Hii Wana JF, I have a serious problem affecting my life and my marriage. It was in 2008 when i met a College girl, and as we met she was trying so much to attract my eyes to fall in love with her. She is very beautiful, complete in all aspects, very focused mind, creative and had very good arguments about life. I really loved her as friend. But the first day we met, i told her that am married and with a child. I hope what i did was right, since we remained friends for a long time (more than 3yrs) without having sexual affairs. But she always insisted me that i should remain to be her friend, and i accepted. She is in Dar and am upcountry. So whenever i came to Dar she could ask that we should meet, at least for a lunch or so. Strange thing in our friendship was that whenever we communicate (phone, email or even meeting physically) she could always say these worlds. "I really love you, i wish i could have been my husband, but i regret that its too late". I used to contemplate why she always repeat these words. This year, in February, we met and she started a very long list of problems (family issues, psychological problems that she encountered since she broke with her ex-boyfriend, off course even in her work place she mentioned how she is being embarrassed by men who want to sleep with her, and the problems she is facing in getting a good job that can sustain her life etc.). She used to tell me that she will never sleep with a man until she finds a true love. I tried my level best to advise her and gave her several options, one being to focus on her future life and i gave also an option of going for more studies, so as to widen her scope of getting a better job. In May this year i went to Dar again and she asked to meet her somewhere. I cant explain the things she did...... things which ended in making love (***). Now she is telling me that since then i am her true love ever found in this world. Again she has told me that she has found a college for further studies and is asking me to help her pay her fee. JAMANI HUU SI NDO MWANZO WA KUVUNJIWA NYUMBA YANGU???