Ladies what do you think

[mxyo16]

Kabisa hiii ni changamoto..lakini bado kama mzazi atahitaji kumfunza mwanae hata kwa mda mchache anaoupata anaweza bado kumfunza mwanae...tatizo wazazi nao wako busy,nanii atawafunza hawa watoto?

Kwahiki kipindi tulichopo ni wazazi wachache sana as far as I know, majority ya wazazi....task ya malezi kaachiwa TV, simu na computers....Mie nikadhani simu itawaleta watoto na wazazi karibu ku fill the gap ya ubize...aawapi!...watoto wana line kibao za simu, akiwa na shida tu ndio anaweka line aijuayo mzazi,...otherwise namba ya mzazi ipo blocked....

 

[housegirl]

The thing is most people due to social influences,get married before 30 but ask them why really?They have no answer.Some get married to wrong people,some realize there are some things they couldn't achieve before they put a ring on. I believe women should stop rushing to get married.I agree and disagree with this.
I disagree only because 1)I don't believe its right to raise your children too late in life,so it wouldn't lead to stress and so you might live to see even your great grand kids lol
2)some might not have their children on time which backs up my number 1 point
I love this and it really moves me
Am sure housegirl would agree with you too,let me wait for her opinion

Exactly.

Many People get married because that's what everybody else is doing, fearing being labelled as abnormal or unwanted.

Others have no life, they think their life will get more interesting after marrying.

Others just think of babies..

Others just have psychological problems, fear of being alone??

Mtu kaanzisha uzi, she's 26, in a 3yr relationship, doesn't love the guy but she doesn't wanna let go coz she might not get someone else to marry her!!!

So I asked her what exactly do you want, a roommate and a sperm donor?

I don't get how one could sleep with someone she doesn't like!! Nothing will ever pressure me to do that.

Unless that marriage will be a celibate marriage (in which case I'll want my own room, what's worse than sharing a bedroom with ANYBODY), I won't move in and make a life with someone just to please society.

And yes maturity in this information age has little to do with age.

 

[housegirl]

Invisible I don't get notifications when someone mentions me!

Will you fix this one or ignore it like the other one...

 

[housegirl]

, akiwa na shida tu ndio anaweka line aijuayo mzazi,...otherwise namba ya mzazi ipo blocked....

The satisfaction after discovering that other people do what you do.
LOL.

 

[housegirl]

I am not a lady, ila nakubaliana na huyo dada, ila najiuliza katika hii modern life, watoto wetu muda mrefu wapo boarding watajifunza vipi baba na mama wanavyotatua matatizo ya kifedha katika familia, uhusiano na relatives pande zote, approach ya ku solve conflicts za hapa na pale nyumbani....ni tofauti kabisa namaisha ya kijima, baba alipata muda kwenda kumfundisha kijana kazi za kuwinda kulima biashara kwa ukaribu zaidi....mtoto wa kike ali-observe kwa karibu kabisa shuguli zote azifanyazo mama, jinsi mama anavyo handle emotions kukabiliana na challenges mbalimabali ku manage nyumba, chakula wageni watoto, mzee, na shughuli nyingine za kijamii....

Kutokana na wazazi kwasasa kuwa bize, nadhani wapo vijana wachache sana, females in particular, wanao faidi matunda ya kujfunza ndani ya familia mambo muhimu for early maturity.

I think the digital kids have it better than the older kids. Kids are smarter these days.

All information at the tip of your hands. You communicate with hundreds at such a short period.
Today, One learns many things at such a young age compared to one who had to wait to be taught.

 

[mxyo16]

I think the digital kids have it better than the older kids. Kids are smarter these days.

All information at the tip of your hands. You communicate with hundreds at such a short period.
Today, One learns many things at such a young age compared to one who had to wait to be taught.

yah, nasasa tutazame usmati wao na reflection yake kwenye jamii, interms of maturity kwenye decision making... reasoning...kwenye issues za msingi kama attitude towards getting well educated, to believe in hard working, be independent, giving back to society, volunteering, income saving, investing, healthy living, strong family value (kuheshimu ndoa)...kusali...etc
mie inaniuma sana mtoto ana laptop na simu lakini bado anapata poor grades shule...
Wakati in my time nilikua naenda maktaba ya taifa nakukosa vitabu, au unakuta topic muhimu kwenye vitabu zimechanwa....au kitabu kimeazimwa na mwingine....
kwakweli bado nashangaa sana utofauti wetu na hawa millenials

 

[mxyo16]

The satisfaction after discovering that other people do what you do.
LOL.

hahahah

 

[mumemwema]

Maturity has nothing to do with age. Everyone grows old, but not everyone is growing up...Maturity is all about self realization,.. It comes out of Awareness . Some people attain their maturity at a very young age, while certain people never attain maturity

We can't choose our ages, but we can choose what our actions are. So it's one's choice to be mature or not. Be wise enough to take responsibility of your life

Everyday life teaches us something new, but few people learn from the lessons taught. Some people never learn from their mistakes and experiences. They keep on doing same things over and over again. Only an Experience /mistake with a lesson learnt can take someone's maturity into a high level

You know you are mature enough to get married once you come to realize some of the following things;
*when you are able to differentiate real love from infatuations
*love is not enough reason to get married.
*there is nothing like a perfect man or relationship. You just need a "good enough" man to build life with
*know and understand yourself, what you want in your partner, as well as what you can offer him
*understand what it means to get committed to one person for a lifetime
*when you are able to sacrifice immediate pleasures for long term values etc.

OSHO

You just nailed it everything that I wanted to answer .. Well said ... Thank you ... Thanks..

