Bad habits

[Dr Lizzy]

Which bad habits do you HAVE/HATE when it comes to relationships?

Mine:
1. Naweza kuonekana sijali sana kwa kumpa mtu uhuru wake na kutomfuatilia kama mtoto.
2. Ni ngumu kuomba zile samahani za 'kulazimishwa' kosa kafanya yeye samahani anaitaka kwangu.
3. Napenda usawa linapokuja swala la kutendeana mazuri/kuheshimiana n.k
Na hii ni bad habit kutegemeana na nyakati maana nimegundua kiasi flani cha watu hawakubaliani na hilo. . wao wanataka kuheshimiwa ilhali hawawaheshimu wenzao n.k
4. Mkorofi, kwa wale wanaopenda kuendesha wenzao.
5. Mbishi, kwa wale wasiopenda majadiliano.
6. Kiburi, kwa wale wanaopenda kuagiza wenzio kama vile wamewaajiri. Ask me nicely i'll be more than happy to do whatever it is you asking of me, order me around and you'll have to wait forever.
7. Sina UVUMILIVU kwa kiasi kile ambacho wengi wanataka/pendelea.
8. Ni muwazi sana. .
9. Nasimamia nnayoamini, hamna compromise hapo.
10. Mvivu. . . Siku moja moja najisikia kuvivuka tu, hata kula kunageuka kazi.

Nnazochukia:
1. Nachukia mwanaume kuwa insecure.It creates a lot of unnecessary tension.
2. Nachukia mtu anapokumbatia simu yake japo hata akiiacha sitohangaika nayo.
3. Nachukia mtu kudanganya HASWA vitu ambavyo vinaonekana kabisa sio vyalazima.
4. Nachukia mtu kutokua na shukrani na kuchukulia kwamba kwa kuwa na mwenzi wake anamfanyia favor.
5. Nachukia mtu kuchukua mambo ya ndani (mahusiano yao ) na kuyapeleka nje. .iwe mabaya ya sebuleni au mazuri ya chumbani.
6. Nachukia mtu kutomwamini mwenzake bila sababu yoyote ile.
7. Nachukia mtu anapotaka maelezo ya kitu fulani alafu anayakataa akipewa, kwasababu sicho alichotaka kusikia.
8. Nachukia mtu kumtumia mwenzake kifedha/kimwili/kihisia huku akimuaminisha kwamba anampenda.
9. Nachukia mtu kumwambia mwenzake "NAKUPENDA" wakati hamaanishi.
10. Nachukia mtu kumtisha mwenzake na "TUACHANE" kila siku.
11. Nachukia mtu kumnyanyasa mwenzake kwakua tu anajua anampenda.
12. Nachukia mtu kuwa mbinafsi kupitiliza kuhusu mahitaji yake bila kujali mahitaji ya mwenzake. Mf sex. . . mmoja anataka tu na akikosa analalamika bila kujali kwamba mwenzake anaweza akawa hayuko vizuri, au mmoja anakataa bila sababu ya msingi bila kujali kwamba mwenzake anahitaji.
13. Nachukia mtu kuwa mlalamishi kwa kila kitu, kila wakati.
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[KIM KARDASH]

mambo da lizzy...nakuona hapo kwenye namba 12 mwenyewe!umetuliaaaaa...

 

[Dr Lizzy]

mambo da lizzy...nakuona hapo kwenye namba 12 mwenyewe!umetuliaaaaa...

Poa mwaya. . .
12 inahusu sana ehh?

 

[KIM KARDASH]

Poa mwaya. . .
12 inahusu sana ehh?

kwani nani alikuandikia leo shosti?inahusu ile mbaya yani hapo ndio mpango mzima kwangu

 

[AshaDii]

• Mtu kujiona PERFECT na kuona hana Mapungufu kabisa ila mwenzie ndio Mwenye mapungufu.
• Kutomsoma mwenzio... Kushindwa elewa kua nipo wakati gani happy/sad/frustrated..
• Kuchukuliwa kama mtoto ama kua handled kama yai... kama vile nipo fragile....
• Lack of Uwazi.... ana loads of things he wishes to express but just Can't! Labda tu kwa kuhofia kukuumiza.
• Hayupo responsible... Not being a Man i could say...

 

[Cyclone]

Nimeipenda sana hii

Which bad habits do you HAVE/HATE when it comes to relationships?
7. Nachukia mtu anapotaka maelezo ya kitu fulani alafu anayakataa akipewa, kwasababu sicho alichotaka kusikia.

