The HSPs (Highly Sensitive Persons)

[Reina princess]

I don't know where do I belong whether in this Highly or that of 'Low' or 'The Mid' of High and Low... but I like your English..!! what if one is interested in something like as I do in your english,can it be used as a criteria of grouping him in this or that class? reina

I don't think I have understood this

 

[jerrytz]

Wondering if you may be a highly sensitive person? Here are 10 key qualities that signal you may fit the profile, and if so, how to craft your sensitivity into an advantage.

1. You’re used to hearing “don’t take things so personally”—HSPs tend to react more strongly to situations, both good and bad. If people are often telling you not to take things so personally or not to be so sensitive, that may be a sign that you fall into this category. HSPs are also empaths, meaning they possess a keen ability to sense others’ feelings, needs, insecurities, etc.
2. Receiving feedback is your worst nightmare—Because they are sensitive to subtleties and nuances, HSPs react more strongly to criticism than non-HSPs.
3. You live inside your head—HSPs are often highly imaginative, creative people who have vibrant inner lives. Their high levels of empathy can lead them to imagine the feelings and thoughts of others.
4. Decisions are majorly stress-inducing—HSPs are maximizers, meaning they often struggle to make decisions out of fear of choosing the “wrong” option even if the stakes are low (such as choosing whether to buy a black or navy shirt). Because HSPs are so conscientious about how their decisions impact others or how they may be perceived, all choices—even small ones—carry immense weight.
5. You’re a stickler for details—HSPs are extremely perceptive. They pick up on the specifics of situations and notice the tiniest changes—from pointing out that the CEO has a habit of always wearing the same suite Tuesdays to catching typos in a presentation. This detail-orientation is a highly positive trait in many scenarios, such as when you’re perfecting a pitch to your boss or trying to connect with a particularly tricky client.
6. You exude kindness—If you’re often complimented on your politeness, courtesy, and clear understanding of what’s right and what’s wrong, you have many of the characteristics of an HSP.
7. You’re a problem solver—Attention to detail, commitment to perfecting projects, and dedication to hard work are qualities that make HSPs great team members.
8. Tiny annoyances grind your gears—Ever left a meeting and remarked about your client’s extremely annoying, incessant pen-tapping only for your coworker to say, “Oh, I didn’t notice that”? Highly sensitive people feel noise, chaos, and other external stimuli profoundly, so what may be a major annoyance to you could go pretty much unnoticed by a non-HSP.
9. You go through tissues like it’s your job—HSPs become overwhelmed more easily than others, and that often manifests itself in tears. But how great do you feel after a good, hard cry? Crying is a constructive, healthy release of emotions and thought-patterns. A good cry can reset your mood and mind to be more productive and even-keeled later.
10. You’d rather go for a run than play on a volleyball team—Have you ever gone to an exercise class and felt like everyone was watching you, never to return to it again? HSPs tend to prefer solo activities and sports such as running, spin, or swimming over group settings because they hate feeling closely observed. Unlike most people, HSPs have the rare strength of being able to be alone without being lonely, enabling them to be more productive and satisfied by intrinsic factors (such as finding meaning and enjoyment in their work), rather than external ones (such as money or prestige).

Being a highly sensitive person can sometimes feel like a double-edged sword. On the one hand, people appreciate your politeness, depth of personality, and overall conscientiousness. On the other hand, things that non-HSPs find relatively easy, such as receiving feedback and making decisions, can send you into a downward emotional spiral.

If you can relate to any of the above scenarios and have spent your life confused and upset for acting these ways, better understanding the qualities that compose the HSP profile can shed light on some of your challenges

Thanks Reina for starting this topic.....

 

[Reina princess]

Wondering if you may be a highly sensitive person? Here are 10 key qualities that signal you may fit the profile, and if so, how to craft your sensitivity into an advantage.

