Anakua? Uaminifu unapungua?

[Mentor]

Sio mtukutu kabisa. Ila anajiona kakua.

Alipokuwa mdogo nilikuwa nam-hug hadharani.Kama miaka 2 iliyopita alianza kukataa kum hug in public.

Ananichenga, nikilalamika ananijibu, nitaku hug tukifika nyumbani.

Siku hizi hata tuwe home, ananitizama kwa uso wa 'are you serious?'. Nikilakamika sana ndo ananihug kwa mbaaaaaaaaali, afu sekunde tu.

Hahaha i guess it's a phase...i think I remember this time too in my life where 'you want to do what's cool..what's normal to the world' after sometime lakini inaisha..muelewe tu kwa sasa.

Oh how I wish mama yangu angekuwa anaishi Posta kila nikija asubuhi nam-hug ndo naingia ofisini...if only we all knew back then!!!

Ila usiache kutaka kum-hug kila wakati...he may be going through growth change but don't go there with him!!!!

 

[Bill]

Bill, kuna kuwa mgomvi na kunakufuatilia mambo ya home. Mie nikijua kuna kitu lazima mhusika nimwambie, hata kama itahusisha kumkaripia.

Sijui hapo ndio natofautiana naye? Au ana mawenge yake?

Ninachokiona kwa haraka dada Kongosho mwanao hapendi ugomvi na hataki kuona mtu akigombezwa. Hebu jaribu hata mwezi mmoja ku-act au kuwa unamwelekeza mtu kwa utaratibu bila kumwambia kwa kumkaripia.

Shida hapa, naona wewe ni mkaripiaji sana.

 

[Gorgeousmimi]

jamani, sasa naye ana maamuzi gani?
Inaniumaje mie

Pole kwa kuchelewa kukujibu,namaanisha maamuzi yote kwa ujumla kama mfano hata yale masuala unayo mdadisi naye anaficha hapo amechukua maamuzi ya kutokukwambia…Anataka privacy na hizo ndio tabia za kiume mama sio kila kitu unalia lia na kusononeka,unatakiwa umezee tu kwahio be proud your boy is growing and he will turn into a fine young man inshallah!

 

[snowhite]

Leave him alone!He is grown man!Ww hakikisha anaenda shule na akirudi home anafanya home works zake!

Hayo ya kutaka kumdhibiti na afanye kila kitu unachotaka mtazidi kosana!Binti yangu namlea hivyo!!

grown man?

A ten years kid?
Should I leave him/her alone afanye vitu his way?
Chineeeeke!
Ngoja niendelee kuwa mama na sio mum!

 

[Suprise]

Mmh ,parentoship kazi , mungu ponya malaika wetu

 

[Mentor]

Mmh ,parentoship kazi , mungu ponya malaika wetu

Parenting!

 

[Kaunga]

Kwa maoni yangu bado mdogo mno kuwa brave kiasi hicho. Anyway watoto wanakua haraka sana siku hizi nafikiri ni mazingira yanawalazimisha.

Najaribu kutumia reference ya mwanangu, nakumbuka way back btn 2005 and 2007 wakati nikiwa ktk relationship ambayo ilikuwa abusive. Mwanangu alimuuliza uncle (baba kwake ni mmoja tu) kwanini unampiga mama. Nilikuja ambiwa hayo na niece wangu (cousin wake) some years later. Nikicheck umri alikuwa na si zaidi ya miaka 6.
Lakini, nina mahusiano mazuri ya kutosha na mwanangu. Ingawa now that he is a teenager najua siwezi pata story zote. But siachi jitihada za kuwa karibu. Siku moja moja ninalala naye chumbani. Hugs anazipenda na haoni aibu hata shuleni, in fact tukiwa tunatembea tunashikana begani au mikono as friends.

Akiwa likizo huwa najaribu kupitia inbox yake ya sms kujua kama keshaanza dating. Tulikubaliana asijiunge na facebook wala watsupp kwa muda and thanks kwa Emmanuel TV anaona jinsi watu waliokuwa na addiction na internet wanavyotoa shuhuda. Kifupi we are relatively closer.

So my dear, with Zombie in the way, kuna ile hali ya kumfanya mtoto akue na aanze kujitegemea. Pls show him kwamba mahusiano yenu mom to son hayaathiriki whatsoever.

 

[Kaunga]

grown man?

A ten years kid?
Should I leave him/her alone afanye vitu his way?
Chineeeeke!
Ngoja niendelee kuwa mama na sio mum!

Haha hahahah, nomeipenda hiyo tofauti ya mama na mum.
Kweli he is too young to act like this. Our Kongosho should be more of a friend to the boy. Aanze kuconfide na mtoto ili mtoto ajenge trust. Halafu mimi nahisi now that Zombie kawin, so our crazy in love sis amejisahau mazima.

