Dalili kumi za kukuonyesha kuwa mwenzi wako ana-cheat...

Kama mwenzi wako anazo baadhi ya dalili zilizotajwa bila ya shaka suspicion zako zinaweza kuwa za kweli na inabidi uzifanyie kazi za “Ki-Intelligensia” ili kupata uhakika au ushahidi.

Kwa hiyo inabidi kuonana na Said Mwema ili kupata mawaidha zaidi ya Intelligensia???
 
VoiceOfReason said:
Duhh. Mhh lakini as always there is never a formula with life....

Mkuu Since Cheating, is having a Sexual / Intimate relationship na sio kuwa na close friend of opposite sex…

Kwahiyo Huenda nikawa muoga kumuonyesha mwenza wangu kama nina rafiki wa karibu kwa kuogopa wivu wake na kuepusha fujo

Hilo la kuja nyumbani na kuoga kama nilikuwa nina mtu sehemu huoni kwamba naweza kuoga huko huko na sio nyumbani

La kuwa mkali na kuleta story nyingine I would be more worried kwamba penzi langu kwake linafifia and kibuti is around the corner…

Kufunga computer ghafla labda am watching porn au chatting na marafiki zangu kuhusu wanawake but not necessarily na mwanamke, so sitaki kuanzisha argument...

All in all nadhani people lie and they can lie…, na unaweza ukadanganywa na usijue after all most people cheat not because they have fallen in love with someone else but its just tamaa kwahiyo they don't care how they look they just wanna have good time and not to impress someone to fall for them.., after all hapa they will be looking for a short term relationship…

Kwahiyo sometimes kumshuku mtu na kuanza kumchimba you might be the one chasing him/her away... after all TRUST is what its all about na kama hajakupa sababu ya kuvunja TRUST sio busara kumshuku .., and all of the above they dont really qualify..., and good cheaters wont show any of the above..
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Mkuu; wewe unaenda kwa hisia, lakini watu wanakwenda kwa scientific data. amini usiamini hiyo ndiyo hali halisi. and here are supporting statistics:

Source: Infidelity Statistics


It's tough to get a handle on how many of us are having affairs, given the inherent secrecy.
  • 22 percent of married men have strayed at least once during their married lives.
  • 14 percent of married women have had affairs at least once during their married lives.
  • Younger people are more likely candidates; in fact, younger women are as likely as younger men to be unfaithful.
  • 70 percent of married women and 54 percent of married men did not know of their spouses' extramarital activity.
  • 5 percent of married men and 3 percent of married women reported having sex with someone other than their spouse in the year1997.
  • 22 percent of men and 14 percent of women admitted to having sexual relations outside their marriage sometime in their past.
  • 17 percent of divorces in the United States are caused by infidelity.
  • Source: Associated Press
  • Up to 37% of men and 22% of women admit to having affairs. Researchers think the vast majority of the millions of people who visit chat rooms, have multiple "special friends".
  • Recent studies reveal that 45-55% of married women and 50-60% of married men engage in extramarital sex at some time or another during their relationship (Atwood & Schwartz, 2002 - Journal of Couple & Relationship Therapy)
  • Only 46% of men believe that online affairs are adultery. DivorceMag
  • 80% think it's Ok to talk with a stranger identified as the opposite sex. 75% thinks it's ok to visit an adult site.
  • About 60 percent of men and 40 percent of women will have an affair at some point in some marriage "Monogamy Myth", Therapist Peggy Vaugn
  • About 24 percent of men and 14 percent of women have had sex outside their marriages, according to a Dec. 21, 1998 report in USA Today on a national study by the University of California, San Francisco.
  • A lesser known fact is that those who divorce rarely marry the person with whom they are having the affair. For example, Dr. Jan Halper's study of successful men (executives, entrepreneurs, professionals) found that very few men who have affairs divorce their wife and marry their lovers. Only 3 percent of the 4,100 successful men surveyed eventually married their lovers.
  • Frank Pittman has found that the divorce rate among those who married their lovers was 75 percent. The reasons for the high divorce rate include: intervention of reality, guilt, expectations, a general distrust of marriage, and a distrust of the affairee.
  • One-third of divorce litigation is caused by online affairs. This Is An Internet E-Mergency, The Fortino Group
  • Approximately 70% of time on-line is spent in chat rooms or sending e-mail; of these interactions, the vast majority are romantic in nature. Dr. Michael Adamse, PhD., co-author of Affairs of the Net: The Cybershrinks' Guide to Online Relationships
  • Because of the anonymity, affordability, and accessibility of Internet sexual resources, the computer can accelerate the transition from "at risk" to "addicted," as well as the progression of sex addiction in those with a history of prior sexual compulsivity. Cooper et al Survey
  • 8-10 percent of Internet users become hooked on cybersex. Dr. Bob LanierSpouses who get hooked on Internet porn are a growing complaint among spouses filing for divorce, according to a survey of 350 divorce attorneys. "If there's dissatisfaction in the existing relationship, the Internet is an easy way for people to scratch the itch," said lawyer J. Lindsey Short, Jr., president of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, which conducted the study.
  • 57% of people have used the Internet to flirt.
  • 38% of people have engaged in explicit online sexual conversation and 50% of people have made phone contact with someone they chatted with online.
  • Evidence proves there is a high correlation between on-line infidelity and subsequent real-time sexual affairs.
  • Evidence supports the existence of disinhibition, accelerated intimacy, and hyper-sexual online behavior that can easily lead to real-time infidelity
  • 31% of people have had an online conversation that has led to real-time sex.
  • It is estimated that 53% of all people will have one or more affairs during their lifetime.
  • Look at the numbers from Playboy Magazine:
  • -2 out of 3 women and 3 out of 4 men admit they have sexual thoughts about co-workers.
  • -86% of men and 81% of women admit they routinely flirt with the opposite sex.
  • -75% of men and 65% of women admit to having sex with people they work with.
  • The fact is that human beings are NOT monogamous by nature. That means they cheat.
  • Experts say that a gut instinct is the most powerful indicator of a cheating lover. Adultery statistics state that 85% of woman who feel their lover is cheating are correct. 50% of men who feel their lover is cheating are right. The first clue is seldom obvious. Typically, it's a "feeling" that something is different.
  • Cheating spouse statistics confirm that 50 and 70 percent of married men (between 38 and 53 million men) have cheated or will cheat on their wives. One study found that 2/3 of the wives (26 to 36 million women) whose husbands were cheating had no idea their husbands were having an affair - largely because they failed to recognize the telltale signs.
  • "Most experts do consider the 'educated guess' that at the present time some 50 to 65 percent of husbands and 45 to 55 percent of wives become extramaritally involved by the age of 40 to be a relatively sound and reasonable one." According to Peggy Vaughan, author of The Monogamy Myth, first published in 1989 by Newmarket Press (third edition published 2003).
  • Conservative infidelity statistics estimate that "60 percent of men and 40 percent of women will have an extramarital affair. These figures are even more significant when we consider the total number of marriages involved, since it's unlikely that all the men and women having affairs happen to be married to each other. If even half of the women having affairs (or 20 percent) are married to men not included in the 60 percent having affairs, then at least one partner will have an affair in approximately 80 percent of all marriages. With this many marriages affected, it's unreasonable to think affairs are due only to the failures and shortcomings of individual husbands or wives."
Note that the above adultry statistics of the prevalence of affairs were made more than a decade ago; so based on changes in society during the intervening years, the current percentage of the population who have had affairs is probably somewhat HIGHER. For instance, the continuing increase of women in the workplace and the increase of women having affairs on the Internet means that the numbers for women having affairs is probably similar to those for men-about 60%.
 
