Kujizuia na 'personality change' ........

[Mbu]

Usisahau mandela baada ya kutoka jela aliachana na mkewe. I was a teen then, nilisikitishwa sana na divorce yao. I even cried, na kujiuliza aafter all these years, why why and why!

.....mzee madiba mie simlaumu sana la kuachana na mama Winnie...

Mnapoingia kwenye mahusiano mnawekeza kwenye 'emotional' account.

Kuchukua maamuzi mazito na magumu ili kunusuru afya ya akili yako ni MUHIMU kuliko yule anayeogopa kuchukua hatua hiyo kwakuwa ana 'ogopa' JAMII itamuelewaje.

Positive Mental Attitude ni pamoja na kutafakari, kuchukua hatua, na kusimamia kile unachojithibitishia ndio sahihi na salama kwa "afya ya akili" yako (which brings us back to this topic)

Watu wanaua/na sababu ya MMU 🙁

 

[Dena Amsi]

Mimi nitajisemea mwenyewe mtu anabadilishwa na mazingira ...................

Mfano mimi nilikuja huku na heshima za Tanzania (nyumbani) lakini wale watu naishi nao ni tofauti unafanya wema wanakuona kama wewe mjinga nimejikuta na mimi nimekuwa kama wao walivyo.....................hata nikirudi home watu wanajiuliza kwani umekuwa na roho mbaya aje

 

[Kongosho]

Ulikuwa teen??

Nakugaya, kumbe yiu are current affairs and am history??

Usisahau mandela baada ya kutoka jela aliachana na mkewe. I was a teen then, nilisikitishwa sana na divorce yao. I even cried, na kujiuliza aafter all these years, why why and why!

 

[Kongosho]

Ha ha ha ha ha ha, unaleta adabu za Buhangija huku Lugalo?

Utajuuuta kutufahamu.

Topic ngumu, ila ina mantiki, nitarudi kujaza yangu.

Mimi nitajisemea mwenyewe mtu anabadilishwa na mazingira ...................

Mfano mimi nilikuja huku na heshima za Tanzania (nyumbani) lakini wale watu naishi nao ni tofauti unafanya wema wanakuona kama wewe mjinga nimejikuta na mimi nimekuwa kama wao walivyo.....................hata nikirudi home watu wanajiuliza kwani umekuwa na roho mbaya aje

 

[The Boss]

....kubali mabadiliko bila kuathiri yaliyo ya msingi katika maisha, mfano kwangu mie ni;

1. Afya yangu ambayo ndio utajiri wa kweli.
2. kipato, iwe ni ajira, biashara, au chochote kinachonihakikishia nitapata angalau basic needs i.e chakula, maji, hewa safi, pahala pa kulala...
3. Mawasiliano! ....kiukweli, mawasiliano iwe face to face, sms, simu, internet, ni muhimu sana kwa afya yangu ya akili

....muhimu kumkumbusha 'usongo wa mawazo' usipouendekeza ni hali ya mpito.

It is ok to feel down, hata ikiwezekana hata akilia kama njia ya kupunguza machungu, au hata kama atahitaji -space- apate 'jiweka' sawa...inakubalika.

....am open to talk, (kumsikiliza zaidi) na kushauriana.


....Open communication. Ni vyema kipindi cha "healthy relationship" mkajadiliana Iwapo janga likitokea mnadhani hatua gani zitawasaidia...

...japokuwa huwezi tabiri janga, litapowakumba na kwakuwa tayari mna 'safety net' na maboya ya kujiokolea...haitawachukua muda ku reason na hali iliyopo.



.....'only if' utakuwa tayari kukubali kusikiliza na kukosolewa (na mwenyewe kujikosoa)

Mtu 'mgumu' ni yule haambiliki, asiyekubali kujitazama wala kukosolewa....kwamba anaamini HE/SHE is always right!

Kujitambua kwamba "si mkamilifu!" ni shughuli pevu kwa wengi wengineo. Mie najitambua, na sipotezi lolote ninapokosolewa.

umeongea point ya kujadili majanga kabla hayajatokea
hiyo ni ngumu sana kwa kweli
kiafrica tunaita 'uchuro' lol

 

[The Boss]

.....mzee madiba mie simlaumu sana la kuachana na mama Winnie...

Mnapoingia kwenye mahusiano mnawekeza kwenye 'emotional' account.

