Even if youre not feeling fly like Bruno Mars, try and act like you are, but dont try too hard, because thats obvious and a turnoff We hear a lot about confidence as a key factor of attraction, but many men don't quite understand what, exactly, is meant by "confidence." So I would ask the lovely ladies: To you, what is an example of confidence in a man, and what is an example/sign of a lack of confidence Nine times out of 10, when you ask a woman what attracts her to a man, she'll reply with one simple word (as if it were just so straightforward and obvious): "confidence." If I were a man, specifically one who is soliciting advice, as I presume many of you are, I think I would find that reply to be incredibly frustrating, quite limiting and all around just pretty unhelpful. So, with that in mind, Im going to try and explain this mythological confidence -- how to get it, what it looks like and also how women can spot a man who is faking it or overcompensating for his lack thereof. Confidence is an attitude, a demeanor of coolness, a swagger, if you will. Confidence is not something that you can wear like a T-shirt or a gold watch, but it is something that can be enhanced by putting on a fresh, crisp new item of clothing or by putting a little extra effort into your physical appearance. Its a certain pep in your step. A way of walking. A contagious charisma. Its seductive. It makes all people, not just women, gravitate toward a man and want to be around him, in the hopes of catching just a little bit of his energy. And also to see what else hes got going on underneath that, and most important, whether or not he can back it up. Contrary to what many men have been wrongly brainwashed by the media to believe, you do not have to be rich to have confidence.