price tag za mahusiano / marriages

Heshima kwenu brothers and sisters

Baada ya kupitia thread nyingi sana za mmu na stories za ndugu na jamaa nimegundua true love does not exist as everybody has a price tag,

Bila kudanganyana kila mtu ana vigezo vyake kwanza kabla hajatoa upendo, ni kawaida sana kusikia mtu anasema " I culd not marry a man/woman asiyepita pita hata universtity kidogo kushiriki suplementary hata akutane na mdada aweje kama shule hajapita love escape through the window,

Mwingine unasikia anasema awezi kuoa/kuolewa au kuwa na mahusiano ya uhakika na mdada au mkaka anaetoka familia maskini as maisha yamekuwa magumu sana anaona kama atabebeshwa mzigo so hata apendwe vp na hali duni yeye ni no.

Mwingine anasema hawezi kuolewa/ kuoa mtu asiye na uhakika wa maisha I mean mwelekeo as hayuko tayari kulala njaa,

Mwingine anamuacha mchumba wake kisa uginjwa eti mtu mgonjwa mgonjwa hamtaki na anasahau ugonjwa unaweza ukaja mda wowote hata kwake yeye,

Mwingine proffessional ndo inadecide ampende mtu, yaan kama wewe mvuvi na yeye upendo alijiandaa kumpa engineer ujue hufai as uja fit price tag yake...

yaan maisha yalivyo magumu ndo price tag za upendo zinazidi kuongezeka hii inakuaje wadau? Kwa nini mnajiweka price tag hadi kwenye emotions

MKATA KIU said:

...., ni kawaida sana kusikia mtu anasema " I culd not marry a man/woman asiyepita pita hata universtity kidogo kushiriki suplementary hata akutane na mdada aweje kama shule hajapita love escape through the window,

Mwingine unasikia anasema awezi kuoa/kuolewa au kuwa na mahusiano ya uhakika na mdada au mkaka anaetoka familia maskini as maisha yamekuwa magumu sana anaona kama atabebeshwa mzigo so hata apendwe vp na hali duni yeye ni no.

Mwingine anasema hawezi kuolewa/ kuoa mtu asiye na uhakika wa maisha I mean mwelekeo as hayuko tayari kulala njaa,

Mwingine anamuacha mchumba wake kisa uginjwa eti mtu mgonjwa mgonjwa hamtaki na anasahau ugonjwa unaweza ukaja mda wowote hata kwake yeye,

Mwingine proffessional ndo inadecide ampende mtu, yaan kama wewe mvuvi na yeye upendo alijiandaa kumpa engineer ujue hufai as uja fit price tag yake...
....

Click to expand...

Mimi nina mtazamo tofauti kwamba migogoro mingi sana kwenye ndoa husababishwa na watu kuweka hizo unazoziita price tag za upendo. Pale price tag za mahusiano zinapobadilika kwa walio ndani ya mahusiano ndipo matatizo huanza!

Mahusiano na mapenzi ambayo hutokea naturally haya huwa hayaangalii kwa undani sana hizo price tag za ndoa na hujawa na uvumilivu na upendo wa dhati ingawa zinaweza kukabiliwa na vichallenge vidogo vidogo visivyoepukika.
Ila sikatai kuwa mtazamo wa hili suala kati ya mtu na mtu bado ni tofauti sana na pengine unaweza kuwa sahihi kutokana na experience alizopitia mwenyewe au kusikia kwa watu wa karibu.

Ukisubiri true love kwenye dunia ya sasa utakesha for sure! Ile ya kupendana naturally bila kuangalia vigezo fulani fulani siku hizi imekua ndoto, vigezo ulivyo navyo ndo vitadecide mwenza utakaye mpata..wewe unaweza kumpenda mtu with your whole heart bila kuangalia elimu wala pesa kumbe yeye anakupendea vitu flani, wizi mtupu bora tuishi kwa kupretend tu!

kwani we unaeleweka? watu wanataka uelekeo,ukileta habari zako za mungu atatujalia mbuzi anakata kamba then after few days u meet the gal anaroll in the stuff.and this is how we play with emotions

bila maslahi hakuna upendo, ni kujidanganya tu.
Maslahi yanaweza kuwa tabia, dini, aina ya familia mtu aliyotoka, elimu etc.

Kama ulipitia kidato cha nne enzi zile nakumbuka kwenye mashairi ya Summons kuna Shairi la Isaac Mruma( When I say I love you) jikumbushe utapata ujumbe!

