AshaDii
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Habari Wana JF....
Kumekua na topics once in a while hapa MMU of guys complaining kua Kila mwanamke amtongozae anakataa . Or kuna wengine ambao ni vice versa na husema kua wanawake wamekua rahisi saaana na kila anaemtongoza anakubali. I have got news for both guys from these two groups.
Kabla sijaenda mbali tokana na ufikiri wangu ambao umeishia hapa . Inabidi tukubali kua katika jamii tumetofautiana katika kila aspects na hali kimaisha Iwe kielimu, ki uwezo, kitabaka ama ki level za kazi. Na mara nyingi katika jamii birds of the same feathers flock together Ndo maana tuki observe utakuta kua watu wa kundi Fulani hutoka saana within that group thou its once in a while ambapo wahusika within a group huweza toka beyond their group. Mfano mdogo Sharobaro (awe wa kike ama kiume) versus a Born again Christian (awe wa kike ama wa kiume).
Ikumbukwe pia kua kwa Mwanaume kutongoza vitu kama Mvuto, intelligence ama pesa ni ziada tu kwa zile sababu ambazo zaweza pelekea Mwanamke unaemtongoza kukukubali ama kukukataa . After all mara nyingi kusomana huja baada ya kukubaliana. Hivo you as a guy saying hukubaliwi na wanawake sababu tu kua sina mvuto, pesa or maybe intelligence hizo ni excuse tu and Please put out your lights in the air!! For kuna guys hawana mbele wala nyuma na wanabadilisha wadada kila siku (kumbuka kua sio kwamba nashawishi utongozaji wa mara kwa mara I just want the concerned aelewe ni kwa nini anajikuta katika hio hali ya kukubaliwa kila mara ama kukataliwa kila mara)
A]. Wale ambao hupata wanawake wa kuwakataa daima.
B]. Wale ambao hupata wanawake wa kuwakubali Daima.
Hivo basi ushauri kwa kaka zangu Kama wanawake unaowatongoza wanakataa woote ama kukubali woote kabla hujatulaumu us ladies na kutuweka katika kundi moja woote Naomba kwanza jitazame wewe bila upendeleo na free of emotions the type of person you are, the type of ladies wanaokuvutia ili walau upate tatizo na ujue wapi pa kuanzia.
Hata hivo kwa JF members nikiwa nimetoa a womans perspective, naamini saana kua kaka/baba zaungu mtanielewesha vizuri wapi nimekosea, ama kuongezea pale ambapo nimetaja with GREAT hope kua mtaongeza na zingine, walau sie species (wanawake VS wanaume) tuweze somana na kuelewa what the opposite sex thinks about in relation na topic. Na nategemea akina dada/mama tutapeana mawazo ni kwanini tunakataa ama kukubali tutongozwapo..... Na nategemea with GREAT hope pia kua fellow ladies watanipa support katika the whole discussion. Asanteni.
Pamoja Saana
AshaDii.
Kumekua na topics once in a while hapa MMU of guys complaining kua Kila mwanamke amtongozae anakataa . Or kuna wengine ambao ni vice versa na husema kua wanawake wamekua rahisi saaana na kila anaemtongoza anakubali. I have got news for both guys from these two groups.
Kabla sijaenda mbali tokana na ufikiri wangu ambao umeishia hapa . Inabidi tukubali kua katika jamii tumetofautiana katika kila aspects na hali kimaisha Iwe kielimu, ki uwezo, kitabaka ama ki level za kazi. Na mara nyingi katika jamii birds of the same feathers flock together Ndo maana tuki observe utakuta kua watu wa kundi Fulani hutoka saana within that group thou its once in a while ambapo wahusika within a group huweza toka beyond their group. Mfano mdogo Sharobaro (awe wa kike ama kiume) versus a Born again Christian (awe wa kike ama wa kiume).
Ikumbukwe pia kua kwa Mwanaume kutongoza vitu kama Mvuto, intelligence ama pesa ni ziada tu kwa zile sababu ambazo zaweza pelekea Mwanamke unaemtongoza kukukubali ama kukukataa . After all mara nyingi kusomana huja baada ya kukubaliana. Hivo you as a guy saying hukubaliwi na wanawake sababu tu kua sina mvuto, pesa or maybe intelligence hizo ni excuse tu and Please put out your lights in the air!! For kuna guys hawana mbele wala nyuma na wanabadilisha wadada kila siku (kumbuka kua sio kwamba nashawishi utongozaji wa mara kwa mara I just want the concerned aelewe ni kwa nini anajikuta katika hio hali ya kukubaliwa kila mara ama kukataliwa kila mara)
A]. Wale ambao hupata wanawake wa kuwakataa daima.
- The type ya wanawake ambao wanakuvutia ni way beyond your league Na kwamba as much as wapenda jionesha kua you are in the same group na wao everybody around you knows you are not except you. Sorry budy Shtuka.
