Ladies what do you think

[Heaven Sent]

Nkipata mtoto wa kike ntakutafuta ummpe shule ... you have what a lady is supposed to have!!!

Kaboom kakuza vizuri

I hope your lil girl will grow to become a better person than I am. Mlee tu vizuri, muombee, then mengine ni kwa Neema tu ya Mungu

 

[brenda18]

kwahiyo mnamalizaga hiyo shule ktk umri gani

Soma vizuri uelewe..then karibu uchangie

 

[brenda18]

Kapicha hakafunguki kwangu.

I am not a lady anyway..

Would still be nice to hear from you,forget about the heading...

 

[brenda18]

@brenad 18

Abee..@Ruttashobolwa

 

[brenda18]

That's just so cliche-ridden!

Its an opinion though..she didnt refer to all women

 

[brenda18]

I agree with her because most early marriage below>18 to 22yrs old end after 3-4 years while mature marriage mostly are permanent.

The thing is most people due to social influences,get married before 30 but ask them why really?They have no answer.Some get married to wrong people,some realize there are some things they couldn't achieve before they put a ring on. I believe women should stop rushing to get married.I agree and disagree with this.
I disagree only because 1)I don't believe its right to raise your children too late in life,so it wouldn't lead to stress and so you might live to see even your great grand kids lol
2)some might not have their children on time which backs up my number 1 point
I love this and it really moves me
Am sure housegirl would agree with you too,let me wait for her opinion

 

[brenda18]

Maturity has nothing to do with age. Everyone grows old, but not everyone is growing up...Maturity is all about self realization,.. It comes out of Awareness . Some people attain their maturity at a very young age, while certain people never attain maturity

We can't choose our ages, but we can choose what our actions are. So it's one's choice to be mature or not. Be wise enough to take responsibility of your life

Everyday life teaches us something new, but few people learn from the lessons taught. Some people never learn from their mistakes and experiences. They keep on doing same things over and over again. Only an Experience /mistake with a lesson learnt can take someone's maturity into a high level

You know you are mature enough to get married once you come to realize some of the following things;
*when you are able to differentiate real love from infatuations
*love is not enough reason to get married.
*there is nothing like a perfect man or relationship. You just need a "good enough" man to build life with
*know and understand yourself, what you want in your partner, as well as what you can offer him
*understand what it means to get committed to one person for a lifetime
*when you are able to sacrifice immediate pleasures for long term values etc.

OSHO

"Women need real moments of solitude and self reflection to balance how much of ourselves we give away"-Barbara De Angelis

 

[brenda18]

Does getting into marriage (especially for women) needs preparation? what kind of preparation is that? Haya, ngoja niwasome kwanza nisije kuwa nimekurupuka tu

Nobody is every prepared for what happens in marriage cause no marriage is the same,I also don't agree that maturity starts after 30 either cause maturity is a choice, an awareness that you transit into
Maturity sums up from upbringing, experience, perceptions, how you handle actions...but the truth is it will only help you handle some things,but in marriage it's new challenges,new strategies, new learning....

 

[brenda18]

Mmmh!! I agree not.

Why dear...am waiting for your views teh

 

[brenda18]

Usiniambie ndo na wewe lugha imeishia hapo!! mbona kiswahili umaandikaga mareeeeefu!?

Halafu hebu muulize brenda18 hii mada kawalenga watu wa class gani? usikute tunadandia tu tren kwa mbele sista, may be it's meant for the likes of Heaven Sent

Hahahaa, kaka angu we umeanza...imelenga watu wote bana ni vile tu nilishindwa kutohoa maneno nikaona nisichanganye lugha..teh

 

[brenda18]

After 30 you gonna expire,no respects and men will only mess up with your papuchi!

She didn't say wait till you are 30.She said don't let society pressure get to you,that's according to my understanding though..

 

[brenda18]

Hahahaaaaaa!! Chezea kinglish wewe! Nimewaza hadi njaa imeuma hicho ndicho kimekuja, mada za kidhungu humu huwa hazichangiwi sana, muulize Paulo Sergio De Souz atakuambia, ila za kishambega tunajimwagaje sasa!!

