10 Reasons why you should not marry while you are still young

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There are many reasons why waiting until later in life may be advantageous, even though some individuals may feel ready to get married at an early age.

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Marrying young can be problematic because there are many possible obstacles and traps. Before deciding to get married, it is crucial to completely comprehend yourself, your objectives, and your partner.

You can improve your odds of having a long-lasting joyful, and practical marriage by delaying getting married until you are more emotionally grown, financially secure, and aware of what you want.

Marrying young might exude excitement and rush, however, there are one too many points to go over before tying the knot at a young age. Marriage is a big move in anyone's life and should not be taken lightly because some people make the leap earlier than others.

There are many reasons why waiting until later in life may be advantageous, even though some individuals may feel ready to get married at an early age. In this article, we will go over 10 reasons—along with concrete examples to back each one up—why getting married young might be something to think twice about.

Lack of life experience
Lack of life experience is one of the significant reasons why getting married early is not advised. Young people may require more time to completely comprehend who they are, their objectives, and what they want. This may cause them to act hastily and marry someone who is not the best long-term fit for them.

Imagine a youthful pair that decides to get married after dating for a year. They have only had the option to live as students; they have yet to have the chance to live freely or travel. They need to completely comprehend the difficulties and obligations accompanying marriage, which could result in marital issues.

Financial instability
Instability in the money situation is another factor that may make getting married early ill-advised. Young couples still require secure employment or a consistent source of income, which could damage their union and cause financial pressure.

Consider this situation — a youthful pair still in university or just starting their careers may find it difficult to support one another financially after they get married. They might be forced to live off of one salary, which might cause them to suffer financially and strain their relationship.

Limited social circle
Young couples might have a small social network, which could result in a shortage of resources and assistance when they most need it. They might still need to establish themselves in their neighbourhood, form strong bonds, or have diverse social circles, making it challenging for them to seek assistance when they do.

A young couple who has just relocated to a new location might find it challenging to make acquaintances and establish a support system. If they experience difficulties in their union, they might require support and advice from someone.

Unfinished personal development
Personal development is continuous; achieving personal progress in a devoted partnership can be complex. You might still discover who you are and what you want out of life when you are young. It may be challenging to devote to a partnership as a result fully.

A young lady still determining her job aspirations and personal interests might find it challenging to commit entirely to marriage. She might feel that she still has not had a chance to consider her choices and regret getting married so quickly.

Changing priorities
Priorities can shift over time, and what we enjoy in our thirties or forties may differ significantly from what we value in our twenties. If both spouses are not on the same page, this can cause tension and strife in a union.

A young pair who marries might have various objectives and aspirations for the future. The desire to settle down and establish a family may be shared by one partner and the desire to journey and see the world by the other. The stress and conflict that results from these competing goals can affect the union.

Higher risk of divorce
Younger partners are more apt to divorce than those who wait until they are more mature, according to research. Several things, such as immaturity, a lack of life experience, and financial uncertainty, cause this.

According to studies carried out by the Office for National Statistics, the UK Statistics Authority's executive office, the divorce chance is greater for couples who marry in their early twenties than those who wait until their thirties.

It can be challenging to manage the difficulties of married life for several reasons, including a lack of growth and life experience.

Pressure from family and society
Young partners might experience pressure to get married from their relatives and groups. Due to this strain, they might make hasty choices and wed someone who is not necessarily the best fit for them.

A young lady might experience family pressure to get married and have children. Because she thinks she is running out of time, she might rush into a union with someone she is incompatible with.

Opportunity cost
Young marriage can have a negative economic cost. You might have to give up some of your ambitions in a committed partnership. In the long run, this may cause emotions of remorse and resentment.

A young guy passionate about his job may need to give up some of those objectives when he gets married. He might have to place his career on hold to prioritize his family, which could eventually cause him to experience resentment and regret.

Lack of emotional maturity
It can take time to acquire emotional maturity, which is vital in any partnership. When you are young, you might not have the mental growth necessary to handle the difficulties of marriage.

Due to a lack of emotional maturity, a youthful pair may struggle to speak effectively and handle conflicts in their union. To successfully navigate the difficulties of marital life, they might still need to develop self-awareness and mental control skills.

Difficulty in growing together
Growing together can be challenging because we are all changing and maturing as people. Developing and progressing as a pair can be challenging when you marry young. As you age, you might discover that you have different objectives and aims, which can cause tension in your union.

A youthful pair might find it challenging to mature and change together as they age. They might have various objectives and priorities, which makes it challenging to discover shared ground and maintain a mutual understanding in their marriage.
 
There are many reasons why waiting until later in life may be advantageous, even though some individuals may feel ready to get married at an early age...
Massive in all sense of the word, that's beautiful advice I ever seen before.
Kuna mambo nadhani kabla hatujaamua kuingia katika life commitment inapaswa kuyatazama kwa undani kwanza ili ukiamua ujue nini kifanyike pindi mambo yakienda mlama ndoani.

