umri huu, sijawah ona wazazi wangu wakiwa kwenye quarrel ya aina yeyote ile,

wapo wanaopata tabu na shida, lakini kwann ujitete kwa kujiticha nyuma ya hili kundi dogo? kwann ujitabirie kwamba endapo ukiwa kwenye ndoa bado unawaza angukia humu,

zunguka matatizo yote ila stress ya ndoa??? fanya kazi na boss mwenye stress ya ndoa (hajaolewa na dalili hazipo) utajuta kuwepo dunian..


mfano mtoa mada.. challenge kdg tu anawaka mpk anataman dumbukia kwenye simu yake aibukie Jamii forum

 

[EMT]

naona tatizo lako wewe binafsi ni culture

Tatizo ni kuwa most girls want the same man. Mfano, siku hizi, even an average looking girl fancies only the best looking and/or rich (Mr. Gray type) man. But those guys won't even look at her twice.

This has plummeted relationships in the marketplace to the disadvantage of girls. Remember women often value themselves based on their relationship status.

But competition is so high to the extent that men can now afford to be too picky, with other men concluding that a relationship is not worth the price any longer.

So, girls are wondering why guys aren't interested anymore. Few girls see such lack of interest from men as cruelty because culture and feminism have led them to believe in "self-entitlement".

Kwamba when they grow up, they will fall in love with a Prince and get married. But girls should not really expect sympathy from men. Rather than complaining, it is their responsibility to put themselves out their and suffer rejection.

So girls, women up. Feminism has empowered you all.

 

[Pakawa]

Pole sana
naona tatizo lako wewe binafsi ni culture

jaribu andika zaidi kiswahili

Very very few people here knows who is Jamie Oliver....

Jaribu kuwa more local...anza na kiswahili

Mkuu acha atumie lugha ya malkia watu huwa wanajibu matani dharua kwenye sensitive issue kama mfano mtu anatoa au anaomba ushauri matani yanakuwa mengi zaidi!

 

[Atoto]

I can not feel their pain... ila naona jinsi wananyo hangaika.. so stressful

Kuhusu walio kwenye ndoa, toka nazaliwa mpk umri huu, sijawah ona wazazi wangu wakiwa kwenye quarrel ya aina yeyote ile,

wapo wanaopata tabu na shida, lakini kwann ujitete kwa kujiticha nyuma ya hili kundi dogo? kwann ujitabirie kwamba endapo ukiwa kwenye ndoa bado unawaza angukia humu,

zunguka matatizo yote ila stress ya ndoa??? fanya kazi na boss mwenye stress ya ndoa (hajaolewa na dalili hazipo) utajuta kuwepo dunian..


mfano mtoa mada.. challenge kdg tu anawaka mpk anataman dumbukia kwenye simu yake aibukie Jamii forum

Una tatizo mahali sio bure, umeoa? If yes mahusiano yako kabla haujaoa yalikuwaje?

 

[Atoto]

I can not feel their pain... ila naona jinsi wananyo hangaika.. so stressful

Kuhusu walio kwenye ndoa, toka nazaliwa mpk umri huu, sijawah ona wazazi wangu wakiwa kwenye quarrel ya aina yeyote ile,

wapo wanaopata tabu na shida, lakini kwann ujitete kwa kujiticha nyuma ya hili kundi dogo? kwann ujitabirie kwamba endapo ukiwa kwenye ndoa bado unawaza angukia humu,

zunguka matatizo yote ila stress ya ndoa??? fanya kazi na boss mwenye stress ya ndoa (hajaolewa na dalili hazipo) utajuta kuwepo dunian..


mfano mtoa mada.. challenge kdg tu anawaka mpk anataman dumbukia kwenye simu yake aibukie Jamii forum

Kama you cant feel umejuaje hakuna maumivu kama hayo???
Kutokuwaona hawana ugomvi haimaanishi hawana stress, stress zipo kila mahali, uwe umeolewa/umeoa au laa. Ndugu sio wachache hata, soma hata mostly ya threads humu utagundua.

Na simaanishi kuwa ndoa zote ni stress, pia sio wote walio single wana stress, inategemea na unauchukulia vipi huko kuwa single kwako. Kitu ni kibaya kama mawazo yako yameamua kuyachukulia kwa ubaya.

