Does the Age Difference Really Matter Katika Mahusiano!!!!!!!!

jmwakikali said:

Hiyo age unayoongelea kwa wote naona sawa kabisa, maana yake nini; Ni kwamba wote mko kwenye umri uliokomaa kimahusiano ni umri sahihi wa kuoana. Suppose tupunguze umri wenu miaka miwili, utaona kuwa mwanaume akiwa na umri wa miaka 28 na wewe miaka 18 utaona kuwa marriage hii itakuwa iko sahihi kwani umri bado nauona si tofauti kubwa kama unavyowaza. Kingine ambacho nakiona kuwa kingekuwa ndio kigezo halisia kuliko vyote, ni jinsi mapenzi yenu yalivyojiunda, namaanisha upendo wenu ukoje ndani ya mioyo yenu kama inashabihiana na kuridhiana, huyo ndio wako wa maisha.

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asante sana jmwakikali,nashukuru sana

ushauri wenu counts alot

Moyo wako ndao wenye jibu la uhakika! km unahic unampenda we jifungie bomu kiunoni,umri wala siyo issue,issue ni anakupenda na ww unampenda?Kwani unajua tofauti ya umri kati ya Jakaya kikwete na Salma kikwete!?tofauti yao inaweza kufika 20yrs. lkn tofauti yao ya miaka huwezi kuiona coz wanapendana!

Kama unahisi anaweza kuwa mwenzi mwema katika maisha, just go for him. Kumbuka relationships grow with time. Hizo differences ktk mtizamo wa maisha zipo kwa watu wote but mwisho wa siku wanaishi na kufurahia life. Age sio kigezo pekee

victormwita said:

Kama unahisi anaweza kuwa mwenzi mwema katika maisha, just go for him. Kumbuka relationships grow with time. Hizo differences ktk mtizamo wa maisha zipo kwa watu wote but mwisho wa siku wanaishi na kufurahia life. Age sio kigezo pekee

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victormwita nashukuru kwa mawazo wako......

Heaven on earth said:

Eli79 my best friend asante sana.......

btn mbona sijakuona CC ila ukimuona my wii Lady doctor na pacha wake Passion Lady
waambie nawatafuta kwa udi na uvumba....

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nimekuja wii wangu, mwenzio hayo yanayo kusibu ndiyo ninayaishi mwenzio.......... Nipo kwenye age kama yako ila shemejio kanipita 9yrs........! Uzuri wake anajua sana kucare ila sasa ananifanya kama mwanae kila kitu nifanye chini ya amri yake, hivi karibuni alikuwa anataka kuniachisha kazi nikashtaki kwa wazee tukayamaliza!!!!! Inaniboa sana hiyo tabia ila kikubwa nami nimemjulia wapi pa kumchesha akili so, hatushindwani na tunapendana sana!
Uamuzi ni wako my wii kama mnapendana umri si chochote ndani ya mapenzi kikubwa ni kuheshimiana!

Lady doctor said:

nimekuja wii wangu, mwenzio hayo yanayo kusibu ndiyo ninayaishi mwenzio.......... Nipo kwenye age kama yako ila shemejio kanipita 9yrs........! Uzuri wake anajua sana kucare ila sasa ananifanya kama mwanae kila kitu nifanye chini ya amri yake, hivi karibuni alikuwa anataka kuniachisha kazi nikashtaki kwa wazee tukayamaliza!!!!! Inaniboa sana hiyo tabia ila kikubwa nami nimemjulia wapi pa kumchesha akili so, hatushindwani na tunapendana sana!
Uamuzi ni wako my wii kama mnapendana umri si chochote ndani ya mapenzi kikubwa ni kuheshimiana!

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my wii yaani nimekutafuta wewe basi tu.....

kumbe we are on the same boat LOL!!!!!!!

Heaven on earth said:

Eli79 my best friend asante sana.......

btn mbona sijakuona CC ila ukimuona my wii Lady doctor na pacha wake Passion Lady
waambie nawatafuta kwa udi na uvumba....

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Ur welcome best wangu!....
kumbe huyo jamaa ndo alikufanya unikatae e! hahaaa
Baada ya kuona kuwa best yangu(wewe) keshapata anaesuuza nafsi yake inabidi nijitahidi nisije nikamkosa Passion Lady, ndo maana hunioni kule...ila huyu kiumbe kama wewe..hashikiki..teeh!(joke)

If u love him madam go ahead....I remembr my primary ticha once told me for a rshp to last u shud at least hav ur ages differ.....And in most cases a man shud b the 1 with mo ages......wat matters z love..

Heaven on earth said:

my wii yaani nimekutafuta wewe basi tu.....

kumbe we are on the same boat LOL!!!!!!!

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hahahaaa...... Si ndio maana twapendana wii wangu, ila usije ukambwaga my kaka figganigga kisa anamiaka 60 lol!!!!!

Olewa haraka. Hamna ushauri mwingine. Muda mwingine ukiwa na swala la kuweka kwa uzi chagua lugha unayoifahamu vyema. Kama ni kiswahili sawa, kama english ok, kama kichaga sawa. Hii habari ya kuchanganya lugha naona kama ushamba fulani vile... au utoto wa kidato cha pili. Acha hiyo tabia ni mbaya na inakera. Hakuna atakaye kudharau/kukusifu kwa ajili ya kutumia lugha fulani. Tumia hata 'kikara'. Iwe tu kwa usahihi.

