Eli79 did you even read what I wrote au ulikurupuka tu? Kutegemea mwanamme awe na kipato haimaanishi kuwa nategemea kipato chake ili niwe dependent kwake. 2 incomes is better than 1. His income determines if he is a hard worker, or a worker at the very least. Ndio maana nilisema hata kama kipato hakitoshi ningependa kuona kwamba anachapa kazi na kufanya juu chini income ije, meaning I see the potential. Hata kama pesa haipo, inawezekana ikawepo in the future. Kama hachapi kazi, mwanamme huyu ni mzigo, the same applies for women. Hapa tunaangalia CHARACTER/TABIA za watu, si pochi. Na character ya mtu itaweza ku determine mambo yatakuweje wakati wa ndoa.
Chanzo
#1 cha ugomvi kwenye mahusiano kati ya wanandoa ni PESA. Kama una mwanamke au mwanamme ambae hajui kutunza au/na kutafuta pesa NI MZIGO. Huo ni ukweli. Kusema kwamba umpende mtu hata kama ni useless kwenye mambo ya kujiinua kiuchumi ni unrealistic. Hugs and kisses don't pay the rent. I don't think it's pathetic to avoid anyone like this; it's called being
smart.