Nini madhara ya kuoa mwanamke anayekuzidi umri?

[Tyta]

Kama umemzi umri mwanamke ambae una wasi wasi kama ameanza menopause basi wewe shikamoo.

japo sijakuelewa sawasawa,Je kuna tatizo kuoa mtu aliyeanza?

 

[jiwe angavu]

mkuu hebu jaribu kumuuliza mond platz wa zari nadhani atakua na majibu mazuri zaidi.

 

[Mpasuamajipu]

Hakuna madhara yoyote maadamu mmekubaliana

 

[GOOGLE]

Duu ukweli kwangu umri ni kigezo kikubwa sana. Ninapendelea kabisa mwanaume anizidi japa hata kwa miezi tu. Ila ikitokea tumependana sana basi nimzidi kwa mwaka 1 au miwili. Ila nimekutana na cases nyingi sana wako wanaume wanapenda kuwa na mahusiano au kuoa mwanamke amempita up to 5 years. Ikifikia hapa ni lazima mwanaume huyo nihakikishe bila chenga kuwa ana upendo wa dhati sana kwa kuwa kwa asili wanawake wengi wanazeeka mapema na hata nguvu ya kumridhisha mwanaume ina deteriorate mapema sana ukilinganishwa na mwanaume. Sasa basi mwanaume huyo kabla hajaniona ni lazima awe amesoma na kuelewa biological life ya mwanamke kwa umri tofauti tofauti ili itakapofikia say menopause basi akubali hali na si kwenda kuwinda mitetea nje. Kwa kuwa wanaume wengi ni wagumu kwa jambo hili basi ni vyema wanawake ku avoid sana kuolewa na wanaume wadogo sana kiumri. Itawatesa mbeleni sana kama busara hazitatumika.

Nikupm?

 

[howardlite]

Changamoto ni umri amenizdi, kipato amenizid, Elim amenizid. Sema anayo heshima, ni mtiifu, na mshauri mzuri, ana akili ya maisha na anajua mipango. Kiukweli ni kama msaidiz wangu kama Eva kwa Adamu pale bustanini EDEN

Umri sio kitu sana,is just the number japo isiwe too much like 30 to 50 then unataka watoto nae wanne!


Ili uwe mume as the head of family wengi wanaamini lazima uwe na quality kwenye maeneo kadhaa:
1/Uwezo wa kifedha kuliko mke
11/Uwe na elimu kuliko mke/Upstairs pawe vizuri
111/Umri zaidi ya mke

Huu ni mtazamo wa wengi na kwa kizazi chetu yes ina sound hivyo na ina nguvu sana kwenye mahusiano japo wapo wachache sana wako tofauti na ukweli huo.

Swali ni kwanini iwe hivyo?:

1/Mume ndie aliyeambiwa atakula kwa jasho(mtafutaji).Mungu akamuweka Adamu kwenye bustani ya Edeni ili ailime na kuitunza.That is Biblical meaning ,so non way lazima mume awe na uchumi wa kusastain familiya yake soma vitabu vyote vya dini utaona hilo.
11/Mungu alimuumba mke awe msaidizi wa Mwanaume(A helper)kwenye maono mume aliyonayo,kazi ,biashara mke amtie moyo na kumshauri kwa hekima kuyafikia hata kama na mke naye anafanya kazi ,ana elimu nk haiondoi nafasi yake ya kuwa msaidizi.

Kama ni mapenzi ya Mungu kuoa mke wa aina hiyo hazipo changamoto nyingi watu wanazoziogopa, lakini kama ni matamanio yako ili upate unavyoamini ndio vya thamani kwako kutoka kwa huyo mwanamke subiri uje uombe ushauri tena hapa.

 

[mrs fiance]

Mhuuu.napita.

 

[Duduvwili]

Umri sio kitu sana,is just the number japo isiwe too much like 30 to 50 then unataka watoto nae wanne!


