Mke wangu ana tatizo kubwa msaada please

[KikulachoChako]

hapana uo co ushauri wa kumshauri mwenzio, co lazima kila uzi ucoment

Na wewe sio lazima kila comment ui quote...zingine unaweza zikaushia kwani hujaombwa kuquote....

 

[KIWAVI]

Ndugu wanajamvi.

Ndoa yangu imekuwa na mtikisiko kidogo ambao kwa kiasi fulani unanipa shida hivyo nakuona kama vile mke wangu hanifai kwa sasa.

Anaonekana ana tatizo la kisaikolojia na hivyo kugeuza jambo lolote analoambiwa kuwa negative yaani kila jambo analiona kwa mtazamo hasi.

Mfano anaweza kuwa amekosea then nikamwambia mke wangu hapa umekosea basi yatatoka maneno kumi, yaani mimi namnyanyasa, na mengine mengi.

Mwanzoni nilikuwa nachukia mpaka nampiga lakini nilivyoona bado hajirekebishi nakaanza kutafuta nini chanzo hasa,
nikajaribu kuchunguza pengine ameanza kuchepuka hakuonekana hivyo.

Pengine marafiki zake wanamjaza ujinga nikagundua hapana. Nikajaribu kufuatilia historia yake vizuri jinsi alivyo zaliwa na jinsi alivyolelewa.

Nilichokigundua wazazi wake yaani mama baba walifariki akiwa mdogo sana na hivyo kuishi na shangazi yake, lakini shangazi yake akawa anatreat vibaya hata na ndugu wengine wakawa kama vile hawamthamini

Aliamua kutoka kwa shangazi yake kwa kukimbia na kwenda kuishi kwa mama yake mdogo.
Lakini nako kukawa hivyo hivyo.

Sasa amekuwa hivyo kwenye akili akajijengea kwamba yeye hakuna wa kumthamini, hata ni kimkosea anatoa maneno ya kukata tamaa hivyo lakini namuomba msamaha then anakuwa sawa.

Naombeni ushauri nini nifanye maana kumpeleka kwa wanasaikolojia nahisi ataona kama nimetoa mambo yake nje. Anasumbuliwa na kitu asichokijua yeye.

Muache atatia adabu

 

[Malafyale]

nitonye
Hadi ukawa unampiga mkeo?Hivi ukimpiga mkeo then ukataka unyumba labda siku 3 zijazo manjonjo kitandani yanakuwa yale yale?Heshima inakuwa ile ile?

Huwa najiuliza sana swali hili bila majibu

 

[Mjamaa1]

kosea kujenga...
ila usikosee kuoa/kuolewa

Toa usauri wewe.

 

[Ziada]

Pole sana, ongeza upendo anapokosea jaribu kumrekebisha kwa upendo japo ni kazi .

 

[Diplomatic Imunnity]

Ndugu wanajamvi.

Ndoa yangu imekuwa na mtikisiko kidogo ambao kwa kiasi fulani unanipa shida hivyo nakuona kama vile mke wangu hanifai kwa sasa.

Anaonekana ana tatizo la kisaikolojia na hivyo kugeuza jambo lolote analoambiwa kuwa negative yaani kila jambo analiona kwa mtazamo hasi.

Mfano anaweza kuwa amekosea then nikamwambia mke wangu hapa umekosea basi yatatoka maneno kumi, yaani mimi namnyanyasa, na mengine mengi.

Mwanzoni nilikuwa nachukia mpaka nampiga lakini nilivyoona bado hajirekebishi nakaanza kutafuta nini chanzo hasa,
nikajaribu kuchunguza pengine ameanza kuchepuka hakuonekana hivyo.

Pengine marafiki zake wanamjaza ujinga nikagundua hapana. Nikajaribu kufuatilia historia yake vizuri jinsi alivyo zaliwa na jinsi alivyolelewa.

Nilichokigundua wazazi wake yaani mama baba walifariki akiwa mdogo sana na hivyo kuishi na shangazi yake, lakini shangazi yake akawa anatreat vibaya hata na ndugu wengine wakawa kama vile hawamthamini

Aliamua kutoka kwa shangazi yake kwa kukimbia na kwenda kuishi kwa mama yake mdogo.
Lakini nako kukawa hivyo hivyo.

Sasa amekuwa hivyo kwenye akili akajijengea kwamba yeye hakuna wa kumthamini, hata ni kimkosea anatoa maneno ya kukata tamaa hivyo lakini namuomba msamaha then anakuwa sawa.

Naombeni ushauri nini nifanye maana kumpeleka kwa wanasaikolojia nahisi ataona kama nimetoa mambo yake nje. Anasumbuliwa na kitu asichokijua yeye.

Mtwange talaka ili.akili imkae sawa teh teh

 

[mumemwema]

Ndugu wanajamvi.