 

[Atoto]

Pata kiburudisho bana.

All the single ladies (All the single ladies)
All the single ladies (All the single ladies)
All the single ladies (All the single ladies)
All the single ladies
Now put your hands up.....

Hahahaaaa!!! Dota kumbe upo humu.

 

[Heaven Sent]

Hahahaaaa!!! Dota kumbe upo humu.

Nipo nawafuatilia hatua kwa hatua

 

[Atoto]

Nipo nawafuatilia hatua kwa hatua

Khaaaah!!! Ukaamua kukaa kimya kabisa, hebu mwaga madini single lady mwenzangu

 

[EMT]

Swali langu la msingi: kwa nini mwanamke anaingia kwenye mahusiano ya mapenzi pasipo kuwa tayari na matokeo yake km kupata ujauzito?

Kwa sababu kwenye mahusiano wanawake wengi kama siyo wote hawatumii logic kama wanaume.

They do things according to their feelings/emotions.

 

[Atoto]

Tatizo ni kuwa most girls want the same man. Mfano, siku hizi, even an average looking girl fancies only the best looking and/or rich (Mr. Gray type) man. But those guys won't even look at her twice.

This has plummeted relationships in the marketplace to the disadvantage of girls. Remember women often value themselves based on their relationship status.

But competition is so high to the extent that men can now afford to be too picky, with other men concluding that a relationship is not worth the price any longer.

So, girls are wondering why guys aren't interested anymore. Few girls see such lack of interest from men as cruelty because culture and feminism have led them to believe in "self-entitlement".

Kwamba when they grow up, they will fall in love with a Prince and get married. But girls should not really expect sympathy from men. Rather than complaining, it is their responsibility to put themselves out their and suffer rejection.

So girls, women up. Feminism has empowered you all.

Every human being have a dream, let people dream ila kukikucha atagundua tu kuwa ilikuwa ndoto tu.

Mbona hao mnaowaita 'average women' wameolewa vizuri tu, tena wengine na walio vizuri kweli hadi watu wanabaki kujiuliza 'pale kaona nini'.

Cha msingi just know yo worth,jiheshimu na keep yo standards, the right one ll meet you up there.

 

[Rutorial k]

There I said it, its a cruel world for a single woman. I know that for a fact because I am one.

This post is not a "I am looking for a husband post", I already wrote such a post about a year ago, right here at Jamii Forum, with sad, disheartening results. Not one serious man responded, my inbox was full of jokers, pranksters and alas the married man...

This post is for fellow single women and for some men to have a glimpse of what it feels like to be single. To watch your friends and relatives get married and to have the rest of the world mock you for being single, as if it were your fault, as if you wouldn't change that in an instant if you could. (wouldn't you ladies)

So ladies (and gents), why are we single?
I really don't know. Could it be that the men around us are officially blind? Could it be that their minds are saturated with retouched instagram/facebook pics of women with perfect bodies, gorgeous skin, thin waist, perky breasts and butt. That for real they wouldn't spot a normal natural good looking woman even if an angel descended on earth and personally pointed towards the girl's direction?

Could it be that we girls love too deeply and we trust too much? Tell me what is wrong with loving someone? With believing him when he tells you he loves you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you. Is it our fault that all we get instead is a broken heart and a wet pillow from crying ourselves to sleep?

There must be something wrong with me, you wonder; I am a born again Christian woman who embraces her imperfections and acknowledges that through Christ everyday I become a better me.
Maybe I am too old? Age is nothing but a number so a woman can never be too old. Since you wondered I am thirty years old.
Maybe I am a single mother? I am not. I have never been married and I don't have children. (However even if I was, WHAT IS WRONG WITH BEING A SINGLE MOTHER? why can't you look past that and see the wonderful woman in-front of you?)
Maybe I am always asking a man for money? Nope - I have my own. With a university education and a good highly satisfying job that pays me around 2 million or so per month, I can pay my own bills thank you.
Maybe I can't cook you think? I can cook in a way that would put Jamie Oliver to shame
Maybe I don't clean or wash? Nope that isn't it, I'm clean as clean can be .
Maybe I am short, fat and ugly? I am not bad on the eyes I would like to think, thin body (with an athletic build thanks to aerobics, swimming and some weightlifting here n there to keep me toned), shoulder length hair, good skin and I am ever so comfortable being seen without makeup on my face.

