Men are cruel to single women

Men are cruel to single women

Gojaga Nize said:
Good writer, wanaotaka mke huyu hapa sasa. Anajua kupangilia point zake. Na nahisi ashajifunza kutokana na makosa. Hongera nimependa mwandiko na narration ya points.

The way you pigierd chapuo yourself will certainly work.
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Labda kama kuna mtu anatafuta mwandishi wa makala gazetini ndio sifa hizo unazosema zinahitajika.
 
Umeandika kwa hisia sana mkuu, pamoja na kingereza changu cha kudonoadonoa ila nimekuelewa.

Mungu atakujalia hitija la moyo wako kwa wakati wake mwenyewe.
 
#sonnet-
1st-being born again Christian doesn't guarantee u being a woman a man wants neither does being crazy ,stupid
2nd -being too old is not o never a guarantee for being single
Just two weeks had to attend a wedding my friend's sisy who eventually turning 43 and was getting married so age to me is never an excuse
3rd-single mother
Y is this mindset come. Into our daily life anyway?
Well to he honest most men we do not like dating single mothers at all unless she is that independent so even if u wud have bin single mother to me wudnt have bin an excuse
4th asking aman for money
Okay t might be a reasonable excuse but honest if u don't ask me for money time to time it won't make me feel like a man enuf
But how you ask for it makes the difference btn golddigger and responsibilities
 
Sonnet said:
There I said it, its a cruel world for a single woman. I know that for a fact because I am one.

This post is not a "I am looking for a husband post", I already wrote such a post about a year ago, right here at Jamii Forum, with sad, disheartening results. Not one serious man responded, my inbox was full of jokers, pranksters and alas the married man...

This post is for fellow single women and for some men to have a glimpse of what it feels like to be single. To watch your friends and relatives get married and to have the rest of the world mock you for being single, as if it were your fault, as if you wouldn't change that in an instant if you could. (wouldn't you ladies)

So ladies (and gents), why are we single?
I really don't know. Could it be that the men around us are officially blind? Could it be that their minds are saturated with retouched instagram/facebook pics of women with perfect bodies, gorgeous skin, thin waist, perky breasts and butt. That for real they wouldn't spot a normal natural good looking woman even if an angel descended on earth and personally pointed towards the girl's direction?

Could it be that we girls love too deeply and we trust too much? Tell me what is wrong with loving someone? With believing him when he tells you he loves you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you. Is it our fault that all we get instead is a broken heart and a wet pillow from crying ourselves to sleep?

There must be something wrong with me, you wonder; I am a born again Christian woman who embraces her imperfections and acknowledges that through Christ everyday I become a better me.
Maybe I am too old? Age is nothing but a number so a woman can never be too old. Since you wondered I am thirty years old.
Maybe I am a single mother? I am not. I have never been married and I don't have children. (However even if I was, WHAT IS WRONG WITH BEING A SINGLE MOTHER? why can't you look past that and see the wonderful woman in-front of you?)
Maybe I am always asking a man for money? Nope - I have my own. With a university education and a good highly satisfying job that pays me around 2 million or so per month, I can pay my own bills thank you.
Maybe I can't cook you think? I can cook in a way that would put Jamie Oliver to shame
Maybe I don't clean or wash? Nope that isn't it, I'm clean as clean can be .
Maybe I am short, fat and ugly? I am not bad on the eyes I would like to think, thin body (with an athletic build thanks to aerobics, swimming and some weightlifting here n there to keep me toned), shoulder length hair, good skin and I am ever so comfortable being seen without makeup on my face.

So why am I single? I don't know. But what I do know is Tanzanian men should spot judging us from our marital status but from who we are as human beings. Look at my heart not my body, look at my mind not my ass, look at my education and job accomplishments and for heaven sake stop judging me from my age, or whether or not I have children.

If you dear reader want to be helpful, maybe you can give us single women some pointers on how and where we can meet available men.

As a concluding remark, if Prince Harry can fall in love with a black, divorced woman three years his senior, maybe just maybe there is hope for the rest of us.

"Sonnet"

Update

I am sorry if l offended anyone by posting in English. I didn't mean to make anybody feel left out. Sometimes I use Swahili, Sometimes I use English, Its not me being fake, its just me being myself. Sorry once again.

Samahani kwa kutumia kiswahali, sikutaka mtu yeyote ajihisi vibaya. Wakati mwingine natumia kiswahili na wakati mwingine natumia kiingereza. Sikua na nia mbaya. Nisamehe kwa hilo.

Girl, I think we should not stoop so low as to accept anybody who comes our way even if we have nothing in common with them.
Silently watch and observe him,
-How often does he go to church? (or other place of worship)
-How does he treat you?
-Is he rude, bad mannered and disrespectful to others around him (especially to women,) e.g the waitress serving you food or the askari at the entrance.
-Does he drink alcohol abit too much. (I actually prefer he doesn't drink alcohol at all)
-Don't sleep with him girl. No matter what he says. Even if he calls you "mke wangu" . Hata akikueleza "sema lini nije kujitambulisha" . "Taja mwenyewe tarehe". Once he realises the promise of marriage is not working as you refuse to sleep with him, he will surely disappear. Making way for the right man to come along.
-Before you fall deeply in love do ask him enough questions and carefully read into his answers? They will reveal who he really is.
-Trust your instinct, deep down you know if he is "The One" or the wrong one. Don't ignore that feeling. Not everyman is husband material.
There l said it.
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i agree with u n the problem is mind set in the society from generation to generation.........on that i accept ladies have more challenges....thou ii h seen n witnessed single ladies being married n live for long in there marriage u to now......any way aout how often one goes to church how he lives behaviour and drinking factors to consider most.....ts true i am a man n i see a lot am not married thou a little afraid to be bu soon going to...am a ful participant n volunteer inthe church raised in faithful way.....i dnt drink i respect ladies....n my girlfriend...but i see from the society how sigle woman parents are being treated or being regarded.....any way ....
NOT MAN ARE CRUEL THE SOCIETY IS....You find a man wants to marry a single parents and the mothers and al are agains tat asaying she has a father she will be a problem to u n she had affairs she has bad manner ....blablah etc...THESE COME FROM SOCIETY NOT MAN.
 
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