DEALING WITH AN ANGRY PATRTNER.

[joshydama]

Hello Ladies and Gentlemen. Hope the thread finds you well.

An esteemed members of JF,I would like to know how to deal with an angry partner as it is titled hereinabove. Sometimes, It's hard to be in relationship with someone who is angered easily for no reason, kibaya Zaidi Hata kwa mambo ambayo siyo ya kukasirika wao wananuna tu mfano ukimwambia ukiweli au kumkosoa kuhusu kitu Fulani ananuna why?

Hii tabia ipo sana kwa dada zetu mfano mnaweza mkawa manatoka out or wherever sasa akawa amevaa nguo ambayo haina maadilia au haujaipenda ukimwambia tu ananuna utasikia "kamtafute ambaye anajua kuvaa vizuri utoke nae"

kwnini huwa mnanuna mkiambiwa ukweli? kwani ukweli una nini? kwanini hamtaki kukosolewa?

Tupeane uzoefu jinsi ya kuishi na wanawake wale wanaopenda kununanuna bila sababu au kwa sababu umemkosoa au umemwambia ukweli.

 

[mbalizi1]

Hello Ladies and Gentlemen. Hope the thread finds you well.

An esteemed members of JF,I would like to know how to deal with an angry partner as it is titled hereinabove. Sometimes, It's hard to be in relationship with someone who is angered easily for no reason, kibaya Zaidi Hata kwa mambo ambayo siyo ya kukasirika yeye yumo tu mfano ukimwambia ukiweli au kumkosoa kuhusu kitu Fulani ananuna.

Hii tabia ipo sana kwa dada zetu mfano mnaweza mkawa manatoka out or wherever sasa akawa amevaa nguo ambayo haina maadilia au haujaipenda ukimwambia tu ananuna utasikia "kamtafuteambaye anavaa vizuri utoke nae"

Mariam alikuwa na tabia hiyo, siku moja tunajiandaa kutoka out akanipigia umin wa kufa mtu nikamwambia sijawahi kuona hata ukiwa tu na nguo kama hiyo umeitoa wapi? Akafyumu na kunipa majibu kama hayo uliyosema, nikamshika mkono nikamkokota hadi chumbani, tupa kitandani vua visepe vyake nikamtandika mshedede wa takribani masaa manne hivi( mwanzoni alikuwa anagoma goma flani) lakini baada ya muda mchache akaanza kutoa ushirikiano anakata mauno kama katumwa vile ,kuja kumshushia zigo la shahawa akalala na usingizi palepale mazima ,nikaondoka zangu nimerudi saa kumi bado yupo fofofo usingizini, subuhi kulipokucha nikamtandika tena masaa kama mawili hivi simkojolei wala sishuki- akaomba msamaha akaahidi hatorudia tena na alitekeleza ahadi yake

 

[Tized]

Youngman; I am afraid to say, you are all but the problem you see in her.

Unawezaje kumwambia mtu hujapendeza,? can you take that?
Kama hajapendeza, usimwambie hajapendeza
Just suggest avaeje au avae nini "kuwa itampeneza zadi"

How you say something matters a lot.
She may forget what you say but not how you made her feel.

Acha philosofia na dhana za "kusema ukweli" pembeni, She will never get it either
If you can not be reasonable and diplomatic, keep your mouth shut on negative comments.

Never criticize before you praise; trike while the iron is hot.

 

[heartbeats]

Unamwambia kwanza umependezaa alafu baadae unamsugest nguo ambazo atapendezea zaidi, ila wale wenye hasira na dharahau dawa yao ni dushe tu nilishawahi fanya ivo inasaidia hata kam si demu wako

 

[SK2016]

Mariam alikuwa na tabia hiyo, siku moja tunajiandaa kutoka out akanipigia umin wa kufa mtu nikamwambia sijawahi kuona hata ukiwa tu na nguo kama hiyo umeitoa wapi? Akafyumu na kunipa majibu kama hayo uliyosema, nikamshika mkono nikamkokota hadi chumbani, tupa kitandani vua visepe vyake nikamtandika mshedede wa takribani masaa manne hivi( mwanzoni alikuwa anagoma goma flani) lakini baada ya muda mchache akaanza kutoa ushirikiano anakata mauno kama katumwa vile ,kuja kumshushia zigo la shahawa akalala na usingizi palepale mazima ,nikaondoka zangu nimerudi saa kumi bado yupo fofofo usingizini, subuhi kulipokucha nikamtandika tena masaa kama mawili hivi simkojolei wala sishuki- akaomba msamaha akaahidi hatorudia tena na alitekeleza ahadi yake

Umeongea kwa utani ila umesema ukweli ambao watu wanaweza kuukejeli.