1. You’re used to hearing “don’t take things so personally”—HSPs tend to react more strongly to situations, both good and bad. If people are often telling you not to take things so personally or not to be so sensitive, that may be a sign that you fall into this category. HSPs are also empaths, meaning they possess a keen ability to sense others’ feelings, needs, insecurities, etc.
2. Receiving feedback is your worst nightmare—Because they are sensitive to subtleties and nuances, HSPs react more strongly to criticism than non-HSPs.
3. You live inside your head—HSPs are often highly imaginative, creative people who have vibrant inner lives. Their high levels of empathy can lead them to imagine the feelings and thoughts of others.
4. Decisions are majorly stress-inducing—HSPs are maximizers, meaning they often struggle to make decisions out of fear of choosing the “wrong” option even if the stakes are low (such as choosing whether to buy a black or navy shirt). Because HSPs are so conscientious about how their decisions impact others or how they may be perceived, all choices—even small ones—carry immense weight.
5. You’re a stickler for details—HSPs are extremely perceptive. They pick up on the specifics of situations and notice the tiniest changes—from pointing out that the CEO has a habit of always wearing the same suite Tuesdays to catching typos in a presentation. This detail-orientation is a highly positive trait in many scenarios, such as when you’re perfecting a pitch to your boss or trying to connect with a particularly tricky client.
6. You exude kindness—If you’re often complimented on your politeness, courtesy, and clear understanding of what’s right and what’s wrong, you have many of the characteristics of an HSP.
7. You’re a problem solver—Attention to detail, commitment to perfecting projects, and dedication to hard work are qualities that make HSPs great team members.
8. Tiny annoyances grind your gears—Ever left a meeting and remarked about your client’s extremely annoying, incessant pen-tapping only for your coworker to say, “Oh, I didn’t notice that”? Highly sensitive people feel noise, chaos, and other external stimuli profoundly, so what may be a major annoyance to you could go pretty much unnoticed by a non-HSP.
9. You go through tissues like it’s your job—HSPs become overwhelmed more easily than others, and that often manifests itself in tears. But how great do you feel after a good, hard cry? Crying is a constructive, healthy release of emotions and thought-patterns. A good cry can reset your mood and mind to be more productive and even-keeled later.
10. You’d rather go for a run than play on a volleyball team—Have you ever gone to an exercise class and felt like everyone was watching you, never to return to it again? HSPs tend to prefer solo activities and sports such as running, spin, or swimming over group settings because they hate feeling closely observed. Unlike most people, HSPs have the rare strength of being able to be alone without being lonely, enabling them to be more productive and satisfied by intrinsic factors (such as finding meaning and enjoyment in their work), rather than external ones (such as money or prestige).

Being a highly sensitive person can sometimes feel like a double-edged sword. On the one hand, people appreciate your politeness, depth of personality, and overall conscientiousness. On the other hand, things that non-HSPs find relatively easy, such as receiving feedback and making decisions, can send you into a downward emotional spiral.

If you can relate to any of the above scenarios and have spent your life confused and upset for acting these ways, better understanding the qualities that compose the HSP profile can shed light on some of your challenges

Thanks Reina for starting this topic.....

And thanks for sharing.

 

[Reina princess]

Reina princess sio kinyongo in such bali naonaga kama maongezi yangu na mienendo huwa havifanani nao kabisa, hata aina yangu ya uvaaji huwa navaa in a simple and respectful manner ila wao wanakuwa too flamboyant to the extent kwamba nawaona kama wahuni plus viduku na katakei zao basi nashindwa kabisa hata kukonekti nao si unajua tena vijana wa huku arusha

Nimekuelewa.

Nimeongelea kinyongo baada ya kuona maneno yako kuwa mtu akikukosea kitu kidogo unaweza usimsamehe milele.

 

[simplemind]

Dennis Brutus
I MUST SPEAK
I must speak
[this is my desire]
in the channels of your ear
in your silent moments,
or when your heart answers
and, seeking words,
hears echoes rise
unbidden
in the tunnels of the mind
I must speak
so plangently
[this is my desire]
in the channels of your ear
that in your silent moments
my words will reverberate:
or when your heart answers
some strong assertion of the truth
in blood, or action or belief
and seeks for words
let then my echoes rise
unbidden
in the tunnels of your mind.

 

[jamesdousen]

Wondering if you may be a highly sensitive person? Here are 10 key qualities that signal you may fit the profile, and if so, how to craft your sensitivity into an advantage.

