Is single motherhood trending fashion?

[gfsonwin]

kwanzanza wanawake u need to get it in ur thick skulls kuwa mwanaume akitaka kusex na wewe kavu dont mean kuwa anataka kuzaa na wewe!!! mwanaume anayetaka kuzaa na wewe atakwambia bwana mbona mnakuwa wagumu sana kuelewa hilo?

point yako ya mwisho ya kwamba u create ur own happiness shows kuwa wengi wanaofanya hivyo wanakuwa selfish not taking into account the feelings za huyo mtoto. trust me no amount of money can replace the love of a father. hamna mtoto anayependa kwenda shule anaona wenzake wanachukuliwa na baba na mama yeye mama tuu and am talking from personal experience hapa. no child deserves such treatment.

you got it right dude!
but what can you say about a lady ambaye anatamani kuwa na mtoto wa kumzaa lakin she doesnt have a man to marry her instead akapata wa kumdonetia sperm tu??

 

[mzabzab]

you got it right dude!
but what can you say about a lady ambaye anatamani kuwa na mtoto wa kumzaa lakin she doesnt have a man to marry her instead akapata wa kumdonetia sperm tu??

wewe ukose mwanaume wakukuoa basi una matatizo

 

[gfsonwin]

wewe ukose mwanaume wakukuoa basi una matatizo

hivi hujawah kusikia kwamba binti fulan hajaolewa??
tena hata katika umri wake wa utu uzima bado tu hajaolewa??

binafsi nimeshuhudia weng sana na wengi wao waliopt kutafuta wanaume wakazaa nao watt sidhan kama ni kosa sana as for me kwani atleast amekuwa fair kwa nafsi yake. but ni jambo ambalo halijakaa vyema sana machoni.

 

[mzabzab]

hivi hujawah kusikia kwamba binti fulan hajaolewa??
tena hata katika umri wake wa utu uzima bado tu hajaolewa??

binafsi nimeshuhudia weng sana na wengi wao waliopt kutafuta wanaume wakazaa nao watt sidhan kama ni kosa sana as for me kwani atleast amekuwa fair kwa nafsi yake. but ni jambo ambalo halijakaa vyema sana machoni.

mie nakwambia hivi besty...chunguza kiundani hao watakuwa walikuwa na kasoro either them or familia kunakitu.

 

[gfsonwin]

mie nakwambia hivi besty...chunguza kiundani hao watakuwa walikuwa na kasoro either them or familia kunakitu.

bestie wataka kuniambia kwamba mungu aliumba wanawake wote na kuwaandikia kwamba wote wataolewa?? Mm siamini hilo as najua kabisa kwamba sio kila kitu kiko hivyo kwa watu wote.

Imagine kama kuolewa kuliwekwa ni wazi kwamba basi hata kutokuolewa kuko pia. Na pia haimaanish kwamba wale wasioolewa hawapaswi kuzaa la hasha.

Ukianza kusema tuchunguze familia zao ama wao watakuwa na mapungufu je wataka kusema kwamba wote walioolewa wanatoka kwenye familia zisizo na matatizo ama wao hawana matatizo??

 

[KIUNO CHANGU]

kuolewa nowadays sio lazima kama zamani course maisha yamebadilika na kila mmoja anaweza kujitegemea na kutunza mtoto wake vizuri tofauti na zamani ambapo mwanaume alikua ndo mtafutaji

 

[mzabzab]

bestie wataka kuniambia kwamba mungu aliumba wanawake wote na kuwaandikia kwamba wote wataolewa?? Mm siamini hilo as najua kabisa kwamba sio kila kitu kiko hivyo kwa watu wote.

Imagine kama kuolewa kuliwekwa ni wazi kwamba basi hata kutokuolewa kuko pia. Na pia haimaanish kwamba wale wasioolewa hawapaswi kuzaa la hasha.

Ukianza kusema tuchunguze familia zao ama wao watakuwa na mapungufu je wataka kusema kwamba wote walioolewa wanatoka kwenye familia zisizo na matatizo ama wao hawana matatizo??

haman binadamu mkamilifu.

 

[mafinyofinyo]

I don't think ts about fashion. Now dayz wanaume tupo wachache na wenye uwezo wa kuoa na kuwa na familia pia ni wachache sana.

 

[gfsonwin]

haman binadamu mkamilifu.

if that is the case,
then getting married is something to do with god's plans and not that is someone's wish.

