Asante nduguPole sana kwa situation iliyokukuta, it's very important to know your biological father, naamini ukiacha mama na baba lazima kuna mtu mwengine atakuwa na hyo siri either ndugu au rafiki zake wa karibu na mama, jaribu kupeleleza mdogo mdogo ukishindwa kabisa ur mother is only one to tell you the truth
Mambo ya ndugu kuoa ndugu yanatokeaga hivi hivi ni mbaya sana
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Ni kweli but it's okay i can take it now.. though I never thought that one day in my life i would have to search for the real me, no option, because I'm on the receiving end let the nature take placeDuh pole, kama mama hayupo tayari kukuambia muache.....peleleza kwa watu wengine
Kuna dada nae ni kama wewe, kalelewa na baba mwingine na jina anatumia la huyo baba alimuuliza mama yake kuhusu baba mzazi, mama kapata mshtuko, presha ikapanda, kakimbizwa hospital akafariki!!!!
Ila huku ni kuwadhulumu watoto, hata kama baba hakuchangia chochote mwambie tu mtoto, ana haki ya kumjua baba ake
Umesoma vizuri mkuu? Aliishia kichapo kupelekwa mahakamani na akashindwa kesi kwa sababu hakuwa na mchango wala msaada kwa familia, umeelewa ndugu? Hata mahakama iliona hana mchango.Hakumjali vipi wakati alikwenda kwa ajili ya wanawe akaishia kupigwa!!! ????
Most pressing as per now, i also have some kind of spiritual complications and i possibly have no one i can vent to not because of my introvert nature but because i don't have anyone to turn to when necessary [emoji32]Excellent kabisa, ni haki na wajibu wa kila binaadam kujua root yake, haijalishi ni nani au ni nini,
anaweza pata matatizo na ikahitajika tiba ya kimila (God Forbid) wao wanakazana na 'kichaga' kumbe mwenzao 'msambaa'
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Culture Gal.
Asante sana kakaHuyo kilichomrudisha na kutaka kudai watoto ambao aliwatelekeza ni wivu tu. Asingesikia mzazi mwenzie kaolewa na watoto kuasiliwa wala asingeangalia nyuma. Hakuwa anawajali hao watoto, na wala vitasa alivyokula wakati huo ambavyo vilikuwa haki yake havikumzuia kurudi miaka yote hiyo. Wivu unaowapata wanaume waliotelekeza watoto huwafanya wafanye mambo hata wasiyoyaweza. Mbona yeye hakupelekwa mahakamani kudaiwa matunzo ya watoto?
Huyu Pharaoh kama anataka kumtafuta baba yake ajiandae sana tu, tena sana. Haijawahi kuwa rahisi hasa katika kipindi hiki cha utandawazi kisicho na siri. Kuna baba nafanya naye kazi tulienda kumsalimia nyumbani kwake baada ya kupata matatizo. Kuongea kidogo tu akaanza kujisifia kuhusu dume lake ambalo sasa hivi ni mkuu wa wilaya sijui mkurugenzi akaturushia na picha za hilo dume lake. Historia ni kuwa huyu baba alimtelekeza mama na mtoto kwa madai kuwa alitafutiwa mchumba na wazazi wake. Huyu kijana sasa ndo kamtafuta baba yake na hajamshirikisha baba mlezi wake. Kwa jinsi huyu baba limbukeni anavyosambaza picha whatsapp sioni dalili nzuri. Sijui kama yule kijana anajua kinachoenda kutokea maana huyu baba mlezi busara ni sifuri. Wewe mtu hujamchunguza, kupata tu contacts zake unaanza kutanguliza mipicha!
Kuna uwezekano pia wa kukataliwa na huyo baba mzazi ila kama shida ni kujua tu kabila naamini anaweza kuvumilia. Kuna uzi niliwahi kuuona hapa wa watu waliotelekezwa na baba zao. Wachache sana walileta habari nzuri baada ya kuwatafuta baba zao. Wengi waliambulia maumivu. Hii haimfanyi asimtafute kama atang'ang'ania. Aking'ang'ania basi arudi kwa yule mmbea kule kijijini amwambie kabila lake.
