Am I being unreasonable? ...ushauri please!

[Kongosho]

Kwa sentensi ya kwanza natafsiri hivi.
Uko radhi kusave cost kuliko kusave your love.

Ndo maana mwanzo nilikuuliza, unampenda kiasi gani?
Unaweza sacrifice kwa kiwango gani?

If you love him, you are being unreasonable.

Mwali
I guess I could do that, but cost wise its not the best option. Ila n what's bothering me most is mwanaume gani anayetoa ultimatum kwaajili ya mwaka tu............................. Duh jamani si ndio kunyanyasika kwenyewe huku!!!

 

[Nemo]

Post za MMU za sasa ni kama TEST..!! They make me thnk alot..!!

data

please do share your thoughts!

 

[daughter]

Mwali
I guess I could do that, but cost wise its not the best option. Ila n what's bothering me most is mwanaume gani anayetoa ultimatum kwaajili ya mwaka tu............................. Duh jamani si ndio kunyanyasika kwenyewe huku!!!

haya mawazo ya kunyanyasika ndio yanakufanya ukatae kukubaliana na decision yake.maybe niulize kama walivyouliza wengine,for how long has he been waiting?

 

[Nemo]

ha haaa are u sure uko peke yako?

isije kuwa kuna stand in bride in case ukatae...?lol

The Boss
hahahahahha I dont really know. As you know , binadamu huwezi kumkania binadamu mwezako

 

[King’asti]

The fact kuwa you ar worried that you might be unreasonable shows that maybe you are reasonable. Kuna watu wamechagua carreer zao kuwa kipaumbele kuliko maisha ya familia (namuwaza Oprah Winfrey). Kila siku kutakuwa na new chances zaidi, hela zaidi nk. There must be a stop somewhere. Jiangalie upya, kama mwenzio amevumilia na ameweza kukuambia kafikia ukomo baadae msije mkalaumiana. Usilazimishe mambo. There are still more chances, opportunities and blessings to come. Unamuonea mwenzio...

 

[cartura]

Habari zenu wana Jf.

Ninae rafiki, ambaye nilimuahidi kuwa ifikapo mwaka 2014 nitarudi nyumbani ili tuweze kupanga mipango ya maisha and possibly get ................. :A S embarassed:

huyu jamaa achape lapa tu, hakuna tegemeo hapo...

 

[Kaunga]

Yes u r being unreasonable; sema na Moyo wako, unampenda kweli huyo mwenzi wako au unapenda zaidi ambitions zako. Just know that u can have them all, just be a little reasonable!

 

[The Boss]

The Boss
hahahahahha I dont really know. As you know , binadamu huwezi kumkania binadamu mwezako

watu wanapotoa ultimatum lazima ama wana plan b tayari
au wanata ushindwe ili wafanye walichokipanga in the first place

 

[Konakali]

Habari zenu wana Jf.

Ninae rafiki, ambaye nilimuahidi kuwa ifikapo mwaka 2014 nitarudi nyumbani ili tuweze kupanga mipango ya maisha and possibly get ................. Unfortunately it does not look like I will be able to fulfil the said promise( I may need an additional year or so).
However, mwenzangu ametoa ultimatum saying its 2014 or nothing! Sasa mimi swali langu ni hili, if you really love someone jamani what is one more year? My family thinks I am the problem. They are of the mind that I'm being difficult and unreasonable! Lakini kweli mwaka kama mtu uko serious na mwenzio how can a mere year be an issue?


Nakaribisha mawazo yenu.

PS
I know some pple are annoyed with the language mixing, but please nisameheni I just cant help myself :A S embarassed:

Kongosho
Nimesharudi na tulipoongea ndio nilisema hiyo 2014 , na hata hapo i did say most probably na sio definately

BADILI TABIA

Kwanza ahsante kwa ushauri. Pili si kwamba ni mbinafsi, ila ni kuwa mipango haijaenda kama nilivyo dhania. I can't just up and leave, maana hata kama ni yeye namkimbilia, my biggest worry is, if I am to leave na mipango nusu nusu at some point this will come and haunt us in the near future. Vitu visipoenda vizuri I can easily see myself being end up resentful of the fact that I had to leave my life unprepared!

RussianRoulette
pretty much,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,at least that was what it was, mpaka nilivyo uliza a few family members ndio waka plant a seed of doubt now im not sure if its the best decision!

1. Binafsi nawashangaa sana hawa watu wanaodai eti sitaolewa/sitaoa hadi nijenge nyumba nzuri, niwe na biashara nzuri, niwe na usafiri, na niwe na kazi nzuri.....! Kanakwamba wanajua fika ni lini watapata vitu hivyo....! Matokeo yake wanajisahau kuwa huenda hata wasipate vitu hivyo maishani mwao.....! Please Nemo, be careful of this, usijedanganyika na ulimwengu huu ukabaki kusubiria vitu usivyo na uhakika kwamba vitakuja.....!
2. Ingekuwa mimi ndio huyo wa kupigiwa tarehe kiasi hicho, hakika sitaki subira yangu uniponze......! Natamani kumjua huyo mtu wako nimuamshe, maana anaonekana kulala usingizi mzito mno.....!