Kutokana na maelezo ya wachangiaji hapo juu, nashawishika kuamini kwamba watu wanaoingia katika ndoa kwa sasa wana matatizo ya kufikiri. Utaingiaje kwenye maisha ya ndoa ukijua wazi mwenzi wako anakupenda kwa maslahi tu? Na endapo maslahi yakiisha na upendo unakwisha pia. Bora kuishi bila kuoa na kuweka nguvu na akili nyingi kwenye kutafuta pesa tu.

Maisha ndo kisababishi kikubwa

TUsiotaka kuoa hatuna tabu za kuamua hili.

Purple said:

Ukisubiri true love kwenye dunia ya sasa utakesha for sure! Ile ya kupendana naturally bila kuangalia vigezo fulani fulani siku hizi imekua ndoto, vigezo ulivyo navyo ndo vitadecide mwenza utakaye mpata..wewe unaweza kumpenda mtu with your whole heart bila kuangalia elimu wala pesa kumbe yeye anakupendea vitu flani, wizi mtupu bora tuishi kwa kupretend tu!

Click to expand...

yaaaaaaaani! True love ni ndoto ya mchana hasa kwa mnaoamini kuwa haiexist.

Nyie ndo mnatufanya tusioe, kwa hizi elimu zenu,

sijui hata kwa nn nimesoma!!

Bado nashindwa kuelewa pale mtu anaposema nimempenda 'naturally'!
Unampendaje mtu 'naturally'???..lazima kuwe na vigezo vinavyosupport upendo wako!..such as haiba, elimu, uelewa n.k
Kama utafuatilia thread ya Dark City utaelewa vizuri..
Tukubali tukatae nowadays emotions can also be dictated!!

SnowBall said:

Bado nashindwa kuelewa pale mtu anaposema nimempenda 'naturally'!
Unampendaje mtu 'naturally'???..lazima kuwe na vigezo vinavyosupport upendo wako!..such as haiba, elimu, uelewa n.k
Kama utafuatilia thread ya Dark City utaelewa vizuri..
Tukubali tukatae nowadays emotions can also be dictated!!

Click to expand...

Hivi watu wanaoongelea true love wao ni malaika???

Hata hivyo, nafurahi kwamba kila kukicha wadau wanagundua kuwa hakuna mapenzi yasiyokuwa na sababu.....Kwa hiyo, tupende tusipenda, kumpenda mtu siyo ajali!! Na endapo mtu amejihakikishia kuwa maslahi yake yako safe basi anaweza kumpenda mwenzi wake organically na uhusiano wao ukadumu!!

I don't believe in true or natural love, labda ile ya mama kwa mtoto wake...She will never let him/her go no matter what!...Ila hawa wengine tunaokutana nao tukiwa watu wazima na meno yetu 32, ni kujipa moyo tu na kuishi kwa matumaini!!

Mungu wabariki na kuwasaidia nyote,

Babu DC!!

peri said:

bila maslahi hakuna upendo, ni kujidanganya tu.
Maslahi yanaweza kuwa tabia, dini, aina ya familia mtu aliyotoka, elimu etc.

Click to expand...

Hivi wewe peri umepitia hili darasa hapo chini??

https://www.jamiiforums.com/mahusia...nzi-vs-maslahi-wakati-wa-kuchagua-mwenzi.html


Kama bado basi wewe ni genius!!

Babu DC!!

SnowBall said:

Bado nashindwa kuelewa pale mtu anaposema nimempenda 'naturally'!
Unampendaje mtu 'naturally'???..lazima kuwe na vigezo vinavyosupport upendo wako!..such as haiba, elimu, uelewa n.k
Kama utafuatilia thread ya Dark City utaelewa vizuri..
Tukubali tukatae nowadays emotions can also be dictated!!

Click to expand...

Ni kweli kabisa lazima uwe na vigezo. Pia hii inasababishwa na mazingira tuliyokulia. For me tokea nipo mdogo nilitamani sana kuwa na engineer because of my dad and mum lakini naona watu wengi ambao huwa nakuwa na crush nao sio engineers kabisa na niliowaona ni pasua kichwa so nimeamua niende kwa alternative ya pili.