Kwamba kuna "implications" za kiroho hilo sina shaka nalo kwani hawa waliasiliwa kwa taratibu zote za kisheria na labda na za kimila na kilichofungwa duniani na mbinguni kimefungwa. Hivyo miungu ya baba mzazi haina mamlaka juu yao. Wana haki zote including za ulinzi katika ufalme wa kichaga. Pengine kujaribu kutengua ndicho kinachoweza kumletea matatizo. Sijui, ila kama ningekuwa mimi ningepotezea maana vya kupoteza ni vingi kuliko faida.
Na kwa kuwa mama ameshajua kuwa amejua basi atulize boli. Ataambiwa katika wakati muafaka baada ya makubaliano ya baba na mama.
Guys, like seriously! man up brother, shit happens, you need nobody to turn to. You mustn't go with that vibe, Girls need shoulders to lean on, but guys we are masters of our fate and captains of our souls (William Ernest Henley)Most pressing as per now, i also have a spiritual complications and i possibly have no one i can vent to not because of my introvert nature but because i don't have anyone to turn to when necessary [emoji32]
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Asante sana kaka
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Most pressing as per now, i also have some kind of spiritual complications and i possibly have no one i can vent to not because of my introvert nature but because i don't have anyone to turn to when necessary [emoji32]
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Okay i understand but as a person i only thought maybe, it would turn out to be fine and also have that peace of mind after having the answers for all these questions, but i believe that understanding a problem is a halfway of solving it, though i don't have any clue as to what may be the next move after turning tables, I'll take your advice anywayThe only person you can vent to is your inner person - your God. How do you know things would be ok if you knew your biological father? You are trying to run away from your weaknesses by trying to project them to something else. Many people have had authoritarian biological fathers and they did not look for "their ideal" fathers to mend their inadequacies. Your biological father is not going to solve any of your emotional or personality issues. Be careful with your obsession; it is changing your perspective.
Habari za leo wana forum,
Mimi ni kijana at late 20's toka nimezaliwa mwanzoni mwa miaka ya 90 nilikuwa nafahamu kuwa baba na mama yangu ndio hawa waliokua wakinilea lakini mwaka 2015 wakati nimemaliza chuo na kurudi nyumbani niliipata taarifa ambayo ilibadili mtazamo wangu kuhusu hawa wazazi wangu na siri kubwa waliyo nayo.
Iko hivi kwa mama yetu mzazi tuko watoto wa nne, mimi ni wa pili kuzaliwa kuna wa kwanza wa kiume na wadogo zetu wawili wa kike na kiume ambao sina shaka juu ya uhalisia wao kwa kua wamezaliwa nikiwa na akili timamu.
Baba yetu tunae mfahamu ni askari wa jeshi la wananchi na mama yetu kipindi hicho alikua ni mwalimu wa shule ya msingi. Kusema ukweli mzee huyu ametulea ki- dictator mpaka inafikia stage unamuogopa and you cannot make story with him or express yourself to him as your father lakini tukazoea na kuona labda tunalelewa kijeshi and by then we lived in a military Barack.
But the good thing about the oldman ni kwamba amekuwa na moyo wa kujitolea kuhusu maisha yetu like taking us all to the most expensive school in town and supplying all our basic needs abundantly, inshort he is Generous nadhani hii ndio sababu iliyotuaminisha kua he is our biological father kwa kua mpaka ada ya kulipia chuo kikuu amenilipia bila kua na mkopo kutoka HESLB.
Sasa wakati nimemaliza chuo nilirudi kijijini kumsalimia bibi (mama wa mama) huko nilikutana na mzee mmoja ambae alinitambua kwa jina la asili ambalo sikuwahi kulijua kabla nilishangazwa na lile jina nikaamua kumuuliza yule babu vipi mbona tunaitana majina ya ajabu.