Ndoa yangu imekuwa na mtikisiko kidogo ambao kwa kiasi fulani unanipa shida hivyo nakuona kama vile mke wangu hanifai kwa sasa.

Anaonekana ana tatizo la kisaikolojia na hivyo kugeuza jambo lolote analoambiwa kuwa negative yaani kila jambo analiona kwa mtazamo hasi.

Mfano anaweza kuwa amekosea then nikamwambia mke wangu hapa umekosea basi yatatoka maneno kumi, yaani mimi namnyanyasa, na mengine mengi.

Mwanzoni nilikuwa nachukia mpaka nampiga lakini nilivyoona bado hajirekebishi nakaanza kutafuta nini chanzo hasa,
nikajaribu kuchunguza pengine ameanza kuchepuka hakuonekana hivyo.

Pengine marafiki zake wanamjaza ujinga nikagundua hapana. Nikajaribu kufuatilia historia yake vizuri jinsi alivyo zaliwa na jinsi alivyolelewa.

Nilichokigundua wazazi wake yaani mama baba walifariki akiwa mdogo sana na hivyo kuishi na shangazi yake, lakini shangazi yake akawa anatreat vibaya hata na ndugu wengine wakawa kama vile hawamthamini

Aliamua kutoka kwa shangazi yake kwa kukimbia na kwenda kuishi kwa mama yake mdogo.
Lakini nako kukawa hivyo hivyo.

Sasa amekuwa hivyo kwenye akili akajijengea kwamba yeye hakuna wa kumthamini, hata ni kimkosea anatoa maneno ya kukata tamaa hivyo lakini namuomba msamaha then anakuwa sawa.

Naombeni ushauri nini nifanye maana kumpeleka kwa wanasaikolojia nahisi ataona kama nimetoa mambo yake nje. Anasumbuliwa na kitu asichokijua yeye.

Pole sana kwa yaliyokukuta ndoani . Dear kiukweli hata wewe pia ulikuwa na makosa ya kukimbilia kumpiga mkeo bila hata ya kukaa nae chini na kumuuliza what went wrong through her life . Hukumtendea haki before and please kumpiga mwanamke hakumjengi bali kuna mmbomoa sana tuu ingawaje wengi wao wanajua hili ila wanajifanya wababe. Haya hayo yamepita .
Now I want to tell one thing and secret for us women after went through abused and trials. Kwa experience ya mkeo inafanana kidogo na yangu ingawaje we are two different people , from different back ground . The secret kumfanya mkeo awe normal is to Love her complete , unconditional thats all she needs after her trauma , she needs you to stand up by her side assure her that everything will be okay and no body will ever hurt her anymore because you will protect her no matter what . Hebu siku moja mchukue na kumpeleka sehemu tulivu ukiwa yeye na wewe tuu . Mueleze na kumuonyesha kuwa you do understand the trauma she went through and you are there for now just to love her . I can see and feel your wife still has anger and hate for what she went through . She feels that all people are the same and they will never treat her right . Which is not true but you have to understand that all people who have been abused most of them will feel that way ,as a victim in every situation and circumstances . My dear Try to earn Trust from her by just loving her, appreciate her, protect her from the people who made her suffered or will try to hurt her again by standing up by her side always . This will help her to be more open to you and confess how she feels now . By the time goes by she will learn to trust you , and share a lot of things about what happened from the past . And while she will confess , please don't try to stop her , the only thing you will need to do is to listen , have sympathy for her and assure her that you will always be there for her no matter what . Please don't judge or ignore her , just love her and everything will eventually be okay . Thanks .

 

[Dina]

Siku nyingine akianza maneno yake mpige na kitu kizito maana huyo anaonekana kuwa anataka kukupanda kichwani......

Kwema bro? Isije ikawa nawe unahitaji msaada wa kisaikolojia, wadada walikufanya nini?...

 

[nitonye]

Pole sana kwa yaliyokukuta ndoani . Dear kiukweli hata wewe pia ulikuwa na makosa ya kukimbilia kumpiga mkeo bila hata ya kukaa nae chini na kumuuliza what went wrong through her life . Hukumtendea haki before and please kumpiga mwanamke hakumjengi bali kuna mmbomoa sana tuu ingawaje wengi wao wanajua hili ila wanajifanya wababe. Haya hayo yamepita .
Now I want to tell one thing and secret for us women after went through abused and trials. Kwa experience ya mkeo inafanana kidogo na yangu ingawaje we are two different people , from different back ground . The secret kumfanya mkeo awe normal is to Love her complete , unconditional thats all she needs after her trauma , she needs you to stand up by her side assure her that everything will be okay and no body will ever hurt her anymore because you will protect her no matter what . Hebu siku moja mchukue na kumpeleka sehemu tulivu ukiwa yeye na wewe tuu . Mueleze na kumuonyesha kuwa you do understand the trauma she went through and you are there for now just to love her . I can see and feel your wife still has anger and hate for what she went through . She feels that all people are the same and they will never treat her right . Which is not true but you have to understand that all people who have been abused most of them will feel that way ,as a victim in every situation and circumstances . My dear Try to earn Trust from her by just loving her, appreciate her, protect her from the people who made her suffered or will try to hurt her again by standing up by her side always . This will help her to be more open to you and confess how she feels now . By the time goes by she will learn to trust you , and share a lot of things about what happened from the past . And while she will confess , please don't try to stop her , the only thing you will need to do is to listen , have sympathy for her and assure her that you will always be there for her no matter what . Please don't judge or ignore her , just love her and everything will eventually be okay . Thanks .

