My swahili not good but i hope you will understand english pls, i have read you idnt had sex before marriage, GREAT ONE KAKA, i really like that, u only have sex once you are married, but let me came to your issue, first when it cames to women they are more into sex EMOTIONALLY THAN PHYSCALLY, i hope you have got me, we men we just mostly like to penetrate into women and do our thing but when it cames to women, sex starts from the mind and physcal one i mean when you penetrate her its almost done ,to women sex a an emotional thing not a physcal thing like we men, so after reading your article, and after you saying your wife suggest a second wife, it bothers me a bit on 2 fronts, and before i go on, are you a muslim, coz in christianity we are not allowed more than 1 wife, so my guess is you are a muslim,so it makes it hard to advice you coz you muslims marry upto 4 wives, but if you were a christian a could tell u to pay a visit together with your wife to sex therapist and since these people are trained in such areas they could help you very much, you can even be having sex 3 times a day without your wife complaining and she will really enjoy it, but she must be MENTALLY GUIDED AND ADVICED ON HOW AND WHAT OF SEX, to ladies SEX IS A MIND THING, NOT A PYSCAL THING, hope i have helped you, need more advice, jjust drop me a a line pls, barikiwa mkuu