Some Things I cannot Explain, Yet I wish I Could Change Them

Some Things I cannot Explain, Yet I wish I Could Change Them

The Boss, hahaha. You are just trying to be polite. lols. 'growing up'? Thanks 4 the laugh.
 
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Karucee, we share the same problem. But the difference is, i count my blessings in just every situation. When i hear what other people go through, i make them feel more positive about their situation. But in the end, i realise i shouldnt complain about nothing. It has helped me be more positive with all the challenges that i face.

Count your blessings. Remember maya angelou said 'people will forget what you said but they will never forget how you made them feel'
 
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King'asti said:
Karucee, we share the same problem. But the difference is, i count my blessings in just every situation. When i hear what other people go through, i make them feel more poaitive about their situation. But in the end, i realise i shouldnt complain about nothing. It has helped me be more positive with all challenges that i face.

Count your blessings. Remember maya angelou said 'people will forget what you said but they will never forget how you made them feel'
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Halafu eski kidumu wewe!!! yanini kunifanyia hivyo mtoto wa mwanamke mwenzio..BTW miss you, hope you are well

Ulivyomtaja Maya nimekumbuka juzi nimeangalia "Roots"
 
Poyeeee eski kidumu. Nimetingwaje sasa? Halafu hebu nikukute pm kwanza manake mweeh.
Maya angelou was mentor aisee.
Don Mangi said:
Halafu eski kidumu wewe!!! yanini kunifanyia hivyo mtoto wa mwanamke mwenzio..BTW miss you, hope you are well

Ulivyomtaja Maya nimekumbuka juzi nimeangalia "Roots"
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Don't panick PIC, you're blessed with top notch upstairs just use it to the maximum. You'll be fine PIC.

 
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Karucee tunaweza kuteta kidogo. Ila kwanza nihakikishie hujapiga jani lol.
 
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Karucee said:
I am a loner. No, I haven't always been like this.... I guess life made me this way. And as days go by I continue to wean my circle of friends. It ain't easy. Because for some reason I am somebody who tends to draw people to me. And shunning them ain't easy. Sometimes I wish I were a big bad monster like Gru in the Despicable Me Cartoon. Somebody mean, Somebody who wards off people and makes them stop dead in their tracks then they are about to spill the beans. Hahaaa.

For some reason people like to talk to me. Some say I have a beautiful voice that they don't get tired of but I am sure it ain't this. People love to talk to me about stuff....stuff so private, stuff so hurting that it ends up hurting me as well.

I appreciate that people get the unwanted weight off their chests..... It sure is great to help them ease off the stress. The problem is no matter how hard I try, deep down their troubles affect me. I wish I could face these people and say NO but its not like they are people I know. I have been stopped by people in the streets of Kariakoo, in the midst of dinner with my beau, in buses, in salons.... and the things they talk to me about is way out of this world.

What is it about me that makes these people single me out from the crowds and pour their hearts out?? It is never a need of money, it is the desire to talk to someone. I have been through a lot for the better part of my life and I know how difficult it is to just speak to anyone about stuff.

This is like speaking to the man on the moon , it is likely things will never change but I wish to understand this. They walk away feeling better, and for a moment I feel good that I made someone unbeknownst to me smile but whatever they are going through... affects me. Leaves me in deep thought....and the weight of their troubles is transferred to me shoulders. I too have problems of my own, therefore most of the times it becomes unbearable yet I wouldn't go around spilling people's secrets and troubles.

There are smart people in here, who can shed some light on this 'gift' and help me feel better about it, even if I cannot change it.

Kindly help a sister out.

Same Old Karucee.


cc. Mtambuzi, EMT, SHIEKA, The Boss, KIKUNGU, Don Mangi, kadoda11, BAK, SHERRIF ARPAIO, gobore (..........)

...... and you there who can relate to what this thread is about.
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Hongera.At least u know ur Calling from God na umeweza kufanya kitu duniani.Nakushauri usisikitike bali tafuta njia ya kukifanya hicho kipaji kikue zaidi na uweze saidia watu wengi zaidi ambao Mungu atawaelekeza kwako.Unaweza hata kufungua NGO au Charity group au Counseling firm na kusaidia watu at the same time fulfilling ur purpose in this World.
 
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There are few people with such a gift so u shouldn't take it as a load,as u said at times you feel good that atleast u helped someone...I think I had the same issue last year and too bad pschologically it did affect me after weeks of counselling I came to learn how to balance my emotions..I had to learn how to limit myself when it comes to helping others..am not exactly sure if what you are facing now is what I also struggled with but if it is then you shouldn't feel bad...you have a heart of serving others but then learn how to controll yourself when helping others..as you said you have problems too don't forget that...I hop it somehow helped you🙂
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I have been craving for a thread from you Karucee, but this one is too big a mountain to scale!And what is more it is too philisophical!You are wondering why people would approach you and speak out their troubles.
First let's go to the psychology of it all.To begin with, you have what we call a magnetic personality:the confidence you radiate, the trustworthiness you exude, the aura of selfsatisfaction you display without you knowing it, all this combined attract people like bees to a flower to confide to you.You describe what they tell you as 'stuff' and 'troubles'.I find this quite normal with people.Life troubles can not be left to accumulate in the chest, they must be poured out to someone who has good ears ie a person with good listening skills.And you happen to have the rare skills of listening.
Now that they have found you out Karucee, there is no escaping it as you hinted.They will broadcast to their wider circle of friends that there is a kind lady around
 
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Karucee ,we are who we are, nothing in life is to be feared but only to be understood and embraced, the more u understand how to handle it, the less u may fear and get used to dealing with it.
 
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Isumbwile said:
Karucee ,we are who we are, nothing in life is to be feared but only to be understood and embraced, the more u understand how to handle it, the less u may fear and get used to dealing with it.
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No attempt to seek insight or help here at JF is futile. BRENDA 18 said something that gave me the way forward- it is striking a balance between the people who run to me and myself, such that I shall not be troubled by their woes yet at the same time I shall give them relief in one way or the other.
King'asti reminded me to count it as a blessing. Once you are overwhelmed by some of these emotions it is not easily to see through the swollen eyes.

Thank you Monsieur Isumbwile, thank you so much.
 
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Zion Daughter said:
Hongera.At least u know ur Calling from God na umeweza kufanya kitu duniani.Nakushauri usisikitike bali tafuta njia ya kukifanya hicho kipaji kikue zaidi na uweze saidia watu wengi zaidi ambao Mungu atawaelekeza kwako.Unaweza hata kufungua NGO au Charity group au Counseling firm na kusaidia watu at the same time fulfilling ur purpose in this World.
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Thank you, but no. Ngoja waendelee kunisimamisha tu njiani. I do not have what it takes to be a Counsellor. Mfano kuna mtu aliniombaga nimsaidie kuacha bange. lols. Nilicheka sana.
 
BAK said:
Don't panick PIC, you're blessed with top notch upstairs just use it to the maximum. You'll be fine PIC.

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Thank you sweetie, am not able to view some of these goodies from my phone.
 
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