Ili uwe mume as the head of family wengi wanaamini lazima uwe na quality kwenye maeneo kadhaa:
1/Uwezo wa kifedha kuliko mke
11/Uwe na elimu kuliko mke/Upstairs pawe vizuri
111/Umri zaidi ya mke

Huu ni mtazamo wa wengi na kwa kizazi chetu yes ina sound hivyo na ina nguvu sana kwenye mahusiano japo wapo wachache sana wako tofauti na ukweli huo.

Swali ni kwanini iwe hivyo?:

1/Mume ndie aliyeambiwa atakula kwa jasho(mtafutaji).Mungu akamuweka Adamu kwenye bustani ya Edeni ili ailime na kuitunza.That is Biblical meaning ,so non way lazima mume awe na uchumi wa kusastain familiya yake soma vitabu vyote vya dini utaona hilo.
11/Mungu alimuumba mke awe msaidizi wa Mwanaume(A helper)kwenye maono mume aliyonayo,kazi ,biashara mke amtie moyo na kumshauri kwa hekima kuyafikia hata kama na mke naye anafanya kazi ,ana elimu nk haiondoi nafasi yake ya kuwa msaidizi.

Kama ni mapenzi ya Mungu kuoa mke wa aina hiyo hazipo changamoto nyingi watu wanazoziogopa, lakini kama ni matamanio yako ili upate unavyoamini ndio vya thamani kwako kutoka kwa huyo mwanamke subiri uje uombe ushauri tena hapa.

Mkuu nimeielewa

 

[Mshua's]

Changamoto ni umri amenizdi, kipato amenizid, Elim amenizid. Sema anayo heshima, ni mtiifu, na mshauri mzuri, ana akili ya maisha na anajua mipango. Kiukweli ni kama msaidiz wangu kama Eva kwa Adamu pale bustanini EDEN

Umri amekuzidi, elimu amekuzidi, kipato amekuzidi, akili ya maisha amekuzidi, hata na umbo atakua amekuzidi! Hapa lazima utakuja kujutia....! Baada ya uchanga wa ndoa kuisha utakua houseboy. Kazi za kupika, kufua, kufagia, kutandika kitanda, kudeki na zingine kama hizo utazifanya sana. Na baadae atakua anakuja na wanaume hadi ndani, na unyumba utashindwa kumuomba sababu atakua ndio kichwa cha familia. Achana naye! Kama huamini waulize ndugu zako wa karibu uone watasemaje. Wangu nimemzidi miaka mitano, namzidi kwa kila kitu. Mzee wangu alimzidi mama kwa miaka 11, waliishi vizuri mno, hawajawahi kukorofishana hata siku 1. Kama una swali uliza

 

[Mshua's]

Umri sio kitu sana,is just the number japo isiwe too much like 30 to 50 then unataka watoto nae wanne!


Ili uwe mume as the head of family wengi wanaamini lazima uwe na quality kwenye maeneo kadhaa:
1/Uwezo wa kifedha kuliko mke
11/Uwe na elimu kuliko mke/Upstairs pawe vizuri
111/Umri zaidi ya mke

Huu ni mtazamo wa wengi na kwa kizazi chetu yes ina sound hivyo na ina nguvu sana kwenye mahusiano japo wapo wachache sana wako tofauti na ukweli huo.

Swali ni kwanini iwe hivyo?:

1/Mume ndie aliyeambiwa atakula kwa jasho(mtafutaji).Mungu akamuweka Adamu kwenye bustani ya Edeni ili ailime na kuitunza.That is Biblical meaning ,so non way lazima mume awe na uchumi wa kusastain familiya yake soma vitabu vyote vya dini utaona hilo.
11/Mungu alimuumba mke awe msaidizi wa Mwanaume(A helper)kwenye maono mume aliyonayo,kazi ,biashara mke amtie moyo na kumshauri kwa hekima kuyafikia hata kama na mke naye anafanya kazi ,ana elimu nk haiondoi nafasi yake ya kuwa msaidizi.

Kama ni mapenzi ya Mungu kuoa mke wa aina hiyo hazipo changamoto nyingi watu wanazoziogopa, lakini kama ni matamanio yako ili upate unavyoamini ndio vya thamani kwako kutoka kwa huyo mwanamke subiri uje uombe ushauri tena hapa.