So why am I single? I don't know. But what I do know is Tanzanian men should spot judging us from our marital status but from who we are as human beings. Look at my heart not my body, look at my mind not my ass, look at my education and job accomplishments and for heaven sake stop judging me from my age, or whether or not I have children.

If you dear reader want to be helpful, maybe you can give us single women some pointers on how and where we can meet available men.

As a concluding remark, if Prince Harry can fall in love with a black, divorced woman three years his senior, maybe just maybe there is hope for the rest of us.

"Sonnet"

Update

I am sorry if l offended anyone by posting in English. I didn't mean to make anybody feel left out. Sometimes I use Swahili, Sometimes I use English, Its not me being fake, its just me being myself. Sorry once again.

Samahani kwa kutumia kiswahali, sikutaka mtu yeyote ajihisi vibaya. Wakati mwingine natumia kiswahili na wakati mwingine natumia kiingereza. Sikua na nia mbaya. Nisamehe kwa hilo.

Girl, I think we should not stoop so low as to accept anybody who comes our way even if we have nothing in common with them.
Silently watch and observe him,
-How often does he go to church? (or other place of worship)
-How does he treat you?
-Is he rude, bad mannered and disrespectful to others around him (especially to women,) e.g the waitress serving you food or the askari at the entrance.
-Does he drink alcohol abit too much. (I actually prefer he doesn't drink alcohol at all)
-Don't sleep with him girl. No matter what he says. Even if he calls you "mke wangu" . Hata akikueleza "sema lini nije kujitambulisha" . "Taja mwenyewe tarehe". Once he realises the promise of marriage is not working as you refuse to sleep with him, he will surely disappear. Making way for the right man to come along.
-Before you fall deeply in love do ask him enough questions and carefully read into his answers? They will reveal who he really is.
-Trust your instinct, deep down you know if he is "The One" or the wrong one. Don't ignore that feeling. Not everyman is husband material.
There l said it.

sonnet sonnet sonnet! i have called u 3 times as the number of blessings...i had bread your artical b4 turning back to see the name of a gifted woman who is lamenting like lawino....as a matter of fact your name has skoked me if the meanig i have to it is really the case.

There I said it, its a cruel world for a single woman. I know that for a fact because I am one.

This post is not a "I am looking for a husband post", I already wrote such a post about a year ago, right here at Jamii Forum, with sad, disheartening results. Not one serious man responded, my inbox was full of jokers, pranksters and alas the married man...

This post is for fellow single women and for some men to have a glimpse of what it feels like to be single. To watch your friends and relatives get married and to have the rest of the world mock you for being single, as if it were your fault, as if you wouldn't change that in an instant if you could. (wouldn't you ladies)

So ladies (and gents), why are we single?
I really don't know. Could it be that the men around us are officially blind? Could it be that their minds are saturated with retouched instagram/facebook pics of women with perfect bodies, gorgeous skin, thin waist, perky breasts and butt. That for real they wouldn't spot a normal natural good looking woman even if an angel descended on earth and personally pointed towards the girl's direction?

Could it be that we girls love too deeply and we trust too much? Tell me what is wrong with loving someone? With believing him when he tells you he loves you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you. Is it our fault that all we get instead is a broken heart and a wet pillow from crying ourselves to sleep?

There must be something wrong with me, you wonder; I am a born again Christian woman who embraces her imperfections and acknowledges that through Christ everyday I become a better me.
Maybe I am too old? Age is nothing but a number so a woman can never be too old. Since you wondered I am thirty years old.
Maybe I am a single mother? I am not. I have never been married and I don't have children. (However even if I was, WHAT IS WRONG WITH BEING A SINGLE MOTHER? why can't you look past that and see the wonderful woman in-front of you?)
Maybe I am always asking a man for money? Nope - I have my own. With a university education and a good highly satisfying job that pays me around 2 million or so per month, I can pay my own bills thank you.
Maybe I can't cook you think? I can cook in a way that would put Jamie Oliver to shame
Maybe I don't clean or wash? Nope that isn't it, I'm clean as clean can be .
Maybe I am short, fat and ugly? I am not bad on the eyes I would like to think, thin body (with an athletic build thanks to aerobics, swimming and some weightlifting here n there to keep me toned), shoulder length hair, good skin and I am ever so comfortable being seen without makeup on my face.