thanks so much for useful advice, nitaufanyia kazi ushauri wako

 

[Kahinda]

Ndugu wanajamvi.

Ndoa yangu imekuwa na mtikisiko kidogo ambao kwa kiasi fulani unanipa shida hivyo nakuona kama vile mke wangu hanifai kwa sasa.

Anaonekana ana tatizo la kisaikolojia na hivyo kugeuza jambo lolote analoambiwa kuwa negative yaani kila jambo analiona kwa mtazamo hasi.

Mfano anaweza kuwa amekosea then nikamwambia mke wangu hapa umekosea basi yatatoka maneno kumi, yaani mimi namnyanyasa, na mengine mengi.

Mwanzoni nilikuwa nachukia mpaka nampiga lakini nilivyoona bado hajirekebishi nakaanza kutafuta nini chanzo hasa,
nikajaribu kuchunguza pengine ameanza kuchepuka hakuonekana hivyo.

Pengine marafiki zake wanamjaza ujinga nikagundua hapana. Nikajaribu kufuatilia historia yake vizuri jinsi alivyo zaliwa na jinsi alivyolelewa.

Nilichokigundua wazazi wake yaani mama baba walifariki akiwa mdogo sana na hivyo kuishi na shangazi yake, lakini shangazi yake akawa anatreat vibaya hata na ndugu wengine wakawa kama vile hawamthamini

Aliamua kutoka kwa shangazi yake kwa kukimbia na kwenda kuishi kwa mama yake mdogo.
Lakini nako kukawa hivyo hivyo.

Sasa amekuwa hivyo kwenye akili akajijengea kwamba yeye hakuna wa kumthamini, hata ni kimkosea anatoa maneno ya kukata tamaa hivyo lakini namuomba msamaha then anakuwa sawa.

Naombeni ushauri nini nifanye maana kumpeleka kwa wanasaikolojia nahisi ataona kama nimetoa mambo yake nje. Anasumbuliwa na kitu asichokijua yeye.

Wanawake wameumbwa kupokea na kisha kuzidisha kile ulichompa na kukurudishia.
1. Ukimpa nyanya,kitunguu,nyama atakupa mboga.
2.Ukimpa sentensi hukurudishia paragraph
3.Ukimpa mbegu(sperms) hukupa mtoto.
4.Ukimpa moto atakurudishi tanuru la moto.
Hivyo mara zote mwanamke hukurudishia kile ulichompa akiwa amekizidisha.
Wanaume tunashauriwa kuangalia ni nini tunawapa wake/wanawake zetu kwani unachompa ndo anachokurudishia siku zote.

 

[nitonye]

Tatizo lako dogo sana.

Haumridhishi, Haumfikishi.

Jitahidi.

Nitaufanyia kazi ushauri wako

 

[KikulachoChako]

Kwema bro? Isije ikawa nawe unahitaji msaada wa kisaikolojia, wadada walikufanya nini?...

Hawajanifanya kitu..........

 

[SHIEKA]

Zidisha mapenzi.

Ah Karucee! Unajibu kwa kifupi hivyo pamoja na masaikolojia yako yote!

 

[nitonye]

Mtwange talaka ili.akili imkae sawa teh teh

Haitasaidia kitu bali itazidisha tatizo

 

[SHIEKA]