 

[kuberwa]

Kama waume wenyewe mna fikra kama hizi mnafikiri wataacha kuwa single mothers? Mind you kila binaadamu ni unique never generalize, utakalolikuta kwa Roza silo utakalolikuta kwa Siajabu! Tatizo wanaume mmekosa uthubutu mnawaogopa wanawake kwa kusingizia usomi wao wakati kuna wanaume wameoa wanawake std 7 lakini wanaburuzwa kama mikokoteni! Badilikeni wanaume sio weakness zenu muwasingizie wanawake, ninaloweza kuongeza pia sababu ya ongezeko la single mothers ni wanaume kuacha kuoa na kutaka kuolewa na wanaume wenzao pia(kuporomoka kwa maadili)hivyo wanawake na wanaume sikuhizi ni rivals wote wanatafuta kitu kimoja!

Mwanaume anaposoma anakuwa mjinga;
Mwanaume msomi anapika ilhali mkewe kakunja nne sebuleni akiangalia luninga;
Mwanaume msomi anamtawadha mtoto anapokuwa amejisaidia hata kama mkewe yupo;
Mwanaume msomi anajua ndoa sio utumwa.
Hii ni kwa kuwa amepanua sana ufahamu wake na kujua majukumu yake katika ndoa kwa uhalisia wake

Mwanamke msomi anazijua haki zake;
Mwanamke msomi ni mbabe anayejua kila kitu;
Mwanamke msomi ana uwezo wa kimaisha kujitosheleza peke yake;
Mwanamke msomi hajui majukumu yake katika ndoa kwa uhalisia wake;
Kwa kutojua majukumu anahisi anaonewa.​

Ziadi ya yote wanawake wamelishwa kasumba kwa muda mrefu;
Kasumba kuwa kuna mfumo dume unaowanyanyasa;
Kasumba imewafanya watafute uhuru kwa gharama yeyote
Uhuru unajionesha kwa kuamua kuwalea watoto wao peke yao
Uhuru umewafanya watamani kuwa HERMOPHRODITE.​

Lakini yote kwa wale wapenzi wa Mtume Paul;
Wanajua alisema siku za mwisho upendo utapoa;
Watu wataifuata tamaa yao wenyewe;

Naam ni ufumo wa maisha;
Wanaume wanawaogopa wanawake wasomi;
Wanawake wasomi tangu wakiwa vyuoni huwa wasumbufu;
usumbufu wao husababisha wanaume waanze kuwatafuta "MOGLO"
Na ndio wanaowaoa.
Wanawake wasomi matokeo yake wanakuwa "MANUNGAYEMBE"​

Ndimi Bazazi Nimesema.

 

[Heaven on Earth]

haya kama hawakujitegesha basi they daft to get pregnant and having to suffer knowing full well kuwa most likely the man wont stick around. u the mothers are the ones that suffer alot so y doesnt common sense prevailwhen it comes to such matters?

bliv me not many people have emotional intelligence and many a man have confused love with infatuation. it is to my understanding that many tend to enter relationships habouring hopes of it leading to something meaningful but that often clouds judgement. emotions are stronger than reason so one needs to be prudent. mwanamke au mwanaume anayefaa anajulikana kama u are willing to pay attention.

Why is this so hard to understand when ic comes to drama of reletionship? Some people get lucky and some don't.
Sometimes you love someone who doesn't love you back. Sometimes you love someone who isn't available. Sometimes you don't have anyone you love at all. Sometimes the only people available in your "potential life partner" group are immature assholes who treat you like shit who at first you paid the whole atention na kudhani anafaa....,


Why does being unlucky in love mean that you don't get to be a mom either? So baadhi yetu figure out a way to do it on our own. Men die, or leave, or are left. There is no magic formula that says once a man reproduces, he'll always be around.

 

[mzabzab]

if that is the case,
then getting married is something to do with god's plans and not that is someone's wish.

nah i disagree hapo...mumgu hampangi mtu maisha never...mungu amewapa binadamu free will...wewe fanya uchaguzi wako. yes unaweza kufanya uchaguzi wakutokuolewa thats understandable. but to say kwamba eti mungu kampangia huyu aolewe na yule asiolewe sikubaliani nalo.