So why am I single? I don't know. But what I do know is Tanzanian men should spot judging us from our marital status but from who we are as human beings. Look at my heart not my body, look at my mind not my ass, look at my education and job accomplishments and for heaven sake stop judging me from my age, or whether or not I have children.

If you dear reader want to be helpful, maybe you can give us single women some pointers on how and where we can meet available men.

As a concluding remark, if Prince Harry can fall in love with a black, divorced woman three years his senior, maybe just maybe there is hope for the rest of us.

"Sonnet"

Update

I am sorry if l offended anyone by posting in English. I didn't mean to make anybody feel left out. Sometimes I use Swahili, Sometimes I use English, Its not me being fake, its just me being myself. Sorry once again.

Samahani kwa kutumia kiswahali, sikutaka mtu yeyote ajihisi vibaya. Wakati mwingine natumia kiswahili na wakati mwingine natumia kiingereza. Sikua na nia mbaya. Nisamehe kwa hilo.

Girl, I think we should not stoop so low as to accept anybody who comes our way even if we have nothing in common with them.
Silently watch and observe him,
-How often does he go to church? (or other place of worship)
-How does he treat you?
-Is he rude, bad mannered and disrespectful to others around him (especially to women,) e.g the waitress serving you food or the askari at the entrance.
-Does he drink alcohol abit too much. (I actually prefer he doesn't drink alcohol at all)
-Don't sleep with him girl. No matter what he says. Even if he calls you "mke wangu" . Hata akikueleza "sema lini nije kujitambulisha" . "Taja mwenyewe tarehe". Once he realises the promise of marriage is not working as you refuse to sleep with him, he will surely disappear. Making way for the right man to come along.
-Before you fall deeply in love do ask him enough questions and carefully read into his answers? They will reveal who he really is.
-Trust your instinct, deep down you know if he is "The One" or the wrong one. Don't ignore that feeling. Not everyman is husband material.
There l said it.

sonnet!sonnet!sonnet! i have called u 3times as the number of blessings..remember God's trinity

i had read your article b4 turning back to see the gifted woman lamenting like lawino.as a matter of fact even your name has surprised me if the meaning i put to it is really the case(feelings of love)

what made me to reply the thread is the saying of our ancestors "when an adult is in the house the she-goat is not left to suffer the pains of parturition on its tether" surprisingly tanzania men we have left the she-goats .

actions speake louder is what can say...as am older than u for almost 5 yrs with no marriage experience but with a bright future for wise women....

in a nut shell, let me offer u the hand of friendship and leave it not return barely

 

[mozilla]

Mhhh mkuu vepee tena ishu za kumfollow mtu sijui wapy..

Nafikiri ana'maanisha ku'follow IG. Lol

 

[Benny]

Nimesoma sana hapa na mimi naomba nitie kucha kidogo kwenye huu upele

kinadada ambao wamefika 30's bila kuolewa kifupi wengi wao ni wazuri kuliko mamia walioolewa wakiwa 20's kwa hiyo kutokuolewa kwao tatizo sio kwamba wao sio wazuri.

Maringo was the Damn Fucking reason inayowacost Imagination kibao uongo hadithi za saloon na kuishi maisha ya movie kutaka wanaume Gents kama James St Patrick kumbe wale wapuuzi wanaigiza tu.

Mwanaume anakuja anataka kukuoa hutaki kumkubalia ukimngoja Denzel asiyekuja ukifika 33 unaanza kulia lia.

Sikieni wadada ukifika 26 acha kuchagua chagua sana pokea tu "his soul and mind" mtengeneze familia matterial zitakujaga tu mkiweza kuchanganya akili vizuri.

Wasichana waliowahi kuwakataa kina Wizkid wakati huo wakiwa mbaya Ojuelegba wanalia sasa hivi na wanaume tulivyo washenzi sasa (sio wote) tukishapata chapaa hua haturudi tena nyuma kutafuta msichana Mbagala wakati kuna kina Huddah Big Sweet Booty!