msafiri2017
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- Dec 6, 2016
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Duh... Kam ni kwel ulichokieleza, epuka n ucje thubutu ukaja kukukuta ule msemo unaosema "JIFUNZE KUTOKANA NA MAKOSA" ktk hili swala lako lakin n co mengine... Ni utakuja kujutia mpk unaingia "karibuni" ... Hakika nakwambia, uyo mwana ni tamaa tu uckute,Wakuu nahitaji mawazo yenu kwa kipindi hiki cha majaribu nachopitia.
Mi nimeolewa nna miaka kama 9 kwenye ndoa na kwa kipindi hiki chote nimepitia mazuri na changamoto pia ila sikuwahi kujutia ndoa.Jamaa aliyenioa ni msomi na anajua kuitafuta hela.Kiufupi tuna maisha mazuri nina kila kitu nachokihitaji km nyumba,usafiri wa maana na two beautiful kids.
Ktk kipindi cha ndoa nimepitia changamoto kwa huyu mume wangu.Kiufupi anapenda starehe pombe kwa sana na company za washikaji.Me sio mnywaji wala sitoki kiivo nikitoka job ni home kuangalia watoto na nyumba.Kiufupi ni mke mwema flan!!yes najiamini kwa hilo.Jamaa nishafumania msg za wanawake mara kibao ila naishia kusamehe na sikuwahi kuwaza kulipiza.Huwa nasali sana nikipitia hizi changamoto na Mungu ananivusha salama.
Sasa basi kilichonifanya nilete huu uzi jamvini ni situation niliyonayo now.Kiufupi miezi km 6 iliyopita nimekutana na jamaa ktk kazi flani.Jamaa ana mvuto na alikua ananipa attention flan ivi throughout..Tuliclick haraka sana tukawa close.Ilitokea tu sijui kwa nn..Nilinotice jamaa ananicare vby sana. Mwanzo nilichukulia poa ila siku zilivoendelea kwenda nikaanza kumfeel taratibu.
The eye contact was awkward btn us na imefika mahali najiona nashindwa kuresist.Nikiwa nae under one room nashindwa kabisa napoteza uchangamfu naishiwa pozi kbs.Jamaa anaonyesha interest za wazi ila najikaza knowing kwamba am married ataniona a cheap woman.
Huwa tunaongea mambo mengi na ananieleza issues zake kibao.Kuna siku alinifungukia ila nikavunga nikamwambia its better tuwe mbalimbali coz me ni mke wa mtu na siwezi cheat on my husband.Baada ya hapo akanikaushia km wiki.Aisee nilikonda kwa mawazo.Baadae tukaanza kuwasiliana upya na jamaa anaomba kidate na mm anataka tuspend tym wawili.Kashanialika kwake mara kibao nachomoa.Imefika mahali najiona ntashindwa huko tunakoelekea siko.
Kiufupi kinachonitatiza ni haya yafuatayo:
1.jamaa anajua me ni mke wa mtu so its obvious anataka game tu hakuna mapenzi.
2.Since ni coworker baada ya game ntamwangaliaje ofcn?
3.Naogopa reputation yangu among my workmates wakijua nimetoka na jamaa since wanaume hawana siri.Aisee mi ni mdada nayejiheshimu na wananiona nina bonge la mume.
4.Namfeel mno jamaa na siimagine kupotezea hizi feeling.Ni mtu anayenifanya niwe happy muda wote,confident about myself na I feel lyk a woman again.
