i disagree with u. one a lady allows the man to ave sex with her without wearing a condom she has take full responsibility with regards to pregnancy. therefore it is th lady's reponsibility to make sure that she dnt fall pregnant unless ofcoz they had agreed to have a bby together.
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i disagree with u. one a lady allows the man to ave sex with her without wearing a condom she has take full responsibility with regards to pregnancy. therefore it is th lady's reponsibility to make sure that she dnt fall pregnant unless ofcoz they had agreed to have a bby together.
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OK, say she was on birth control but she still got pregnant, is it still her fault because her body reacted in the way it was supposed to?? Wewe kama unataka kula tunda bila kutumia kinga yoyote inabidi ukubali kuwa risks ni kubwa zaidi kama mmoja kati yenu ndie mwenye jukumu la kuhakikisha mimba haitungwi. Kama mwanamke anachukua vidonge vya majira na mwanamme anavaa condom kama back-up, chances of her getting pregnant are extremely minimal.
Sasa kama mwanamme anatupa mikono juu na kusema hataki jukumu la kuhakikisha kuwa mimba haitungwi, then inabidi awe tayari kuwa baba kama birth control methods anazotumia mwanamke zikifail. Most forms of birth control are only effective if used properly. A woman's birth control pills could fail if she takes antibiotics to treat any illness, or even if she misses the pill. There are many unforeseen circumstances that can cause birth control to fail.
Kama unavyoona, mimba inaweza kutokea bila kukusudia, lakini as two adults you must be prepared to deal with the circumstances. Sijaongelea mimba za kutegeshea hapa!! So men, if you don't want kids, protect yourself , use a condom! Otherwise don't complain.
Sasa kama mwanamme anatupa mikono juu na kusema hataki jukumu la kuhakikisha kuwa mimba haitungwi, then inabidi awe tayari kuwa baba kama birth control methods anazotumia mwanamke zikifail. Most forms of birth control are only effective if used properly. A woman's birth control pills could fail if she takes antibiotics to treat any illness, or even if she misses the pill. There are many unforeseen circumstances that can cause birth control to fail.
Kama unavyoona, mimba inaweza kutokea bila kukusudia, lakini as two adults you must be prepared to deal with the circumstances. Sijaongelea mimba za kutegeshea hapa!! So men, if you don't want kids, protect yourself , use a condom! Otherwise don't complain.
okay i do agree with u on the posibility ya pills kudema. lets luk under the circumstances ya ishu ya huyu mwana. mind u we safely assume kuwa huyu jamaa atakuwa walikuwa wakimegana kavu for some period na sasa kwa nini demu asipate mimba wakati huo aje apate mimba wakati kashakuwa engaged? to me thats rather suspicious and therefor jamaa hapa kategwa. huko ni kutokuwa mwaminifu kwa partner wako.
kweli kabisa mwanaume kama hutaki mimba usiende peku lakini hiyo ni ngumu sana kwa watu waliokuwa kwenye mahusiano ya muda mrefu. best practice ni kumega dada poa. hapo ah hamna swala la mimbawala kutegwa. lakini as long as upo sijui na gf wa muda mrefu kumega kavu % ni kubwa sana.
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Nimekupata mzabzab, lakin wanaume weng ni ving'ang'aniz hawatak kula pip na ganda lake ndo mana mimba zczotarajiwa ni nying sn. Ila km wanawake 2ngefanya usemavyo hata watoto wa nje wacngekuepu.
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Hiyo inawezakuwa ni coincidence tu. Hebu fikiria, they are engaged to be married in February na mahari ilishatolewa, kwanini ategwe? Ina maana hakuwa na subira ya hiyo miezi kadhaa tu? I'm assuming kama mke na mume walikuwa na mpango wa kuwa na watoto in the future kwahiyo sio mbaya kama baraka zimewahi kuja.
In your case, kama hauko tayari kuzaa, let alone kuzaa na mwanamke ambae una uhakika kabisa kuwa hautamuoa au hauoni future nae, then ni responsibility yako kujiprotect! In long term relationships ni kweli condom huwa hazitumiki kwa sana, lakini jiulize kwanini uwe kwenye longterm relationship na mtu ambae huoni future nae? Kama ulivosema, afadhali uwe na dada poa, lakini pia inabidi ujikinge na magonjwa eh... Hakuna cha raw sex hapo.