1. You’re used to hearing “don’t take things so personally”—HSPs tend to react more strongly to situations, both good and bad. If people are often telling you not to take things so personally or not to be so sensitive, that may be a sign that you fall into this category. HSPs are also empaths, meaning they possess a keen ability to sense others’ feelings, needs, insecurities, etc.
2. Receiving feedback is your worst nightmare—Because they are sensitive to subtleties and nuances, HSPs react more strongly to criticism than non-HSPs.
3. You live inside your head—HSPs are often highly imaginative, creative people who have vibrant inner lives. Their high levels of empathy can lead them to imagine the feelings and thoughts of others.
4. Decisions are majorly stress-inducing—HSPs are maximizers, meaning they often struggle to make decisions out of fear of choosing the “wrong” option even if the stakes are low (such as choosing whether to buy a black or navy shirt). Because HSPs are so conscientious about how their decisions impact others or how they may be perceived, all choices—even small ones—carry immense weight.
5. You’re a stickler for details—HSPs are extremely perceptive. They pick up on the specifics of situations and notice the tiniest changes—from pointing out that the CEO has a habit of always wearing the same suite Tuesdays to catching typos in a presentation. This detail-orientation is a highly positive trait in many scenarios, such as when you’re perfecting a pitch to your boss or trying to connect with a particularly tricky client.
6. You exude kindness—If you’re often complimented on your politeness, courtesy, and clear understanding of what’s right and what’s wrong, you have many of the characteristics of an HSP.
7. You’re a problem solver—Attention to detail, commitment to perfecting projects, and dedication to hard work are qualities that make HSPs great team members.
8. Tiny annoyances grind your gears—Ever left a meeting and remarked about your client’s extremely annoying, incessant pen-tapping only for your coworker to say, “Oh, I didn’t notice that”? Highly sensitive people feel noise, chaos, and other external stimuli profoundly, so what may be a major annoyance to you could go pretty much unnoticed by a non-HSP.
9. You go through tissues like it’s your job—HSPs become overwhelmed more easily than others, and that often manifests itself in tears. But how great do you feel after a good, hard cry? Crying is a constructive, healthy release of emotions and thought-patterns. A good cry can reset your mood and mind to be more productive and even-keeled later.
10. You’d rather go for a run than play on a volleyball team—Have you ever gone to an exercise class and felt like everyone was watching you, never to return to it again? HSPs tend to prefer solo activities and sports such as running, spin, or swimming over group settings because they hate feeling closely observed. Unlike most people, HSPs have the rare strength of being able to be alone without being lonely, enabling them to be more productive and satisfied by intrinsic factors (such as finding meaning and enjoyment in their work), rather than external ones (such as money or prestige).

Being a highly sensitive person can sometimes feel like a double-edged sword. On the one hand, people appreciate your politeness, depth of personality, and overall conscientiousness. On the other hand, things that non-HSPs find relatively easy, such as receiving feedback and making decisions, can send you into a downward emotional spiral.

If you can relate to any of the above scenarios and have spent your life confused and upset for acting these ways, better understanding the qualities that compose the HSP profile can shed light on some of your challenges

Thanks Reina for starting this topic.....

Umemaliza kila kitu kaka, thats well said for self evaluation

 

[Kishimbe wa Kishimbe]

All of you, you won't come close to my sensitivity..!!

Am HYPER HSP...!!

I snitch even angels...!! mpo hapo..!! Hata demu akiwa mkali kama Queen Sheeba... akiwa na smell ya ajabu ajabu kidogo tu... fishy like smell, uume unalala na simpigi miti.. na tunaachana..!! So before we make intercourse, lazima demu wangu nampa alarm... she has to be SUPER CLEAN... sio kwa mapafyumuuuu nop.. kwa majiii na sabuniiiiii, perfume kidogo... kisha ndio alete kitumbua chake kwangu...

Sitaki uchafu uchafu, au something hovyo... i need smart things... kichwa hadi nguo, mwili hadi kazi, kila kitu i need smart...!!

.....when it comes to kitumbua business, though also HYPER HSP myself, I am so attracted by the natural feminine body pong to the extent of being aroused by an ovulating female a mile away and I do tremble when I establish rapport!
What turns me off is a dishonest minded partner which I can also detect miles away!

 

[uhurumoja]

Mi huwa napenda sana kuwa kimya hasa baada ya kazi na siku za weekend mpaka najiuliza siku nikiwa na mwenzi sijui kama atanielewa.

 

[svc]

Mambo ya Wazungu haya. Mnapenda kuiga kila kitu.

 

[sijazaliwa]

Vipi kama unafanyaga mazoezi unapendaga kuwa peke yako? Kwa mfano ukiwa gym au kwenye michezo unaonaga kama vile watu wote wanakuangalia wewe?

Je kazini huwa unatamani ungepewa kiofisi cha kwako tu na usiwe kwenye ofisi ya watu wengi?

Huyu ndo mimi kabisaaaa! Yaani mambo ya kwenda kutoa briefing za kazi kwa boss ni shida tupu! nikiwa soma,discussion na watu wengi hapana wakizi ni watatu c zaidi, wakizidi siongei hata kama kila kitu nakijua....

 

[Reina princess]

Mambo ya Wazungu haya. Mnapenda kuiga kila kitu.

Duh.... Imebidi nicheke

 

[STUNTER]

Mh...

Hata ajali kubwa kubwa huwa navutiwa kuzitazama,
I feel secure

 

[SHOOyaKIBABE]

Good to know.

Watu wengi hawatuelewi na wanatuweka ktk kundi la watu wanaojidai, hawajui kwamba we simply find it difficult to connect with people.

