How Do i Stop Being Unfaithful To My Wife?

How Do i Stop Being Unfaithful To My Wife?

cabhatica said:
The solution lies within the problem. The answer is in every question.

This habit is the function of your subconscious mind. You form habit patterns in your subconscious mind by repeating a thought or act over and over until it establishes tracks in the subconscious mind and becomes second-nature.

Remember: As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he!

To solve your problem, you must form a new habit! To form a new habit, you must be convinced that it is desirable. When your desire to give up the bad habit is greater than your desire to continue, you are already fifty-one percent healed.

Whatever mental picture, backed by faith, you behold in your conscious mind, and repeat it often, will establish tracks in your subconscious mind and fade away the old tracks!

You have freedom to choose. You can choose a good habit or a bad habit. Prayer is a good habit.
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good word....,
thamks
 
watu8 si umeshaweka tayari...........,
naona ulikua na kazi ya kuzitafuta hizo sources
good work
 
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3years ago..2 children..explain it all, if you know what i mean
 
Tell the guy to stop looking at him being faithful as a gift to his woman
the way he resents it is like it is a favor he wants to do but he isn't sure
Being faaithful is a duty. it is his obligation as a party in a relationship.
So the transformation must not be in relation to his wife, it must be his.
HE should take a firm decision to respect HIS COMMITMENT, to respect his word.

Ni sawa na mfanya biashara alie zowea kuiba kwa mzani
anaamua eti hato muiba mteja wake fulani, as a favor
But not robbing ONE customer doesn't make him an honest guy
Being faithful should be his character, not for his wife but for himself.
 
Heaven on earth said:
factor hizo ni kama zipi
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most men watakuabliana na hili, kama mtu ni cheater kwa asili, basi hata akioa hawez kutulia na mkewe, akishamzoea mkewe hamu ya kum-kandamiza inapungua.
pili: Poor Performer at Home huwa wanakuwa na wanawake wengi nje...na cha ajabu huko ugenini mechi zao huwa za kukata kwa mundu kama sio shoka...wana-perform sana, na nafikiri hiki ndicho kinawafanya wapende kuwa na new mwanadada kila siku.
tatu;kupenda kubembelezwa...as kama yeye ameshakuwa mtu wa wanawake, amezoea kubembelezwa, ni mbinafsi na hajali wengine...huko nje hana obligation ya kumfikisha huyo mwanamke kunako climax, bt nyumbani if he's a real men, lazma amridhishe patna wake, so anakimbilia somewhere kupiga cha fasta fasta na kujiridhisha.
nne; wengineo wana restriction za style na mambo mengine ya kugegedana na wake zao, so he goes out just out of curiosity kupata kila kionjo...(mfano wengine ni wateja wa Kabaaang bt kwa mkewe haombi ila huko nje anapiga huo mtandao)
 
Kamanda Moshi said:
most men watakuabliana na hili, kama mtu ni cheater kwa asili, basi hata akioa hawez kutulia na mkewe, akishamzoea mkewe hamu ya kum-kandamiza inapungua.
pili: Poor Performer at Home huwa wanakuwa na wanawake wengi nje...na cha ajabu huko ugenini mechi zao huwa za kukata kwa mundu kama sio shoka...wana-perform sana, na nafikiri hiki ndicho kinawafanya wapende kuwa na new mwanadada kila siku.
tatu;kupenda kubembelezwa...as kama yeye ameshakuwa mtu wa wanawake, amezoea kubembelezwa, ni mbinafsi na hajali wengine...huko nje hana obligation ya kumfikisha huyo mwanamke kunako climax, bt nyumbani if he's a real men, lazma amridhishe patna wake, so anakimbilia somewhere kupiga cha fasta fasta na kujiridhisha.
nne; wengineo wana restriction za style na mambo mengine ya kugegedana na wake zao, so he goes out just out of curiosity kupata kila kionjo...(mfano wengine ni wateja wa Kabaaang bt kwa mkewe haombi ila huko nje anapiga huo mtandao)
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hapo kwenye ya 4 umenitisha....,
 
Heaven on earth said:
There is this person,a frend of mine who need your advice,here is his story

I am married to the most wonderful woman in the world. We dated for four years before I married her three years ago. We are blessed with two kids and hoping to have more in the future. My wife is simply the best. She's caring, honest, giving, very respectful and responsible and on top of all that she's drop dead gorgeous.

I couldn't have asked for a better woman. In fact my biggest prayer is when I return to this planet in another lifetime, I hope I marry the same woman. The only issue is that I am not faithful to her. I actually have never been faithful to any woman in my life but I feel this woman deserves that from me, I just don't know how to give her that.

I've been with several women since we got together 7 years ago but lately I've been feeling she deserves more from me. I want to be faithful to her but I just don't know how to. I promised myself that 2013 was going to be different and I stayed faithful until last month. I've been with two other women since then, but God knows I want to stop. How do I break away from this behaviour? How do I stop myself from wanting and sleeping with other women?
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Mtakatifu paulo alisema hivi kuhusu huu mwili wetu "yale tusiyotaka kuyafanya ndio tunayafanya, na yale ambayo tunataka kuyafanya, tunashindwa kuyafanya"

Ile 2013 resolution yake na kujitahidi, inaonesha wazi kuwa; tatizo ni FAR BIGGER than him maana kashindwa hata kufika nusu mwaka na hana sababu ya kibinadamu ya kushindwa.