Kuchukua maamuzi mazito na magumu ili kunusuru afya ya akili yako ni MUHIMU kuliko yule anayeogopa kuchukua hatua hiyo kwakuwa ana 'ogopa' JAMII itamuelewaje.

Positive Mental Attitude ni pamoja na kutafakari, kuchukua hatua, na kusimamia kile unachojithibitishia ndio sahihi na salama kwa "afya ya akili" yako (which brings us back to this topic)

Watu wanaua/na sababu ya MMU 🙁

Na kama jamii inakuona umekosea na kukushanga
je hiyo haiwezi athiri your mental state?

 

[The Boss]

i miss my old self,😱hwell:....
lost my job,failed school,diagnosed with schizophrenia....in the last five years life has been shit!and my future is still blank....😱hwell:,constant worrying,being depressed has a knock on effect on my health.....i am angry/sad all the time,put on weight and i cant sleep..........as a result i hate my self as i was once size 14 happy-go person

I pray for you
lakini anza ku accept kwanza kuwa matatizo yako yanawatokea pia wengine
halafu taratibu anza kutatua moja baada ya lingine
na kuomba mungu pia

 

[The Boss]

Binafsi naamini kua people HAVE to change. If one doesn't like the new me, maybe it is time for her/him to move on? Sometimes the "new me" is just temporar because of stress as you say, then just gimme some space.
Kitu ambacho sio rahisi kutambua ni kua sometimes as a person has changes their entourage entourage changes too. they either complain too much of the change (WHICH IR TIRESOME) or they also move back.
All in all mi sioni ubaya watu kubadilika from time to time, iwe temporar or permanent.

Watu hubadilika hadi wana miss their old self...
kubadilika ni lazima lakini kuna vitu ni kama foundation ya mtu alivyo
so ukiona mtu kabadilika hadi foundation nayo inashangaza

 

[The Boss]

The Boss,
mara yingi sana haiba hubadilika kutokana na mazingir ma scenarios zinazokukabaili ama unazokumbana nazo ziwe njem ama mbaya.

most of us we do think pple change due to matatizo tu lkn ukweli ni kwamba hata raha nazo humfanya mtu akabadilika sana kiasi kwamba ukataman arudi ukwanza wake.

sometimes ili mtu asibadilike sana aanahitaj zaid kujitambua na kujua kwamba anabadilika je iakuwa chanya ama hasi. na je katika mabadiliko hayo atavumilika ama la.

nampenda mtu ambaye hukubali kwamba sasa nimebadilika sio tena yule gsonwin wa zamani lakni nampenda zaid yule ambaye pamoja na kukubali kwamba amebadilika huchukua hatua zaid ya kurekebisha mabadiliko yake yaendane na maisha ya kawaida tuliyoyazoea.

mara zote kujitambua ni jambo zuri sana kwenye maisha lkn pia kuangalia upitapo ni jambo zuri zaid.

Asante kwa ku mention mabadiliko yanatokea pia 'tukifanikiwa'
nayo yanaweza kufanya uka loose everything
watu wana loose ndugu na marafiki sababu wana 'mafanikio mapya'

 

[The Boss]

Mimi nitajisemea mwenyewe mtu anabadilishwa na mazingira ...................

Mfano mimi nilikuja huku na heshima za Tanzania (nyumbani) lakini wale watu naishi nao ni tofauti unafanya wema wanakuona kama wewe mjinga nimejikuta na mimi nimekuwa kama wao walivyo.....................hata nikirudi home watu wanajiuliza kwani umekuwa na roho mbaya aje

Ni makosa kuruhusu watu wenye roho mbaya
kukubadili na wewe kuwa kama wao

 

[kabanga]

kujitambua .ni mwanzo wa kuyamudu mabadiliko ya kimaumbile na kimtazamo pia.... ila kujitambua huko kusiendane na kujaribu....

 

[Mbu]

umeongea point ya kujadili majanga kabla hayajatokea
hiyo ni ngumu sana kwa kweli
kiafrica tunaita 'uchuro' lol

....hapana, kwa mtazamo wangu discussing reality na alternatives ni maturity,....

.....akili za 'uchuro' zinatoa mtazamo wa mtu pessimistic, ambaye hata ukimuuliza fence, gate, grills na locks 'milangoni' zinamsaidia nini moto ukilipuka ndani ya nyumba hatakuwa na jibu.

 

[Mbu]

Na kama jamii inakuona umekosea na kukushanga
je hiyo haiwezi athiri your mental state?