 

[speechless]

1; Kuna wakati alienda kwa ndugu, nikamwagiza afanye jambo fulani, hakufanya. Nilipo muuliza kasema amesahau, nikamgombeza akaomba samahani yakaisha. Juzi juzi hapa katika maongezi akawa ananiambia asivyopenda kuwa sehemu ya ugomvi. Akanikumbusha hiki kisa na aliyoyakuta ugenini, akaamua kupotezea nilichomtuma. Akaniambia hakusema sababu hakutaka ugomvi.

2; Usiku huu dada kamuumiza bahati mbaya, nimemuuliza umefanyaje, kanijibu nimejiumiza huko jikoni.

* HAPA NDIPO PANAPOKUTENGANISHA NA MWANAO KAMA ULIVYOANDIKA; Note. Ndio mie ni mama mtata, ila ni rafiki wa wanangu. Sijui nakosea? HAPA NDIPO UNAPOKESEA! Unapokua mkali sana pengine huwa unachua hatua mbaya sana asizopenda kuziona akifanyiwa mtu mwingine so inabidi akinge kifua, nahisi umenielewa japo kidogo.

 

[snowhite]

Haha hahahah, nomeipenda hiyo tofauti ya mama na mum.
Kweli he is too young to act like this. Our Kongosho should be more of a friend to the boy. Aanze kuconfide na mtoto ili mtoto ajenge trust. Halafu mimi nahisi now that Zombie kawin, so our crazy in love sis amejisahau mazima.

Ipo hiyo tofauti aseeh!

Sikutaka kusema kuwa namhusisha zombie kweny hii kesi ila habari ndyo kama vile

Mukwe Wangu anajaribu kushout it out

-mama kama dunia yetu sio ilivyokuwa mwanzo.natake some actions kujihami

-mama Mimi ni kidume ujuee,i can protect u.

- mama am okey!naweza kumudu usijali
Too sad lakini anataka mamake ajue yuko OK akiwa mwenyewe!
Ila mukwe huyu mbn mdogo sana kuwa na mawazo haya?mwenzie wa umri huo bado anawaza kupoozewa chai ni haki yake(girls!)

Ila fikiria hii pia
Unamkumbuka konnie before zombie ,hii ameikuza kwa dogo mwanzo haikuwa tatizo since kipindi kile alikuwa Kongosho sasa hivi ni mbebs lazma aone dogo anamuout smart!
So my dear konnie wote wawili na mukwe mnapitia phase ambayo itapita!it capita vizuri ukiihandle vizuri!
A bit challengeous though!

 

[The Boss]

Haha hahahah, nomeipenda hiyo tofauti ya mama na mum.
Kweli he is too young to act like this. Our Kongosho should be more of a friend to the boy. Aanze kuconfide na mtoto ili mtoto ajenge trust. Halafu mimi nahisi now that Zombie kawin, so our crazy in love sis amejisahau mazima.

sisi tulilelewa na mama na baba
watoto wa siku hizi wanalelewa na mom and dad.....big difference if you ask me....

 

[The Boss]

Upo sahihi rafiki..........
Ila pia kijana anatakiwa kuelezwa hilo, tunagonganaga siyo sababu hatupendani, ni kwa sababu tunataka kujengana. asije akaona migongano ipo kwa wasiopendana tu.

Hata kwenye mahusiano ya watu wazima ukiona peace imetawala sana
hamkwaruzani hata kidogo ujue kuna mmoja anaficha feelings zake za kweli akikwazika
so mtoto ku prefer peace always ujue kuna kitu kinam disturb...it could be nothing but vizuri ku pay attention

 

[Asprin]

Kijana wangu mdogo simwelewi kwa kweli, sijui ni kwamba anakua au haniamini tena. Hayuko muwazi kwangu kama zamani tena, mambo mengine haniambii tena.

Kuna siku alikuwa na kisanga na baba, sikuwepo home. Basi akagombezwa na wakamalizana. Nlivyorudi nikamuuliza ilikuwaje, akanijibu 'mambo mengine yanatakiwa kubaki hapa(huku akijishika kifuani)'. Ndo akamaliza.

Kuna wakati alienda kwa ndugu, nikamwagiza afanye jambo fulani, hakufanya. Nilipo muuliza kasema amesahau, nikamgombeza akaomba samahani yakaisha. Juzi juzi hapa katika maongezi akawa ananiambia asivyopenda kuwa sehemu ya ugomvi. Akanikumbusha hiki kisa na aliyoyakuta ugenini, akaamua kupotezea nilichomtuma. Akaniambia hakusema sababu hakutaka ugomvi.

Usiku huu dada kamuumiza bahati mbaya, nimemuuliza umefanyaje, kanijibu nimejiumiza huko jikoni.

