20 Questions To Ask Your Potential Spouse

20 Questions To Ask Your Potential Spouse

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Hapana Mwali,

Uelewa wangu ni kwamba haya maswali (whether asked directly, indirectly, or by any other means) majibu yake ni MUHIMU SANA kuyafahamu.

Whether utayafahamu with muda, kupitia maongezi yake, vitendo, marafiki au any other means..ni MUHIMU SANA kuyafahamu majibu yake KABLA hujaamua kusema ndiyo na kuanza mahusiano.

FAILURE TO DO SO: Parking at Your OWN RISK.
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Ngoja nikupe swali mbili tatu ambazo hazipo hapo ila mi naziona muhimu:
- How important is sex to you?
- How long can you "starve" (maana mi nasafiri sana)
- What do you do for the community you live in?
- What are your political views? etc

The questions alizo weka hapo ni muhimu but sio complete. Na one can never complete the list sababu hata mimi mwenyewe sometimes najiuliza hayo maswali na majibu yangu yanaweza kubadilika.
Mimi napendekeza tuulizane NGUZO (mimi nazitafsiri kama Values), na MISINGI (natafsiri kama ethics). maana haya sio rahisi kubadilika. Nikijua nguzo gani na misingi gani zinajenga matendo yako, na maisha yako, nitapata majibu ya maswali mengi sana hata kabla sijayauliza.
 
Mentor said:
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Hapana Mwali,

Uelewa wangu ni kwamba haya maswali (whether asked directly, indirectly, or by any other means) majibu yake ni MUHIMU SANA kuyafahamu.

Whether utayafahamu with muda, kupitia maongezi yake, vitendo, marafiki au any other means..ni MUHIMU SANA kuyafahamu majibu yake KABLA hujaamua kusema ndiyo na kuanza mahusiano.

FAILURE TO DO SO: Parking at Your OWN RISK.
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Cc: Heaven on Earth, mwallu, brenda18, miss chagga, christine ibrahim, lara 1, Smile!!!
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mentor nishafanya haya coz hayaepukiki, bt Kiukwel mengi hapo unaweza kuyajua kupitia maongezi ya kawaida tu coz mengine hapo ukiuliza utadanganywa, so bora uusome mchezo taratibu.
ila yana umhim wake
 
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Mwali said:
Ngoja nikupe swali mbili tatu ambazo hazipo hapo ila mi naziona muhimu:
- How important is sex to you?
- How long can you "starve" (maana mi nasafiri sana)
- What do you do for the community you live in?
- What are your political views? etc


The questions alizo weka hapo ni muhimu but sio complete. Na one can never complete the list sababu hata mimi mwenyewe sometimes najiuliza hayo maswali na majibu yangu yanaweza kubadilika.
Mimi napendekeza tuulizane NGUZO (mimi nazitafsiri kama Values), na MISINGI (natafsiri kama ethics). maana haya sio rahisi kubadilika. Nikijua nguzo gani na misingi gani zinajenga matendo yako, na maisha yako, nitapata majibu ya maswali mengi sana hata kabla sijayauliza.
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1. Very

2. Not so long. (..but remember hata nkipiga game nje haimaanishi sikupendi..sex kwa mwanaume hainaga izo emotional ties u ladies put to it)

3. Mhhh...hii ntakujibu in private. (but I must say I loved th qn...spot on)

4. Individual based than party based.
Mwali ni kweli kabisa ulichosema but again hata mm huwezi kuanza tu kuniuliza what are my values n ethics...kama vile tuko kwa interview. The result will be kukuambia what yiu want to hear.

What we should agree upon is maswali hayo 20 ni basic questions ambazo zitakufahamisha values and ethics za mtarajiwa wako. Wewe mwenyewe ndiyo utajua jinsi ya ku categorize.

Again, haimaanishi haya maswali 20 ndo the canonical way to go..no...u can compose yours but incase huna ama u dont know how to start...then mleta mada kesharahisisha kazi.
 
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Question no. 10 is a NO! NO! Don't ask your potential Spouse how many sexual partners she/he's had because believe me, you don't wanna know!
 
Money Stunna said:
So, here are 20 questions to ask a potential spouse. These are just suggestions, and by no means should all of them be asked on a first date. If a question doesn’t feel right to you, then don’t ask it. Or, just replace it with one that is not on the list. The point is to get singles who desire to be married to think carefully about what’s important to them and then to have open communication about these issues before marriage. There are plenty of married and divorced people who wish they had asked the tough questions before saying “I do.”

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1. Do you have any life-threatening or incurable diseases?

2. Do you have any children? If so, how integral are they in your life?

3. What are your short term and long term goals?

4. What does financial stability mean to you?

5. What is your relationship like with your parents?

6. How often do you go to church, pray, read your Bible?

7. What gives you joy in life?

8. Do you have a criminal history or record?

9. Do you date men or women exclusively?

10. How many s*xual partners have you had?

11. What do you do when you get angry?

12. Do you have a job? How long have you been working/unemployed?

13. What was your last relationship like? How long ago was it?

14. What are you looking for in a mate?

15. Do you have crazy men or women calling, texting, or stalking you? Should I be afraid?

16. Are there many strong marriages in your family history?

17. What’s the one thing you don’t like about yourself?

18. Do you have any deal breakers for relationships?

19. What do you believe are the roles for men and women in relationships?

20. Do you desire to marry?
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playboys and flirters don't consider these!!! cheers!
 
Kaizer said:
Husninyo kila kitu kipo sawa
Mwali kuna mtu kakuchokoza? kama yupo mwambie kwanza anti yako AshaDii, ila kama mchokozi mwenyewe ni yule sijui nani.....niambie mimi moja kwa moja
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Nashangaa AshaDii na jamaa wamesha kua team moja.
Ngoja nikutafute kwa njia mbadala nikupe mashtaka yote
 
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NIFEDIPINE said:
si nakudanganya tuu,nasoma saikolojia yako nakupa majibu unayoyapenda,full stop
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simple like that!!!
yaan iz ni theory tuu ziko tuu.
yaan kama unatafuta ajira ya mshahara mnono yeuwiiii hell no!
 
obsesd said:
simple like that!!!
yaan iz ni theory tuu ziko tuu.
yaan kama unatafuta ajira ya mshahara mnono yeuwiiii hell no!
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Dont take them that directly! Observe and get the answers. Ukiuliza lazima utadanganywa.
 
Nimeyapenda sana it mean alot kwa walo serious .....
 
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