Selfika na JF: Snap it. Show it

As powerful people, we choose not to fear other people and their responses. We know they can’t control us, and we know we can’t control them. Rather, we choose to act in love by opening our hearts and seeking to establish healthy connection.

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The writer of Hebrews compares sexually immoral people to Esau, who in a moment of hunger sold his birthright to his younger brother in exchange for some food: “See that no one is sexually immoral, or is godless like Esau, who for a single meal sold his inheritance rights as the oldest son” (Heb. 12:16).

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To illustrate my point, imagine the following scenario. The most beautiful woman that you have ever seen comes to you and states that she wants to pleasure you in any way you want. She also guarantees complete anonymity. It is impossible that anyone would ever find out. Would you say yes? If so, it shows how much you value your freedom.

Now imagine that this same woman came and made the same offer, but this time she added that she would give you $10,000 in cash for letting her pleasure you. Would you say yes? Then that would be how much you value your freedom.

Perhaps she came once more, but this time she offered you $1 million to pleasure you. Would you say yes? If so, then that is how much you value your freedom.

So, at what price would you sell your freedom? Whatever number, if any, seems right, that number defines the value you place on your freedom.

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Umeona nondo hizo. Itabidi tu tuokoke kwa sababu hakuna namna

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The only way to walk in self-control is to view our freedom as priceless and invaluable, and to guard it with our lives. We must value our personal freedom above all else. Once we see the value of our freedom, we will not allow anything outside of us to control us. This will enable us to allow God’s grace to pour into us and give us the strength not to give our control away to others.

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The only way to walk in self-control is to view our freedom as priceless and invaluable, and to guard it with our lives. We must value our personal freedom above all else. Once we see the value of our freedom, we will not allow anything outside of us to control us. This will enable us to allow God’s grace to pour into us and give us the strength not to give our control away to others.

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Siku nyingine sijui unavutaga Cha wapi boss bonge

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If we don’t value ourselves, it is impossible for us to value others. That is how a cycle of devaluing happens. For a man to feel valuable and powerful, he devalues women in pornography for a temporary power “fix.” He steals value from her to feed his deficit. The more powerless he feels, the farther he must go for his “fix.” Thus pornography eventually fails to meet the need, and strip clubs come next, followed perhaps by escort services. Thus the downward cycle progresses, all because a powerless person is trying to feel powerful.

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Umeona nondo hizo. Itabidi tu tuokoke kwa sababu hakuna namna

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Hamna namna nimeanza kupenda maandiko hayo nahitaji kujua Zaid na zaidi

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PEOPLE OF VALUE SET BOUNDARIES
When we have a revelation of our value, we establish personal boundaries to protect and communicate that value. As Danny Silk so aptly illustrates:

Boundaries communicate value for what is inside of those boundaries. If you have several junk cars out in a field, it’s called an eyesore. If you put a fence around those cars, then you have a wrecking yard. And, if you put a building around those cars, you have a garage. With each increase of limits, you increase the value of what is inside. When you raise the level of what you require before you will allow access, you increase the value of what you have. To all who are near, we send a clear message about the level of value we have for ourselves by the way we establish boundaries.

Proverbs 25:28 says, “Like a city whose walls are broken through is a person who lacks self-control.”

PEOPLE OF VALUE SAY NO

Another crucial aspect of boundary-setting is the ability to say no to other people’s demands. This doesn’t mean that you can never change your mind or do a favor for someone else. What I’m talking about is when everything in you wants to say no to the request. You may even have pressing reasons why you cannot fulfill the request. But instead of simply saying, “I’m sorry, but I can’t do that for you,” you agree to do it simply out of fear.

If you can’t say no, it’s evidence that you do not value yourself. You fear the rejection or anger that might come at you if you say no, and you believe that your desires and your ability to choose don’t matter as much as the other person’s.

Those who are driven by fear and don’t value themselves enough to say no end up living powerless lives.

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Shimba Ya Buyenze

PEOPLE OF VALUE SET BOUNDARIES
When we have a revelation of our value, we establish personal boundaries to protect and communicate that value. As Danny Silk so aptly illustrates:

Boundaries communicate value for what is inside of those boundaries. If you have several junk cars out in a field, it’s called an eyesore. If you put a fence around those cars, then you have a wrecking yard. And, if you put a building around those cars, you have a garage. With each increase of limits, you increase the value of what is inside. When you raise the level of what you require before you will allow access, you increase the value of what you have. To all who are near, we send a clear message about the level of value we have for ourselves by the way we establish boundaries.

Proverbs 25:28 says, “Like a city whose walls are broken through is a person who lacks self-control.”

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great words Asante mtumishi

To be free is not merely to cast off one’s chains, but to live in a way that respects and enhances the freedom of others. —NELSON MANDELA

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Nimeona mafuta ya Vaseline nimeshtuka nikasema bahari gani tena huyu anachafua hali ya hewa.. kumbe wewe

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The battle for sexual purity is a battle rooted in our identity.

“as [a man] thinks in his heart, so is he”

The war for sexual purity will be won because we are set free by believing the truth (see John 8:32).

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Saint Anne said:

Tako Tako boss ledi uwiii

Kiuno nyigu Hadi changu na Cha depal tukiunganisha havioni ndanii..

Chuchu zimesimama nyie

Nishasema humu hakunaa wa kumzidi boss ledii

Mnaona sasa?
Hakuna Cha msubhate Wala nani..boss ledi amewafunika woote

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Hivi kumbe ni kawaida kwa sisi wanawake kusifiana hivi eh? Sasa mbona wengine tukifanya hivi tunachukuliwa tofauti eti au ndiyo kwa vileee......?

The clinical approach to sexual sin has labeled lust as a disease, and those who have it are called sexual addicts. Those who follow this approach say, “Once an addict, always an addict.” Biblically, I cannot agree with this statement.

You may have been a sexual addict, but you are now the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus (see 1 Cor. 1:30). You may even still be acting like a sexual addict, but that is merely because you have not realized that your identity has changed. You have a new identity, and you must receive a revelation of who you are now. Many Christians continue to walk in sin after salvation because they don’t realize who they are now. If they truly realized who they have become in Christ, then they would be set free.

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We must come to understand that, regarding the battle of sexual sin, we are not the problem. Rather, what we believe about ourselves is the problem. We will only find freedom when we believe what God believes about us.

As I stated earlier, most people form their identity from their actions. Many people have said, “I am a sinner saved by grace.” This is a massive theological error. Once you accept Christ, you are no longer a sinner. God considers you now to be a saint.

Yet because people continue to choose sin at times, they consider themselves to still be sinners. In essence, such people are sinning by faith. They believe themselves to be sinners; therefore, they sin. If they believed God’s Word, which says that they are righteous, then they would walk as righteous people.

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In Christ we have been made into the righteousness of God (see 1 Cor. 1:30; Rom. 5:17); that is our true identity. Once we understand this, our actions will flow forth from this truth. “I am the righteousness of God in Christ; therefore, I live and act righteously, because that is who I am!” Otherwise we will continue to view our actions and make statements like, “I keep sinning; therefore, I must still be a sinner.” God changed our identities and put us into Christ so that our actions would flow out of our new identity in Him.

Shimba Ya Buyenze
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We must return to seeing ourselves the way God sees us. Remember: We will only find freedom when we believe what God believes about us. Renewing the mind transforms us because we begin to see ourselves the way that God sees us, and that corrected identity changes our lives. We must grasp what God declares our identity to be; then our actions will flow from that place of understanding.


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