Nashangaa Heaven Sent leo sijui kakigugo wapi hicho alichoandika!

Hahahaa nimecheka..Atoto we ni kichomi..

 

[Bavaria]

You shouldn't waste time counting milestones.

Do what makes you comfortable.

 

[mxyo16]

I am not a lady, ila nakubaliana na huyo dada, ila najiuliza katika hii modern life, watoto wetu muda mrefu wapo boarding watajifunza vipi baba na mama wanavyotatua matatizo ya kifedha katika familia, uhusiano na relatives pande zote, approach ya ku solve conflicts za hapa na pale nyumbani....ni tofauti kabisa namaisha ya kijima, baba alipata muda kwenda kumfundisha kijana kazi za kuwinda kulima biashara kwa ukaribu zaidi....mtoto wa kike ali-observe kwa karibu kabisa shuguli zote azifanyazo mama, jinsi mama anavyo handle emotions kukabiliana na challenges mbalimabali ku manage nyumba, chakula wageni watoto, mzee, na shughuli nyingine za kijamii....

Kutokana na wazazi kwasasa kuwa bize, nadhani wapo vijana wachache sana, females in particular, wanao faidi matunda ya kujfunza ndani ya familia mambo muhimu for early maturity.

 

[brenda18]

You shouldn't waste time counting milestones.

Do what makes you comfortable.

Story for the gods,we pass through school of life whether married or not,we should dance on our own beat and own it...I agree with you

 

[mito]

She didn't say wait till you are 30.She said don't let society pressure get to you,that's according to my understanding though..

Nooo, according to her marriage should come when you are 30 or after.....
She says that is the time you have accumulated enought experience to handle marriage issues......ndo nilivyomuelewa mimi kwa kidhungu chake

 

[brenda18]

I am not a lady, ila nakubaliana na huyo dada, ila najiuliza katika hii modern life, watoto wetu muda mrefu wapo boarding watajifunza vipi baba na mama wanavyotatua matatizo ya kifedha katika familia, uhusiano na relatives pande zote, approach ya ku solve conflicts za hapa na pale nyumbani....ni tofauti kabisa namaisha ya kijima, baba alipata muda kwenda kumfundisha kijana kazi za kuwinda kulima biashara kwa ukaribu zaidi....mtoto wa kike ali-observe kwa karibu kabisa shuguli zote azifanyazo mama, jinsi mama anavyo handle emotions kukabiliana na challenges mbalimabali ku manage nyumba, chakula wageni watoto, mzee, na shughuli nyingine za kijamii....

Kutokana na wazazi kwasasa kuwa bize, nadhani wapo vijana wachache sana, females in particular, wanao faidi matunda ya kujfunza ndani ya familia mambo muhimu for early maturity.

Kabisa hiii ni changamoto..lakini bado kama mzazi atahitaji kumfunza mwanae hata kwa mda mchache anaoupata anaweza bado kumfunza mwanae...tatizo wazazi nao wako busy,nanii atawafunza hawa watoto?

 

[brenda18]

Nooo, according to her marriage should come when you are 30 or after.....
She says that is the time you have accumulated enought experience to handle marriage issues......ndo nilivyomuelewa mimi kwa kidhungu chake

Haha kaka go deeper,there is something more than that..ama mimi ndio najielewesha vibaya

 

[Super human]

maturity depend with one s own individual thinking capacity not collectively since human beings have individual difference in talent and intelligence quotient. There are some old men and women who are above 50 but they act childish way

 

[mxyo16]

Nooo, according to her marriage should come when you are 30 or after.....
She says that is the time you have accumulated enought experience to handle marriage issues......ndo nilivyomuelewa mimi kwa kidhungu chake

Kwakiasi kikubwa naamini a woman at 30, kama ni msomi atakua tayari ameshafanya kazi at least 4 years, enough ku-envision mwelekeo wake kiuchumi na kuwa independent, Kijamii at least pia ana 4 years amesha deal na ndugu na jamaa katika maswala ya kusaidia kifedha na kutoa michango ku resolve conflicts, na pia ana kama 10 years za experience na interactions katika mahusiano na male friends (her love life too), social networks, and a trusted cycle of closer friends...