Kifupi ungemwambia tu haipendezi kuoa mke aliyekuzidi umri halafu ukamfafanulia kama ulivyoeleza hapa. Ubarikiwe mkuu

 

[brigedia mafia]

Changamoto ni umri amenizdi, kipato amenizid, Elim amenizid. Sema anayo heshima, ni mtiifu, na mshauri mzuri, ana akili ya maisha na anajua mipango. Kiukweli ni kama msaidiz wangu kama Eva kwa Adamu pale bustanini EDEN

Mwanamke kama huyo hafai atakusumbua sana uko mbeleni.Mkigombana kidogo itakuwa ni vigumu kwa yeye kujishusha hata kama kosa ni lake kwa kuwa hataona anakuzidi kila kitu kwa hiyo suala la kumuacha atajua kuwa huwezi kwa kuwa atajiona yeye ni tegemezi.

 

[trem]

Umri sio kitu sana,is just the number japo isiwe too much like 30 to 50 then unataka watoto nae wanne!


Ili uwe mume as the head of family wengi wanaamini lazima uwe na quality kwenye maeneo kadhaa:
1/Uwezo wa kifedha kuliko mke
11/Uwe na elimu kuliko mke/Upstairs pawe vizuri
111/Umri zaidi ya mke

Huu ni mtazamo wa wengi na kwa kizazi chetu yes ina sound hivyo na ina nguvu sana kwenye mahusiano japo wapo wachache sana wako tofauti na ukweli huo.

Swali ni kwanini iwe hivyo?:

1/Mume ndie aliyeambiwa atakula kwa jasho(mtafutaji).Mungu akamuweka Adamu kwenye bustani ya Edeni ili ailime na kuitunza.That is Biblical meaning ,so non way lazima mume awe na uchumi wa kusastain familiya yake soma vitabu vyote vya dini utaona hilo.
11/Mungu alimuumba mke awe msaidizi wa Mwanaume(A helper)kwenye maono mume aliyonayo,kazi ,biashara mke amtie moyo na kumshauri kwa hekima kuyafikia hata kama na mke naye anafanya kazi ,ana elimu nk haiondoi nafasi yake ya kuwa msaidizi.

Kama ni mapenzi ya Mungu kuoa mke wa aina hiyo hazipo changamoto nyingi watu wanazoziogopa, lakini kama ni matamanio yako ili upate unavyoamini ndio vya thamani kwako kutoka kwa huyo mwanamke subiri uje uombe ushauri tena hapa.

Mh shida vijana wa kizazi kipya hawataki kutafuta maarifa kwa kusoma Vitabu mbali mbali ila wanachokitaka ni kuhadithiwa tu h

 

[kampelewele]

Vp kuhusu kipato na Elimu amekuzidi pia? Kama ndio siku shauri kumuoa

Hivi kama hivyo vitu hana ya nini kuoa aliyekuzidi umri (value added)

 

[kampelewele]

Changamoto ni umri amenizdi, kipato amenizid, Elim amenizid. Sema anayo heshima, ni mtiifu, na mshauri mzuri, ana akili ya maisha na anajua mipango. Kiukweli ni kama msaidiz wangu kama Eva kwa Adamu pale bustanini EDEN

Sky Eclat Njoo huku ujionee mifano mizuri niliyokuwa nakueleza

 

[Sky Eclat]

Sky Eclat Njoo huku ujionee mifano mizuri niliyokuwa nakueleza

Been there, done that and won a t-shirt kampelewele

 

[Urquhart]

Wakuu salaam,

Naomba ushauri wenu wa hali na mali kabla ya kuingia kwenye hii singeli (ndoa), mwanamke niliye naye ni ana umri mkubwa kidogo kuliko mimi, na nipo mbioni kutangaza ndoa.

Noamba ushauri je kuna madhara yoyote nitakumbana nayo kwa kuoa mwanamke aliyenizid umri.

ASANTE.

These aren't FACTS. These are my FACTS... So take them with precaution that it might not be the norm.

