Argument

[Kimbweka]

Toa mchango kama unapinga hii takwimu

 

[Konakali]

During Dating Time:
Here the relationship starts and continuous as a secret. All the parties starts to date while they are completely ignorant to each other. No one exposed his/her behavior to the other one. Every one is jealous and very optimistic towards engagement. But, immediately and as you become very close to your friend, you start to discover some of the weaknesses of each other. Here you start to share your dreams with your friends, relatives and neighbors. Then they also start to give their arguments that might bring some stress to either of you.

During Engagement Time:
Here you stand and make a decision. You decide to accomplish engagement because of commitments and influence of other people you have shared the issue. Because this time is very short (mostly one day), there shall be no detectable changes in the relationship.

During Marriage Time:
Here the real life starts. In this stage, you start to capture the pasts and infidelities about each other, the knowledge on each other increases, and these normally may discourage either of you, and love starts to come down fast. But, in this stage, you all come into a point where you realize the real situation of life. Every one realize the challenges that exists in life, but because there is no longer a way to run them by then, they start to tune themselves to fit the situation (accepting the realities). Here the reason(s) for love immediately starts to change, and then become just because of children, community vision etc. but not the same as early. By this step, there shall be no changes any more to infinite.