Pole sana kwa yaliyokukuta ndoani . Dear kiukweli hata wewe pia ulikuwa na makosa ya kukimbilia kumpiga mkeo bila hata ya kukaa nae chini na kumuuliza what went wrong through her life . Hukumtendea haki before and please kumpiga mwanamke hakumjengi bali kuna mmbomoa sana tuu ingawaje wengi wao wanajua hili ila wanajifanya wababe. Haya hayo yamepita .
Now I want to tell one thing and secret for us women after went through abused and trials. Kwa experience ya mkeo inafanana kidogo na yangu ingawaje we are two different people , from different back ground . The secret kumfanya mkeo awe normal is to Love her complete , unconditional thats all she needs after her trauma , she needs you to stand up by her side assure her that everything will be okay and no body will ever hurt her anymore because you will protect her no matter what . Hebu siku moja mchukue na kumpeleka sehemu tulivu ukiwa yeye na wewe tuu . Mueleze na kumuonyesha kuwa you do understand the trauma she went through and you are there for now just to love her . I can see and feel your wife still has anger and hate for what she went through . She feels that all people are the same and they will never treat her right . Which is not true but you have to understand that all people who have been abused most of them will feel that way ,as a victim in every situation and circumstances . My dear Try to earn Trust from her by just loving her, appreciate her, protect her from the people who made her suffered or will try to hurt her again by standing up by her side always . This will help her to be more open to you and confess how she feels now . By the time goes by she will learn to trust you , and share a lot of things about what happened from the past . And while she will confess , please don't try to stop her , the only thing you will need to do is to listen , have sympathy for her and assure her that you will always be there for her no matter what . Please don't judge or ignore her , just love her and everything will eventually be okay . Thanks .

A very professional advice!Whoever sent the problem should take this advice.

 

[Kotmiri]

nitonye haya maisha alopitia mkeo usiombe yakukute, yasikie tu hivyo hivyo, kuna watu duniani wana roho
za unafik na ukatili sana in treating people, mm hayo maisha nimeya experience kwa namna 2, first mm mwenyewe ni mhanga na second
nimewahi kua na mpenzi aliye athirika mfano wa mkeo, kwanza watu wa type hii hua hawana kabisa upendo in their heart..... Ni ngumu sana kuishi na watu kama hao, sikukatishi tamaa ila jaribu sana kufata ushauri alokupa loveissweet na Mungu atakusaidia

 

[iJamii]

Ndugu wanajamvi.

Ndoa yangu imekuwa na mtikisiko kidogo ambao kwa kiasi fulani unanipa shida hivyo nakuona kama vile mke wangu hanifai kwa sasa.

Anaonekana ana tatizo la kisaikolojia na hivyo kugeuza jambo lolote analoambiwa kuwa negative yaani kila jambo analiona kwa mtazamo hasi.

Mfano anaweza kuwa amekosea then nikamwambia mke wangu hapa umekosea basi yatatoka maneno kumi, yaani mimi namnyanyasa, na mengine mengi.

Mwanzoni nilikuwa nachukia mpaka nampiga lakini nilivyoona bado hajirekebishi nakaanza kutafuta nini chanzo hasa,
nikajaribu kuchunguza pengine ameanza kuchepuka hakuonekana hivyo.

Pengine marafiki zake wanamjaza ujinga nikagundua hapana. Nikajaribu kufuatilia historia yake vizuri jinsi alivyo zaliwa na jinsi alivyolelewa.

Nilichokigundua wazazi wake yaani mama baba walifariki akiwa mdogo sana na hivyo kuishi na shangazi yake, lakini shangazi yake akawa anatreat vibaya hata na ndugu wengine wakawa kama vile hawamthamini

Aliamua kutoka kwa shangazi yake kwa kukimbia na kwenda kuishi kwa mama yake mdogo.
Lakini nako kukawa hivyo hivyo.

Sasa amekuwa hivyo kwenye akili akajijengea kwamba yeye hakuna wa kumthamini, hata ni kimkosea anatoa maneno ya kukata tamaa hivyo lakini namuomba msamaha then anakuwa sawa.

Naombeni ushauri nini nifanye maana kumpeleka kwa wanasaikolojia nahisi ataona kama nimetoa mambo yake nje. Anasumbuliwa na kitu asichokijua yeye.

Nnakushauri jaribu kwenda nae kwa watoa ushauri nasaha maana inaonyesha mkeo ana tatizo kubwa la kisaikolojia so ukimpeleka kwenye watu ambao wamesomea masuala hayo watakuwa wa msaada mkubwa sana kwako na kukusaidia kuokoa ndoa yako

 

[PetCash]

Watu wengi huingia kwenye ndoa wameshavurugwa na maisha. Life is so messed up. Huyo ni kujaribu kusoma naye articles za saikolojia. Jitahidi akuamini, ajue unampenda sana na ajue ana thamani sana kwako. Don't ever beat a grown up person!
Hamna kitu kiachomshusha mtu self esteem kama hali ya kuona umri umeenda lakini bado akili ni za kitoto kiasi cha kustahili kuadhibiwa like a little naughty girl. Yani yeye na watoto wa jirani ambao wakikosa wanachapwa wana tofauti gani?

I may agree kuwa wanawake wanakosea (kama sisi tunavyokose). Lakini siungi mkono hata kidogo kumpiga mtu mzima na akili zake. Yani unamuumiza sana kisaikolojia

 

[nitonye]

nitonye na Tigga Mumba nimewapenda bureee

Really?

 

[Leak]

Siku ulipokosea ni pale ulipoamua kumpiga mkeo ukidhani litakuwa suluhu.