Maisha yangu yote (28 years sasa) sijawahi tembea na mwanamke wa rika langu. I've always dated (long term relationships) women who are older, sometimes 10+ years older than me. Some had kids, some didn't. Na kama mkeo mtarajiwa ana mtoto au watoto, this would be a whole different explanation. So for now let's stick to no kids, since you haven't said anything to indicate otherwise.

A.) All women are different! Just because i went through what i went through, doesn't make it the norm. But i also noticed almost similar traits (tabia) ambazo my ex's shared.

B.) Automatically mwanamke who's older than you, will think she's also smarter than you (akili.) So don't try to fight her and show who's more intelligent, but if you are in time she'll notice that on her own and come to respect you even more.

C.) Older women tend to have their shit figured out. NOT ALL, but majority of them. Tayari they'll have made progress in the work field, so utakuta tayari wana mali zao. So kuwa makini when it comes to spending. Especially something that she spent her entire life acquiring. Kama unakazi yako, that's even better. Ongea nae kuhusu fair spending. If you can gawaneni majukumu. If she's the kind of woman who wants to take control of things and be in charge. Well let her be if that's okay with you. Ila stand your ground in the aspects you believe in. If she's a career woman, some women will put their careers forward. Make sure you voice your opinion, sema kinachokukera etc...

D.) Most times THE SEX IS FANTASTIC! The older the better. Biologically, women peak sexually as they age. Their libidos(sexual desires) increases as they age. So expect lots of sex. Now maybe she's not a sexual person, and that will be completely different. Older women will have more confidence in their bodies, watakua wamesha kubali miili yao so hakuna stress ndogo ndogo. So ask her what she likes, explain to he what you like. Share with her your fantasies and kinks and chances are she'll be more open to the idea of trying vs a 22 year old girl. But some will have problems with aging. So depending on ur girl, just listen when she talks, compliment her often like you would any other girl. Let her know that it's only her you desire, want and love. AND SHOW IT TO HER.

E.) AIBU! Wanawake wanajua if your embarrassed by them. So mkienda out, akishajua unajisikia niaje niaje mbele za watu basi utamuona ata recoil (atajirudi) she won't be comfortable. Jiandae watu kuwaanglia hovyo, comment za sugar mami sijui nini. Don't let that destruct you. She's your woman, be proud of her. Let her know that it doesn't bother you. Assure her and re assure her that she's all that you think of and mean it. Mkiwa out, hold her hand. Kiss her every now and then, be romantic towards her. Wanawake wanapenda kujua your not ashamed of them and your proud. Mkirudi home, atakupa mambo hayo we mwenyewe utasema yes. Ni kweli kama mwanaume a.k.a binaadamu utaona katoto kazuri kadogo kanapita, chuchu zimesimama, firm ass. Na utatamani. It's ok, but remind yourself of many other reasons you chose to marry your woman.

F.)Maturity. Most matured women would have a higher level of maturity. This can be a good thing or a bad thing. So be smart about things. Listen more than you speak, so you can learn her. Maturity on the good side nikwamba she'll have better reasoning than you and that's okay, don't be intimidated. Learn from her, that's the point of having a partner. Msikilize, muulize maswali. Remember she's older than you, she's lived longer, seen more and experienced more. So if you have an open mind, you can learn alot. On the negative side. Older women tend to use this maturity level as a weapon to manipulate you. So be careful. Once again, stand firm on your beliefs, call her out on her bullshit and don't be afraid to speak up.

G.) Children. Hapa panakua patamu. Depending on how old she is, kama she's post 30's that mean she'll want kids as soon as possible. If hataki watoto and you're okay with that then that's not a problem. Lakini kama anataka watoto, talk about it. Because yeye anaweza akawa ready (her clock is ticking, family pressure etc..) na wewe haupo ready. So she might pressure you into it. Once again, be firm, stand your ground etc... Na a woman can trick you into pregnancy so be very very careful. But communication is the most important thing.

H.) Family. Familia zinatofautiana. Wengine wanaweza wakakukubali au yakwako ikamkubali wengine wakapinga. So the 2 of you should always support each other, be there for each other. Ukienda kwao and everyone is bombarding you with questions, make sure she's supporting you and defending you. Na mkiwa kwenu, you do the same. Kumbuka your families are entitled to their own views and opinions but at the end of the day it's the 2 of you that are married to each other not them.