Mzee akaniuliza kwani wewe unaitwa nani nikamtajia jina langu kwa kudhani kua amenifananisha, akasema "nakufahamu tokea ukiwa mtoto wa umri wa siku moja" yaani kabla mama yetu hajaolewa na huyu mzee tunaemuita baba, honestly he ruined my day and i almost slapped him on his face but thank God i managed to conceal my true feelings.
Nikamwambia mzee kabla sijaondoka nitakuja nikuone tuongee vizuri. Hata sikutamani tena kukaa kwa yule bibi yetu muda wote nilikua nafikiria maneno ya yule mzee baada ya siku 3 niliamua nimuage bibi and i went straight to the oldman's house.
Yule mzee alinieleza kwa masharti kua nimekua mtu mzima nahitaji kujitambua mimi ni nani, na asingeweza kuniambia hizo taarifa wakati wa kipindi cha nyuma labda nisingeweza kumuheshimu huyu mzee wetu ukizingatia anatusaidia kwa mambo makubwa ambayo mama yetu as a single parent asingeweza ku afford like taking us all to international schools.
Nikamuuliza mzee vipi kuhusu hili jina ninalotumia? Akanieleza kua baba yetu (sisi watoto wawili wa kwanza) alikuwa ni dereva wa magari makubwa alikua akija pale nyumbani kwa msimu na hakua akituhudumia.
Sasa huyu askari alipohamishiwa kwenye mji ule kikazi ndipo akakutana na mama yetu akiwa na watoto wawili (mimi na kaka yangu) akafanya kutu adopt na kutubadilishia majina yetu na kuanza kutumia majina ya ukoo wake, kuna muda baba yetu alikuja pale nyumbani alipata kichapo akaenda mahakamani akashindwa kesi kua hana mchango kwa familia kwa hiyo akatoweka mpaka Leo, mimi mpaka sasa hivi sijijui kua ni nani.
Nikimaanisha kabila wala ukoo, ndugu zangu wote hawajagundua hili and we all live like brothers, namuheshimu sana huyu mzee na amefanya kila kitu kuhakikisha tunasoma ili tujitegemee kiasi kwamba nilivyomaliza tu chuo akanitafutia nafasi jeshini moja kwa moja and to be honest I was just glad.
Naomba mnishauri hapa kwa kua niliamua kumkabili mama anieleze ukweli kwa njia ya kumdadisi kwa kua sifanani na mama wala na baba huyu tofauti na wadogo zetu. Lakini mama amekua mkali kua namkosea heshima maswali hayo ni ya kumvua nguo na nimekosa nini kwa baba huyu mpaka kuulizia mtu nisiye mfahamu wala asiyenisaidia lolote.
Yuko sahihi lakini mimi natumia majina ya kichaga ambayo kiuhalisia nimepewa tu hayana mahusiano na mizizi yangu mie and what disturbs me the most ni wanangu, hawa wanangu watakua kabila gani? Si nitakua nimewapa kabila ambalo sio lao? Na wajukuu zangu pia?
Naombeni ushauri this is killing me inside whenever it comes to my mind because I'M A STRANGER TO MYSELF
Umejichanganya vibaya ungeenda au kuwatafuta Wale mashosti wa maza wa zaman pale pale kijijin tena ungesaidiwa na huyo mzee. Ila tahadhar nakupa hata ukimkuta huyo baba halis ucfanye jambo lolote litalomuumiza baba mlez ni laana kubwa utachukua. Kulelea mtoto mpaka atoke huko mtu c kaz rahc mpe heshima yake. Na unawaza kumletea Mother matatizo kwa mumewe.
Regards
Pharaoh_2
How can this be possible?? I will be glad if you can help cost doesn't matters for sureRudi kwa yule mzee atakupa mwangaza wa wapi alipo baba yako au ndugu zake lakini pia ulizia rafiki wa mama yako wa wakati huo naamini hawawezi kukosa story za baba yako ambazo zitafanya ujitambue walau kwa uchache.
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La hasha nipe deal nikutafutie baba yako au ndugu zako upande wa baba yako kwa malipo.