Don worry Ten ni ndogo sana mi nimempita wakwangu na 8 lakini mapenzi yako safi sana mpaka rafiki zake wanamuonea wivu ana mashaka watamuibia,kula life ila nenda kwa step coz wanaume wa maofisini wahuni sana nowdays.

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Heaven on earth said:

we mathcom nikoje!!!!!!!!!!

swali;je kwenye swala la kuniambia fanya hiviusifanye hivi is it OKAY?
we ulikuwa ulikuwa una mcontroll mkeo some how just because of age!!!!

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Cha kuangalia ni merits ya kile anachosema DO au DON'T DO. Binafsi naona kama anatimiza ile role ya mume kuwa kiongozi, ila inaonekana wewe unachukulia kama anaku-force au kuku-command vile. If it makes sense, then take it positively

mito said:

Cha kuangalia ni merits ya kile anachosema DO au DON'T DO. Binafsi naona kama anatimiza ile role ya mume kuwa kiongozi, ila inaonekana wewe unachukulia kama anaku-force au kuku-command vile. If it makes sense, then take it positively

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Yaani hizo DO and DONTS unadhani zina madhara basi.......

ni ile tu naona kama anataka kubadilisha lifestyle yangu.....

Naimani1234 said:

Olewa haraka. Hamna ushauri mwingine. Muda mwingine ukiwa na swala la kuweka kwa uzi chagua lugha unayoifahamu vyema. Kama ni kiswahili sawa, kama english ok, kama kichaga sawa. Hii habari ya kuchanganya lugha naona kama ushamba fulani vile... au utoto wa kidato cha pili. Acha hiyo tabia ni mbaya na inakera. Hakuna atakaye kudharau/kukusifu kwa ajili ya kutumia lugha fulani. Tumia hata 'kikara'. Iwe tu kwa usahihi.

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asante kwa ushauri,next time nitajaribu kuacha huo ushamba

uliouongelea!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If the range is as the comment said then go on and enjoy!heaven on earth

Heaven on earth said:

Yaani hizo DO and DONTS unadhani zina madhara basi.......

ni ile tu naona kama anataka kubadilisha lifestyle yangu.....

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Tena nampa big up kabisa! lifestyle yako lazima ibadilike ili mwendane. Kifupi anachofanya ni kuku-bold ili uwe mke mwema kadri ya matakwa yake, uwe mama mzuri wa watoto wake, mke anaye-behave au anaye-act sawa sawa na mapenzi ya mumewe.

Believe me or not, kila mwanaume anavile ambayo angependa mke wake awe, yaani afanye hiki lakini asifanye kile! awe na tabia hii lakini siyo ile, etc.

mito said:

Tena nampa big up kabisa! lifestyle yako lazima ibadilike ili mwendane. Kifupi anachofanya ni kuku-bold ili uwe mke mwema kadri ya matakwa yake, uwe mama mzuri wa watoto wake, mke anaye-behave au anaye-act sawa sawa na mapenzi ya mumewe.

Believe me or not, kila mwanaume anavile ambayo angependa mke wake awe, yaani afanye hiki lakini asifanye kile! awe na tabia hii lakini siyo ile, etc.

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hahaaa mito umenichekeshaje hapo kwenye RED.

ASANTE kwa ushauri wako,umeongea jambo la msingi sana

Heaven on earth said:

asante miss strong,mama namshirikisha hii kitu
cos n mtu Open na huwa tunaongea mambo mengi......

My sis ye majibu yake cmple and clear unaeza hata ulie,bora nishee tu na nyie
wana MMU wenzangu ila ye ntamwambia tu kama kumpa taarifa.......

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Its okey mamii.........wajua wakat mwingine waweza kutaka ushaur kwa mtu kana kwamba lile si jambo lako,labda unahadithia kama rafik yako limemtokea na amekuja kwako kuomba ushaur sasa we hujui ufanyeje ndo umeamua kumshirikisha yeye ili mpate kumsaidia rafiki.
Inategemea unaishi vip na mama lakin usipende kumshirikisha mama au hata baba mambo ya mapenz kwa steps za awali kabisa.
Nakutakia mafanikio

Kha..kwa style na comments za watu humu basi mie wangu ndo either anamaliza form six ama yuko form five somewhere!!! dah..i have a loong way to wait huh!!!!!

Haya waalimu wote snowhite, gfsonwin, Evelyn Salt anzeni kunchaguia mmoja wa wanafunzi wenu wa kuolewa na Mentor...:noidea:

Heaven on earth said:

hahaaa mito umenichekeshaje hapo kwenye RED.

ASANTE kwa ushauri wako,umeongea jambo la msingi sana

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Nakwambia ukweli mdogo wangu, tena from the experience of various relationships and my own experience, mi mke wangu namzidi miaka 8 and I had to act (kumbadilisha lifestyle) kama huyo mchumba wako ili kumbadilisha, coz I have lived longer and have seen more than hers. Leo hii tuko level moja hadi mwenyewe ananiambia "....ila ulinisaidia kuacha kitu fulani japo ulikuwa unaniuzi kunikataza". Unajua Heaven on earth mtu mzima (anayejitambua) akishakaa tu na kijana kwa muda fulani, tayari kuna vitu atavinote ambavyo anajua unavifanya/unavipenda kwa sababu tu ya utoto/ujana and not otherwise, so he wishes you could change to become good mum.

so we badili tu lifestyle ili mwendane bhana....unless anakukataza usile mayai, kuku, samaki etc hapo ndo itakuwa issue!!! teh teh teh!