She is beautiful, highly educated and paid but lonely! Why?

She is beautiful, highly educated and paid but lonely! Why?

housegirl said:
These are just church sermons.

My mum Is the most humble woman I know. What was her reward?

Some men will just take advantage of your politeness. Savage men. So many of them.

Ask the nurses taking care of women hurt by their husbands.
As religious leaders who keep on telling the poor women to endure the pain, which only ends when the man gets old or dies
Ask us who know about women with unhappy marital lives and whose men care less,. Women married to adulterous men.

You think they all don't know about christ!!

It's high time women STOP wasting their lives with these types of men.
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I hope you are married if not share with us your experience of living single.

I expect that women who cling into their marriages despite of all the odds are better placed and happy than those who ran away from marriage.

Marriage is more than living together. It is one of the basis of creation (Adam+Eve). It is a social status which gives the married ones social capital, a capital that has no interest or collateral. A woman/man might be abused by a spouse, come next day the society will be there for her/him. But a single woman is always looked at with disdain and suspicion.

Our life is nothing without a society because we were created as social animals.

housegirl: your cited mother case reflects what I have just pointed out.
 
housegirl said:
I don't get you.

When was she married? Being in a relationship isn't being married.

Single life is not easconeou'll be in an unhappy relationship b'se you're afraid of being single?

I suggest you get a life.
And you make a terrible parent. Telling your kids they can't be happily single. so they'll go through so much misery just to be with someone. VERY BAD.

Used by men? The problem with people talking negatively about these women is that they're all sexists. Sex is for men only! If a woman does it she's being used!!!

And I thought it's the woman who was so picky that she never got married. I think it's the men being used here.

Maybe she doesn't want children.

And even if she's a single parent, maybe she was strong enough to get out of an unhappy rship.

NEVER PRESSURE THEM TO UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS JUST TO PLEASE SOCIETY.
Don't you know children are affected by abusive marriages?? Like the one my mum had.

Eti status in society. Do you ever think about how these women feel?? That's why women stay in abusive marriages just to please society. Not me. Never.

THESE WOMEN ARE NOT DESPERATE. don't force it.
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If all women were as selfish as you are then the world would have been empty. Life has never been about us but our ability to sustain a next generation. That comes with strings attached: we call them sacrifices to maintain our existence.
 
mwengeso said:
I hope you are married if not share with us your experience of living single.

I expect that women who cling into their marriages despite of all the odds are better placed and happy than those who ran away from marriage.

Marriage is more than living together. It is one of the basis of creation (Adam+Eve). It is a social status which gives the married ones social capital, a capital that has no interest or collateral. A woman/man might be abused by a spouse, come next day the society will be there for her/him. But a single woman is always looked at with disdain and suspicion.

Our life is nothing without a society because we were created as social animals.

housegirl: your cited mother case reflects what I have just pointed out.
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True it is about the NEXT GENERATION not our selfish yet parochial wants!
 
housegirl said:
The man is also used and dumped.

Who told you a woman sleeping with a man she knows is married with a family thinks of having a family with the man???

She's their for a good time and gone.

Again, don't force the thought that these women are desperate. You're trying so hard it's not working.
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Hopping from one bed to another if it is not an act of desperation I am dumbfounded of what else it is!
 
Nyani Ngabu said:
I know that.

However, what I quoted is what stood out for me and it is the absurd of all absurdities.
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When you consider the rewards of joy and satisfaction of helping sustaining your own species in the name of next generation then you will condone the behaviour
 
housegirl said:
These are just church sermons.

My mum Is the most humble woman I know. What was her reward?

Some men will just take advantage of your politeness. Savage men. So many of them.

Ask the nurses taking care of women hurt by their husbands.
As religious leaders who keep on telling the poor women to endure the pain, which only ends when the man gets old or dies
Ask us who know about women with unhappy marital lives and whose men care less,. Women married to adulterous men.

You think they all don't know about christ!!

It's high time women STOP wasting their lives with these types of men.
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Have you ever taken a moment and consider the sacrifices your mom gave to secure your life. The best way to repay is not to stoop on her sacrifices on you but atone her by raising grannies in a respectable family. Sacrifice as she did.
 
Rutashubanyuma said:
When you consider the rewards of joy and satisfaction of helping sustaining your own species in the name of next generation then you will condone the behaviour
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Likewise, if you have a heart and when you consider the anguish undergone by battered women who are sucked into the vortex of horrible relationships/ marriages, particularly domestic violence, you will not advocate anyone staying in such situations.
 
Rutashubanyuma said:
Nimempata na nimeitafsiri. Kaisome tena.
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Sijakuelewa kwanini utafsiri kuwa nimechangia nisichokielewa au?.
Lakini safi kwa faida ya kuendeleza lugha ya taifa!
Turudi kwenye somo! Sifa wanazopewa wakati wanatongozwa na mapene zinazomwagwa wanadhani ni endelefu muda wote ! Kumbe siyo bali magia ya kupata mzigo!
 