Swali kuhusu ukusanyaji wa intelegensia!!!
1) Sasa ikiwa unahisi mwenziwako anacheat na mtu unayemfahamu (mr x), na huyu mr x ana mrs x! je ni vyema kum-approach mrs. x ukamhusisha katika kukusanya intelegensia?
 
Allien said:
Mkuu; wewe unaenda kwa hisia, lakini watu wanakwenda kwa scientific data. amini usiamini hiyo ndiyo hali halisi. and here are supporting statistics:
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Mkuu nadhani haujanielewa mimi nakwenda kwa logic let alone scientific data (because all these Research, e.g. REDET etc they are not 100%)
Sasa basi... NAKUBALI KABISA PEOPLE DO CHEAT.., and majority of married people CHEAT..., WHY ?? Is it because they fall in love with someone else ??? Not necessarily.., Its just tamaa Kwahiyo basi issue za kujitengeneza na kuchange tabia kwamba ili amuimpress mtu it happens when someone is looking for someone new.., trying to impress (lakini kwenye cheating most of the time its someone they knew before au its just someone they are looking kukidhi tamaa zao)

Na kuhusu kwamba utaona hizo tell tell SIGNS.., hizo utaziona kwa mtu ambaye anajifunza kucheat au anadanganya kwa bahati mbaya lakini magwiji you will see non of the above... Kwahiyo hapa Mkuu mimi siongelei opinion yangu au experience yangu naongelea hoja hapo juu ya 10 SIGNS kwamba someone is cheating..., labda ungesema 10 Signs about someone learning to Cheat.., au 10 Signs you might mistaken someone is cheating...,
 
Jana kuna rafiki yangu kanipigia simu anachozungumza hata sielewi eti "Fanya juu chini nikukute hapo packin mi nimechoka kukusubiri hapa muda wote" Baada ya dakika 5 akanipigia kuwa alipiga na kuniunganishia unrelated issue ikiwa ni mbinu ya kutoka hapo kwake ili akameet na kidosho mpya!!!

Wakati mwingine ananitumia msg kuwa nimpigie apokee kwa kukata.. kumbe anapokata anajifanya ndo amepokea then anaunganisha maongezi mengineeeee ambayo yatampumbaza shori!! Duniani jamani acha tu!!
 
Papa Diana said:
Swali kuhusu ukusanyaji wa intelegensia!!!
1) Sasa ikiwa unahisi mwenziwako anacheat na mtu unayemfahamu (mr x), na huyu mr x ana mrs x! je ni vyema kum-approach mrs. x ukamhusisha katika kukusanya intelegensia?
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Itabidi utumie intelijensia ya hali ya juu ukitaka kumshirikisha Mrs X
 
babaubaya said:
jana kuna rafiki yangu kanipigia simu anachozungumza hata sielewi eti "fanya juu chini nikukute hapo packin mi nimechoka kukusubiri hapa muda wote" baada ya dakika 5 akanipigia kuwa alipiga na kuniunganishia unrelated issue ikiwa ni mbinu ya kutoka hapo kwake ili akameet na kidosho mpya!!!

Wakati mwingine ananitumia msg kuwa nimpigie apokee kwa kukata.. Kumbe anapokata anajifanya ndo amepokea then anaunganisha maongezi mengineeeee ambayo yatampumbaza shori!! Duniani jamani acha tu!!
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noted!

 
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