When you hear these comments don't assume their positive sound is all they indend to be. Backhanded comments really are a kicker. "That dress is lovely; it does wonders for your figure." "You're smarter than you look." "You drive very well, for a woman." "Your son is more handsome than I would have expected." "You are attractive, for your age." "You're actually kinda cute now that I've gotten to know you." "You're not as heavy as people think you are." "I don't care what anyone says about you, I think you are a fabulous person!" "You're so smart, for an American." "You don't sweat that much for a fat girl!" "I'm amazed by the level of success readers have after following your advice." "Your plastic surgeon has such a delightful sense of humor!" "Relax, sweetie... you were perfectly adequate." "You're more of a "street smart" kind of guy." "You're not the kind of girl guys date; you're the kind of girl they marry." "You're so evolved for a man."