Tatizo kubwa ni kuwa watu wengi wanachulia NDOA kama package/Box lililojaa kila jema... huku wakisahau wao ndio wana wajibu wa kujaza hilo ''empty'' box yale mazuri wanayoyataka wao. Upendo, ustahimilivu, intimacy, urafiki n.k
Ndoa/mahusiano ni Boksi Tupu, Lazima uweke kitu kwenye hilo Box ili uweze kuchukua kitu. Upendo haupo kwenye ndoa, upo kwa mtu/watu na watu lazima waweke upendo kwenye ndoa, Hakuna romance kwenye ndoa, watu lazima ndio wana uwezo huo wa kuitengeneza, Na mengineyo mengi kama kujaliana, tabia ya kutoa, kuheshimiana, kuchukuliana, kuthaminiana n.k... yote hayo watu ndio wanayaweka kwenye ndoa. So we have much to do to our marriages that what we should expect out of it...... kwani ukona mkeo hakuappreciate unakatazwa kumfunda umuhimu wa kumuappreciate mwenzake... tena its simple.. appreciate her first and atakurudishia even more,,, ikishindikana devise other strategy hadi ifanye kazi.
Utasikia watu wakisema huyu ni husband/wife material... so inamanisha bado kuna kazi ya kufanya ili mtu awe finished product from the materials.... how do someone expect material to be finished products by its raw state? We have a lot to do to redifine our engagements and our relationships, I tell you.
