Kwanini mtu anaamua kujiua??

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Dejane

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Habari zenu , ,
Inakuwaje mtu anaamua kujitoa uhai ,Inakuwaje hapo anapatwa na msongo wa mawazo??,yaan ni anakuwa hana option nyingine anaona kujitoa uhai ni suluhisho,,au ni kuwa mkimya sana akipatwa na majanga anakaa nayo kimya,badala ya kupata ushauri?

Nishajiuliza sana hebu wataalam watusaidie hili,inakuwaje mtu anafikia uamuzi wa kujiua,kujitoa uhai wake maana Naona ni kazi ngumu kidogo,,
Na hawa ni aina gani ya watu ,,na wafanyaje ili kuepukana na kufikiria kuijtoa uhai

Asanteni
 
Mimi naona hapa jibu jepesi ni kwamba, kwa wakati huo mtu anapoamua kujiua, anakuwa ameona kujiua ndio njia nyepesi na salama ya kuepukana na tatizo linalomkabili mbeleni.

Ila mara nyingi huwa ni aidha matatizo ya kisaikolojia (ambayo ayanaweza kutatuliwa kwa ushauri wa muda mfupi tu) au ni misimamo ya mtu binafsi (ambayo sio rahisi kushauriwa).

However, wale wanaojitoa muhanga, na wale wa makabila yetu ya kijasiri, nadhani wana majibu mazuri zaidi
 
6 reasons why people commit suicide
ALEX LICKERMAN, MD | CONDITIONS | JUNE 3, 2010


Though I’ve never lost a friend or family member to suicide, I have lost a patient.

I have known a number of people left behind by the suicide of people close to them, however. Given how much losing my patient affected me, I’ve only been able to guess at the devastation these people have experienced. Pain mixed with guilt, anger, and regret makes for a bitter drink, the taste of which I’ve seen take many months or even years to wash out of some mouths.

The one question everyone has asked without exception, that they ache to have answered more than any other, is simply, why?

Why did their friend, child, parent, spouse, or sibling take their own life? Even when a note explaining the reasons is found, lingering questions usually remain: yes, they felt enough despair to want to die, but why did they feel that? A person’s suicide often takes the people it leaves behind by surprise (only accentuating survivor’s guilt for failing to see it coming).

People who’ve survived suicide attempts have reported wanting not so much to die as to stop living, a strange dichotomy but a valid one nevertheless. If some in-between state existed, some other alternative to death, I suspect many suicidal people would take it. For the sake of all those reading this who might have been left behind by someone’s suicide, I wanted to describe how I was trained to think about the reasons people kill themselves. They’re not as intuitive as most think.

In general, people try to kill themselves for six reasons:

1. They’re depressed. This is without question the most common reason people commit suicide. Severe depression is always accompanied by a pervasive sense of suffering as well as the belief that escape from it is hopeless. The pain of existence often becomes too much for severely depressed people to bear. The state of depression warps their thinking, allowing ideas like “Everyone would all be better off without me” to make rational sense. They shouldn’t be blamed for falling prey to such distorted thoughts any more than a heart patient should be blamed for experiencing chest pain: it’s simply the nature of their disease.

Because depression, as we all know, is almost always treatable, we should all seek to recognize its presence in our close friends and loved ones. Often people suffer with it silently, planning suicide without anyone ever knowing. Despite making both parties uncomfortable, inquiring directly about suicidal thoughts in my experience almost always yields a honest response. If you suspect someone might be depressed, don’t allow your tendency to deny the possibility of suicidal ideation prevent you from asking about it.

2. They’re psychotic. Malevolent inner voices often command self-destruction for unintelligible reasons. Psychosis is much harder to mask than depression — and arguably even more tragic. The worldwide incidence of schizophrenia is 1% and often strikes otherwise healthy, high-performing individuals, whose lives, though manageable with medication, never fulfill their original promise.

Schizophrenics are just as likely to talk freely about the voices commanding them to kill themselves as not, and also, in my experience, give honest answers about thoughts of suicide when asked directly. Psychosis, too, is treatable and usually must be for a schizophrenic to be able to function at all. Untreated or poorly treated psychosis almost always requires hospital admission to a locked ward until the voices lose their commanding power.

3. They’re impulsive. Often related to drugs and alcohol, some people become maudlin and impulsively attempt to end their own lives. Once sobered and calmed, these people usually feel emphatically ashamed. The remorse is usually genuine, and whether or not they’ll ever attempt suicide again is unpredictable. They may try it again the very next time they become drunk or high, or never again in their lifetime. Hospital admission is, therefore, not usually indicated. Substance abuse and the underlying reasons for it are generally a greater concern in these people and should be addressed as aggressively as possible.

4. They’re crying out for help and don’t know how else to get it. These people don’t usually want to die but do want to alert those around them that something is seriously wrong. They often don’t believe they will die, frequently choosing methods they don’t think can kill them in order to strike out at someone who’s hurt them—but are sometimes tragically misinformed. The prototypical example of this is a young teenage girl suffering genuine angst because of a relationship, either with a friend, boyfriend, or parent who swallows a bottle of Tylenol—not realizing that in high enough doses Tylenol causes irreversible liver damage.

I’ve watched more than one teenager die a horrible death in an ICU days after such an ingestion when remorse has already cured them of their desire to die and their true goal of alerting those close to them of their distress has been achieved.