I.) FINALLY... THE PAST! Everyone has a past. Her being older can mean that her past is a lot more colorful than yours (if you catch my drift) so mnaweza kutana na ma ex wengi wa zamani, don't be intimidated. Wanaweza wakawa successful, wanapesa etc. Wewe usihofu. There's a reason ni ma ex na wewe ndo current. Respect the fact she has a past, and if she wants to talk to you about it, then go ahead. Ila don't be petty and have small small jealousy issues.

The reason she's about to be your WIFE. Nikwamba your ready for it, you know her enough ( i hope you do) if not. STOP! Take time to get to know her, date her etc.... Above all i wish you all the best, enjoy and grow in love.

 

[soul provider]

Changamoto ni umri amenizdi, kipato amenizid, Elim amenizid. Sema anayo heshima, ni mtiifu, na mshauri mzuri, ana akili ya maisha na anajua mipango. Kiukweli ni kama msaidiz wangu kama Eva kwa Adamu pale bustanini EDEN

Anataka ndoa mapema ndo mana mtiifu

 

[malaika wa motoni]

Anataka ndoa mapema ndo mana mtiifu

Ha ha ha. Boss umejuaje??

 

[Loeli]

These aren't FACTS. These are my FACTS... So take them with precaution that it might not be the norm.

Maisha yangu yote (28 years sasa) sijawahi tembea na mwanamke wa rika langu. I've always dated (long term relationships) women who are older, sometimes 10+ years older than me. Some had kids, some didn't. Na kama mkeo mtarajiwa ana mtoto au watoto, this would be a whole different explanation. So for now let's stick to no kids, since you haven't said anything to indicate otherwise.

A.) All women are different! Just because i went through what i went through, doesn't make it the norm. But i also noticed almost similar traits (tabia) ambazo my ex's shared.

B.) Automatically mwanamke who's older than you, will think she's also smarter than you (akili.) So don't try to fight her and show who's more intelligent, but if you are in time she'll notice that on her own and come to respect you even more.

C.) Older women tend to have their shit figured out. NOT ALL, but majority of them. Tayari they'll have made progress in the work field, so utakuta tayari wana mali zao. So kuwa makini when it comes to spending. Especially something that she spent her entire life acquiring. Kama unakazi yako, that's even better. Ongea nae kuhusu fair spending. If you can gawaneni majukumu. If she's the kind of woman who wants to take control of things and be in charge. Well let her be if that's okay with you. Ila stand your ground in the aspects you believe in. If she's a career woman, some women will put their careers forward. Make sure you voice your opinion, sema kinachokukera etc...

D.) Most times THE SEX IS FANTASTIC! The older the better. Biologically, women peak sexually as they age. Their libidos(sexual desires) increases as they age. So expect lots of sex. Now maybe she's not a sexual person, and that will be completely different. Older women will have more confidence in their bodies, watakua wamesha kubali miili yao so hakuna stress ndogo ndogo. So ask her what she likes, explain to he what you like. Share with her your fantasies and kinks and chances are she'll be more open to the idea of trying vs a 22 year old girl. But some will have problems with aging. So depending on ur girl, just listen when she talks, compliment her often like you would any other girl. Let her know that it's only her you desire, want and love. AND SHOW IT TO HER.

E.) AIBU! Wanawake wanajua if your embarrassed by them. So mkienda out, akishajua unajisikia niaje niaje mbele za watu basi utamuona ata recoil (atajirudi) she won't be comfortable. Jiandae watu kuwaanglia hovyo, comment za sugar mami sijui nini. Don't let that destruct you. She's your woman, be proud of her. Let her know that it doesn't bother you. Assure her and re assure her that she's all that you think of and mean it. Mkiwa out, hold her hand. Kiss her every now and then, be romantic towards her. Wanawake wanapenda kujua your not ashamed of them and your proud. Mkirudi home, atakupa mambo hayo we mwenyewe utasema yes. Ni kweli kama mwanaume a.k.a binaadamu utaona katoto kazuri kadogo kanapita, chuchu zimesimama, firm ass. Na utatamani. It's ok, but remind yourself of many other reasons you chose to marry your woman.