- Yawezekana kua ni wazi kwa woote kua masikio yamekusimama na hujatulia kabisa BUT ironically as it is to most men wanawake wanaokuvutia ni wale wapole, walotulia na wastaarabu. Hilo hupelekea kila utongozapo your reputation na attitude precedes over you Hivo kaka tulia na walau badilika.
- Yawezekana kua personality yako (from a glance) ndo zile ambazo zimekakaa kihatari hatari yaani mtu akikuona for the first time umekaa ka jambazi vile. Worse enough alama kibaousoni utafikiri ulipigwa kipigo cha mwizi (kumbe ukute walah!); Pia yaweza kua sababu ya wewe kukataliwa. For as much as kuna wanawake wengi wavutiwa na bad boys yako inakua imekubuhu!
- Na most importantly ni kua huna art ya talking (hapa wanaume wengine huenda beyond na kutoa uongo kibao ili tu mwanamke aingie line-NOTE that sisemi kua useme uongo NO!) hapo ina maana huna art of seducing.. kwamba ni maneno gani mwanamke wa aina Fulani anapenda asikie, kwamba ni namna gani utaonesha you will take care of her bila kusema the exact words kwamba ni namna gani unaonesha umevutiwa na yeye bila kutamka the exact words Na unapoongea nae how much does your body language support your words?? Yoote hio ni muhimu, na to me hio ni moja ya factor ya kwanza kabisa kuweza shawishi a lady kukukubali kabla hata hajajua uwezo wako upo vipi.
- Alafu nyingine simply tu yawezekana kua ni moja ya wale ambao hawapendeki thou siamini kua utakosa hata mmoja wa kukupenda.
B]. Wale ambao hupata wanawake wa kuwakubali Daima.
- Yawezekana kua wewe Mwanaume ni Player Na a true player knows all the tricks and rules in the book. Yaani as in kila aina ya mwanamke awe mke wa mtu, awe single, awe gate kali, awe born again, awe mswalihina, awe bado hajaanza hayo mambo, awe mtoto wa pastor/Obama/Gaddafi . In short yeyote Yule ambae yupo katika definition ya under female; wewe mwanaume unajua kua huyo mwanamke ni nini anataka, hivo unajua ni nini anataka asikie, which means unajua ni nini uwakilishe which at the end of the day unajua ni vipi umpate.
- Unatambua kabisa traits na tabia za wanawake; na hulka yako wewe mwanaume ni kua ukimtongoza mwanamke ni lazima akubali. Hivo you are the type of dude ambae hutongoza pale tu ambapo ni rahisi kupata; hii sometimes hukufanya kua kuna wanawake hua unatamani saaana wawe wapenzi wako but ukijua the odds za kumpata iko tu chini ya 6 or 7; wala hata uhangaiki for chances za yeye kukataa ni kubwa kuliko kukubali.
- Yawezekana una tabia hizi zoote na zimeambatana; For hizi tabia in one person is too much for most of us ladies . Unamvuto (mtanashati na una uzuri wa kiume sio wa kike), Uko care free huna majidai, Una mpunga wa kutosha, Uko single, Uko intelligent when talking (well exposed), Uko very care free and dynamic popote pale (ukiw 5 star hotel you are home Ukiwa kijijini you are home Ukiwa kazini you are home Ukiwa among men you are home Ukiwa among women you are home.. Ukiwa among elders you are home) Yaani haijalisha uko wapi; Daima you are a great person to be with kwa mtazamo wa walo kuzunguka toka Wale level ya juu kabisa hadi level ya Yule anae kusafishia viatu. Once in a while Mungu muhimu hivo kuna ibada hata kama ni hapa na pale.
Mwanaume mwenye the above tabiaz can get any type of woman he wants
Hivo kama kweli ana nia ya kumpata Mwanamke of his choice
Katika odds za 10 ana odds za 9.8 za kukubaliwa
. For the simple reason kua whatever the lady is exposed to; Yeye the guy yupo flexible thus giving the lady what she wants kwake ni rahisi na in addition to that ni kua ni the type of guy ambae a lady is comfortable kua around kitu ambacho ni cha mhimu (for most ladies tupo so very self conscious around their men)
Hivo basi ushauri kwa kaka zangu Kama wanawake unaowatongoza wanakataa woote ama kukubali woote kabla hujatulaumu us ladies na kutuweka katika kundi moja woote Naomba kwanza jitazame wewe bila upendeleo na free of emotions the type of person you are, the type of ladies wanaokuvutia ili walau upate tatizo na ujue wapi pa kuanzia.
Hata hivo kwa JF members nikiwa nimetoa a womans perspective, naamini saana kua kaka/baba zaungu mtanielewesha vizuri wapi nimekosea, ama kuongezea pale ambapo nimetaja with GREAT hope kua mtaongeza na zingine, walau sie species (wanawake VS wanaume) tuweze somana na kuelewa what the opposite sex thinks about in relation na topic. Na nategemea akina dada/mama tutapeana mawazo ni kwanini tunakataa ama kukubali tutongozwapo..... Na nategemea with GREAT hope pia kua fellow ladies watanipa support katika the whole discussion. Asanteni.
Pamoja Saana
AshaDii.
