Mwali
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- Nov 9, 2011
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Nimesoma sana posts za MMU na nimegundua kitu: wanaume wengi wanaamini kuna wife material na girlfriend material. Wife material ni mpole, mtiifu, ana background nzuri, ni msomi kiasi, future oriented etc. Girlfriend material ana sura na umbo nzuri, ni mcheshi, anapenda kwenda out, ni mtundu kiasi.
Kweli kila mtu ana definition yake ila kwa ujumla kuna tofauti kati ya wife material na girlfriend material.
Pia nimeona wanawake wanaamini kuna wanaume wasio faa kwa long term relation ila bado wanafaa kua wapenzi. Wana penda maisha, wanatoa mazawadi mbali mbali, wanapiga sim na kutuma sms kila saa, wanakutambulisha kwa marafiki etc, alafu kuna wanaume wa long term relation: wanakusupport katika mipango yako ya maisha, wanajitambulisha kwa familia yako na wanakutambulisha katika familia zao, hawachelewi kuzungumzia swala la ndoa etc. Kwa wanawake distinction haipo clear sana lakini.
Toafuti hii kati ya boyfriends-girlfriends na husband-wives material naona inaweza kua sababu ya wanaume wengine kuoa wife material ila baadae wanaendelea kua na nyumba ndogo sababu wake zao sio girlfriend material toka mwanzo, na wenyewe bado wanataka kujipa raha huko nje. Wanawake nao wanaolewa kwa tama ya ndoa ila wakisha kua ndani wanagundua kua wanaume hawana ile romance ya boyfriends sababu wanachukua life too seriously, na hii inasababisha yale mapenzi ya moto moto kuisha mapema katika ndoa.
Swali langu kubwa linakuja hapa: kwa mtindo huu nikijaribu kua the perferct girlfriend nitajitoa kwenye orodha ya wife material. Na the perfect perfect beer buddy hawezi kua perfect husband the at the same time. Hivi hakuna haja ya kubadili hizo criteria za wife material na perfect husband kwa kweli? How can we be perfect spouses if we are not perfect lovers before marriage? Kwa nini marriage isiwe continuity ya mahusiano ya girlfriend-boyfriend?
If I am just perfect as myself, would you marry me?
Kweli kila mtu ana definition yake ila kwa ujumla kuna tofauti kati ya wife material na girlfriend material.
Pia nimeona wanawake wanaamini kuna wanaume wasio faa kwa long term relation ila bado wanafaa kua wapenzi. Wana penda maisha, wanatoa mazawadi mbali mbali, wanapiga sim na kutuma sms kila saa, wanakutambulisha kwa marafiki etc, alafu kuna wanaume wa long term relation: wanakusupport katika mipango yako ya maisha, wanajitambulisha kwa familia yako na wanakutambulisha katika familia zao, hawachelewi kuzungumzia swala la ndoa etc. Kwa wanawake distinction haipo clear sana lakini.
Toafuti hii kati ya boyfriends-girlfriends na husband-wives material naona inaweza kua sababu ya wanaume wengine kuoa wife material ila baadae wanaendelea kua na nyumba ndogo sababu wake zao sio girlfriend material toka mwanzo, na wenyewe bado wanataka kujipa raha huko nje. Wanawake nao wanaolewa kwa tama ya ndoa ila wakisha kua ndani wanagundua kua wanaume hawana ile romance ya boyfriends sababu wanachukua life too seriously, na hii inasababisha yale mapenzi ya moto moto kuisha mapema katika ndoa.
Swali langu kubwa linakuja hapa: kwa mtindo huu nikijaribu kua the perferct girlfriend nitajitoa kwenye orodha ya wife material. Na the perfect perfect beer buddy hawezi kua perfect husband the at the same time. Hivi hakuna haja ya kubadili hizo criteria za wife material na perfect husband kwa kweli? How can we be perfect spouses if we are not perfect lovers before marriage? Kwa nini marriage isiwe continuity ya mahusiano ya girlfriend-boyfriend?
If I am just perfect as myself, would you marry me?