Double K said:

Ni kweli kabisa lazima uwe na vigezo. Pia hii inasababishwa na mazingira tuliyokulia. For me tokea nipo mdogo nilitamani sana kuwa na engineer because of my dad and mum lakini naona watu wengi ambao huwa nakuwa na crush nao sio engineers kabisa na niliowaona ni pasua kichwa so nimeamua niende kwa alternative ya pili.

Click to expand...

Ndo ipi hiyo Double K??


Unaweza ku-share na sisi??

Babu DC!!

Dark City said:

Ndo ipi hiyo Double K??


Unaweza ku-share na sisi??

Babu DC!!

Click to expand...

Haahahaha nitakushirikisha usijali, education wise atleast awe na degree with a good job that we can support the family. Profession wise itategemea as long as he his confident with himself.

MKATA KIU said:

Heshima kwenu brothers and sisters

Baada ya kupitia thread nyingi sana za mmu na stories za ndugu na jamaa nimegundua true love does not exist as everybody has a price tag,

Bila kudanganyana kila mtu ana vigezo vyake kwanza kabla hajatoa upendo, ni kawaida sana kusikia mtu anasema " I culd not marry a man/woman asiyepita pita hata universtity kidogo kushiriki suplementary hata akutane na mdada aweje kama shule hajapita love escape through the window,

Mwingine unasikia anasema awezi kuoa/kuolewa au kuwa na mahusiano ya uhakika na mdada au mkaka anaetoka familia maskini as maisha yamekuwa magumu sana anaona kama atabebeshwa mzigo so hata apendwe vp na hali duni yeye ni no.

Mwingine anasema hawezi kuolewa/ kuoa mtu asiye na uhakika wa maisha I mean mwelekeo as hayuko tayari kulala njaa,

Mwingine anamuacha mchumba wake kisa uginjwa eti mtu mgonjwa mgonjwa hamtaki na anasahau ugonjwa unaweza ukaja mda wowote hata kwake yeye,

Mwingine proffessional ndo inadecide ampende mtu, yaan kama wewe mvuvi na yeye upendo alijiandaa kumpa engineer ujue hufai as uja fit price tag yake...

yaan maisha yalivyo magumu ndo price tag za upendo zinazidi kuongezeka hii inakuaje wadau? Kwa nini mnajiweka price tag hadi kwenye emotions

Click to expand...

MKATA KIU can i have another idea pls soree if u wont believe it,

To me love tag was when i was single b4 sijaolewa i had my preferences na huwezi amini ilikuwa ngumu kuzipata coz hakuna binadamu mkamilifu.
Now mind set imebadilika after being in marriage in long time and see that human change depending on enviroments they live, now when it comes to love, i dont have any criteria i luv a person as he/she is u know why...?
money i can find myself, happiness i can find myself, stress i allow no one to give me, children i have, mali like car, house ninayo, elimu ninayo so when i think of a love a man now thats not a criteria, coz sitakuwa namtegemea anipe elimu, anipe pesa noooop hata siku moja sitamuomba sanasana nitaomba ndugu zangu, na vitu vingine sitategemea kwakezaidi ya malavidavi now this is aged love ila kwa wale wanaoingia in first love watapingana sana na mimi.
Kwa wakati huohuo huyu mwanaume yeye anaweza akahitaji msaada wangu will see/help to my capacity ila sio kila siku lol na hapa naweza fall hata kwa lay man mradi tu ajiamini na kujua kuwa anapendwa.
Vitu vyote ni material vinatafutwa but love is in somebody's soul thats what called natural love, me i like it na natamani sana mtu anipende natural love not me with anything attached with me..

kaka snow ball, kumpenda mtu naturally ni pale ulipo muona tuu, trust me nlishawah mwona binti m1 nlimpenda mara tu baada ya kumuona,,lkn vitu vingine viliongezea kumpenda zaidi, ila true love hiyo kitu haipo..huu ni mtazamo wangu tu

Purple said:

Ukisubiri true love kwenye dunia ya sasa utakesha for sure! Ile ya kupendana naturally bila kuangalia vigezo fulani fulani siku hizi imekua ndoto, vigezo ulivyo navyo ndo vitadecide mwenza utakaye mpata..wewe unaweza kumpenda mtu with your whole heart bila kuangalia elimu wala pesa kumbe yeye anakupendea vitu flani, wizi mtupu bora tuishi kwa kupretend tu!

Click to expand...

na ndio tutaendelea kuchakachuliana tuu...so enjoy the utamu