Stress za kuolewa/kuoa sio kwa wadada tu!

[Espy_]

Njoo tulale, mzungu wa nne.[emoji125] [emoji125]

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Sijaribiwi ujue, we shauri yako!!!

 

[EMT]

"Double coincidence of wants" kind of a thing

Umenikubusha enzi za sekondari. Pesa imesaidia kutatua tatizo kubwa kwenye barter system. I guess wakati huo, wafanya biashara walikuwa na stress kubwa sana to find the right exchange. But with money now one can easily shift demand through time.

But when it comes to human beings, it is said that their relationships don't work that way. Odds za kumpata mtu ambaye anakidhi so many "double coincidences of wants" are very small. Pamoja na dunia kujaa binadamu wa kila aina lakini bado watu wengi wana stress za kumpata mtu mwenye vigezo vya kuoa/olewa.

Wengi wetu tumefundishwa mythology ya kimapenzi that we will passively meet our soulmate and fall in love for the rest of our lives. Hata hivyo, baadhi ya watu watakuambia kuwa love can't be found. Wengine wataenda to the extent of arguing that finding love is a bad strategy after all. Wanaamini kuwa although love can't be found, it can be made. This is because love is not an exchange but an ongoing shared project.

Juzi nilihudhuria anniversary ya couple moja kwa kutimiza miaka 25 tokea waoane. Kwa mshangao wa wengi, wote wawili walisema kuwa there is no way they are going to sit down and say finally we have found love. They said even after 25 years of being together, their love is still a work-in progress.

Hii inafundisha kwamba hata kwa wale ambao wameoana, there are some wants that do not enjoy a double coincidence. A solution to non-coincident wants could simply be cutting each other some slack. But few are willing to compromise on that. Akaaa!!! Just like in the fast food industry, people want "take away" husbands/wives. Matokeo yake ni mtu kuwa na stress zinazotokana na pressure inayotokana na inflexibility in terms of choice. Having more choice can make you feel even more stressful.

In The Paradox of Choice, Barry Schwartz (2004) shows how the dramatic explosion in choice-from the mundane to the profound challenges of balancing career, family, and individual needs-has led us to seek that which makes us feel worse. Synthesizing current research, Schwartz makes the counterintuitive case that reducing choices can greatly reduce stress, anxiety, and the frenzy of daily life, and offers eleven practical steps to help you limit choices to a manageable number, focus on the important ones, and ultimately derive greater satisfaction from the choices you have to make. Do you agree with the author?

 

[Ulweso]

Na hii inafundisha kuwa ktk vigezo unavyoweka kwa mwenzi ni vizuri kuangalia vya kwako kwanza pia.

Ndivyo ilivyo weka vigezo ikiwa wewe hivyo unavyo sasa mtu ananyambula wakati yeye mwenyewe akisogelea mtoto ni kilio halafu yeye anataka mrembo mmmmmm

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[Ulweso]

Nope. Yaani ukilala msaa matano usingizi unakata. Afu unakuta huna wa kupiga nae story[emoji31] [emoji31]

Unachukua kitabu cha dini au tenzi za rohoni unaanza kuimba usingizi utakuja tu wangu

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[Ulweso]

Kwanin uogope kuongozana na mwenza wako

Si ndiyo ile chagua chagua mwisho una angukia sio!

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[Nalendwa]

Ndivyo ilivyo weka vigezo ikiwa wewe hivyo unavyo sasa mtu ananyambula wakati yeye mwenyewe akisogelea mtoto ni kilio halafu yeye anataka mrembo mmmmmm

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Haha!, eti akisogelea mtoto kilio.

Lakini kuna wengine wanajua hata kama reception haikaribishi vizuri kama wana deep pockets mwenzi atajibu tu..

 

[Ulweso]

Haha!, eti akisogelea mtoto kilio.

Lakini kuna wengine wanajua hata kama reception haikaribishi vizuri kama wana deep pockets mwenzi atajibu tu..

Ndiyo wapo wakuta pockets lakini wapo ambao wana angalia vyote vyote mie nilishuhudia dada eti anaongea kabisa hawezi ongozana na mmewe kisa mbaya alifuata pesa na wanazaa naye embu ona mateso ya nini kama ulibeba gunia la crepa nenda nalo hivyo hivyo [emoji23] [emoji125] [emoji23] [emoji23] [emoji23]

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[ladypeace]

Usifanye jambo kwakuwa watu wanafanya. Fanya kwakuwa ni sahihi kwako kufanya. Hao walio kwenye ndoa wako kwenye ndoa zao sio yako. Ndoa yako unaitengeneza wewe ukimtanguliza Mungu(if you believe).

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[Kapyungu A]

Unachukua kitabu cha dini au tenzi za rohoni unaanza kuimba usingizi utakuja tu wangu

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Ha ha mkuu huwezi soma mpaka asubihi. Kila kitu na wakati wake

 

[Mr Miller]

Unachukua kitabu cha dini au tenzi za rohoni unaanza kuimba usingizi utakuja tu wangu

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Kama ni biblia asome mithali yote.....atapata maonyo na mafundsho mazuri

 

[Nalendwa]

Ndiyo wapo wakuta pockets lakini wapo ambao wana angalia vyote vyote mie nilishuhudia dada eti anaongea kabisa hawezi ongozana na mmewe kisa mbaya alifuata pesa na wanazaa naye embu ona mateso ya nini kama ulibeba gunia la crepa nenda nalo hivyo hivyo [emoji23] [emoji125] [emoji23] [emoji23] [emoji23]

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Gunia la Crepa! [emoji1]

Hivi wanaofanya hivi unajua huwa nashangaa sana wanaweza vipi kuishi na mtu wasiyempenda kwa sababu kama hii. Sasa kama huyu dada hata raha ya pesa anaipata kweli wakati hataki hata kuonekana na huyo mwenye pesa?
Ukiachana na kuonekana nae, shughuli nyingine sijui zinaenda vipi kama hana hata hisia na mtu.

 

[Traviana Tray]

Owaneni,NDOA NDOANO.