Wakuu nisaidieni namna nitakavyohandle hii situation maana naumia kiukweli natamani niuridhishe moyo wangu ila nawaza consequence,kumpotezea jamaa nashindwa naumia at the same time sitaki kuharibu maisha yangu.
hahahhhVzur tu mbona... Try me
Nashukuru sana kwa mawazo yako na pia kutonihukumu km wengine.Najua hii sio sawa na wala sitakiwi kufanya moyo unachonisukuma.Ningeamua kufanya ningefanya wala nisingekuja kujianika hapa jamvini.Ila nimejifunza kwamba ujasiri wangu wa kuomba ushauri hapa umenisaidia.Najisikia mwepesi km nimetua mzigo mzito.Na nimepata ujasiri wa kukabiliana na hili.Only because nimeshare.Walionitukana siwalaumu kwani ni mawazo yao pia.pole sana, kesi yako juu ya matendo ya mumeo sio ya kwanza. Natoa lawama kubwa kwa wanaume wenzangu kwa matendo mabaya tunayowatendea wake zetu. Kuna rafiki zangu wa kike well educated with very high profile jobs lakini wanashida na wanaume zao kama zako kupelekea kuchanganyikiwa na wengine ninavyoongea wameshavunja mahusiano ya ndoa. Wanawake wengi mmekua waadilifu na wengi wanaobadilika tabia katika ndoa husababishwa na waume zao. Waume hasa generation hii, huendeleza tabia zao za kabla ya kuoa ikiwepo kujali zaidi na kuthamini marafiki na kutumia muda mwingi na marafiki kuliko rafiki zao, kurudi nyumbani usiku wa manane kila siku, kutoka out zaidi na marafiki kuliko wake zao. Kunywa pombe kipita kiasi kupelekea low sperm count na kushindwa ku perform home. Kudharau wake na kufanya ngono sana nje na kushindwa kuwaridhisha wake zao. Mbaya zaidi hawatunzi familia kabisa hususani pale wake zao wanapokuwa na kazi za maana huwa ni mzigo mkubwa kwa wanawake. Imefikia mahali mwanamke hasa msomi economically independent anauma kuwa na maisha mapya. Mjini hapo, wale wasioweza kutoka kwenye ndoa wanatunza ndoazao kwakuwa na relathionships nje ya ndoa ambazo huwa zinawariwadha sana na kuwafanya wajione wanawake kama unavyojisikiawewe. Inafika mahali mwanaume hawala ndio anamshughulikia mke wa mtu kwa kila kitu hata kumpeleka kliniki mwanamke anapokuwa mjamzito. Kwakweli, sisi wanaume wa sasa ni shida tumebaki kudai haki zetu na heshima wakati hatutimizi wajibu wetu. Wanaume tunapaswa kuelewa kuwa it is our primary responsibility ku take care of our family for one hundred percent regardless of wife's financial muscles, mwanamke akiwa na mali ni added advantage lakini tunapaswa kumlisha, kumvisha, malazi, matibabu, elimukwa watoto, tujifunze kutokuwa tegemezi au kusaidiwa wajibu wetu na wake zetu.
Sasa wewe dadangu kwa kesi yako sikulaumu kwakuwa mumeo ndiye aliyekusababishia hivyo and believe me mumeo hawizi kubadilika wako wengi wa aina hiyo. Huyo jamaa yako uliyefall ni mtihani sana kwako kwakuwa mnafanyakazi pamoja. Nimeona na nina marafiki wengi wa kike ambao ndo zao hazifai kabisa wanaishi maisha ya kuwa na boyfriends ila hawafanyikazi pamoja. Sikushauri uwe nae huyo jamaa kwakuwa lazima itafahamika tu na utapoteza integrity yako na heshimu ebu jitahidi kujizua ingawa ni ngumu. Pole sana
Nawashukuru kwa mawazo yenu wapendwa.Napata nguvu ya kulishinda hili jaribu
Thank u so much,U r appreciated!They say, A woman is Strong... And yes your darling....keep that Satan away. Pray every moments ...and don't allow your feelings to drag you to the empty pit of shame.
Mkuu hio movie inaitwaje ?Angalia hio movie unaweza kujifunza kitu kwasababu ipo kama yanayakukuta.
Aisee nmechekaaaa.This chap behaves like my wife.....
Maybe she's the one.
Mungu anakuona mama kayaiii.
AsanteeAngalia hio movie unaweza kujifunza kitu kwasababu ipo kama yanayakukuta.
Temptation: Confessions of a Marriage CounselorMkuu hio movie inaitwaje ?