Ni wazo langu tu.....!

 

[Nyani Ngabu]

Compromise is the name of the game here.

And love conquers everything. If both of y'all really love each other then you won't find it hard to find a resolution.

Hardheadedness won't get you anywhere.

 

[Nemo]

Kwa sentensi ya kwanza natafsiri hivi.
Uko radhi kusave cost kuliko kusave your love.

Ndo maana mwanzo nilikuuliza, unampenda kiasi gani?
Unaweza sacrifice kwa kiwango gani?

If you love him, you are being unreasonable.

Kongosho
Hapana Kongosho, the fact is if I have to incur additional costs i.e coming home in between then nikirudi i'd probably need more than a year. Dont ask me why but I'd rather be a way for year from a boyfriend than a hubby

 

[Nemo]

Compromise is the name of the game here.

And love conquers everything. If both of y'all really love each other then you won't find it hard to find a resolution.

Hardheadedness won't get you anywhere.

Bwa N'chuchu

Excuse me I find this type of thinking to be extremelys so naive!!!!!!!!!. ie Love doesnt pay the bills, love doesnt feed the kids, love doesnt give u shelter and etc..........hope you are getting my drift!

 

[Nambukwa]

Kama una wasiwasi n kwa sababu kuna zaid ya hiyo nyuma ya pazia. Me naona shida yako kuolewa unaogopa ukimpoteza huyu mahesabu yako hayataenda kama ulivyopanga.Maisha n zaid ya hivyo!!!Tafakari

 

[The Boss]

Bwa N'chuchu

Excuse me I find this type of thinking to be extremelys so naive!!!!!!!!!. ie Love doesnt pay the bills, love doesnt feed the kids, love doesnt give u shelter and etc..........hope you are getting my drift!

straight out from machame girl,right? lol

 

[Roulette]

Nemo, msome Boss vizuri.
Tatizo ya reactions za tit for tat ni kwamba mwenzio has a plan... and he thought of it throughout kabla ya kukuletea ultimatum.
But the question is, what is your plan? usiwahi kutoa maamuzi, plan strategically, make sure that you have a viable plan B before you call A a day.

watu wanapotoa ultimatum lazima ama wana plan b tayari
au wanata ushindwe ili wafanye walichokipanga in the first place

 

[Nyani Ngabu]

Bwa N'chuchu

Excuse me I find this type of thinking to be extremelys so naive!!!!!!!!!. ie Love doesnt pay the bills, love doesnt feed the kids, love doesnt give u shelter and etc..........hope you are getting my drift!

Those kinda sayings aren't supposed to be taken literally. If you take them literally then you must be incredibly stupid.

To me, a saying like that simply means that if the two of you really really love each other then the possibility of finding a resolution to whatever the problem is, is far greater than parting ways.

Successful romantic relationships do require a lot of give-and-take between both parties. If it's one way or the highway, chances are the relationship is doomed.

And any grown ass man or woman knows that love doesn't pay the bills, put food on the table, etc. etc.

 

[The Boss]

Nemo, msome Boss vizuri.
Tatizo ya reactions za tit for tat ni kwamba mwenzio has a plan... and he thought of it throughout kabla ya kukuletea ultimatum.
But the question is, what is your plan? usiwahi kutoa maamuzi, plan strategically, make sure that you have a viable plan B before you call A a day.

exactly my point.....

 

[Nemo]

watu wanapotoa ultimatum lazima ama wana plan b tayari
au wanata ushindwe ili wafanye walichokipanga in the first place

The Boss
This is quite interesting...............

 

[Roulette]

exactly my point.....

Great minds think alike... 😛oa

 

[Nemo]

1. Binafsi nawashangaa sana hawa watu wanaodai eti sitaolewa/sitaoa hadi nijenge nyumba nzuri, niwe na biashara nzuri, niwe na usafiri, na niwe na kazi nzuri.....! Kanakwamba wanajua fika ni lini watapata vitu hivyo....! Matokeo yake wanajisahau kuwa huenda hata wasipate vitu hivyo maishani mwao.....! Please Nemo, be careful of this, usijedanganyika na ulimwengu huu ukabaki kusubiria vitu usivyo na uhakika kwamba vitakuja.....!
2. Ingekuwa mimi ndio huyo wa kupigiwa tarehe kiasi hicho, hakika sitaki subira yangu uniponze......! Natamani kumjua huyo mtu wako nimuamshe, maana anaonekana kulala usingizi mzito mno.....!

Ni wazo langu tu.....!

Konakali
Thank you for your input.,, ila as far as Kumamsha usingizini goes, worry not maana kama mwenyewe katoa hiyo ultimatum, seems to me he is pretty awake!

Ps
Anyhow I guess I have some serious thinking to do, maana so far it seems im the crazy one !