So what is the magic number? Is it one, three, 15 or like players over 1,000.How many lovers have you had before marriage? And does it matter?.In my experience, for most men and women, a number fewer than 10 suggests inexperience, while a number higher than 10 suggests promiscuity. Before marriage ,I had more than 10 lovers ,was I promiscuity? And I really enjoyed the chase and when i got into marriage was experienced enough not to go back to the old ways But guys all in all how many is too many, either before or after marriage?