In your case, kama hauko tayari kuzaa, let alone kuzaa na mwanamke ambae una uhakika kabisa kuwa hautamuoa au hauoni future nae, then ni responsibility yako kujiprotect! In long term relationships ni kweli condom huwa hazitumiki kwa sana, lakini jiulize kwanini uwe kwenye longterm relationship na mtu ambae huoni future nae? Kama ulivosema, afadhali uwe na dada poa, lakini pia inabidi ujikinge na magonjwa eh... Hakuna cha raw sex hapo.
kha!! finally mdada ambaye ameona sense in wat am saying...hongera zako.
kweli kabisa wanaume tunapenda peku na wanawake pia..scietifically proven kuwa wanawake wanao ruhusu njemba kumalizia ndani ya K wanaenjoy tendo 30% more than wale ambao hawafanyi hivyo.
sasa tukubali utamu wa pwku ni irresistable hivyo basi women tuwe makini katika kuhakikisha kuwa mimba za accident hazitokei.
are u a lawyer by proffession? i like the way u argue ur points.
anyways kuhusu patience ya huyo dada na kutegwa well that remains in the realms of speculation. it wont be far fetched to surmise that out of the joy ya kuwa engaged and soon becoming his wife...she made the mistake that i can fall pregnant afterall we are going to be husband and wife therefore starting a family is part of the deal. she however foegot to take inro consideeation this mans view on wen a bby shuld be brot to earth...its seems he higly values that the bby is born or concieved after marriage. therefore thats selfishness on her part.
kuhusu long term relationship na y one wuld date a lady they dnt intend to have a future with comes down to female mentality. maany women would enter a relationship and indeed sleep with a guy provided he demoatrates that he intends to have a long term relation with her ...sio mzee wa kumega na kusepa lol
unfortunately men in moat part tunaigiza kuwa tunataka kukaa na wewe knowing full well kuwa twataka kumega tuu na kusepa. mwanamke ukimwambia ukweli kuwa wamtamani na unataka kumgegeda yaani hata kuvulia chupi ng'oooo!!! so men pretend so as to get K.
pia kuna suala moja ambalo wanaume na wanawake wote cn fall for....mapenzi mwanzoni ata siku moja hayawi machungu!!! full macare huyo ndio nimefika basi upo peponi lakini as time passea true colors zajitokeza na mapungufu uonekana.
kwenye issue ya dada poa ...kweli wao mambo ya mimba hamna na statistically upo less likely kupata hiv toka kwao kuliko gf au wife. tatizo ni kwamba jamii doesnt luk at them in a gud way...the idea of exchanging cash for sex is repulsive to most tho in reality we do pay for K in one form or another. sasa hapa ndio wengi tunaona mhm pora nikamatie demu mtaani kuliko dada poa.
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asante madame...hawa jamaa wamenikalia kooni katika hii mada balaa...mpaka nakesha
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mie naona wacha nije nikeshe nawe...unipet pet
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Usijali,njoo tukeshe hapa Masai Club.
haha wee masai kunawateja kweli leo? kesho ndio nyomi nyomi ....
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sijakuelewa.
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Hahaha. Nope sio lawyer, but I might consider a change in my career now 🙂
I think based on your admission of what men want ( raw sex, no strings attached/commitment unless they say so), and what women want (husband, family, commitment) you should be OK with the fact that she may have manipulated the situation to get pregnant. Unasema unaigiza ili uvuliwe chupi, na wadada wanapata mimba ili kupata commitment, au at least kupata wanachokitaka in the end. Some women are just playing the same game as you are, it's just the rules are slightly different. And I'm a firm believer of karma, so watch out usije ukabandikiza mtu mimba usiyoitaka! Otherwise you better hope you don't have any daughters, as those boys will play the same games you play.
I think based on your admission of what men want ( raw sex, no strings attached/commitment unless they say so), and what women want (husband, family, commitment) you should be OK with the fact that she may have manipulated the situation to get pregnant. Unasema unaigiza ili uvuliwe chupi, na wadada wanapata mimba ili kupata commitment, au at least kupata wanachokitaka in the end. Some women are just playing the same game as you are, it's just the rules are slightly different. And I'm a firm believer of karma, so watch out usije ukabandikiza mtu mimba usiyoitaka! Otherwise you better hope you don't have any daughters, as those boys will play the same games you play.
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ulivyo kua unafanya ulikua hu2mii akili raha ule mwenyewe utupe sie karaha kama ulikua ujajipanga c ungesubiri na kwanza ubaya uko wapi huyo ndiye mkeo mtarajiwa ya nini kutoa ebu lea mimba hiyo wewe aha habari izooooooooooo unafanya masihara eeeeeeeee na bila shaka wewe utakua mchawi haiwezekani ng'ombe wako mwenyewe umchinjie uvunguni inahusu
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Mnakimbilia wapi? Si mngesubiri hadi ndoa, ambayo ni miezi michache ijayo?
Kama mlikubali kupanda kabla ya ndoa inabidi muwajibike kulea, sio kutoa mimba.
Pu**avu sana.
huna jipya wewe,
nimechukia, wewe mwanaume unataka kuua?
Abortion ili iweje?
Lea mimba wewe, tatizo dogo sana hilo, ahirisha harusi mpaka ajifungue na mtoto akue unakuja kubariki,
halafu katubu, usipotubu huyo mtoto hamtakuja kuelewana naye kwani tayari umeshamkataa,
ukimlazimisha kutoa mimba kuna 3 yatatokea:
1.mchumba wako kufa
2.mchumba wako kuwa tasa
3.mchumba wako hatakuwa na amani na ndoa
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