Tunafurahia maisha tukiwa peke yetu kuliko kuwa na kampani ya watu.
Ukishajitambua, ukajikubali hupati tabu.

Reina how do u do that?

I'm having a hard time accepting this situation.. Yan kuliko kutoka out kwenda kwenye sherehe au event I'd rather stay home doing nothing

I find it so hard kujimix na kundi la watu kupga story, aisee I'll be quiet 90% of the time, I'll even find an excuse to leave

I'm more comfortable when I'm alone..

Unafanyaje kuikubali hii hali?

 

[SHOOyaKIBABE]

I not sure if i'm among them, but i share some traits with HSP.
I don't like animals at all but i keep because i sell them to get money. I'm connected to nature, hills, rivers, beaches.
I watch movies but not horror or knifey ones. I like spying movies or those with happy endings.
I'm an introvet person, i think its not important talking with people i don't know. I make noises through social media but in person, seldom i talk.
I have very few friends, my friend's cicle is too tight. I don't add new ones.
I barely trust no one even my friends. I don't have the so called close friends.
I'm planning to buy my own island to only stay with my family. I don't like noises or city vibes.

dude.. I don't like noises too, but I make a lot of noises in the social media.. I might argue with someone on JF but if we were face to face, I'd keep quiet

 

[Reina princess]

Reina how do u do that?

I'm having a hard time accepting this situation.. Yan kuliko kutoka out kwenda kwenye sherehe au event I'd rather stay home doing nothing

I find it so hard kujimix na kundi la watu kupga story, aisee I'll be quiet 90% of the time, I'll even find an excuse to leave

I'm more comfortable when I'm alone..

Unafanyaje kuikubali hii hali?

Si swala la kuikubali au kuikataa. Ndivyo nilivyo.

 

[Reina princess]

Hata ajali kubwa kubwa huwa navutiwa kuzitazama,
I feel secure

 

[Chemtrail]

I do Reina,though not as much as you do.I do not for instance take anything for granted,I digest it very thoroughly.I bother about details and care about very minor issues,which others would not even care about.I am rather personal and have difficulty in mantaining relationships as well.Because I don't take anything for granted,I am easily hurt.It's a rather difficulty situation Reina but have learnt to live with it.

Being an HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) has taken a toll on me.
People don't understand us. We connect with animals, music, nature, than anything else...we prefer a solitary life so that we can digest everything around us. We have a lot to process.

Social interactions and gatherings are overwhelming to us, they are simply irritating. We get to understand people's emotions at a deeper level than an average person.
We look too much into people and things. We are highly intuitive. We see details that others don't. We are about 15-20% of the world population.

We cry over anything, from watching a sad cartoon movie to seeing an animal getting hurt...it just becomes too much to take in. Horror movies, anything scary is unbearable.

My family and people around tell me to toughen up, they think am weak, too emotional, a crying baby, but that's who I am (an HSP), it's genetic. It's not a disease. They just need to take it easy with me.

Relationships are usually tough on us because we don't connect with people easily (not even to our partners). And the fact that we are highly sensitive to our surroundings ie. Noise, smell, weather, fabrics, skin, makes matters worse.

I love my Personality.

Does anyone connect?

 

[mzado]

Thanks Reina, i guess thats the best thing i can say

 

[Papa Mopao]

Previously nilikua nakaa na washkaji but nikawa nikotofauti sana even kwenye maongezi nikagundua naishi ulimwengu tofauti kabisa na wao! Then nikaona kama nakwazika flan hv, then nikafuata my passion

Ha ha ha nimecheka sana, hii hali mimi ninayo kabisaaaaaa!!! Hapa ni kama tunaendana, hili si tatizo, ni nature, mwanzoni nilidhani ni tatizo kumbe siyo tatizo...ukijielewa na wanaokuelewa kwamba uko hivyo mbona unaenjoy life kama kawa!!

 

[Papa Mopao]

Yani mara nyingi napenda kukaa peke yangu mpaka ofisini wananiambia ninaringa lakini sio kweli, nikifika kazini asubuhi nikishasalimiana na niliowakuta kunyanyuka ni muda wa lunch, over weekend mimi ndani najifungia kitandani na kuchart, sometimes mpaka nakosana na friends zangu maana unakuta tumepanga tutoke ikifika ule muda wa kutoka nagairisha mpaka siku hizi hawanialiki tena, but i feel more comfotable when i'm alone.

Hii ya kughairi mimi ninayo sana tu, ukifikiria kwa ndani unaanza kuwaza faida na hasara, unajikuta hasara ni kubwa kuliko faida basi unaghairi tu...baada ya muda unajikuta unapata faida ya kughairi...sijui kwanini? nimecheka sana ujue