Ladies...... Is life all about marriage?????????????????????

[Double K]

Napenda nijuzwe hivi ladies maisha ni ndoa tu?????????????????? Umezaliwa kuolewa??????????????

Ladies hamna goals za kufikia ila ni ndoa tu??????????????? Hivi mnajua kuwa watu wana-manipulate hii dhana kichwani mwenu kwamba mmezaliwa just ku satisfy men, which nasema it zn't tru kabisa!!!!!!!
Naamini ni mpango mzima wa Mungu kila mtu apate mwenza wa maisha ila patience is just required thats all....
usifanye trial and error kisa u just want to get a man to marry you....

Ukijitunza eventually utapata a man sent by God and you will have a strong Home!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

EVERYTHING WILL FALL INTO PLACE JUST BY PATIENCE!!!!!!!!!!




Live a life of a purpose!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

mi ndio maana najitunza na kufanya mambo mengine ya maendeleo just waiting for you.

 

[ACADEMIA TODAY]

nilisema nafikiria divorce, siwezi kuitamani divorce!

ingekua divorce ni rahisi, basi ningekua nimeshadivorce siku nyingi.

divorce kitu kingine wewe, na pia sitaki kua single kwahiyo hata ningedivorce baada ya muda ningekua kwenye ndoa tu na mtu mwingine maybe.

kwahiyo msijipe moyo eti ndoa kitu gani? thubutuuuuuu unadhani mumngu alivyompa Adam mwenzake wa kuishi nae alikua hajui anachofanya eh!

I SALUTE YOU AYANDA

Umesema vyema, jamii yetu imetulea hivyo, ndoa ni heshima kubwa.
Mungu pia alikuwa na malengo yake, tuishi pamoja tusaidiane.

 

[Gaijin]

ah bwanae, hivi watu wanasema eti oh ndoa za siku hizi hazudumu! UONGO MTUPU

Hebu hesabu ndoa ngapi ulizoattend tangu uzaliwe na ngapi zimevunjika, utakuta ni moja tu kati ya 20.

in that sense, ndoa zinadumu sana na zinazoharibika ni chache tena sana, ila waseme tu kwamba ndoa za siku hizi ni full majanga lakini kudumu zinadumu na wanandoa wanadunda hivyohivyo tu.

wanaume vitombi ndo wanaongoza kwa kungangania pete zao vidoleni(status), hata kama nyumbani hapakaliki.

walio kwenye ndoa ni status nyingine yenye heshima yake kwa jamii( haina haja ya kubishana hili) na walio single ni status nyingine ambayo haina heshima kivile kwenye jamii.

Huu ni mtizamo wa jamii niliyokulia mimi na wewe kwa hiyo haina haja ya debate.

kama huo mtizamo wa jamii ni wa kisengery basi sio kosa langu wala lako, ila habari ndo hiyo

Awali ya yote, jamii niliyokulia mimi huijui kwa hiyo hujui ina mtazamo gani kwenye suala hilo

Kati ya vijana wa umri kati ya 25 na 35 ninaowajua, hata robo wanafika waliowachana.

Na kuna wengine hawakufika hata kutiana ngumi au kufanya ufuska na wameachana.

Kwa hiyo suala la kuona ndoa ni status kwa hiyo ukang'ang'ana nayo itakuwa labda kwa jamii yako zaidi. Ya kwangu mie happiness ndio suala la msingi zaidi.

Na kukaa kwenye ndoa yenye majanga inakupatia status ya kuwa mpumbavu tu hakuna zaidi

 

[tofali]

swali moja tu "are married??"

She sounds like not....and she needs to.. but not lucky and stressed...

 

[gfsonwin]

Mbona unajikanganya? Mwanzo umesema Ndoa sio goal, baadaye unasema ni mpango wa Mungu.
I think your point imelala kwenye KUTULIA, lakini what if kuwa na wanaume wengi is one's hobby hata kama hatafuti ndoa?

Karibu MMU na JF! where we dare to question everything including assumptions na people's opinions!

the worse thing ni kwamba her HW reads like yuko frustrated.
kwangu mimi nimemperseve kama vile ana ndugu ambaye maisha yake yamekuwa stagnant kisa tu hajaolewa sasa she wants to tell her lkn anaogopa.
BTW nimependa ukaribisho wako manake umejaa salam kabambe.

 

[Kaunga]

She sounds like not....and she needs to.. but not lucky and stressed...

Nakubaliana na observation na interpretation yako; ni kama anajishauri (anajitahidi kujiconvice zaidi) mwenyewe zaidi kwa kuwashauri wengine!