Maana yake ni kwmba huyu mtu anakijua vizuri kabisa anacho kuuliza, ila tu anataka kukusikia wewe ukineana au tamka kwa kinywa chako. sasa ukimdanganya lazima akatae, hatakama ungekuwa ni wewe

 

[Dr Lizzy]

kwani nani alikuandikia leo shosti?inahusu ile mbaya yani hapo ndio mpango mzima kwangu

Nani aliniandikia nini bibie?

Basi uifanyie kazi. . usiwe mchoyo sana wala usilazimishe sana.

 

[Dr Lizzy]

• Mtu kujiona PERFECT na kuona hana Mapungufu kabisa ila mwenzie ndio Mwenye mapungufu.
• Kutomsoma mwenzio... Kushindwa elewa kua nipo wakati gani happy/sad/frustrated..
• Kuchukuliwa kama mtoto ama kua handled kama yai... kama vile nipo fragile....
• Lack of Uwazi.... ana loads of things he wishes to express but just Can't! Labda tu kwa kuhofia kukuumiza.
• Hayupo responsible... Not being a Man i could say...

Seen!!

Na ulizo nazo wewe?

 

[Dr Lizzy]

Nimeipenda sana hii

Maana yake ni kwmba huyu mtu anakijua vizuri kabisa anacho kuuliza, ila tu anataka kukusikia wewe ukineana au tamka kwa kinywa chako. sasa ukimdanganya lazima akatae, hatakama ungekuwa ni wewe

Inaweza ikawa hivyo kweli au akawa analazimisha asikie anachotaka hata kama sio kweli. Hawa wa pili ndio nisiopenda, wa kwanza ana kila haki.

 

[King’asti]

My bad habit:
Napenda ku-agree to disagree bila ugomvi, kitu ambacho kinaweza kuonekana kama ni ujeuri. Kama unafanya kitu kinachonikera na nimekuambia a few times na hakuna dalili ya badiliko, naweza kuamua kukipotezea na nisipolalamika naonekana kama nimedharau

Napenda to take all the time in the world to make big decisions, mean while just acting normal and not talking about it. Kiasi kwamba nikija kusema nadhani we call it quits mwenzangu is taken by surprise manake alishasahau hata kama alikula ndizi maganda nikatupa mie(refer MwJ1, didn't u see this coming?!)

Hapo kwenye usawa hapooo! If it is ok when you do it, then it should be ok for me to do it manake wote tuna nyoyo zinadundadunda. Unaweza kusema napenda ligi kwa baadhi ya mambo

Hivyo ulivyotaja mostly nakubaliana navyo, sijui unaniambukiza? I should stay away from you, lol!

 

[KIM KARDASH]

Nani aliniandikia nini bibie?

Basi uifanyie kazi. . usiwe mchoyo sana wala usilazimishe sana.

sawa.!

vipi zile tarakimu ulifanikiwa kuzichora au?

 

[Dr.kapama]

Jinsi nijuavyo mie,uhusiano wowote unahitaji mawasiliano baina ya washiriki,ili uweze kuimarika.
Tatizo baadhi yetu tunafikiri kwamba wenzetu ni "mind reader" na kwamba wana uwezo wa kutambua kila tunalohitaji...
Hizo ni fikra zisizo sahihi na hazina manufaa katika mahusiano.
Tukumbuke bila mawasiliano hakuna maelelwano na bila maelewano hakuna uwazi,na pasipo uwazi,hakuna uhusiano....

 

[Dr Lizzy]

My bad habit:
Napenda ku-agree to disagree bila ugomvi, kitu ambacho kinaweza kuonekana kama ni ujeuri. Kama unafanya kitu kinachonikera na nimekuambia a few times na hakuna dalili ya badiliko, naweza kuamua kukipotezea na nisipolalamika naonekana kama nimedharau

Napenda to take all the time in the world to make big decisions, mean while just acting normal and not talking about it. Kiasi kwamba nikija kusema nadhani we call it quits mwenzangu is taken by surprise manake alishasahau hata kama alikula ndizi maganda nikatupa mie(refer MwJ1, didn't u see this coming?!)

Hapo kwenye usawa hapooo! If it is ok when you do it, then it should be ok for me to do it manake wote tuna nyoyo zinadundadunda. Unaweza kusema napenda ligi kwa baadhi ya mambo

Hivyo ulivyotaja mostly nakubaliana navyo, sijui unaniambukiza? I should stay away from you, lol!

Kimbia wifi kimbia. . . I'm trouble.lolz

Hiyo ya UJEURI na DHARAU navyo vinanihusu sana. Ahhh. . kuishi na mtu mzima kwazi kweli!!

 

[Dr Lizzy]

sawa.!

vipi zile tarakimu ulifanikiwa kuzichora au?