.....huwezi kuzuia jamii kukushangaa, au kukuona unakosea, ndio ubinadamu huo!

Simamia kwa unachokiamini, it's all about what u think, believe and ur attitude. Ndo maana kuna wavumbuzi, wahubiri,....na pia kuna wanaoshangaa imekuwaje!

 

[Dena Amsi]

Ni makosa kuruhusu watu wenye roho mbaya
kukubadili na wewe kuwa kama wao

Si watu ni mazingira ndo yananifanya nibadilike unamtrust mtu unaishi nae anakuibia kila kitu what do u expect surely? Unawanunulia soda kama sio bia wanasema yule ---- twende tukamnywe can u imagien The Boss u dont know what u ar talking about for sure

 

[gfsonwin]

Asante kwa ku mention mabadiliko yanatokea pia 'tukifanikiwa'
nayo yanaweza kufanya uka loose everything
watu wana loose ndugu na marafiki sababu wana 'mafanikio mapya'

The Boss hakuna kitu kibaya kama mtu ufanikiwe halafu hujui kwanini umefanikiwa na unatakiwa kufanya nini kwa mafanikio nayo.
usipoyajua hayo, ni wazi kwamba hautatumia mafaniko yako kama mwanga kwa wengine bali utayatumia kama fimbo kwa wengine. na ieleweke kwamba unapobadilika negatively kwasababu ya mafanikio uliyonayo unatengeneza maadui wengi kuliko marafiki na doa unalojitia huwa halisafishiki manake hupanda mbegu ya kisasi ndani yake.

 

[The Boss]

The Boss hakuna kitu kibaya kama mtu ufanikiwe halafu hujui kwanini umefanikiwa na unatakiwa kufanya nini kwa mafanikio nayo.
usipoyajua hayo, ni wazi kwamba hautatumia mafaniko yako kama mwanga kwa wengine bali utayatumia kama fimbo kwa wengine. na ieleweke kwamba unapobadilika negatively kwasababu ya mafanikio uliyonayo unatengeneza maadui wengi kuliko marafiki na doa unalojitia huwa halisafishiki manake hupanda mbegu ya kisasi ndani yake.

Wapo wengi mno mafanikio huwa chanzo
chao cha ku fall down na hata kufa
Wazungu wanasema 'be carefull on what you wish for,you might get it'

 

[gfsonwin]

Wapo wengi mno mafanikio huwa chanzo
chao cha ku fall down na hata kufa
Wazungu wanasema 'be carefull on what you wish for,you might get it'

that is very very true.

ila sasa swali la msingi la kuijiuliza ni hili hapa, ""je katika maisha yangu ningependa mtu mwingine anifanyie nini?? na je ninao uwezo wa kuyatenda haya kwa wengine kama ninavyotaka akutendewa??

istoshe tusiangalie maisha ya mafanikio ama kutokufanikiwa kama sababu hasaa ya kutufanya tubadilike bali tuangalie kwamba utu wetu wa ndani ndio sababisho.

 

[gfsonwin]

.....huwezi kuzuia jamii kukushangaa, au kukuona unakosea, ndio ubinadamu huo!

Simamia kwa unachokiamini, it's all about what u think, believe and ur attitude. Ndo maana kuna wavumbuzi, wahubiri,....na pia kuna wanaoshangaa imekuwaje!

lakin Mbu inabidi ujiulize kwamba kwann watu wananishangaa ama wanaiaona mkosa, pia assess your self who is the root course of wereva am doing.

manake in most cases we tend to complain others when we do mistakes but we forget that we are the sole course of our mistakes.

 

[Mbu]

lakin Mbu inabidi ujiulize kwamba kwann watu wananishangaa ama wanaiaona mkosa, pia assess your self who is the root course of wereva am doing.

manake in most cases we tend to complain others when we do mistakes but we forget that we are the sole course of our mistakes.

.....upo sahihi, ndio maana hapo awali nilizungumzia "uwe tayari kukosolewa na kujikosoa" coz, nobody is perfect. No wonder wana saikolojia wanatupa mifano hata kwa kutumia JOHARI window ;

The window is a square divided into four quadrants, as shown below.

The quadrants relate to knowledge about you, in four categories:

• Open area - what you know about yourself and others also know
• Blind area - what you don't know about yourself but others do know
• Hidden area - what you know about yourself but others don't know
• Unknown area - what neither you nor others know about you.
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