Jingine wazuri wanazaliwa kila siku na mbaya cha zamani kinachaa na wale wapenzi wa kupenda vizuri vizuri kwa kuchagua usiombe!
 
Rutashubanyuma said:
How can you be bored if you are with a spouse of your dreams?
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Who lied to u that u can't get bored with a spouse of your dreams?
Ur crucifying ladies here as if it's always glorious and happy in matrimony
 
Let me start by saying, for some of us there is more to "life "than being someone’s lover, gf, wife, and what have you. eg
  • Careers and ladders to climb
  • Places to explore and the world to see
  • Money to make and fabulous lives to live

Say what you want to say but no amount of “D” can replace the exhilaration that I get as a woman in charge of me, my life and my journey.

Perhaps the underlying issue in all of this, is the world now lacking REAL men? The alpha kind, "top dogs", the always in charge type, and those who are never afraid nor shy away from a STRONG woman ??

“Submissive woman” really? I , somehow was under the impression that we are now in the 21st century , or aren’t we ? #smh
 
mwengeso said:
I hope you are married if not share with us your experience of living single.

I expect that women who cling into their marriages despite of all the odds are better placed and happy than those who ran away from marriage.

Marriage is more than living together. It is one of the basis of creation (Adam+Eve). It is a social status which gives the married ones social capital, a capital that has no interest or collateral. A woman/man might be abused by a spouse, come next day the society will be there for her/him. But a single woman is always looked at with disdain and suspicion.

Our life is nothing without a society because we were created as social animals.

housegirl: your cited mother case reflects what I have just pointed out.
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It seem to me that you were So miserable being single that you married out of loneliness. WHO IS THE DESPERATE ONE HERE?

As I said you need to get a life. There's so much to life from romance. You CAN be happily single.

THESE WOMEN ARE NOT AS DESPERATE AS YOU ARE. OTHERWISE THEY WOULD HAVE MARRIED OUT OF DESPERATION LIKE YOU. LET THEM BE.

Well sorry but the world doesn't go around your emotions. women get their lives back after living their abusive husbands. Go ask one if they wish to get back to their husbands.

An unhappy marriage could be fixed. Unfortunately not all work out. People grow apart. People turn abusive. Infidelity completely changes the lives of the cheated. Some just WON'T WORK.

No psychologist will tell you stay no matter what. Those are things you'll hear in church. Misogynists!


When a Marriage can't be fixed, it's never good for anyone. And no you can never hide it. I was affected in so many ways. UNLESS YOU'VE COMPREHENSION PROBLEMS, I don't see how my mum's story supports anything you said. I will never stay in an unfixable rship for kids. I still want my mum to get married again. Bado analipa.

Society society status in society is all you think of. You don't care about the women's mental, physical or emotional health. It doesn't get any more MISOGYNISTIC than this. Eti after abuse the society will be there for her. Sorry, are you MENTALLY FIT???

fortunately, the people themselves are the ones who decide society values. Thanks HADES we ain't in they dark ages. Women will NOT put up with abuse. We will decide whether we want to get married, stay married, or not get married at all, and no JF posts and insults will decide for us

Plus,, our society is full of sexist misogynistic men like you that's why educated women don't get married.
 
Rutashubanyuma said:
First you have to be in a relationship to find out whether it is worthy or not but the spinsters I am referring to never got there in the first place. Running away from problems rarely solve them and I find the linkage of occupational hazards directly linked to marital mayhems! Thank you now you are talking the language I can relate to.
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EXCUSE ME, wewe ni mmbea.

WHO TOLD YOU THEY NEVER GOT INTO RELATIONSHIPS?? Did you want them to invite you to every date they go to? Did you want them to post their men's photos on FB so you know??

Even if they never got in relationships is there a rule that they should??

LET THEM BE. THEY'RE ADULTS THEY WILL DO WHAT THEY WANT. You shouldn't be bothered at all.
 
Rutashubanyuma said:
Tuwe wa kweli raha inatoka wapi leo kwa huyu kesho kwa yule. Hamahama ni dalili ya kukosa amani rohoni mwao.
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Wewe ya moyoni mwake unayajulia wapi. It's not like ukioa basi hautaki watu wengine. Yeye ndo kapata uhuru sasa

Na hiyo haihalalishi kuendelea na mahusiano yanayokutesa. Wanaoteswa huko amani wanatoa wapi.

Rutashubanyuma said:
Hopping from one bed to another if it is not an act of desperation I am dumbfounded of what else it is!
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Now we're just going in circles.

I thought you said they could have sex but doormats.

Fun. Life. Experiment. Experience. Memories.

If they were 20 would you say the same thing? What if they were men?

Some live a life of celibacy b'se of their beliefs.

THEIR SEX LIFE IS NON OF YOUR BUSINESS. IF THEY WERE DESPERATE THEY WOULD HAVE SETTLED WITH JUST ANYBODY A LONG TIME AGO .
 
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