Hii mbinu niliwahi kuitumia kumuadhibu ke aliyekuwa ameniudhi hadi aliahidi kutorudia na heshima iliongezeka hadi kesho, nikimpigia simu anakuja mbioo. Maana haikuwa kawaida.

Akili yake ilimtuma kuwa ningempiga kwa fimbo au makofi na alijua lazima siku hiyo aadhibiwe. Ila alichopatata; tofauti kabisa.

 

[DiasporaUSA]

Youngman; I am afraid to say, you are all but the problem you see in her.

Unawezaje kumwambia mtu hujapendeza,? can you take that?
Kama hajapendeza, usimwambie hajapendeza
Just suggest avaeje au avae nini "kuwa itampeneza zadi"

How you say something matters a lot.
She may forget what you say but not how you made her feel.

Acha philosofia na dhana za "kusema ukweli" pembeni, She will never get it either
If you can not be reasonable and diplomatic, keep your mouth shut on negative comments.

Never criticize before you praise; trike while the iron is hot.

Tunaweza pata swahili version ya hii comment , kiongozi ?

 

[Lets Share]

Mariam alikuwa na tabia hiyo, siku moja tunajiandaa kutoka out akanipigia umin wa kufa mtu nikamwambia sijawahi kuona hata ukiwa tu na nguo kama hiyo umeitoa wapi? Akafyumu na kunipa majibu kama hayo uliyosema, nikamshika mkono nikamkokota hadi chumbani, tupa kitandani vua visepe vyake nikamtandika mshedede wa takribani masaa manne hivi( mwanzoni alikuwa anagoma goma flani) lakini baada ya muda mchache akaanza kutoa ushirikiano anakata mauno kama katumwa vile ,kuja kumshushia zigo la shahawa akalala na usingizi palepale mazima ,nikaondoka zangu nimerudi saa kumi bado yupo fofofo usingizini, subuhi kulipokucha nikamtandika tena masaa kama mawili hivi simkojolei wala sishuki- akaomba msamaha akaahidi hatorudia tena na alitekeleza ahadi yake

Hiyo bangi sio ya Mbeya nina uhakika ulivuta ya Malawi 😂😂😂

 

[mbalizi1]

Hiyo bangi sio ya Mbeya nina uhakika ulivuta ya Malawi [emoji23][emoji23][emoji23]

Hawa viumbe ukiwabembeleza saaanaaaaaaa watakusumbua ndugu, unapima tu issue yenyewe kisha unachukulia maamuzi ya kiume. Ujue ile staili ya kifo cha mende kunako mtanange huwa ina maana kubwa sana ukiichukulia kwa uzito wake- kajiubabe fulani kale ka kibaba baba kana impact kubwa sana kwenye mahusiano

 

[mbalizi1]

Umeongea kwa utani ila umesema ukweli ambao watu wanaweza kuukejeli.

Hii mbinu niliwahi kuitumia kumuadhibu ke aliyekuwa ameniudhi hadi aliahidi kutorudia na heshima iliongezeka hadi kesho, nikimpigia simu anakuja mbioo. Maana haikuwa kawaida.

Akili yake ilimtuma kuwa ningempiga kwa fimbo au makofi na alijua lazima siku hiyo aadhibiwe. Ila alichopatata; tofauti kabisa.

Unamtifua kiasi kwamba unahakikisha nyegge mshindo(ambazo ndio huwapa kiburi na jeuri) unazikunyua zoooote anakojoa hadi atoke mapovu kisha inaanza kutoka hewa tu, sometimes anakata network unampepelea kwa mida kabla hajarejelea hali yake ,heshima inarudi sana tu

 

[Lets Share]

Hawa viumbe ukiwabembeleza saaanaaaaaaa watakusumbua ndugu, unapima tu issue yenyewe kisha unachukulia maamuzi ya kiume. Ujue ile staili ya kifo cha mende kunako mtanange huwa ina maana kubwa sana ukiichukulia kwa uzito wake- kajiubabe fulani kale ka kibaba baba kana impact kubwa sana kwenye mahusiano

😂😂😂😂🙌🏿🙌🏿
Umetisha sana hautakiwi utabirike

 

[BAK]

👊🏽👍🏽

Hawa viumbe ukiwabembeleza saaanaaaaaaa watakusumbua ndugu, unapima tu issue yenyewe kisha unachukulia maamuzi ya kiume. Ujue ile staili ya kifo cha mende kunako mtanange huwa ina maana kubwa sana ukiichukulia kwa uzito wake- kajiubabe fulani kale ka kibaba baba kana impact kubwa sana kwenye mahusiano

 

[mbalizi1]

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