Having privacy vs keeping Secrets

I once dated a girl. She was like "why don't you post me on Whatsapp". That is for the fact it is the only social media I do use.

I find it being too childish and she was forcing. I said ok. I detailed the privacy settings for only her friends and her be able to see my status. Then I posted.

She was happy and satisfied. Whether she posts or not, that is okay with me.

KeyserSoze said:

Whatever tickles your fancy..

Maisha hayana Kanuni ishi vile nyie wawili mpendavyo; whatever makes you happy hata kama wewe ni mchawi tafuta mchawi mwenzako muishi

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Asante kwa ushauri.

Paula Paul said:

I think a man should profess his love to the world for his woman when he truly loves her. Same applied to us.

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Before the Influx of Mass medias, how did lovers profess their love toward each other?
Let's take you post him on media, what happens when he dumps you? What will you do? Delete the posts or?
Life on media is almost fake life. I may post you and write beautiful caption to tell the world how much I love you but that may be not the truth of my heart. Refer to Mwijaku's posts.

COSMOLOGIST said:

"Live to like what is at your disposal, never expect what u can't give"
"relationship is all about being able to sacrifice" u can love someone but if u ain't sacrificing there can't be a relationship

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OK, thank you for this.

Mbona mnachati kizungu..

Kumbe bado mnapostianapostiana .....hahahhaaa......mtaachaga tu mbeleni

Paula Paul, seems age is bothering yo!. However, depends on how you define love. Personally, I dont care as long i trust and love her.

Paula Paul said:

I think it doesn't matter how old I am. You can advise me.

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It matters. Are you under 25?

Glenohumeral joint said:

Kumbe bado mnapostianapostiana .....hahahhaaa......mtaachaga tu mbeleni

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Wakipostiana. Wanafki tunajisemea moyoni "si mtaachana tu"

Daby said:

Sijaelewa vizuri ila....inategemea...

Na hoja zifuatazo.

1. Hali ya hewa.
2. Uchumi wa nchi na wa Dunia kwa ujumla.
3. Hali ya siasa nchini.
4. Kabila
5. Dini

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Daby bhana

Daby said:

Sijaelewa vizuri ila....inategemea...

Na hoja zifuatazo.

1. Hali ya hewa.
2. Uchumi wa nchi na wa Dunia kwa ujumla.
3. Hali ya siasa nchini.
4. Kabila
5. Dini

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hahahahahahahaha imebidi tu nicheke

Ngoja wenye wapenzi wao wa kudumu waje.

Huu utoto niliacha miaka 5 iliopita, ni utoto kwa sababu mtu anataka apostiwe kama justification ya kuwa anapendwa sana. Ukifikia kubadili picha ukafuta za zamani ooh kwahio umenifuta???😂😂😂

Uzuri alianza yeye kufuta zangu so hakijaaribika kitu. Nami nikafyeka zake ila lawama alianza yeye🤣🤣🤣!!! Toka na hapo, im not a fan of SN posting.

Denvers said:

Mbona mnachati kizungu..

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😂😂😂😂😂

Paula Paul said:

I think a man should profess his love to the world for his woman when he truly loves her. Same applied to us.

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The way a man should profess his love for you is by Marrying you. Hayo mengine ni kujitangazia aibu kua wewe ni mwanamke usijiheshimu unamegwa megwa kifala. Sijasema usiwe na mahusiano , nachomaanisha as an unmarried woman you should handle yourself with dignity and maintain your sexual life private. Achana na mbwembwe za mitandaoni. Hayo waachie celebrities ambao they make money through in decency.

Paula Paul said:

His thoughts exactly.
He claimed this way all the time lately but who cares?
Thank you for the advice, I will mention him in my Instagram bio.

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Ha ha ha ha I knew that. If you put yourself in his shoes, you would think exactly the same way.

Yeah, he is your man, go ahead and publicize him.
But it's at your own risk, there are so many "nyaku nyakuz" out there who can steal him from you

Paula Paul said:

His thoughts exactly.
He claimed this way all the time lately but who cares?
Thank you for the advice, I will mention him in my Instagram bio.

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Unatumia jina gani niku-follow

So what if he is not on social media?does he have to join on social platform and express the love?

I think it really depend on how you both interact with social media,if he kinda of guy who love to post and he doesnt post or acknowldge your presence on his life it might be he is hiding something.cant make sense for a guy who like to post anything related to his life on media and he cant post his gf.

Compact said:

I once dated a girl. She was like "why don't you post me on Whatsapp". That is for the fact it is the only social media I do use.

I find it being too childish and she was forcing. I said ok. I detailed the privacy settings for only her friends and her be able to see my status. Then I posted.

She was happy and satisfied. Whether she posts or not, that is okay with me.

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That was Unfair.
Are you ashamed of her? You should've let all your friends see her. At least once or twice a year.

Nebuchadinezzer said:

Before the Influx of Mass medias, how did lovers profess their love toward each other?
Let's take you post him on media, what happens when he dumps you? What will you do? Delete the posts or?
Life on media is almost fake life. I may post you and write beautiful caption to tell the world how much I love you but that may be not the truth of my heart. Refer to Mwijaku's posts.

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But at least I will be happy he knows that I am worth being posted. "The chosen one"