 

[DaPilly]

Mwanaume anaposoma anakuwa mjinga;
Mwanaume msomi anapika ilhali mkewe kakunja nne sebuleni akiangalia luninga;
Mwanaume msomi anamtawadha mtoto anapokuwa amejisaidia hata kama mkewe yupo;
Mwanaume msomi anajua ndoa sio utumwa.
Hii ni kwa kuwa amepanua sana ufahamu wake na kujua majukumu yake katika ndoa kwa uhalisia wake

Mwanamke msomi anazijua haki zake;
Mwanamke msomi ni mbabe anayejua kila kitu;
Mwanamke msomi ana uwezo wa kimaisha kujitosheleza peke yake;
Mwanamke msomi hajui majukumu yake katika ndoa kwa uhalisia wake;
Kwa kutojua majukumu anahisi anaonewa.​

Ziadi ya yote wanawake wamelishwa kasumba kwa muda mrefu;
Kasumba kuwa kuna mfumo dume unaowanyanyasa;
Kasumba imewafanya watafute uhuru kwa gharama yeyote
Uhuru unajionesha kwa kuamua kuwalea watoto wao peke yao
Uhuru umewafanya watamani kuwa HERMOPHRODITE.​

Lakini yote kwa wale wapenzi wa Mtume Paul;
Wanajua alisema siku za mwisho upendo utapoa;
Watu wataifuata tamaa yao wenyewe;

Naam ni ufumo wa maisha;
Wanaume wanawaogopa wanawake wasomi;
Wanawake wasomi tangu wakiwa vyuoni huwa wasumbufu;
usumbufu wao husababisha wanaume waanze kuwatafuta "MOGLO"
Na ndio wanaowaoa.
Wanawake wasomi matokeo yake wanakuwa "MANUNGAYEMBE"​

Ndimi Bazazi Nimesema.

Mi nimependa hiyo explanations ya mwanaume msomi somehow it is working. ila hiyo ya mwanamke msomi, mhhhhh!!

 

[mzabzab]

Why is this so hard to understand when ic comes to drama of reletionship? Some people get lucky and some don't.
Sometimes you love someone who doesn't love you back. Sometimes you love someone who isn't available. Sometimes you don't have anyone you love at all. Sometimes the only people available in your "potential life partner" group are immature assholes who treat you like shit who at first you paid the whole atention na kudhani anafaa....,


Why does being unlucky in love mean that you don't get to be a mom either? So baadhi yetu figure out a way to do it on our own. Men die, or leave, or are left. There is no magic formula that says once a man reproduces, he'll always be around.

unajua mie mtu akishanza kusema mambo ya luck au sijui mungu ndio alivyopanga tayari najua huyo mtu kashashindwa kusupport point yake. speak facts not fate.

there is no such thing as being unlucky kwenye relationships. many of the so called dramas kwenye relationships zinaletwa na poor choices zetu. yes ni kweli kwamba hamna certainity kwamba after thorough consideration the relationship will workout but u can be confident that it will succeed. simple example( samahani naleta example ya football but it does illustrate my point well) take for example makocha kama kina ferguson, mourinho katika maongezi yao wanasema kuwa they confident kwamba they can win games but hata siku moja hawezi kusema he is certain. confidence inakuja pale ambapo mtu amefanya throrough preparation u have taken a keen look at most of the important matters at hand.

sasa tukija kuangalia relationships za sasa wangapi wanapay due consideration to important matters that will instill in the the confidence ya kuwa na succesful relationship? tumekuwa binadamu wa tamaaa wenye majivuno na materialistic. humbleness, humility, compasion, patience and love, the virtues of a successful relationship come second to materials and status.

so dnt tell me about luck its about choices we make...and most of us make poor ones.

 

[tracy]

Nikiongea from my personal experience(people around me) and knowledge
1.kuna mentality most women have these days that ndoa ni hectic,stress nyingi and at the end of the day hakuna guarantee hutaletewa mke mwenza..in short,marriage inachukuliwa kama gambling..pata mtoto tu
2.Selfishness;without pointing fingers hii ipo kwa wote.wengi wetu hatufikirii watoto and the environment wanatakiwa wakuzwe.
3.bitter truth,morals zipo almost zero kwa wote,yale mambo ya family first yanaelekea ukingoni na wengine wamekuzwa kwenye environment ya single mothers na ukiangalia,wengi wetu tunapenda kutorudia makosa ya wazazi but sijui ni nini ila historia hujirudia,.only prayers and dedication inaweza kuondoa(my opinion)
4.kuna kundi la wanaume ambao hadi leo wanakataa responsibilities
5.kutojitambua:watu wengine hawajui priorities zao na hawana plans,they live for a day
6.kulazimisha mahusiano:women..for money,status etc
all in all,single mothers wengi wanatamani kuwa na partners wao kukuza watoto but life tends not to go as wanavyowish.
wengi wanaishi in denial and it takes time kuanza kukubali kuwa they have to raise kids alone!
it takes two,wanaume na wanawake wote wanahitaji kuwa emancipated

 

