It's not 1945 anymore- you can't hang on to those old ways. This, "If he wants to marry me, he'll ask me" thing has got to stop. Because we're not going to ask you when you're ready-we're going to play with you until you give us your requirements and standards, and stand by them. I'm not telling you to get on bended knee.
I'm telling you to set a timeline for the ring and the date, and tell the man you want to be married to what it is. I recognize that this is hard. But let me tell you what's really hard: dating/living with/having a baby with a man who has no intention of marrying you and eight years up the road, he walks out and you're left to find a new man/pay all the bills after years of splitting them with someone else/raising those kids on your own. Oh, it can be done. But recognize just how hard that will be. All I'm suggesting is that you get the little uncomfortable moments out of the way early-let him know now what you want and expect.
Make clear to him what you're worth, and that you come at a cost; tell him how much you're worth like you're about to list yourself on eBay for a million dollars. Break down your value: say, "I respect you, I adore you, I'm affectionate,
I pay attention to you, I'm punctual, I'm kind, I'm loyal, I'll have your children and love them madly-and all of this is
available for a handsome sum. I need your time, loyalty, support, affection, attention, punctuality, kindness, gentleman ways-I need the doors opened, chairs pulled out, your respect, and above all else, your love. I also expect a diamond ring and a walk down the aisle."