5. They have a philosophical desire to die. The decision to commit suicide for some is based on a reasoned decision often motivated by the presence of a painful terminal illness from which little to no hope of reprieve exists. These people aren’t depressed, psychotic, maudlin, or crying out for help. They’re trying to take control of their destiny and alleviate their own suffering, which usually can only be done in death. They often look at their choice to commit suicide as a way to shorten a dying that will happen regardless. In my personal view, if such people are evaluated by a qualified professional who can reliably exclude the other possibilities for why suicide is desired, these people should be allowed to die at their own hands.

6. They’ve made a mistake. This is a recent, tragic phenomenon in which typically young people flirt with oxygen deprivation for the high it brings and simply go too far. The only defense against this, it seems to me, is education.

The wounds suicide leaves in the lives of those left behind by it are often deep and long lasting. The apparent senselessness of suicide often fuels the most significant pain survivors feel. Thinking we all deal better with tragedy when we understand its underpinnings, I’ve offered the preceding paragraphs in hopes that anyone reading this who’s been left behind by a suicide might be able to more easily find a way to move on, to relinquish their guilt and anger, and find closure. Despite the abrupt way you may have been left, those don’t have to be the only two emotions you’re doomed to feel about the one who left you.
 
Hii inatokea,dunia imejaa mengi sana lakini hata mimi sioni jambo gumu sana ambalo litanifanya nitoe uamuzi wa kujiuwa.
 
Dinazarde said:
Habari zenu , ,
Inakuwaje mtu anaamua kujitoa uhai ,Inakuwaje hapo anapatwa na msongo wa mawazo??,yaan ni anakuwa hana option nyingine anaona kujitoa uhai ni suluhisho,,au ni kuwa mkimya sana akipatwa na majanga anakaa nayo kimya,badala ya kupata ushauri?
Nishajiuliza sana hebu wataalam watusaidie hili,inakuwaje mtu anafikia uamuzi wa kujiua,kujitoa uhai wake maana Naona ni kazi ngumu kidogo,,
Na hawa ni aina gani ya watu ,,na wafanyaje ili kuepukana na kufikiria kuijtoa uhai
Asanteni
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Ili kupata jibu ni vyema ukaanzia kusoma memos zilizoachwa na waliojiua na kuangalia mazingira yalioypelekea wao kufanya hivyo kwa kulinganisha na hizo memos. Lakini kwa kuwauliza ambao bado ni wazima ni ngumu kupata jibu la ukweli. Pia kufahamu kwa ambao hawakuacha memos ni ngumu kufahamu.

Halafu hii study yako ingekuwa comparative kwa maana ya kulinganisha mikoa mfano ambako kuna matukio hayo mengi na kule kwenye matukio machache kwa kuangalia statistics za jeshi la polisi kuhusu crimes.
 
Alije jiua yupo na pengine alishawahi kuongea kama mimi,ila kumbuka kuwa binadamu tumetofautiana misimamo na utoaji wa maamuzi ,uvumilivu nk
 
hivi kwanini nijiue kwa kumpenda mwanamke, yes natakiwa nimpende,nimjari ,nimpe matumizi hata kama ana kazi yake lakini sio kujiua kwasabu yake kisa amenisaliti au ameniambia maneno ya kejeri huo ukichaa level ya PhD.
 
Dinazarde said:
Habari zenu , ,
Inakuwaje mtu anaamua kujitoa uhai ,Inakuwaje hapo anapatwa na msongo wa mawazo??,yaan ni anakuwa hana option nyingine anaona kujitoa uhai ni suluhisho,,au ni kuwa mkimya sana akipatwa na majanga anakaa nayo kimya,badala ya kupata ushauri?
Nishajiuliza sana hebu wataalam watusaidie hili,inakuwaje mtu anafikia uamuzi wa kujiua,kujitoa uhai wake maana Naona ni kazi ngumu kidogo,,
Na hawa ni aina gani ya watu ,,na wafanyaje ili kuepukana na kufikiria kuijtoa uhai
Asanteni
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Nakupa mfano mdogo

Miongo kadhaa iliyopita,nilikuwa nakwenda kigoma kila baada ya siku 3.
Muda wa jioni tulikuwa tunakaa Railway Club kupata moja mbili.
Kuna siku RPC wa wakati huo alikuwa anasikitika sana kwa nini mtu anaamua kujiua.
Hii ni kwa sababu kuna memba wetu aliamua kujinyonga mpaka kufa.
Basi wiki iliyofuata yule RPC nae aka ji shoot kwa kutumia silaha yake.
Hitimisho.
Kuna mambo mengi ambayo sisi wanadamu bado hatuyajui.
Pengine wewe kesho utajiua.
 
mimi nadhani ni uwezo mdogo kimaamuzi wa kukabiliana na mambo au matatizo endapo yamekukumba!!
anyway kwangu mimi ni ufinyu wa akili mpaka ufikie hatua ya kujiua!!!!
 
Dinazarde said:
Habari zenu , ,
Inakuwaje mtu anaamua kujitoa uhai ,Inakuwaje hapo anapatwa na msongo wa mawazo??,yaan ni anakuwa hana option nyingine anaona kujitoa uhai ni suluhisho,,au ni kuwa mkimya sana akipatwa na majanga anakaa nayo kimya,badala ya kupata ushauri?
Nishajiuliza sana hebu wataalam watusaidie hili,inakuwaje mtu anafikia uamuzi wa kujiua,kujitoa uhai wake maana Naona ni kazi ngumu kidogo,,
Na hawa ni aina gani ya watu ,,na wafanyaje ili kuepukana na kufikiria kuijtoa uhai
Asanteni
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Hivi hata wanyama viumbe wengine tofauti na binadamu pia hujiua?
 
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