[sovito]

Am a dude and I agree that some men are full of shiiit! It takes more than an angel to stand by his side through thick n thin!!! It's not right generalize the situation as moral decay

 

[Vituka]

kwanzanza wanawake u need to get it in ur thick skulls kuwa mwanaume akitaka kusex na wewe kavu dont mean kuwa anataka kuzaa na wewe!!! mwanaume anayetaka kuzaa na wewe atakwambia bwana mbona mnakuwa wagumu sana kuelewa hilo?

point yako ya mwisho ya kwamba u create ur own happiness shows kuwa wengi wanaofanya hivyo wanakuwa selfish not taking into account the feelings za huyo mtoto. trust me no amount of money can replace the love of a father. hamna mtoto anayependa kwenda shule anaona wenzake wanachukuliwa na baba na mama yeye mama tuu and am talking from personal experience hapa. no child deserves such treatment.

Hapo kwenye red nakubaliana na wewe ila ni wanawake wachache sana wenye akili hizo na ubinafsi, wanawake wengi sana wamelazimika kuwa single mothers kwa sababu ya kukimbiwa na waume zao kwa sababu zisizokuwa na msingi wowote. Wengine pia unakuta anaishi na mumewake lakini mwanaume anakuwa hana effect yeyote katika familia, instead of being the head of the family anakuwa mkia!!!Hajishughulishi wala hajigusi!Mama anakuw mama na baba pia, halafu mbaya zaidi anakuwa mama na baba wa watoto wake plus huyo mume!Ivi unadhani hili linavumilika?Tupa kule habari ya mume halafu unalea wanao kwa nafasi cha singi tu wawe wa baba mmoja maana wakiwa wa baba tofauti apo sasa mtihani

 

[Idimi]

kwanzanza wanawake u need to get it in ur thick skulls kuwa mwanaume akitaka kusex na wewe kavu dont mean kuwa anataka kuzaa na wewe!!! mwanaume anayetaka kuzaa na wewe atakwambia bwana mbona mnakuwa wagumu sana kuelewa hilo?

point yako ya mwisho ya kwamba u create ur own happiness shows kuwa wengi wanaofanya hivyo wanakuwa selfish not taking into account the feelings za huyo mtoto. trust me no amount of money can replace the love of a father. hamna mtoto anayependa kwenda shule anaona wenzake wanachukuliwa na baba na mama yeye mama tuu and am talking from personal experience hapa. no child deserves such treatment.

Naona mgegedaji mkuu leo umekuja na bonge ya desa.
Ni kweli kwamba baadhi ya akina mama singles (walioamua kuzaa bila ndoa au bila kubakwa wala kukimbiwa) wanajisikia vema kuwa katika hali hiyo. Ila shida inakuja baadaye sana kwa mtoto, pale atakapohitaji kuwa na wazazi wote wawili. Single parenthood kwa mtoto ni mbaya sana kisaikolojia, huwa mtoto anajisikia mpweke sana pale mabpo wenzake huwa wanasimuliana jinsi wanavyo enjoy na wazazi wao wote.

 

[mzabzab]

Hapo kwenye red nakubaliana na wewe ila ni wanawake wachache sana wenye akili hizo na ubinafsi, wanawake wengi sana wamelazimika kuwa single mothers kwa sababu ya kukimbiwa na waume zao kwa sababu zisizokuwa na msingi wowote. Wengine pia unakuta anaishi na mumewake lakini mwanaume anakuwa hana effect yeyote katika familia, instead of being the head of the family anakuwa mkia!!!Hajishughulishi wala hajigusi!Mama anakuw mama na baba pia, halafu mbaya zaidi anakuwa mama na baba wa watoto wake plus huyo mume!Ivi unadhani hili linavumilika?Tupa kule habari ya mume halafu unalea wanao kwa nafasi cha singi tu wawe wa baba mmoja maana wakiwa wa baba tofauti apo sasa mtihani

again hapo kwenye red it comes down to poor choice. i tell u something na hii niliambiwa na bibi yangu...be very careful who u choose to be ur gf becoz hao magf usualy turn out to be wives...so ata nyie wanawake muwe makini mnapochagua bf.

chukuwa mwanaume ambaye kwanza unajua worse comes to worse unapata mimba "accidentally" kama msemavyo basi atleats u have the confidence hatakuwa wakutoroka kimoja. mie bwana bado nahamini its down to u and ur choices.

 

[Chiwa]

yamenikuta......
so am speaking from experience

pole sana lakini uhahitaji kupunguza hasira usikubali maisha yawe hivyo