Is it true?.... Please enlighten me!

[MwanajamiiOne]

Hellow fellows JF members

I just want to verify this saying: Eti is it true that marriage starts after five (5) years after marrying one another?............. Eti they say wanandoa katika miaka mitano ya kwanza huwa wanagombana sana na msipokuwa wavumilivu ndoa nyingi huvunjika within hii miaka mi 5 ya kwanza. Ikishapita ah mambo yanakuwa sawia je ni kweli?

 

[WomanOfSubstance]

Hellow fellows JF members

I just want to verify this saying: Eti is it true that marriage starts after five (5) years after marrying one another?............. Eti they say wanandoa katika miaka mitano ya kwanza huwa wanagombana sana na msipokuwa wavumilivu ndoa nyingi huvunjika within hii miaka mi 5 ya kwanza. Ikishapita ah mambo yanakuwa sawia je ni kweli?

labda miaka 7 -kila baada ya miaka 7 kuna the itch!

 

[uporoto01]

Sijui wengine watakua na mawazo gani lakini mi tulianza kugombana na mke wangu baada ya miaka 12.

 

[MwanajamiiOne]

labda miaka 7 -kila baada ya miaka 7 kuna the itch!

Womanofsubstance.. I salute you my sister.

So its seven and not five duh..... I have a long way then.

 

[MwanajamiiOne]

Sijui wengine watakua na mawazo gani lakini mi tulianza kugombana na mke wangu baada ya miaka 12.

lagatege..... how did you guys managed? yangu its sucking maana mh

 

[WomanOfSubstance]

Womanofsubstance.. I salute you my sister.

So its seven and not five duh..... I have a long way then.

Just hang in there!

 

[Kipanga]

lagatege..... how did you guys managed? yangu its sucking maana mh

....There is no guarantee guys...inategemea na nyinyi wanandoa wenyewe mbona kuna rafiki zangu wawili ndoa zao zilivunjika ndani ya miaka 2 tu? Mimi mpaka sasa ni 8 years nasonga mbele licha ya ups and downs za hapa na pale ambazo ni jambo la kawaida kabisa.

So people haya mambo yasiwaumize kichwa sana kama umeamua kuoa au kuolewa basi you have to accept that na ubadilike accordingly. Kitu kikubwa nilichogundua ambacho huchangia ndoa kuyumba wengi wa wanandoa kutokuwa tayari kukubali kuwa ukishaoa au kuolewa unatakiwa kusahau kabisa your past. Kama ulikuwa na girl friend (s) au boy friend (s) kwa kweli bila kuwatema hao kuna uwezekano mkubwa wakakuyumbisha katika ndoa yako. Uzoefu unaonyesha kuwa jamaa akigundua umeoa au kuolewa kuna tendency ya kukumbukia zama zile kuwa mlipendana na kuzoeana so na mawasiliano yanaendelea mwisho mwenza anagundua songombingo linaanzia hapo.

Kwa mtazamo wangu hakuna jambo linaloleta shida katika ndoa kama mke au mume akigundua mwenza anamsaliti. Matatizo mengine yote kama matumizi ya pesa sijui, vitu gani ni mambo yanayoweza kuzungumzika na mtu aka-reform.

So people if you are planning for marriage habari ndio hiyo!!!!!

 

[uporoto01]

lagatege..... how did you guys managed? yangu its sucking maana mh

Anasoma nje ya nchi kwa sasa nategemea akirudi labda tuanze ukurasa mpya.

 

[Son of Alaska]

hata mkifumaniana,just turn a blind eye,hata mkipigana give him/her the other cheek to slap this ndoa will last an eternity.

 

[Kipanga]

hata mkifumaniana,just turn a blind eye,hata mkipigana give him/her the other cheek to slap this ndoa will last an eternity.

...Son of alaska can you dare to do that???

 

[Buswelu]

Mhh jamani ndoa ngumu lakini watu wanaenda tu.....sipati picha nikiona....mwenza anaendelea na mambo zamani na boy/f wake...kwani anapo amua kuoana nawe basi kaachana na mengine yote...

 

[Sam GM]

Nafikiri hapa itabidi ufigure out ya kwako unataka iwe vipi kwa sababu ukweli ni kuwa hakuna direction au manuscript katika ndoa ni jinsi ninyi wenye hiyo ndoa mtakavyoona manataka iwe, kama shari yawezekana na kama amani yawezekana pia! si rahisi ku-copy ndoa ya mtu ikawa ya kwako watu tuko tofauti.

 

[Tonga]

Nafikiri hapa itabidi ufigure out ya kwako unataka iwe vipi kwa sababu ukweli ni kuwa hakuna direction au manuscript katika ndoa ni jinsi ninyi wenye hiyo ndoa mtakavyoona manataka iwe, kama shari yawezekana na kama amani yawezekana pia! si rahisi ku-copy ndoa ya mtu ikawa ya kwako watu tuko tofauti.

Ndoa hazina formula kama alivyosema gm, just marry the love of your life and make sure is only love brings you together and live from there. Mikwaruzano ipo na sidhani kama ina muda halisi wa kutokea ila ni sehemu ya kuwa pamoja na kama mnapendna kweli mtashinda. Ila inaonyesha kuwa ndoa za siku hizi zina mikwaruzano sana nashangaa wazazi wetu waliwezaje kuishi miaka yote hii pamoja, i trully admire them!

 

[miss chagga]

ndoa kazi kweli kweli

 

[ERoni]

ndoa kazi kweli kweli

Kwani upo kwenye ndoa tayari?

 

[miss chagga]

Kwani upo kwenye ndoa tayari?

si ninasoma 2008 kumbe watu walikuwa na misukosuko

 

[DuppyConqueror]

si ninasoma 2008 kumbe watu walikuwa na misukosuko

Misukosuko ya ndoa duniani iliisha decade/ miaka kumi ya kwanza ya 2000s...so after 2010, ndoa zimekuwa raha sana

 

[miss chagga]

Misukosuko ya ndoa duniani iliisha decade/ miaka kumi ya kwanza ya 2000s...so after 2010, ndoa zimekuwa raha sana

ha ha ha ha nafanya investigation pole pole humu humu ndani nitakuita

 

[Ligogoma]

Hellow fellows JF members

I just want to verify this saying: Eti is it true that marriage starts after five (5) years after marrying one another?............. Eti they say wanandoa katika miaka mitano ya kwanza huwa wanagombana sana na msipokuwa wavumilivu ndoa nyingi huvunjika within hii miaka mi 5 ya kwanza. Ikishapita ah mambo yanakuwa sawia je ni kweli?

Possibly, ingawa si wote wanaopitia changamoto hii!! Na halii hii inatokana na ukweli kwamba kila mtu anajua keshampata mwenzio so anaishi maisha yake ya kiasili I mean kama ni mlevi basi atakunywa sana!! Kama ni malaya basi ndo utamuona vizuri si keshakupata bana!!

Mmoja akiwa si mvumilivu basi atasepa na ndo mwisho wa ndoa!!

Inayodumu ni ile ambayo mmekubali kufanana, una tabia inayomkera mwenzio unaiacha sababu yake!! Hasa ikizingatiwa kuwa kila mmoja kazaliwa, kulelewa na kuishi kivyake mmekutana ukubwani na kupendana

 

[ERoni]

si ninasoma 2008 kumbe watu walikuwa na misukosuko

Aah kumbe, afu unaonekana kuogopa misukosuko ya ndoa weye!!