Yale maurembo?
Jumamosi ntayafanyia kazi. . .ngoja nianze kuuliza rangi gani mwenyewe atapenda.

 

[Dr Lizzy]

Jinsi nijuavyo mie,uhusiano wowote unahitaji mawasiliano baina ya washiriki,ili uweze kuimarika.
Tatizo baadhi yetu tunafikiri kwamba wenzetu ni "mind reader" na kwamba wana uwezo wa kutambua kila tunalohitaji...
Hizo ni fikra zisizo sahihi na hazina manufaa katika mahusiano.
Tukumbuke bila mawasiliano hakuna maelelwano na bila maelewano hakuna uwazi,na pasipo uwazi,hakuna uhusiano....

Mawasiliano na UELEWA ni muhimu sana kwakweli.

 

[King’asti]

Dr, kuna wengine ndo basi unajitahidi na mawasiliano, ila mtaongea the same thing over and over again?! Manake kila siku hilo hilo, na at least angekuwa wazi mkajaribu ku-negotiate ama accomodating each other's interests, walaa! Anakubali haraka yaishe halafu kabla hujanyanyua mguu keshafanya exactly that!

Jinsi nijuavyo mie,uhusiano wowote unahitaji mawasiliano baina ya washiriki,ili uweze kuimarika.
Tatizo baadhi yetu tunafikiri kwamba wenzetu ni "mind reader" na kwamba wana uwezo wa kutambua kila tunalohitaji...
Hizo ni fikra zisizo sahihi na hazina manufaa katika mahusiano.
Tukumbuke bila mawasiliano hakuna maelelwano na bila maelewano hakuna uwazi,na pasipo uwazi,hakuna uhusiano....

Lizzy nimesahau moja; I hate a man who swears! Aisee, najiskia hadi aibu kujulikana kama tunahusiana!

 

[KIM KARDASH]

Yale maurembo?
Jumamosi ntayafanyia kazi. . .ngoja nianze kuuliza rangi gani mwenyewe atapenda.

Ni urembo dada sio maurembo..!kabla ya kufika kwenye urembo uliishia kukipaka mafuta ya nazi,zoezi lililofuata ni kuzichora tarakimu 1 mpaka 10 kwa kiuno,ila nikakuasa kwamba 0 huwa inasumbua kidogo kuichora lakini jitahidi,ndo nikataka kujua ukifanikiwa kumaliza zote kumi?

 

[Dr Lizzy]

Dr, kuna wengine ndo basi unajitahidi na mawasiliano, ila mtaongea the same thing over and over again?! Manake kila siku hilo hilo, na at least angekuwa wazi mkajaribu ku-negotiate ama accomodating each other's interests, walaa! Anakubali haraka yaishe halafu kabla hujanyanyua mguu keshafanya exactly that!



Lizzy nimesahau moja; I hate a man who swears! Aisee, najiskia hadi aibu kujulikana kama tunahusiana!

Hapo mwanzo maelewano ndio ishu.

Hahaha. . . kama anatukana tukana tu hovyo bila kujali watu/wakati lazima uinamishe kichwa kwakweli. Au unamsugua mdomo na sabuni. . . lolz

 

[King’asti]

Nyingine hii: I refuse to stay kama parcel kwenye maisha ya mtu. Unahitaji a very good reason not to accommodate my dreams kwenye maisha yetu ya pamoja. Just like you, I have had dreams since before I was able to walk, dreams that made me smile and my parents wondered! Hapo kwenye ku-agree ku-disagaree ndo umuhimu unaingia, kuwa hata kama unaamini its not worth it, ukashindwa kunishawishi, let me go for it na nikikwama we will share the experience. You are also free to do the same, and when you fall, my shoulder is here. If you succeed, tuko pamoja.
Beijing hii, ngoja moskwito atoke kubeba box, jasho lote atatuachia hapa,kha!

 

[Dr Lizzy]

Ni urembo dada sio maurembo..!kabla ya kufika kwenye urembo uliishia kukipaka mafuta ya nazi,zoezi lililofuata ni kuzichora tarakimu 1 mpaka 10 kwa kiuno,ila nikakuasa kwamba 0 huwa inasumbua kidogo kuichora lakini jitahidi,ndo nikataka kujua ukifanikiwa kumaliza zote kumi?

Usinichoke mwenzio ndo kwanza umeanza kunifundisha. Basi UREMBO ntatafuta jumamosi, mafuta napaka kama dozi angalau mara mbili kwa siku.

Tarakimu nimeshachora mpaka nne. . . sasa uniambie ujuzi huo unatumika wapi na vipi!!