 

[ayanda]

Awali ya yote, jamii niliyokulia mimi huijui kwa hiyo hujui ina mtazamo gani kwenye suala hilo

Kati ya vijana wa umri kati ya 25 na 35 ninaowajua, hata robo wanafika waliowachana.

Na kuna wengine hawakufika hata kutiana ngumi au kufanya ufuska na wameachana.

Kwa hiyo suala la kuona ndoa ni status kwa hiyo ukang'ang'ana nayo itakuwa labda kwa jamii yako zaidi. Ya kwangu mie happiness ndio suala la msingi zaidi.

Na kukaa kwenye ndoa yenye majanga inakupatia status ya kuwa mpumbavu tu hakuna zaidi

ishu za HAPPINESS NI ZA WAZUNGU HUKO MAJUU

Kwahiyo kama mwenzangu umekulia kwa wazungu then ndo maana!

ila kama umekulia hapa africa kwetu basi unajipa faraja tu ila ukweli unaujua.

 

[Kaunga]

the worse thing ni kwamba her HW reads like yuko frustrated.
kwangu mimi nimemperseve kama vile ana ndugu ambaye maisha yake yamekuwa stagnant kisa tu hajaolewa sasa she wants to tell her lkn anaogopa.
BTW nimependa ukaribisho wako manake umejaa salam kabambe.

You are right, mimi nafikiri ni yeye mwenyewe yuko desperate na anachofanya ni kujishawishi na kujipa moyo baada ya kuharibu, sasa ameamua atulie huenda akapata mume.
Si unajua zetu, unasagia kitu unachokitamani ili kupata nafuu kidogo moyoni.

Bidada cataliya, mimi in my late 30s sijaolewa and l am okay with that; na wala sioni waliolewa ni watumwa wala nini. Nafurahia na kuipokea siku jinsi inavyokuja; so relax. Wanawake wa leo wote wana malengo hata kama kuolewa ndio lengo, sio mbaya!

 

[Gaijin]

Nakubaliana na observation na interpretation yako; ni kama anajishauri (anajitahidi kujiconvice zaidi) mwenyewe zaidi kwa kuwashauri wengine!

Sawa na ayanda anaejifariji kwa kusema anapata status licha ya kuwa yupo kwenye ndoa ya majanga

 

[Kaunga]

ishu za HAPPINESS NI ZA WAZUNGU HUKO MAJUU

Kwahiyo kama mwenzangu umekulia kwa wazungu then ndo maana!

ila kama umekulia hapa africa kwetu basi unajipa faraja tu ila ukweli unaujua.

Bwana FURAHA ni ya kila mtu, hata anayeolewa anatazamia furaha sema sio kitu ambacho kinakuwa guaranteed sana hasa pale furaha yako inapotegemea mtu mwingine zaidi.

 

[Heaven on Earth]

nilisema nafikiria divorce, siwezi kuitamani divorce!

ingekua divorce ni rahisi, basi ningekua nimeshadivorce siku nyingi.

divorce kitu kingine wewe, na pia sitaki kua single kwahiyo hata ningedivorce baada ya muda ningekua kwenye ndoa tu na mtu mwingine maybe.

kwahiyo msijipe moyo eti ndoa kitu gani? thubutuuuuuu unadhani mumngu alivyompa Adam mwenzake wa kuishi nae alikua hajui anachofanya eh!

kwanini uifikirie divorce kama ndoa yako ni tamu!!!!!!!

so all over the way for you marriage is all about status!

 

[ayanda]

Bwana FURAHA ni ya kila mtu, hata anayeolewa anatazamia furaha sema sio kitu ambacho kinakuwa guaranteed sana hasa pale furaha yako inapotegemea mtu mwingine zaidi.

ah mnachosema ni ukweli sijui eti happiness sijui nini!

ila kwa hapa africa kwetu, mwanamke/mwanaume bila ndoa hana heshima. ITS PAINFULL LAKINI NDO HIVYO JAMANI,

HIVI MNAKATAA ILI IWEJE, mbona wenzenu wameshalikubali hilo na ndio maana watu wanashikilia ndoa zangu ili kutopoteza ile social status ambayo pia inaleta furaha kidogo ama confidence hata kama ndoa yenyewe ni majanga!

ah hapa naona hii ni debate ya kisengery tu, watu mnabisha tu wakati mnakubali ni ukweli.

 

[ayanda]

kwanini uifikirie divorce kama ndoa yako ni tamu!!!!!!!

so all over the way for you marriage is all about status!

hivi lini na wapi nilisema ndoa yangu ni tamu?

yes, my marriage ni status, and becouse of that status kuna vitu navipata eg respect, mafao kazini, security yangu na watoto, economic cooperation, i mean nina mtu wa kusaidiana nae, nyege zikinizidi sipati shida, etc.