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Niungane na wewe kwa kauli moja kwamba jamaa anatakiwa aoneshe ujasiri wa hali ya juu na sio kuendeshwa na hisia, ndio sababu mzee kaamua kumpeleka jeshi ili kuongeza kiwango cha ujasiri. Kingine huyu jamaa naona shule yake ina mushkeli kidogo kwa sababu haiwezekani mtu unaanza kuwaza mambo ya ukabila ilihali unajua tz haina ukabila. Labda kama unataka kutambika sawa, vinginevyo haina maana yoyote. Kingine anatakiwa kumheshimu sana huyo mzee pamoja na mama yake kwa sababu jamaa angekuwa na roho mbaya huyu bwana mdogo ungekuta ni chokoraa sasa hivi. Kwa hiyo atulize akili ili atusaidie kama taifa katika masuala mazima ya uchumi wa viwanda coz hayo anayotaka kuanzisha hayana tija kwa Taifa wala familia.Wewe ni wewe, majina unapewa tu, hayana maana.
Kama kweli una elim ya chuo kikuu alafu unamfuata Mama yako akujibu maswali ambayo sidhan majibu yake yanaweza kuwa msaada kwako basi naona hiyo elim haikukusaidia.
Tuliza boli, fanya maisha.
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Vipi ikitokea akapata mchumba ambaye ni dada yake? Mtoto wa baba yake halisi? Halafu wakadumu kwenye mahusiano wakapata na watoto then after some years anakuja kurealize kwamba ni dada yake wa damu?Niungane na wewe kwa kauli moja kwamba jamaa anatakiwa aoneshe ujasiri wa hali ya juu na sio kuendeshwa na hisia, ndio sababu mzee kaamua kumpeleka jeshi ili kuongeza kiwango cha ujasiri. Kingine huyu jamaa naona shule yake ina mushkeli kidogo kwa sababu haiwezekani mtu unaanza kuwaza mambo ya ukabila ilihali unajua tz haina ukabila. Labda kama unataka kutambika sawa, vinginevyo haina maana yoyote. Kingine anatakiwa kumheshimu sana huyo mzee pamoja na mama yake kwa sababu jamaa angekuwa na roho mbaya huyu bwana mdogo ungekuta ni chokoraa sasa hivi. Kwa hiyo atulize akili ili atusaidie kama taifa katika masuala mazima ya uchumi wa viwanda coz hayo anayotaka kuanzisha hayana tija kwa Taifa wala familia.
Mkuu wengi wana elimi ila hawajaelimika. They have education but they are not educatedNiungane na wewe kwa kauli moja kwamba jamaa anatakiwa aoneshe ujasiri wa hali ya juu na sio kuendeshwa na hisia, ndio sababu mzee kaamua kumpeleka jeshi ili kuongeza kiwango cha ujasiri. Kingine huyu jamaa naona shule yake ina mushkeli kidogo kwa sababu haiwezekani mtu unaanza kuwaza mambo ya ukabila ilihali unajua tz haina ukabila. Labda kama unataka kutambika sawa, vinginevyo haina maana yoyote. Kingine anatakiwa kumheshimu sana huyo mzee pamoja na mama yake kwa sababu jamaa angekuwa na roho mbaya huyu bwana mdogo ungekuta ni chokoraa sasa hivi. Kwa hiyo atulize akili ili atusaidie kama taifa katika masuala mazima ya uchumi wa viwanda coz hayo anayotaka kuanzisha hayana tija kwa Taifa wala familia.
Kama hakuna kasoro iliyojitokeza kwa watoto sidhani kama kuna haja ya kushughulika na mambo yaliyopita. Shida nyingine ni namna jamaa anavyotaka kushughulikia hili sualaVipi ikitokea akapata mchumba ambaye ni dada yake? Mtoto wa baba yake halisi? Halafu wakadumu kwenye mahusiano wakapata na watoto then after some years anakuja kurealize kwamba ni dada yake wa damu?
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