F.)Maturity. Most matured women would have a higher level of maturity. This can be a good thing or a bad thing. So be smart about things. Listen more than you speak, so you can learn her. Maturity on the good side nikwamba she'll have better reasoning than you and that's okay, don't be intimidated. Learn from her, that's the point of having a partner. Msikilize, muulize maswali. Remember she's older than you, she's lived longer, seen more and experienced more. So if you have an open mind, you can learn alot. On the negative side. Older women tend to use this maturity level as a weapon to manipulate you. So be careful. Once again, stand firm on your beliefs, call her out on her bullshit and don't be afraid to speak up.

G.) Children. Hapa panakua patamu. Depending on how old she is, kama she's post 30's that mean she'll want kids as soon as possible. If hataki watoto and you're okay with that then that's not a problem. Lakini kama anataka watoto, talk about it. Because yeye anaweza akawa ready (her clock is ticking, family pressure etc..) na wewe haupo ready. So she might pressure you into it. Once again, be firm, stand your ground etc... Na a woman can trick you into pregnancy so be very very careful. But communication is the most important thing.

H.) Family. Familia zinatofautiana. Wengine wanaweza wakakukubali au yakwako ikamkubali wengine wakapinga. So the 2 of you should always support each other, be there for each other. Ukienda kwao and everyone is bombarding you with questions, make sure she's supporting you and defending you. Na mkiwa kwenu, you do the same. Kumbuka your families are entitled to their own views and opinions but at the end of the day it's the 2 of you that are married to each other not them.

I.) FINALLY... THE PAST! Everyone has a past. Her being older can mean that her past is a lot more colorful than yours (if you catch my drift) so mnaweza kutana na ma ex wengi wa zamani, don't be intimidated. Wanaweza wakawa successful, wanapesa etc. Wewe usihofu. There's a reason ni ma ex na wewe ndo current. Respect the fact she has a past, and if she wants to talk to you about it, then go ahead. Ila don't be petty and have small small jealousy issues.

The reason she's about to be your WIFE. Nikwamba your ready for it, you know her enough ( i hope you do) if not. STOP! Take time to get to know her, date her etc.... Above all i wish you all the best, enjoy and grow in love.

Mkubwa umesema mambo mazuri mno na ya kujifunza. Kidogo unibadilishe mtizamo. This is wisdom.

 

[soul provider]

Ha ha ha. Boss umejuaje??

Ndo ivo Mkuu.. Kuwa makini kwa hilo

 

[malaika wa motoni]

These aren't FACTS. These are my FACTS... So take them with precaution that it might not be the norm.

Maisha yangu yote (28 years sasa) sijawahi tembea na mwanamke wa rika langu. I've always dated (long term relationships) women who are older, sometimes 10+ years older than me. Some had kids, some didn't. Na kama mkeo mtarajiwa ana mtoto au watoto, this would be a whole different explanation. So for now let's stick to no kids, since you haven't said anything to indicate otherwise.

A.) All women are different! Just because i went through what i went through, doesn't make it the norm. But i also noticed almost similar traits (tabia) ambazo my ex's shared.

B.) Automatically mwanamke who's older than you, will think she's also smarter than you (akili.) So don't try to fight her and show who's more intelligent, but if you are in time she'll notice that on her own and come to respect you even more.

C.) Older women tend to have their shit figured out. NOT ALL, but majority of them. Tayari they'll have made progress in the work field, so utakuta tayari wana mali zao. So kuwa makini when it comes to spending. Especially something that she spent her entire life acquiring. Kama unakazi yako, that's even better. Ongea nae kuhusu fair spending. If you can gawaneni majukumu. If she's the kind of woman who wants to take control of things and be in charge. Well let her be if that's okay with you. Ila stand your ground in the aspects you believe in. If she's a career woman, some women will put their careers forward. Make sure you voice your opinion, sema kinachokukera etc...

