A little extract:
Think about it: the first guy you slept with quicker than ninety dayswhere is he? Im willing to bet that youre probably
not with him. True, there are some people out there somewhere who had sex early in the relationship and are still together to this very day, but thats rare. More likely than not, a guy who gets benefits early in a relationship, without having to put in work or prove himself, leaves and moves on to a committed relationship with a woman who puts him through some type of probationary period to find out more about him. Im sure that woman laid out the rulesthe requirementsearly on, and let her intended know that he could either rise up to those requirements, or just move on.[...]
Hold on, I know what youre thinking: youre thinking that if he doesnt get sex from you, hell go and get it somewhere
else, and you will have lost out on that one chance to get him to be your manor hell think youre playing games if you
make him wait, and hell move on to the next woman whos willing to take him into her bed.
Wrong.
In fact, one of those mind tricks weve been playing on women since the beginning of time is to convince you all that
waiting doesnt matter, that giving it up early and quick is the way to go. Listen to me: if we could convince you that you should strip naked and get to it within the first five minutes of our first meeting, we would. This is not a secret: men love and want sex, and will try (within reason) to get it by any means necessary.
But guess what? He. Can. Wait. Yes, of course you run the risk of scaring him off, but isnt the guy who sleeps with you
without any obligation to you, or consideration of your wants, needs, and emotional well-being, the one you want to go away? Isnt reserving something that special for a man who earns it more of a benefit to you? You have the power to make him wait to prove to you that he deserves your love and affection. The Power. Just think of it this way: when it comes to having sex with a woman, we men dont decide a thing. We dont determine when were going to sleep with youthat decision is yours. The decision of when we get to kiss you is yours. When we let go of each others hug and embrace? That decision is yours.
We put our hands somewhere on your body other than your shoulder and you decide if we can keep touching that place
or if we gotta let it go. Our job is to convince you to give it to usto allow us to touch it, let us have it. But the decision on whether we actually get to have it is Y.O.U.R.S.