 

[okoyoko]

Tigo ndo suluhisho la ndoa...mwanamke akitaka kuolewa mapema itabid ajaribu kumpa tigo mpenzi wake

 

[Granta]

The thing is most people due to social influences,get married before 30 but ask them why really?They have no answer.Some get married to wrong people,some realize there are some things they couldn't achieve before they put a ring on. I believe women should stop rushing to get married.I agree and disagree with this.
I disagree only because 1)I don't believe its right to raise your children too late in life,so it wouldn't lead to stress and so you might live to see even your great grand kids lol
2)some might not have their children on time which backs up my number 1 point
I love this and it really moves me
Am sure housegirl would agree with you too,let me wait for her opinion

Nikuibie tu siri, wanaume wanapenda kitu mnato, kama utavumilia kufungulia huo mtaro then its nice kufikisha hiyo age unayosema...ila sasa wakati ukiitafuta sijui unaiita maturity (Mimi naiita kutembea bila kujua uelekeo) usizamishe kila pipe kwa hiyo papuchi aisee Naomba sana

 

[KATASAN'KAZA]

Sometimes yes...sometimes no, kuna watu wana miaka 40 lakini mentally bado network inasearch mpaka unajiuliza hivi huyu ana miaka 40 kweli huyu why so childish? na kuna wengine just 25 years lakini maturity level yao ipo tayari kabisa kuface ndoa na maisha kwa ujumla..umri ni namba tu

25 zote, kwangu huyo namuona abnormal maana for Girls ata the age of 15 tayari wanabehave km watu wazima otherwise mitoto ya mageti inayodekezwa?? 25 kwa girl tayar mbibi..

 

[Lizarazu]

Maturity has nothing to do with age. Everyone grows old, but not everyone is growing up...Maturity is all about self realization,.. It comes out of Awareness . Some people attain their maturity at a very young age, while certain people never attain maturity

We can't choose our ages, but we can choose what our actions are. So it's one's choice to be mature or not. Be wise enough to take responsibility of your life

Everyday life teaches us something new, but few people learn from the lessons taught. Some people never learn from their mistakes and experiences. They keep on doing same things over and over again. Only an Experience /mistake with a lesson learnt can take someone's maturity into a high level

You know you are mature enough to get married once you come to realize some of the following things;
*when you are able to differentiate real love from infatuations
*love is not enough reason to get married.
*there is nothing like a perfect man or relationship. You just need a "good enough" man to build life with
*know and understand yourself, what you want in your partner, as well as what you can offer him
*understand what it means to get committed to one person for a lifetime
*when you are able to sacrifice immediate pleasures for long term values etc.

OSHO

Your friend like this... kudos to you!!

 

[housegirl]

The thing is most people due to social influences,get married before 30 but ask them why really?They have no answer.Some get married to wrong people,some realize there are some things they couldn't achieve before they put a ring on. I believe women should stop rushing to get married.I agree and disagree with this.
I disagree only because 1)I don't believe its right to raise your children too late in life,so it wouldn't lead to stress and so you might live to see even your great grand kids lol
2)some might not have their children on time which backs up my number 1 point
I love this and it really moves me
Am sure housegirl would agree with you too,let me wait for her opinion

Sikujibu hii jana,
So having kids early in life pushes people to get married early. Understandable. It's a good thing as you explained.

But life is different today and some of us see things differently. At that age we're yet to reach the financial goals we wanted before having kids...

People will say "just have kids things will work themselves out". I remember when my parents would tell me there's no money to get me something . I'd always worry that my needs/wants stress them out.

I don't want that for my kids.

Wengine watoto wetu tunataka wazaliwe kwenye utajiri.. Hata nikifa leo ana uwezo wa kuishi freely for a long time . That's what I want. Otherwise I'll be so unhappy bora kutozaa kabisa..

 

[Benny]

brenda18 this is for ladies i should shut the *** up...

Thou i wanna say something

 

[brenda18]

brenda18 this is for ladies i should shut the **** up...

Thou i wanna say something

Late notification my dear,say something....

 

[brenda18]

Sikujibu hii jana,
So having kids early in life pushes people to get married early. Understandable. It's a good thing as you explained.

But life is different today and some of us see things differently. At that age we're yet to reach the financial goals we wanted before having kids...

People will say "just have kids things will work themselves out". I remember when my parents would tell me there's no money to get me something . I'd always worry that my needs/wants stress them out.

I don't want that for my kids.

Wengine watoto wetu tunataka wazaliwe kwenye utajiri.. Hata nikifa leo ana uwezo wa kuishi freely for a long time . That's what I want. Otherwise I'll be so unhappy bora kutozaa kabisa..

Hahahaa housegirl I feel you,akili zako unazijua mwenyewe, teh

 

[brenda18]

Nikuibie tu siri, wanaume wanapenda kitu mnato, kama utavumilia kufungulia huo mtaro then its nice kufikisha hiyo age unayosema...ila sasa wakati ukiitafuta sijui unaiita maturity (Mimi naiita kutembea bila kujua uelekeo) usizamishe kila pipe kwa hiyo papuchi aisee Naomba sana

Eish ona huyu nae sijui anaongea nini,mnato ni maumbile tu by nature kama huna huna hata ukibane,soma tena biologia yako....

 

[mkuyati og]

Part of me agree with this..
But then I don't agree with her,being mentally,physically and emotionally matured for marriage is never about age..
Life lessons are not measured by age,every situation is different I can't speak for anyone else...what do u think,would love to hear different arguments about this...

"Maturity is simply knowing when to act immature".. As absurd as I may sound this is all there ever is to the concept of maturity. Few of you will actually understand,,, it's just "common sense".

 

[Hornet]

uzi wa wazungu huu