D.) Most times THE SEX IS FANTASTIC! The older the better. Biologically, women peak sexually as they age. Their libidos(sexual desires) increases as they age. So expect lots of sex. Now maybe she's not a sexual person, and that will be completely different. Older women will have more confidence in their bodies, watakua wamesha kubali miili yao so hakuna stress ndogo ndogo. So ask her what she likes, explain to he what you like. Share with her your fantasies and kinks and chances are she'll be more open to the idea of trying vs a 22 year old girl. But some will have problems with aging. So depending on ur girl, just listen when she talks, compliment her often like you would any other girl. Let her know that it's only her you desire, want and love. AND SHOW IT TO HER.

E.) AIBU! Wanawake wanajua if your embarrassed by them. So mkienda out, akishajua unajisikia niaje niaje mbele za watu basi utamuona ata recoil (atajirudi) she won't be comfortable. Jiandae watu kuwaanglia hovyo, comment za sugar mami sijui nini. Don't let that destruct you. She's your woman, be proud of her. Let her know that it doesn't bother you. Assure her and re assure her that she's all that you think of and mean it. Mkiwa out, hold her hand. Kiss her every now and then, be romantic towards her. Wanawake wanapenda kujua your not ashamed of them and your proud. Mkirudi home, atakupa mambo hayo we mwenyewe utasema yes. Ni kweli kama mwanaume a.k.a binaadamu utaona katoto kazuri kadogo kanapita, chuchu zimesimama, firm ass. Na utatamani. It's ok, but remind yourself of many other reasons you chose to marry your woman.

F.)Maturity. Most matured women would have a higher level of maturity. This can be a good thing or a bad thing. So be smart about things. Listen more than you speak, so you can learn her. Maturity on the good side nikwamba she'll have better reasoning than you and that's okay, don't be intimidated. Learn from her, that's the point of having a partner. Msikilize, muulize maswali. Remember she's older than you, she's lived longer, seen more and experienced more. So if you have an open mind, you can learn alot. On the negative side. Older women tend to use this maturity level as a weapon to manipulate you. So be careful. Once again, stand firm on your beliefs, call her out on her bullshit and don't be afraid to speak up.

G.) Children. Hapa panakua patamu. Depending on how old she is, kama she's post 30's that mean she'll want kids as soon as possible. If hataki watoto and you're okay with that then that's not a problem. Lakini kama anataka watoto, talk about it. Because yeye anaweza akawa ready (her clock is ticking, family pressure etc..) na wewe haupo ready. So she might pressure you into it. Once again, be firm, stand your ground etc... Na a woman can trick you into pregnancy so be very very careful. But communication is the most important thing.

H.) Family. Familia zinatofautiana. Wengine wanaweza wakakukubali au yakwako ikamkubali wengine wakapinga. So the 2 of you should always support each other, be there for each other. Ukienda kwao and everyone is bombarding you with questions, make sure she's supporting you and defending you. Na mkiwa kwenu, you do the same. Kumbuka your families are entitled to their own views and opinions but at the end of the day it's the 2 of you that are married to each other not them.

I.) FINALLY... THE PAST! Everyone has a past. Her being older can mean that her past is a lot more colorful than yours (if you catch my drift) so mnaweza kutana na ma ex wengi wa zamani, don't be intimidated. Wanaweza wakawa successful, wanapesa etc. Wewe usihofu. There's a reason ni ma ex na wewe ndo current. Respect the fact she has a past, and if she wants to talk to you about it, then go ahead. Ila don't be petty and have small small jealousy issues.

The reason she's about to be your WIFE. Nikwamba your ready for it, you know her enough ( i hope you do) if not. STOP! Take time to get to know her, date her etc.... Above all i wish you all the best, enjoy and grow in love.

Thank you so much for sharing some experience with me, i never thought you would come up with such a brilliant explanation. N ways One of your paragraph (G), you talked about her demand to have children so bad before marriage because of her age. Boss, This is so true because she's four months pregnant and pushing me to marry her before her delivery . Hapa ndo nazidi kuchanganyikiwa. Its like i have been set up or something. What do i do?