 

[Heaven on Earth]

I SALUTE YOU AYANDA

Umesema vyema, jamii yetu imetulea hivyo, ndoa ni heshima kubwa.
Mungu pia alikuwa na malengo yake, tuishi pamoja tusaidiane.

kwahiyo unaolewa ili upate heshima na kuplease watu!!!!!!!!!!!

nyie ndo mnaoa baada ya siku mbili kutwa kuchwa kuhangaika na vidosho wa mtaani

 

[ayanda]

Sawa na ayanda anaejifariji kwa kusema anapata status licha ya kuwa yupo kwenye ndoa ya majanga

hapana siko sawa na huyo kabisaaaaaaaaa

mimi nina status, tukitoka wawili huwezi kutuweka group moja

nyie bwana acheni bwana, NDOA MUHIMU SANA TU!

 

[Kaunga]

ah mnachosema ni ukweli sijui eti happiness sijui nini! ila kwa hapa africa kwetu, mwanamke/mwanaume bila ndoa hana heshima. ITS PAINFULL LAKINI NDO HIVYO JAMANI, HIVI MNAKATAA ILI IWEJE, mbona wenzenu wameshalikubali hilo na ndio maana watu wanashikilia ndoa zangu ili kutopoteza ile social status ambayo pia inaleta furaha kidogo ama confidence hata kama ndoa yenyewe ni majanga! ah hapa naona hii ni debate ya kisengery tu, watu mnabisha tu wakati mnakubali ni ukweli.

Tukubali just because wengine (wenzetu) wamekubali? sijakataa watu kung'ang'ania ndoa zenye mateso kwa ajili ya status, lakini ni asilimia ndogo, wengi wao ni kwa ajili ya watoto na welfare yao zaidi ya status, lkn pamoja na hayo hii inapungua kwa kiasi kikubwa baada ya wanawake kujitambua. Hivi ayanda ukipishana na mtu mtazamo basi ni lazima utumie lungha ya matusi???????

 

[Heaven on Earth]

hivi lini na wapi nilisema ndoa yangu ni tamu?

yes, my marriage ni status, and becouse of that status kuna vitu navipata eg respect, mafao kazini, security yangu na watoto, economic cooperation, i mean nina mtu wa kusaidiana nae, nyege zikinizidi sipati shida, etc.

Poor ayanda,thats what we call self proclaiming!!!!!!!!!!!!

olewa when ur ready for the journey of NO RETURN na sio kuanza
kusema nafikiria divorce na kuomba watu ushauri!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[ayanda]

kwahiyo unaolewa ili upate heshima na kuplease watu!!!!!!!!!!!

nyie ndo mnaoa baada ya siku mbili kutwa kuchwa kuhangaika na vidosho wa mtaani

Kuhangaika na vidosho vya mtaani has nothung to do with marriage, it has something to do with one's personality and character.

besides kuhangaika na vidosho kuna raha yake pia la sivyo watu wasingekua wanahangaika na vidosho.

HALAFU, MOST OF THE THINGS WE HUMANS DO IS TO PLEASE PEOPLE. Hata ukiamka na kujiangalia kwenye kioo, ni kwa ajili ya kuplease watu na sio kujiplease mwenyewe.

kwahiyo ishu ya kuplease watu is one thing that gives us joy, watu wakikupenda siku zote utakua na furaha.

 

[Heaven on Earth]

Kuhangaika na vidosho vya mtaani has nothung to do with marriage, it has something to do with one's personality and character.

besides kuhangaika na vidosho kuna raha yake pia la sivyo watu wasingekua wanahangaika na vidosho.

HALAFU, MOST OF THE THINGS WE HUMANS DO IS TO PLEASE PEOPLE. Hata ukiamka na kujiangalia kwenye kioo, ni kwa ajili ya kuplease watu na sio kujiplease mwenyewe.

kwahiyo ishu ya kuplease watu is one thing that gives us joy, watu wakikupenda siku zote utakua na furaha.

your perception is & will never be my reality........

lipi ni lipi kwenye hizo red!!!!!!!!!

 

[ayanda]

Poor ayanda,thats what we call self proclaiming!!!!!!!!!!!!

olewa when ur ready for the journey of NO RETURN na sio kuanza
kusema nafikiria divorce na kuomba watu ushauri!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

hivi is it bad kufikiria the other side of the coin na kuseek maoni ya wengine?

ndoa nifunge mie, divorce nifikirie mie! hasira upate weye!

majangaaaaaaaaaaa mbona majangaaaaaaa