Leo hii kijana salary laki saba anawaza kuoa wakati huo anakaa nyumba ya kupanga chumba na sebule, kazi anayofanya ya mkataba, angali bachela salary haitoboi mwezi kukopakopa hakuishi, bili kibao mara kodi, king'amuzi, umeme, dawasco, ulinzi, taka, gesi tena ile ya 7kg, chakula, vocha, nauli za daladala asubuhi nk
bado mizinga ya wazazi na ndugu!

Hata savings ya milioni kwa mwishoni mwa mwaka mtu hana au haiwezekani ku'save sababu kinachopatikana hakitoboi mwezi, anapanga kuoa huku akitegemea mkopo benki na michango afanye sherehe, baada ya kuoa anaanza kulipa madeni matokeo yake ndani maisha yanakuwa magumu, mke anavumilia mwisho anaona kaingia kwenye maisha ya dhiki na tabu heri angebakia single, mara visa vinaanza na migogoro isiyo isha hatimaye unakosa amani ya maisha na usaliti unaingia rasmi katika ndoa yenu reasons behind ni financially uncertainty ya kijana wa kiume.
 
Massive in all sense of the word, that's beautiful advice I ever seen before.
Kuna mambo nadhani kabla hatujaamua kuingia katika life commitment inapaswa kuyatazama kwa undani kwanza ili ukiamua ujue nini kifanyike pindi mambo yakienda mlama ndoani...
Yan nilikuwa napiga hesabu nikaona ili mtu uoe kwa amani inabidi uwe unaingiza japo 2M kwa mwezi ili uweze hudumia familia na kuendelea kupambana na malengo mengine

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Massive in all sense of the word, that's beautiful advice I ever seen before.
Kuna mambo nadhani kabla hatujaamua kuingia katika life commitment inapaswa kuyatazama kwa undani kwanza ili ukiamua ujue nini kifanyike pindi mambo yakienda mlama ndoani...
Facts
 
Yan nilikuwa napiga hesabu nikaona ili mtu uoe kwa amani inabidi uwe unaingiza japo 2M kwa mwezi ili uweze hudumia familia na kuendelea kupambana na malengo mengine

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Ni ukweli ulio wazi kabisa, maisha ya sasa ni gharama na ndio sababu mahusiano mengi yanaishia njiani sio yale ya kawaida hata ndoa unakuta mwaka au miaka miwili migogoro inaanza lakini behind the scenes ni kipato hakitoshi.

Ukiona kipato chako kipo chini ya 1m kwa mwezi na upo kwenye ndoa basi jiandae kisaikolojia lolote linaweza kutokea wakati wowote ule, mwanamke pindi mwanaume wake asipokuwa na pesa ya kutosha ya kukidhi mahitaji huwa mbogo hana urafiki hata kidogo tena wanabadilika hutaamini, anaona dhahiri kamari aliyocheza kuishi/kuzaa na wewe kumbe alipokosea anajilaumu sana na uanza kutengeneza mazingira hasi ili muachane kama ulimsaliti wakati fulani anatumia hiyo kama scapegoat kuhalalisha maamuzi yake, mara ukali usioisha, maneno ya karaha na dharau nyingi ndio maana ndoa njia zinavunjika zikiwa na mtoto mmoja kwasababu familia imekuwa ila kipato bado kipo constant sasa matumizi uongezeka hapo ndipo balaa uanza.
Kisha anaanza kuhaha nje akiamini atapata aliye bora zaidi yako, hapo sasa wale wajanja wa mjini walio tengeneza muonekano wa nje wa kipesa pesa au waliokuwa wanachombeza kabla ndipo uchukua jimbo kwa maneno matamu na miamala ya hapa na pale akiamini wako vizuri kihuduma finally ndoa uvunjika.

Nb: Zamani mwanamke akitoka nje ya ndoa basi anafuata kuridhishwa kimapenzi siku hizi ni pesa wanawake walio olewa na wasio olewa wote wanamizinga, wote wamejaa shida zinazofanana hakuna uchi wa bure sikuhizi, kwasababu walio waoa hali ni tete mfukoni.
 
May the internet bless us with more father figures for our sons!

Get married young 👇🏾, younger than 26!!!

 
System ya msichana kuolewa akaishi kwa wazazi wa mume (joint family) kama Wahindi irudi so people get married young.

Sad thing Wahindi wenyewe wanaanza kuacha hiyo system...

Ni Solution ya single parents,
soko kubwa la p2,
mama na baba za marehemu,
Prostitution,
Watoto kulelewa na watu baki,
and emotionally, psychologically and spiritually damaged society because of promiscuity!
 
Jamii yetu ya ki Tz kijana wa kiume akifika umri fulani anafukuzwa 😂 ( kwa maneno)

Aliyeamua kubaki nyumbani hata kama ana kazi anaonekana hajitambui
 
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