Mkasika
JF-Expert Member
- Sep 11, 2010
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I hope you are all well wanaJF wa majuu (Nyani Ngabu and the like) of the diaspora. I have noticed how frequently people on the forum discuss the topic of Bongo Vs Ughaibuni and it seems as though people can`t decide which one is best. Of course home is best and we all remember it nostalgically, almost always referring to it fondly; unconsciously editing out the dark bits.
I also found that the recurring subject in this topic is that Tanzanians in the diaspora believe their peers in Tanzania to be doing far better than them because they (Tanzanian peers) have already achieved the life goals of marriage, family, careers et cetera. According to some of them (diaspora), their Tanzanian peers seem to have accomplished all these milestones easily and quickly. Those in ughaibuni often say that they have to work really hard to get from one goal to the next and even after many years of toiling, they feel they can`t match what their peers in Bongo have managed to do in the same amount of time.
What some people in the diaspora forget is that they started out with the double disadvantage of being a foreigner and a person of African descent in a land where such people are a small minority. Although some countries are fair to us than others and our African heritage doesn`t affect how we are perceived, it still takes a long time to be accepted and offered an equal place in their society.
I think that it is highly subjective as to what doing better represents to each one of us and appearances can sometimes be deceiving. Displaying your wealth ostentatiously in a flashy car and living in upmarket LA,NY,LDN, Dar, Mza or Ars might be signs of being financially better off and they might be the only determining factors in deciding this but I have found that showing off all that money is often times a burden.
Life is what you make of it and earthly possessions are transitory, we all pass on to another realm in the end and leave it all behind. We should strive to be wealthy in spirit and good to each other. When we die no one remembers us as being super rich and living in a palace. Our legacy lies in how we treat each other. In Bongo or in Ughaibuni, it shouldn`t matter where we live.
I also found that the recurring subject in this topic is that Tanzanians in the diaspora believe their peers in Tanzania to be doing far better than them because they (Tanzanian peers) have already achieved the life goals of marriage, family, careers et cetera. According to some of them (diaspora), their Tanzanian peers seem to have accomplished all these milestones easily and quickly. Those in ughaibuni often say that they have to work really hard to get from one goal to the next and even after many years of toiling, they feel they can`t match what their peers in Bongo have managed to do in the same amount of time.
What some people in the diaspora forget is that they started out with the double disadvantage of being a foreigner and a person of African descent in a land where such people are a small minority. Although some countries are fair to us than others and our African heritage doesn`t affect how we are perceived, it still takes a long time to be accepted and offered an equal place in their society.
I think that it is highly subjective as to what doing better represents to each one of us and appearances can sometimes be deceiving. Displaying your wealth ostentatiously in a flashy car and living in upmarket LA,NY,LDN, Dar, Mza or Ars might be signs of being financially better off and they might be the only determining factors in deciding this but I have found that showing off all that money is often times a burden.
Life is what you make of it and earthly possessions are transitory, we all pass on to another realm in the end and leave it all behind. We should strive to be wealthy in spirit and good to each other. When we die no one remembers us as being super rich and living in a palace. Our legacy lies in how we treat each other. In Bongo or in Ughaibuni, it shouldn`t matter where we live.