Am troubled kwa kweli, ni nini hiki? Ndio watoto wa kiume mnakuwaga hivyo kwa mama zenu. Ndio mie ni mama mtata, ila ni rafiki wa wanangu. Sijui nakosea wapi, nataka aniambie kila kitu kama zamani. Hajafika hata 10yrs.

Asali ya ODM, hebu nambie huyo baba hapo kwenye red ni yake au yako??

 

[Miss Neddy]

Hahaha i guess it's a phase...i think I remember this time too in my life where 'you want to do what's cool..what's normal to the world' after sometime lakini inaisha..muelewe tu kwa sasa.

Oh how I wish mama yangu angekuwa anaishi Posta kila nikija asubuhi nam-hug ndo naingia ofisini...if only we all knew back then!!!

Ila usiache kutaka kum-hug kila wakati...he may be going through growth change but don't go there with him!!!!

kuanzia kesho nitakusubiri pale kwa mnara wa askari uwe unanihug mimi asipaone mwallu lol

 

[PowerWithin]

Dogo yupo kwenye right tract! Very excellent!

Usimfundishe dogo kulalamikalalamika kama mwanaccm bali mfundishe dogo awe na kifua cha kubeba mambo!

Sasa hivi badilisha style ya malezi kwake na sio kukomaa nae aenende kwenye style uliozoea wewe. Mpe nafasi ya kutosha apate the real view of the world. Fanya sasa monitoring ya maamuzi na perception yake juu ya mambo. Mpe uongozi hapo nyumbani(akina mum hawatanielewa hapa lakini akina mama watanielewa).

Concentrate zaidi katika kumpa sapoti ya kumjenga awe independent; awe kiongozi (nikimaanisha kiongozi halalamikilalamiki wala haliilii maana atamlilia nani wakati yeye ndio wa kulalamikiwa; yeye ndio wa kuliliwa); badala ya ku concentrate kutaka kujua why like this today. MWOMBE MUNGU akupe hekima zaidi uelewe ninachomaanisha hapa.

Dogo ana mwelekeo sahihi sana kwa sasa....hapa ndipo turufu yako inapofanya kazi ni aidha ya kumbomoa ama kumjenga!

VERY EXCELLENT DOGO!

 

[pe.livinuu]

Ukiona mtoto anakuwa hivyo huyo atakuja kuwa mjanja sana ..
Pengine akaja kuwa tapeli wa kufa mtu

 

[snowhite]

Ukiona mtoto anakuwa hivyo huyo atakuja kuwa mjanja sana ..
Pengine akaja kuwa tapeli wa kufa mtu

Mmmmh maono mengineee!

 

[iMad]

No, i can't.

Unajua wakati mwingine ukitaka kusolve tatizo flani..unatakiwa uangalie root...na hili huhitaji kuweka kichwa chini..na wakati mwingine jinsi tunavyopost hapa kwenye nyuzi nyingine..tells a lot if you pay attention..u can tell if someone is good listerner or what..? nk...anyway nsiseme sana..

 

[DarKwetu]

Kuna kitabu kimoja famous cha Stephen Covey Kinaitwa The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. Kati ya hizo habits mojawapo inasema Try to understand Before you are understood. Mwandishi anaelezea experience ya mtoto wake mdogo kuliko wako ambaye alikuwa hawezi kufunguka kama wa kwako. Ilimchukua muda kwa kujaribu mbinu mbalimbali mpaka kugundua kwamba wakiwa kwenye sinema mtoto wake mchanga alisinzia na baba yake akavua koti kumfunika.Basi huyu mwingine ilimkaa akilini na kuwaza kama naye angeweza kufanyiwa hivo. Hiyo ilimfanya kuwa na behaviour tofaugi na awali.Labda jaribu kuangalia anaweza kuwa anahisi unampenda zaidi mwanao mwingine zaidi.. sasa anaona akae kivyake. Ni mawazo tu. Ninavyoona hata wewe ni kama una asili ya ukali kidogo. hiyo inaweza changia pia.

Kitabu kinaelezea empathic listening ambayo inaweza kumfungua mtu kimaongezi. Anachosema probing questions zaweza kumfanya mtu kutofunguka. Ame suggest steps za kumfungua mtu. Ninacho electronic copy. waweza ni pm kama utahitaji.

 

[Fixed Point]

Hata kwenye mahusiano ya watu wazima ukiona peace imetawala sana
hamkwaruzani hata kidogo ujue kuna mmoja anaficha feelings zake za kweli akikwazika
so mtoto ku prefer peace always ujue kuna kitu kinam disturb...it could be nothing but vizuri ku pay attention

Ni kweli kabisa.......
nakumbuka nikiwa mdogo nikifanya kosa halafu mama asinigombeze yaani nitajisikia vibaya siku nzima.......