Waweza usikubali lakini, ninaamini huyo mtu na pepo la ngono (spirit of lust) na kunuia kutofanya hakujaprove kuliondoa hilo tatizo; anahitaji deliverance ndipo atang'oa huo mzizi na kubaki na vitu ambavyo vinawezekana kwa nguvu ya kibinadamu.
 
Kamanda Moshi said:
i guess mkuu hujafahamu tu hili tatizo...nimeshakutana na friends like 3 wana-complain kitu hiki hiki.
nadhani kuna tatizo la kisaikolojia hapa linalowakabili watu hawa.. i dont know...
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iite addiction au vyovyote lakini ni pepo la ngono hilo; counseling na zaidi maombi ya kufunguliwa ndio permanent soln.
 
Kamanda Moshi said:
i guess mkuu hujafahamu tu hili tatizo...nimeshakutana na friends like 3 wana-complain kitu hiki hiki.
nadhani kuna tatizo la kisaikolojia hapa linalowakabili watu hawa.. i dont know...
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Naamini kuwa 'hakuna' mwanaume ambaye kwa moyo mweupeee anafurahia ku'cheat'...cheating inaudhi, inasumbua, inanyima raha, inakupa guilty conscious...hata ujifanye we mtaalamu vipi wa kucheat, still si kitu ambacho moyoni mwako unakifurahia. ndio maana watu wanatafuta sababu kama kujiconsole au kujustify kucheat..ooh sijui mpenzi wangu hajui mapenzi, ooh sijui nna shida (hela, kazi, tamaa ya material things), ooh sijui nimegombana na mpenzi wangu...zote hizo ni kujaribu kuondoa ile sense of guilty..but it doesnt work..unless ujiviashe uchizi usiokuwa nao!

But why do we cheat? Yaani hata mwanaume apate mwanamke mzuri, mwenye upendo, mpole, mtiifu, na anayajua/anayaweza mautundu ya mapenzi..bado kwa wengi sio sababu za kuzuia kucheat! Hata mawanamke apate mwanaume tajiri, anayejali, anayegharamia, anayehonga, na anamridhisha kwenye kitanda..bado tu kwa wengi sio sababu za kuacha kucheat! So why do we cheat!?

Kanye West alisema kwenye moja ya verse zake kuwa...'Love is cursed by monogamy'...nakubaliana naye!
 
Riwa said:
Naamini kuwa 'hakuna' mwanaume ambaye kwa moyo mweupeee anafurahia ku'cheat'...cheating inaudhi, inasumbua, inanyima raha, inakupa guilty conscious...hata ujifanye we mtaalamu vipi wa kucheat, still si kitu ambacho moyoni mwako unakifurahia. ndio maana watu wanatafuta sababu kama kujiconsole au kujustify kucheat..ooh sijui mpenzi wangu hajui mapenzi, ooh sijui nna shida (hela, kazi, tamaa ya material things), ooh sijui nimegombana na mpenzi wangu...zote hizo ni kujaribu kuondoa ile sense of guilty..but it doesnt work..unless ujiviashe uchizi usiokuwa nao!

But why do we cheat? Yaani hata mwanaume apate mwanamke mzuri, mwenye upendo, mpole, mtiifu, na anayajua/anayaweza mautundu ya mapenzi..bado kwa wengi sio sababu za kuzuia kucheat! Hata mawanamke apate mwanaume tajiri, anayejali, anayegharamia, anayehonga, na anamridhisha kwenye kitanda..bado tu kwa wengi sio sababu za kuacha kucheat! So why do we cheat!?

Kanye West alisema kwenye moja ya verse zake kuwa...'Love is cursed by monogamy'...nakubaliana naye!
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Nimelike mengine kasoro hiyo quote unayokubaliana nayo ya Kanye West. The reason we cheat haina tofauti sana na reasons za kutenda dhambi zingine zozote. Ni ushetwani tu!
 
Kaunga said:
Nimelike mengine kasoro hiyo quote unayokubaliana nayo ya Kanye West. The reason we cheat haina tofauti sana na reasons za kutenda dhambi zingine zozote. Ni ushetwani tu!
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Dada Kaunga ... sasa kwa nini monogamy ni ngumu kuliko polygamy? Kwa sababu wengi tunajivisha kanzu ya u'monogamist' hatuuwezi, tunaishia kupractice u'polygamist' kwa kujificha!
 
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Riwa said:
Dada Kaunga ... sasa kwa nini monogamy ni ngumu kuliko polygamy? Kwa sababu wengi tunajivisha kanzu ya u'monogamist' hatuuwezi, tunaishia kupractice u'polygamist' kwa kujificha!
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polygamy inaishia number ngapi?
utajiri unaishia kiasi gani?
Ubabe kipimo chake cha juu ni kipi?
Uongo je?

Tafakari, wakati naenda pata late lunch Dr.
 
You need to just decide and STOP. An action STOP and not otherwise will set you free...
 
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